F44
Age Limit
November 23 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
yea we get it all the time....20 somethings who message us.... and when we say no, who get all nasty, so we have to block them....its the norm here rather than the exception...you'll get used to it. or not...lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
For us if they are within a year or two of what we put down we don't get to fussed about it. We see it as more of a guide then set in stone rule to the exact date.One issue we did have when listing age limits in our profile was. Lets say for example you set a range of 25 - 45. You would then get messages from couples where one of them was 45 (usually the female) and the other was say 59 (usually the male) The problem with couples you still come up in there searches and recommendations even if only one of the other couple is within your age range. This was a issue for us as Jane likes her male playmates between say 28- 38 and I dont mind if the female is a little older even late 40s. So other than actually explaining this in your profile your age range can be misleading.One idea if your very hard a and fast about your age range. Put it in your profile that you are very strict on this and you will ignore all messages from people outside the range. That way if you see messages from people outside your range you don't have to feel rude about deleting them without reading or replying to them. As they haven't read your profile.Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you dont ask you will never know. I have one friend way outside my age limits but we have been friends now for over a year. Best sarcastically cheeky answer I ever sent back in reply to a message. Plus his profile was extremely scant, very little information and absolutely no pics. You just never know.
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
We have a ball park age group we look for but if someone outside that message us..cool. As we say ..it's your attitude that counts..not your years. We'd rather meet hot people in their 50's or older who look after themselves and are fun rather than some dowdy 30 somethings with no personality.But what DOES piss us off is when Smokers, drug users & people who don't practice safe sex contact us when we specifically request those type don't! READ the profiles all the way through people BEFORE you message or flirt!!! Is it that hard???
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RHP User
14 years ago
If it is that much of an issue for you to be getting some attention from members...either block them or ignore...or you could be polite...thank them for their email, inform them that they are not what you are looking for and wish them good luck in their search..you can set up a template reply for the members that do not meet your age requirements...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes your not the only one that gets messages from those outside the age range requested. It quite distincly says in my profile that if you are old enough to be my parent/s to please not message me but it doesn't stop them from trying. For the most part I am polite in my reply and say that they are outside the age range I am looking for. but more recently I recieved a flirt from a 55 year old so I sent the one back that says " The short answer is NO , the long answer is NOOOOOO" and he sent me a message that said " well aren't you friggen special"... what a complete ASSHOLE so I wrote a fairly abusive e mail back ( which is very rare for me) pointing out what I had said in my profile and that he could fuck off and blocked him. So its not just the young ones that don't take rejection well.. anyways like others have said just say in your profile you won't respond then you can just dlete and block..too easy! Have fun :) x
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RHP User
14 years ago
Guilty as charged sometimes (or we were when we had a paid membership)....but when we use the search facility we always tick the box that says "looking for me" - not our fault the search filter has a faulty algorithm! :) I know it's a lame excuse, but I also forget (maybe it's an age thing? lol) that I'm my 50's Also...if people have looked at our profile several times, even though we are outside their age range, I think that leaves them open to a message. What's the worst they can do. We get winks from single guys all the time even though our profile says we aren't interested. We just reply with a no thanks - eventually..no harm no foul...
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contemplating1
14 years ago
Hi, I am respectful of what people ask for in their profiles, and hence I don't go asking the question.... But, one could say thats limiting opportunities..... Why? Well, there are some who are very specific in what they want in their profile, all good... Then there are others who place limits and say may consider differently at times, all good... Then there are others who say little, and others who say they want one thing, but really want something else. Interesting.... Most of the members who have contacted me, well I'm outside of what they ask for in their profile.... I guess they like that controlling position.....All good.... So, it really is no one way street here, more like horses for courses! Anyway, I'll stick with my opening position... Have a good 'un out there!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'DonnaBrett' We have a ball park age group we look for but if someone outside that message us..cool. As we say ..it's your attitude that counts..not your years. We'd rather meet hot people in their 50's or older who look after themselves and are fun rather than some dowdy 30 somethings with no personality.Quoting 'fleurtatious81'Yes your not the only one that gets messages from those outside the age range requested. It quite distincly says in my profile that if you are old enough to be my parent/s to please not message meI agree with both DonnaBrett and fleurtations81 in parts.I think attraction can develop between all ages. When i first i joined my age limit was 35- but after a little while I raised it to 45, mainly because my partner and i saw how sexy DrewnAly is. But its annoying when people WAY outside of the range are rude when you reject them. I have communicated with a few couples who were over 45, one of which was kind enough to say "hope were not to old for you and if we are thats fine" and they left it at that. But many just dont care and i always feel bad having to say "sorry your old enough to be my Grandpa" and you wear the same knitted woolen jumpers! Its the same with single guys no matter how many times you tell them your not interested they just dont take the hint.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Interesting topic..i think and again depending on the individuals...you just never know what the person has to offer..even in a message you should be able to sift through and see if they are on the same wave page and has something to offer or interest you with.. old heads often have nice soft hands lol !!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey, we're with Donna and Brett on this one. We'd much rather go with a great attitude and a very talented, sexy approach to life, than worry too much about age ranges. And as we've seen in this discussion, the importance of the age range varies between individuals - for some it's a hard and fast thing, for others "it's more of a guideline really..."Or was that the priate's code? ;-) We have a few of our own guidelines, and we do look at age, but often it's not the deal-breaker. If someone is young enough to be our kids, we find that a bit creepy. If they're old enough to be our parents, we find that VERY creepy and way too kinky for us! If someone doesn't look after themselves, shows no respect, or just has a shitty attitude.. Bzzzz! Or drugs , smoking, etc... For us, anyone that says they like to "party hard" starts our little red light flashing too. It's as subjective as age-ranges, and no problem if that floats your boat, but just not our approach to having a good time.Now, when they get that tick box in the profile sorted for the sexy, talented, and amazing lovers like us, it'll be sooo much easier, won't it? lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think you've all combined to convince me that I need to try a toy boy.... maybe just once or if he's really good, a couple of times. My profile states quite clearly that I'm not after married men, younger than late thirties men, or smokers, yet still they contact me. Nothing is black and white in this argument and there have been several good points raised. Nothing ventured, nothing gained Older people can be young hearted and look younger than their age You can't really tell what they are like as a lover from reading cyber talk and finally... how many dates have you been on when the guy seems great on paper, but opens his mouth and you just know he is not for you? i.e no chemistry Be respectful of all people... everybody on here just wants to make love, not war! Right?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have no issues about people messaging me that is outside my age limits. I just simply reply whats appropriately. Politely and Bluntly. (yes it is possible to blunt politely. *smiles*) Communication plays an important part. Everyone need to know where we stand in this giant pool of socialization. IF we don't communicate politely, how are we to meet and express?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I guess it's likebuying a house, you see the advertised price and then see if you can get it lower. People see peoples ages and think that it is just a suggested range, but they will go Higher/lower for them.I think there is also an element of" but they don't know me" so how could they exclude me?
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RHP User
14 years ago
HELL I would just like anyone to contact me Why be age specific if there is no sexual attraction can not just a normal friendship be found with a younger or older person
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RHP User
14 years ago
Having been on this and another similar site, (yes, AMM *gasp*) either at the same time or separately for over 10 yrs, with single and couple profiles, I would have to say that those who message when they are outside of the specified age range fall into two main categories, Those who cant/wont/don't read profiles, simply look at pics and hit Message/Wink, and The Desperate. Either way, they are violating your right, to make your own choices.Unfortunately, I have also found that too many people (mostly younger guys) think that because a lady (whether single or part of a couple) is on a site like this, then ALL they have to do is ask, and she WILL/MUST put out.
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
There seems to be a lot of people who just don't read your profile. I don't mind talking to people who fit some of our criteria, but when they meet none of the criteria the chances of things progressing further are zero. And I sure a 20 something guy with a hard on forgets how to read.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Here it is.. "There are TWO states of the male human...." 1) Horny 2) hungry Therefore, IF you see a male without a hardon, Quickly give him a sandwich.. Heck people.. get used to it.. like mikeandshel said... OR Take timandjane advice... ignore them and delete their messages... THEY WILL STOP :) cavey.. as is
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RHP User
14 years ago
The basic problem is this, MOST guys don't have enough blood in their body, to work both heads at the same time, and younger guys seem to be more affected.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I can't say I've ever had a problem with women outside my age limits messaging me. On the other hand, I have a huge problem with women within my age limits not messaging me. So it kinda evens out, I guess
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's pretty immature. I don't know why anyone would abuse someone they are trying to... well, seduce, I suppose. I understand the feeling of rejection, just not the bullshit that seems to follow according to the posts in this thread.
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RHP User
13 years ago
As a BBW I find it hard that a young stud would find me attractive so I've got my age requirements mainly set for the older more experienced, wiser ( hopefully ;) ) males who are set and mainly happy with their life who are looking for regular fun. Older guys I find like to take their time and make sure the woman they're with is satisfied first ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
hi! Hun Thanks for the topic:) Actually I was wondering about Posting this subject last Night because I'm getting inundated with Guys outside My age Range which is quite clearly stated in My Profile..what kind of Guys I'm seeking so on too.. I'm cool wiith them being Younger or more Mature but I draw the line at My age or over.. I will only consider Friendship with Guys under 20yrs and Over 50yrs .. My range is set between 25-45yrs I think because I was getting Contact from Guys in their 70s who looked 90 wanting to Cam me and shiow me their assets he!he! So not into it.. Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well maybe just maybe its because those of us who are knocking on the door of 50 dont feel like 50 dont look like 50 we all have this idea of 50 is really old, when we are 20-30 and even 40 but when you get there its funny you see 45 as an age limit and you think why not 50 anyway all good fun
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RHP User
13 years ago
ok, it simply for me is a case of I personally don't mind at all, I will consider any contact received. I may not always play, but I will be always open to a friendship. However, if I am viewing and considering contact, I always make sure that the age range is followed to the letter. If I find out at a later date that all is good from seeing them in chat or in the forums, all well and good. It's an individual issue, not a generalised issue. But, when temptation is present, anything is possible.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We'll sometimes contact couples "just" outside their listed required age. Lets say, if they're asking for couples up to 45 and if we feel that we could have a connection due to what they have detailed in their profile, is an extra 3 years that much of a no go? As we have a requirement of couples 35-50. If we have a couple approach us slightyly either side of that requirement which we feel sounds nice and the connection could be there, we'll organise a meet to see where it leads to, as age isn't everything for us.. So, if you don't ask, you never know.
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boots_69
13 years ago
Have sent messages when outside of age bracket (but only by one or two years) or it may have been something they have written in their profile that sparked me to do it (one of these was to ask who their tattooist was) and have either received polite or no replies.Have been on other sites and got inundated with messages from young ladies well outside that which I would consider and they usually ended up being from a pay to view site.With sites like these you can expect to get trash but those you are interested in and meet are what make it all worth while.Boots
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RHP User
13 years ago
Try to look from a single guys view who is a young 50. Nearly every profile cuts off at 40 or 45. Sometimes there is no choice but to message outside the age limit. Just out of frustration to maybe get 1 reply. So sorry if it annoys people but what real chance have we got. You know people in their 50s are still very sexually active not dead.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting '1AllHard1'Try to look from a single guys view who is a young 50. Nearly every profile cuts off at 40 or 45. Sometimes there is no choice but to message outside the age limit. Just out of frustration to maybe get 1 reply. So sorry if it annoys people but what real chance have we got. You know people in their 50s are still very sexually active not dead. Too true! Well said..
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RHP User
13 years ago
it never stops , 18 to 22 year olds etc , when you say no they off the deep end , it really affects their little egos , to be knocked back , but it comes down to the fact they fail to read the profile and they wounder why I get a little cross with them , the bad tempered one get blocked
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, i understand there are ppl out there who are as old as your parents. But they are not your parents, they are human beings just like you who just happen to be born in a different year to yours. Anyone who thinks they are exempt from ageing, there lays the problem. One day you will have someone just like you with the same agenda hurling the same insults. Then you can think back to this moment and get just as pissed off with thier attitude as we get with yours. Unless of course, you plan not to ever get any older than you are now ? Im sure you are out there...
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