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Acceptance

June 10 2015

This has been posted before but after talking amongst work colleagues and friends of each ones ideals i found each quite unrealistic including my own so hence the repost of sorts . have we become unforgiving in our quests for what we want ? Expect ? Desire ? Our own ideals are they ? unrealistic unforgiving ? Are you greedy ? Are you self righteous ? are you better than the rest ? Is that not good enough for you ? We strive for perfection , to stand out, be better at it than the next , its only human nature to evolve and be the strongest ! prettiest ! Loudest ! Biggest ! Most perfect ! The best Will only survive ? Or will it ? Maybe not ! for in the end there would be only self absorbed loneliness . As we deny graciously to accept our own chosen disappointment . Our choices may very well be so vast it in fact will leave us with no choices at all , this is the contradiction of social media , online dating , ebay for humans ,how can something thats designed to be so socially gregarious lead you to a state of social solitude ? Consumed , engaged , ignorant , critical , Have we lost our ability to accept faults ? imperfections ? Our choices are so vast and varied we have become arrogantly unforgiving in our quest for our unrelenting ideals , a throw away society of consumers and materialistic abundances of status and self promotion we build for ourselves , could actually be destroying society as a group of united socially motivated individuals and segregating each ! one by one until divided or cast aside as unworthy ! Unwanted ! Now Vulnerable ! We may very well manifest what we fear the most ?? Dejection ! Abandonment ! Solitude ! Loneliness ! Bitterness ! Sadness ! Alone from our own self righteous attitude of personal perfection as our own inabilities and faults we hide under our veil of denial !! Perfection never lasts ,does it even exist ?perfect is it just our imagination ? Acceptance is our virtue and appreciation of what we do have , be not critical of what we don't have nor what we ourselves can never be ! For our own life , love, existence Acceptance is vital. Change one thing about you what would make you stand out from the rest ? Me i wanna be over 6 ft. What about you ? - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Were you writing this post while stuck in traffic? Late for work? Going about your miserable life, the daily grind to do what society has trained you to do? I just want to be happy, and I'm doing darn well at that. I am never lonely. I don't need to change anything to stand out from the rest, I am unique just the way I am. Acceptance is vital, but self acceptance is key. Have a great day my friend!

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RHP User

11 years ago

then came to the realization that there are more important things in life. JMO but striving for perfection maybe a way of trying to replace something that is missing in your life. Yes there is loneliness and isolation in social media if that is the only outlet one gives themselves for social interaction. Whilst I admit I am a forum tragic it is the only form of social media I indulge in. No Facebook, instagram, twitter, etc. etc. I choose not to have time for those but to spend my time with real people and those I care for. Everything you have mentioned above is a personal choice. If we are not happy with our lives then we have a choice to do something about it. Make a plan and see it through. What would I change about myself? I am forever evolving and changing and happy to be doing so. I am happy to be me and I don't need to stand out in the crowd but just being part of the crowd is my happy place. HugsLG

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RHP User

11 years ago

Apparently said,..the unexamined life is not worth living...most of us stagger through life in a somewhat unconciousl way,..Our minds are full of the white noise of everyday existence...silence is not something most of us are well acquainted with..nor is stillness..not only are we busy,we seem to have the need to create busyness ,...I know that I have a fortunate life,I get to do one of my favourite things often..stare at the wall😀..lovely post Big O..what would I change about me..not me so much as time,I would like to be able to master time..hugs 😘xxFreya

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RHP User

11 years ago

When I first started working for myself I did my homework on pricing so I was in the ballpark with other businesses, but I wasn't making a good earn, turns out my perfection was killing my profit margin as a friend said "perfection is the enemy of good" this is great advice. Many a family were raised in a 3 bedroom home. McMansion not required, a 3yo car rather than new saves money for living not posing, beautiful things can be found on the verge not just shops. Beautiful people can be found in the mirror not just magazines.Perfection is the enemy of good.

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Seachange73

11 years ago

I did nto read all your posts nor the above posts as jsut in a rush. Are you ok? Hope your day gets better. X

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RHP User

11 years ago

For me it was not just finding love but it had to be right ,it had to be perfect as after divorce I was bitter.When I get up in the morning I am happy and that is how itshould be but most take life for granted.It took 5 years but I now have love and a sex life most menare jealous of.The more you want the more you will feel down and whenyou strive for perfection don't make it a goal.You could have the nicest house but it will not look as goodin 50 years.You could have the sexiest wife but again in she to will change.My advice is to be the best you can be and don't seek perfect.

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RHP User

11 years ago

1) We strive for perfection , to stand out, be better at it than the next , its only human nature to evolve and be the strongest ! prettiest ! Loudest ! Biggest ! Most perfect ! The best Will only survive ? Not everyone strives to be the best (strongest, prettiest, etc). It's pretty exhausting trying to be the best and you definitely don't need to be anywhere near the best to survive and reproduce. A lot of these notions can be stemmed from human envy. Envy is experienced more in some than others. In conclusion, I don't think it's right to say we all strive for perfection or to be the best. It seems to me like quite a sad journey filled with regret. 2) Change one thing about you what would make you stand out from the rest ? Me i wanna be over 6 ft. What about you ? I would become the penguin whisperer. One man, many penguins.

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AnnieWhichway

11 years ago

and it's not something i want. Be careful what you wish for. You wish to change one thing, there is the butterfly effect. Be happy with just being.

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cleopatrababe

11 years ago

I love what u have written thank u its made me realize im becoming something i never wanted ...im going to start to enjoy my life more and crawl out from the covers ..been sad for way to long thanks again - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

With who I am. There are still things I wish to achieve for myself but nothing unrealistic. I know I am not for everyone but see everyone for the people they are and that is cool for the world would be dull without variety. If there were butt loads of me all of the mes would be arguing anyway

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RHP User

11 years ago

im fine really 😉 Miss cleobabe awesome - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

Absolutely brilliant topic OP! Sits down with popcorn and watches Love this post!

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RHP User

11 years ago

The ‘ego less’ have that vital acceptance from both within and of themselves, whereas, the ‘ego driven’ continue to look elsewhere for acceptance & approval.Insecurities breed and, more often than not, generally take control at some point. What resists persists, not just in terms of manifesting fears but in relation to change as well – as in doing the same ol same ol & expecting different results.It will be a cold day in hell before I repeat the mistake of changing for all the wrong reasons, let alone for the sake of gaining acceptance and/or approval from someone else I’m afraid. Take me as I am or not at all. Choosing to accept the circumstances and/or environment we find ourselves in & using that as an excuse and whether or not we choose to let what we can do interfere with what we can’t do, can be the difference between making or breaking us I think.When you are truly happy in your own right, you realise other people are an added bonus – not a necessity.

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RHP User

11 years ago

Loved the opener to ur post - had me rolling around . lolol BIG OCEAN If I recall , Bigocean -Friend, living in a very small community in a somewhat remote location can add to one's feeling of loneliness or solitude. (If in fact that is your experience? If not then this doesn't apply). Me,...I enjoy that kind of solitude, but i have noticed that there are occasions when I am acutely aware of that sole existence. If I delve into that infiniteness known as the Cyber World on those occasions,... I have found that it can accascerbate somehow , a sense of loneliness. Without realising it, we are drawn into the Cerebral existence of Cyber Space. On those occasions Ive found it helpful to get out & take a walk (if it was practical) , to connect with an animal companion. It gets me "out of my head" so-to-speak & back in to the reality & peace of the moment . Just my experience. KK x - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

I don't strive for perfection. I believe we are perfect in our imperfection. I think acceptance becomes easier the more you practice it. I don't have a partner and sometimes that makes me sad however it is what is. If I don't accept it, I cause myself unnecessary pain. Its the same for other aspects of my personality and physicality. If I do not accept my imperfections I am at war with myself and we all know war is not good for anyone. There are some things in society I will not accept, such as domestic and family violence. I can, and do, work at systemic and community levels to support change to reduce and hopefully eliminate violence against women and children. I sometimes use social media to do this. I think social media works really well for activism and for that I am grateful. I think your reflections are interesting Big Ocean, thank you for sharing them. Warm regards Apart from that

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RHP User

11 years ago

I want to be just like.........

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RHP User

11 years ago

A Man. - Posted from rhpmobile

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Lovinit28andKC72

11 years ago

I could probably write a list of things I would change about me, too make me look better (physical things) when I look in the mirror.... But the truth is I am who I am, I actually really do love me, what I stand for, what I believe in, how I look at things, how I treat others, my heart, my mind, my soul, me as a package and if I was to change anything it would only be to please others and be fucked if I'm doing that ever again....💋

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RHP User

11 years ago

"If you only see the perfection, you never see the real beauty" I once was a perfectionist.

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RHP User

11 years ago

There's one thing I'd like to change about myself, but not to stand out from the rest though, just for me :). I'd like to be able to drop my guard, open my heart, trust another human being and fall in love again. I'm so tired of the walls I build around myself to stop people from getting too close, but I can't seem to stop doing it... maybe a good project to work on over winter? Thought provoking topic BigO - thank you xx

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