Always just guys?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes, we have a shared account, but it is the opposite for us! I am the one that is online alot, (often for work- working from home, I work all hours) so its usually me that the couple will chat to. R is out of the house for work 11 hours a day and its the last thing he wants to do when he gets home, so we are never online in the evening, we are to busy being together and enjoying our own relationship. I don't really agree that maybe 'she' isn't interested if she isn't chatting, the couples we know, its really more about who has the ability/time/resources. Often the wife/gf is busy with kids, working away from computer, errands, house duties and doesn't get a chance. From our experiences some/most couples do just leave it to one member to organise things So maybe give others the benefit of the doubt and find out WHY one person is just chatting?

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  I agree totally with MichnRuss. In our house it is me, Mrs Jones who does most of the chatting etc. Mainly for the reasons stated, that I have the access to the computer and the time to do this. Another issue for us is that Mr Jones just doesn't like typing or writing, so he doesn't do it. If you suspect that the guy is only interested and not the girl ask to talk to her on the phone sometime. We have met a few couples where this is the norm. They guy does all the online leg work but one of the boxes to check before things progress is for the women to talk on the phone. Mrs Jones.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yeah I understand where you're coming from. I'm also the nominated leg work person for us too. I guess it's just that we feel the need to "know" both halves of the couple before we're really comfortable.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  From the two replies you've received it would seem often ladies in couples seem do the chatting/organising... which indeed does add creedence to your questioning only guys in couples doing all the chatting!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  first thing to remember is that men are hunters so for most of us the man would do the hunting and when he finds a couple then he shows the wife. with us May's photo gets the attention and the hits then if she likes what she sees and reads I do all the chatting till we meet. and those that we have played with are never disappointed.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Mrs Pup tried to get involved with the msn/chat side of things but she has no shit detecter and got sick of been lead along by people pretending. Also she's a crap typer. So yes it's the male half doing our research, she's only interested when it gets to the "let's meet" stage and as said above, before setting a meeting the girls should talk on the phone. We do prefer to meet in the flesh and get to know people rather than online but due to this being such a small part of our lives we often don't have the time to meet straight away and will stay in touch via msn casually until the planets align and a meeting occurs.This has worked exceedingly well for us :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Or no pics at all. It's a full time job trying to hook up with a genuine couple who do not have a wish list of must haves... no hair, circumsided, non smokers, non drinkers, blah blah blah. Are we here to fuck or not?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Mrurge_mrsdesire, I understand what you are saying, we do have preferences and whilst not set in stone, there are just some people/couples that we wouldn't go near. We are here as an enjoyable experience, to enhance the wonderful sex we already have and some couples/people just wouldn't do that. It's not just to fuck, but a mutually satisfying relationship experience, so if we give up our time alone to let others in then it had better be worth it!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Funny you say that, as in all the couples I have met, it is always the man that does the talking, whether emails, chats, etc. One time the husband said he wanted to meet me alone first, and then his wife would join in. Well, after sussing him out, I found out there was NO wife... so you have to be careful that some men are pretending that he has a wife & she plays. I have had several men ask me to play alone with them first and then the wife will join in, or to meet them for coffee first, and he will relay it to his wife... all that is a bit sus....but in meeting the real couples, it is always the man that chats and organizes everything.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'michnruss' Mrurge_mrsdesire, I understand what you are saying, we do have preferences and whilst not set in stone, there are just some people/couples that we wouldn't go near. We are here as an enjoyable experience, to enhance the wonderful sex we already have and some couples/people just wouldn't do that. It's not just to fuck, but a mutually satisfying relationship experience, so if we give up our time alone to let others in then it had better be worth it! very well said and i agree totally, if we didnt put our preferences down how are other couples to know if they want to meet us or not, and there needs to be an attraction all round or else it doesnt work. When time is limited, we all have to make sure it is going to make for one really fantastic memorable night so why just accept ANYONE and then regret it when the night fizzles? cindy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  When I was playing as a couple I always organised everything she was very keen, but very busy with her kids. If you doubt it let the girls talk on the phone first.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We both use the same profile and we both have our own mind replying to certain topics in the forums. We always sign off with either Mrs JJ or Mr JJ so theres no confusion about which of us is the writer.It used to be Mrs JJ as the main poster, but its now pretty even. However' seems its left up to me, MrJJ, to initialize first contact and then if Mrs JJ likes what she see's we take it from there. I have come across couples / females who doubt that I am really the mouthpeice for both, thinking Im here for my own sake only. This is not true and there is nothing I can do or say to change it. I/we.. just move on . Mind you' I dont blame anyone for thinking that way as I have also been confronted with the same senario. Guess thats just the way it goes.. Mr JJ

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  Rockme2018

  15 years ago

  In our (admittedly limited) experience at this, it tends to be a bit of both what you have alll said. I (Claz) tend to be the one who looks after our profile and approaches people on here in the first instance. In our case it's because I tend to be the one who is online a lot more, talking to mates on facebook etc, and my gf is content to leave it up to me. That said, we both have our own laptops and internet connections, and our own msn's; and if I start chatting with someone then they can certainly have my gf's msn and chat with her as well, and on the phone if she wants to. However, we both have very different opinions of what we like/don't like or do/don't find attractive in other people, and if I start chatting/emailing with someone then she will look at the profiles, and if she doesn't like what she sees, then I leave it there (or if she likes something she sees I will start contact). Even if I might disagree, I prefer to let her have the final say on this so that we are both happy in the end. You also see so many profiles where it's obvious there is something dodgy there, and gf tends to have a good "radar" for this. Like michnruss said, we are here to enhance what we already have between the two of us. So I guess it's a bit of both sides with us, it's just what we have to found to work for us Claz

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