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A sad tale

March 06 2018

This topic isn't a happy ending or is it light hearted. I choose to put it on here because its somewhat anonymous and I have to keep it a secret. My mum told me this today. I don't have anyone to talk to about this. She had an Aunt who 20-25 years ago committed suicide. I met her a couple of times as a kid. My mum was pretty distraught and took her sometime to deal with it. Anyway my mums sister had a secret to tell her and wouldn't do it over the phone. My mum told me today the she was a lesbian and that the community found out and she endured segregation, death threats and abusive threats. In the end she couldn't take it and ended her life. What really grinds my gears are people who seem the think they can push someone so hard, alienate and threat, that they end their life. People can be real animals, I get it , it was a different time, but too actually push someone so hard I can't comprehend. I don't have an ounce of that kind of attitude to bully someone, I could never do it. I don't understand those who do. People can be real cunts when they want to be, age means nothing its attitude. She died alone enduring all of that.

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RHP User

8 years ago

That is so sad. I don't know what to say, except it makes me angry too. I don't care that it was a different time. I formed my own views about the gay culture when I was a kid or perhaps a teen, fully accepted and supported it, amid gay phobia, which unfortunately still exists in RL, we all have a mind of our own. In my opinion, that is disgusting, what type of people would do that. What difference does it make to them anyway. Cruel and like you say, sad ending

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RHP User

8 years ago

Describing my last boss as 'the best poof I know'. I probably know more thank I think I do, but it's none of my business. I knew of his sexuality, and he knew that I knew. Didn't affect our work relationship at all. He wasn't a 'faaaaaabulous' gay man, if I can say that - just a regular bloke good at his job. Why people bully others because of their sexuality is beyond me. If this lady felt that she couldn't tell anyone and that she would be exposed to ridicule and so on, then that's an indictment on society not her - 25 years ago or not.

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RHP User

8 years ago

But id like to think its a situation that we have now learned to to live with and accept.Not for a second , am i suggesting that its not real, or in anyway belittling it. Just that we've grown up. The world was flat onceDinosaurs roamed the earth at some point............and you know what happened to them. Sorry for your sadness, i Mean that sincerely and not in a throw away line

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EarthQueen

8 years ago

It makes these type of actions even harder to understand. Sometimes it eats at my soul to see the fucked up things that go on in this world. I can’t dwell on them too much, just try to focus on what I can do, which is to try to be accepting of differences and live and let live. I think that’s why I was so passionate about the same sex marriage vote and pissed at the debarcle it turned into. Fucking ridiculous. Just let people have the right to love who they want and formalise that union if they wish. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

.. you find closure and my sincere condolances on such a tragedy. 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile

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72dave

8 years ago

You're right to feel angry about it. A few years ago a friend of mine from childhood took his life and it changed my perspective on it. I couldn't comprehend it. I thought it was very unusual, uncommon, I don't think that's true anymore. We probably all know someone who's thought about. We've asked them how they are and they said 'good thanks'. When people feel backed into a corner by serious but common stuff like sexuality, family, and all kinds of addictions, they can't see a way out. It doesn't feel like a big step for them. Happiness beyond that can be a long way off, and hard work, and sometimes they don't find the right person to talk to, and through, and soon enough. But for the grace of God. I'm just lucky I haven't had any of these issues yet. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

8 years ago

Even though it was such a long time ago. Pain like that gets easier but never goes away. Unfortunately that was the attitude a long time ago and it still is today for a lot of people. I have been there wanting to take my life, I somehow manage to work through those thoughts more times than I care to think about and it is bloody hard sometimes, I have also helped others get through this as well. People with anxiety, depression and mental health issues always tell people they are OK because others cannot possibly understand the turmoil that can be going on inside someone and I don't want to burden someone with my problems when they have their own. It is very isolating and a lonely path. If you have deep concerns for someone you really need to ask them what's going on? Suicide is such a selfish thing to do especially for the people left behind often not realising there was even a problem because we can hide that turmoil so well behind a smiling face. I know of many people I went to school with and in my life that have taken their own. It makes me so sad to think that they were so alone and had no other option but to take this path. The incidences of cutting and self harm is prevalent right now and I see it more everyday and it pains me to see so many young people especially young women who mutilate themselves because they see no other option to deal with their pain. TheCraigums raised this in another forum topic about this generations self importance, lack of sense of community, instant gratification, media, social media in our faces 24/7, you can be bullied 24/7, more incidences of PTSD from bullying and other trauma and I could go on. Where does it all go from here??

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Dirtyandfriendly

8 years ago

The fact she had no one to turn too and everyone including family just alienated her, some tried to cnnect with her, but I think she was too far gone she had made her decision. Apparently when she was out at supermarkets in public the locals all made sly remarks and demeaning names to her in front of others :(

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gazpacho

8 years ago

We’ve come a long way in 25 years. I know a few peeps that didn’t make it through the ‘80s for the same reason. Just imagine what it was like 25 years before that! Before the sixties and the sexual revolution. Poor fuckers. You’re right. People can be gutless cunts with courage that only comes from being in a pack. Pack animals they are. They’ve got no empathy. It’s lord of the flies kind of stuff. I think empathy should be taught in schools. Anyone who fails? Send them to America so they can shoot it out with the rest of them. Hugs Gaz

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RHP User

8 years ago

I grew up in a small town which even to this day is still small. People are nasty and cruel and don't realise the damage that words can cause. As Gaz just pointed out it is such a pack mentality. Any type of bullying generally is. My observance is people do it simply to make themselves feel better. Some really just don't care about the consequences. Unfortunately once someone has made their mind up they will do it without a second thought. HugsMs Midnight

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Dryphuz

8 years ago

was a porn star bullied by social media into suicide at the end of last year. She was scheduled to do a shoot with a guy who does both straight and gay porn and upon finding out turned down the job. She then made a twitter post to inform whoever was going to end up replacing her and was then harassed for being homophobic on twitter relentlessly. August Ames was hardly homophobic having many gay friends and frequenting many gay events. This is a rare example of things being the other way around. Its tragic that this can happen at all and social media means people can now judge you anonymously and from the other side of the world.

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