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Age.......
August 09 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
But 18 year olds should be meeting up with people similar to their own age. That is fair enough isn't it?
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RHP User
10 years ago
RHP is an adult site. At age 18 you can legally....Drive a car,VoteDrink I think at 18 many are exploring all sorts of sexual opportunities....why not here?
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are heaps of hookup sites,young people use them,older people use them..unless you definitely know they are definitely underage there is nothing you can do XxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
adults are adults.....the vehicle in which they meet is irrelevant in my mind 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
whatever the age of sexual consent is
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RHP User
10 years ago
Talking as a mother... .I'd prefer my son to meet girls his own age out with an adult datingsite. We have had the sex talk and he is clued up but I don't like to think of him taking part in orgies or kink parties at his young age? I was viewed by an 18 year old which only made me sad.....
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Things are different now than when we were that age OP. We were left to our own devices back then, and our own devices didn't even include mobile phones. You had to actually personally ask someone out or telephone them from a corded jobbie.In those days, you couldn't really ask them if they were into anal or B&D until you were well into it. Well, you can now thanks to places like this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I often get flirts and sometimes messages from 20 year olds..but never in the supermarket ..now why is that?😒 ... Too much granny porn,just looking for a reaction,who knows why .they send them ..but our children at any age will explore their sexuality without confiding in us...we need to respect that they are adults and independent of us as parents xxFreya
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MissBishere
10 years ago
is each to their own. I site like this would have saved me many years of thinking I was strange and not normal for liking the things I did and wanting the things I want.
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Very true in your OP posting, but as a few have alluded to, things are just soooo different today compared to when 'we' were at that age. No internet nor mobile phones back in our days, so the personal approach was the only approach. Sex education at school, if it was even offered, was so completely rudimentary. And at 18, the best most of us were hoping for, was a stolen kiss. However, I do see, and agree with, your point of your age question, Even today most kids/ adults of 18 still don't really have a clue. In all probability it will take them plenty of time to find out where we are all 'at' sexually, with our various likes /dislikes /kinks etc. But as mentioned too, they are at an age whereby they are considered adults, and like the rest of us, they have to start experiencing life too, with some trial and error thrown in. They just need to acknowledge that they will have to be careful in the directions they are looking to explore, and not throw themselves in the deep end before they know how to swim. That's were we as parents can probably help out most. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
Doesn't necessarily make you an adult.... I think the legal limit for drinking should be increased also but not to go too far OT, I am inclined to agree with Koko, I have an 'adult' child and I think open discussion starts at a much younger age.... So there are no feelings of awkwardness or of being ' different ' .... Everyone's likes and dislikes are supposed to be different, it's what makes us unique to some, special to others, boring to some,plain to a few, but most of all open happy and honest within ourselves... At 18, Some of my friends hadn't even had sex yet, let alone knew of sites like this... Back in the old days?? Lol IMO no mother wants to think that of their babes....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Physiologically they say that the brain is still developing till at least 21 eg"Although neuroscience has been called upon to determine adulthood, there is little empirical evidence to support age 18" So either everything should be available to a person to being considered an adult at 18, or everything change to an older age. But I can't see that ever happening
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RHP User
10 years ago
I suspect that 18 is used as the minimum age for legal adulthood only because it is right about when we finish high school and usually step out into the working world full time. Convenience perhaps...?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Old farts opinion. I think adulthood starts at 21 I disagree that alcohol, being trained to kill, gambling and drivers licences should be given to under 21's but the cats are out of the bag now so we just have to deal with it. It's a political issue, they wanted the votes. About the only one you have a chance of rescinding is age of going in the military, or at least being sent to a war zone. I bet plenty would argue 18yo's could use the discipline ! As for being on here I couldn't care less, rules haven't stopped under age sex in eons. Educating the young on online hazards is now a standard part of the school and parental curriculum so not a big issue imho.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maturity is different for everyone. Some people never grow up, while others are way ahead of their age. Maybe instead of years since birth a test of aptitude should be used to vet human activities, but then that could be considered discrimination as the criteria for a pass would be arbitrarily set without understanding of all the cultural, gender, and racial factors that influence human development. We set an age in the hope that at least half will act as adults. Adding 3 years is not going to change much. Personally people should not be called adults until 40-45 and even then only those that have demonstrated responsible adult behaviour. That unfortunately would invalidate anyone needing to use adult dating sites, come now you should have married and settled down by now!!!
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
Quoting 'HennaJay' Physiologically they say that the brain is still developing till at least 21 I have heard on many occasions that the age is actually more around 25 - 30, depending upon the individual.. Tall
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RHP User
10 years ago
What exactly is an 18 year old at risk at that others aren't? Losing their innocence?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I should have made myself clearer. Im not talking about discovering sex, Im talking about being exposed to the swinging scene and extreme fetishes. An 18 year old at a gang bang/orgy/bukkake party or strapped to a cross being flogged,or being taken by a woman with a huge strap on, just doesnt sit right with me....... yes, they are adults and each to their own, but how will it affect them in later life? Being exposed to some things at such a young age could ruin their chance of a relationship in the future. I chatted to a guy in his twenties who had been introduced to these things at fifteen. He is now 25 and cant have a "normal" relationship. Spends his time watching porn and seeing to his fetishes. He says he has given up the idea of ever finding love. For one, he couldnt be with a "vanilla" girl as he would have to be honest and says it would likely scare her away. Yes, we were very innocent when I was young. (many moons ago.) But I think ........enjoy learning about the joys of sex and then explore your fetishes ( if you have any) later
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
If they have access to the internet to sign up for a site such as this, they have internet access to access porn. There are no filters on the internet for them - they watch whatever they like, they then interpret however they like, and then they act on what they see. That is primarily where their curiosity comes from, and I base that conclusion on daily contact with a range of teenagers and young adults who engage in some fairly open conversations with me, and engage in some fairly 'out there' practices. To some extent the kinks and fetishes have been 'normalised' because the young person has chosen to view porn depicting such things and (perhaps) research them. They talk about with their mates, who not wanting to seem behind the times, share 'information' about what they have gotten up to.... yeah in their brains mostly, not in reality. They then seek places where they may be able to experiment and experience such things.... like this site. I think parents may be a little naive as to what their children view online.... I think it's a fair bet that if you are viewing it, your children also are.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
keep it all secret from them and hope they don't find out and let them go through years of thinking they are weird and not acceptable and make them settle for something that doesn't make them happy. Only to find out in their 40's that there is the whole other sexual world and they are completely normal and worthy and shouldn't be judged. as for your friend he is 25 and just hasn't found the right person or persons yet to fulfil his life he shouldn't have to settle for a "vanilla" girl that he ultimately wouldn't be happy with. The right person will understand he has kinks even if they arent hers and find a way to make it work. honestly Koko when I read that it sound to me like you are saying they should settle for a "normal" relationship and that any experimentation would be damaging to them. I know by the age of 18 I knew I was different in what I wanted sexually and had no way of finding it. That I wouldn't wish on anyone.
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RHP User
10 years ago
No, not at all, sorry if thats how it reads, And probably because I have a teenage son, so it makes me think. I dont tell people what they should or shouldnt do, each individual has to make their own choices. It just worries me ............Its maybe my age and the fact I was brought up ignorant of certain things that makes me think this way? Its a Forum Post and I expressed an opinion on a subject. Thank you to all of you for answering with your opinions.
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MissBishere
10 years ago
on the other side Koko I have two teenage girls and they understand kinks and fetishes in a broad sense and we talk quite freely about it. No they aren't 18, years off it, in fact and they were the ones that started the conversation when they mentioned furies.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I know if I knew about sites such as this when I hit 18 and had the money to pay for a membership I'd have been on it in a heartbeat. And to think young teens aren't experimenting already by the time they hit 18 is pretty naive. Sites like this just make it easier for people to experiment with what they like, to see if it is for them or not, and they can make educated choices from there. As to being exposed to gangbangs etc and not being able to live a "normal" life afterwards, well maybe he was never destined for a so-called normal life in the first place. People will like what they like. For some people, a little white picket fence and the 2.5 kids isn't their ideal. All the more power to them. Get out there, live it up while you are young...even snag yourself a DOW if you have to, but you'll never, never know if you never, never go.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'TangerineDream' What exactly is an 18 year old at risk at that others aren't? Losing their innocence? Because seeing some of things or being part of some of things, such as gang bangs, orgies, whippings and some fetishes, etc, etc can be really confronting and could even harm someone if they are not mature enough to handle it. Watching these things on the net doesn't necessarily prepare you for the reality of it all. And unfortunately there are older adults who are predatory and may introduce young people to things they don't fully understand. For instance a much older man teaching a young person how to be submissive for instances. Seriously this stuff can be dangerous for some. But hey, the kids today are so worldly. So what do I know. I am not going to go into this topic because I will only get into trouble.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
if an 18 year old felt or knew he was gay but was unsure of the next step. Back in our day, the next step was a very risky venture to a gay club or heaven forbid a gay beat to experiment.Even though there are obvious risk in this environment, at least they can dabble and take a relatively safe avenue in exploring that new unknown side of themselves with careful steps.Just an example.Not advocating an 18 year old to get to a B&D club to be put on a cross and flogged. Geesus, I'm in my 50's and wouldn't do that. But hey, whatever floats your boat.......... well actually, that sound kinda like fun.......anyone?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I should have made myself clearer. Im not talking about discovering sex, Im talking about being exposed to the swinging scene and extreme fetishes. An 18 year old at a gang bang/orgy/bukkake party or strapped to a cross being flogged,or being taken by a woman with a huge strap on, just doesnt sit right with me....... yes, they are adults and each to their own, but how will it affect them in later life? Being exposed to some things at such a young age could ruin their chance of a relationship in the future. I chatted to a guy in his twenties who had been introduced to these things at fifteen. He is now 25 and cant have a "normal" relationship. Spends his time watching porn and seeing to his fetishes. He says he has given up the idea of ever finding love. For one, he couldnt be with a "vanilla" girl as he would have to be honest and says it would likely scare her away. Yes, we were very innocent when I was young. (many moons ago.) But I think ........enjoy learning about the joys of sex and then explore your fetishes ( if you have any) later I think this leads to nonsensical situations, like the age mismatch between when you can have sex and when you can appear in a nude sexy photo... as if young adults are fine to fuck but should just keep their eyes closed. For this situation, young adults could fuck, they could watch gang-bang porn, they could be fucked with a giant strap-on by a person they met off-line... but if they met on-the-line they'd need to be older?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' Not advocating an 18 year old to get to a B&D club to be put on a cross and flogged. Geesus, I'm in my 50's and wouldn't do that. But hey, whatever floats your boat.......... well actually, that sound kinda like fun.......anyone? You wouldn't ? I thought it was enormous fun.... even having a hundred people watching. But I suppose I was 23 and not 18 .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' on the other side Koko I have two teenage girls and they understand kinks and fetishes in a broad sense and we talk quite freely about it. No they aren't 18, years off it, in fact and they were the ones that started the conversation when they mentioned furies. Being bought up in a heavily Christian background, we were not allowed to think, talk or participate in anything sexually related so when the euro guys at high school used to bring in their dads playboys, penthouses for us to view in the boys toiletsm it was like....OMG look at those "furies" LOL.....still has an impact on me now LOL..... :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I get what you are saying. But I am in my 50s and had never even heard of some things til I joined RHP! I just think ( and this is only my personal opinion) that teens should be enjoying their late teenage years with their friends, girlfriends/boyfriends going to sports events, festivals and the other things the young ones get out and do, instead of sitting at a computer planning which thing on their fetish list to tick off next. Ive probably lived a sheltered life.........but I make no apologies for my thoughts.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I hear what you are saying but the reality is that some young people will be exploring their sexuality and limits from an early age...schools are dealing with situations all the time that would shock most people ...the Internet has certainly provided the information,but does every teen act on it,clearly no...I was shocked recently when a friend commented on a young man we both know saying that she hoped he would find a partner soon and get married...My response was why should he,he has a great life as a single bloke,first comes marriage,then a mortgage,then children..why should he give up his single life for that,she looked quite shocked and then said...but he said he really liked my chocolate brownies !..Funny how we think others should live their lives,we all have our perfect bubble view xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
then I don't see an issue with it. I do know what you are saying Koko, im sure most parents would like their children to grow up as long as they can in their innocent youth. Fact is, even when I was a teen, the intenet was just starting to kick off. Although it was dialup and painfully slow, we would wait till the parents were out and go find the porn, and chat lines etc and get shocked by what there is out there. As for someone at 18 wanting to get flogged on a cross and done with a strap on? Hell I wish I wasn't into my thirties before discovering that it was OK to try new things. Was I ready at 18? Personally no, but others, yeah im sure! I was a very late bloomer, and perhaps if I had of seeked out someone earlier and understood its ok to be a little bit different at an earlier age things might have been different, not that things aren't great right now :) Also just because you are on this site doesn't mean you are attending orgies etc, could be using it just to find that one person to experiment with. I personally think it must be very empowering when you see the profile of a young woman, and she knows what she wants and seems confident and comfortable in their skin and what they are after. There are too many young people that put up with crap or abusive relationships because they don't know what else is out there, in my opinion :)
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Cazz61
10 years ago
One of the lucky ones, I was brought up that sex wasn't a taboo and if you wanted to try something you did, if you liked it then you keep doing it and if you didn't well at least you knew to cross it off the list. I have brought my 4 daughters up the same way. Young adults are some much wiser now days compared to how we grew up. If they want to explore their sexuality by being in RHP I say good on them. As I am the keeper of my own sexuality as they are to their own.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think I would be happy to try anything with you Whateverway xxx
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