M56
Am i a "twat"
March 13 2014
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
I'll look upon the replies with interest.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Dude........... it gets boring answer all those emails. And no response is a response, isn't it. I would have reacted just like that woman as well to be honest. I mean what..... we have to respond to you ASAP? Sometimes you aren't sure how to respond, some people like to think about their response, some people have to be in the mood to return emails, maybe people read their emails and respond to all of them on one day, etc, etc. So I agree. You blew it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
when I was getting emails I didn't open them for about month. Call me an arrogant biatch if you want. But there are too many men on this site and it does my head it. Most men are nice and lovely and probably worth having a chat too, but when you have to chat to 10 different men everyday it gets really tiresome. So in order to survive you start applying more and more stringent rules on who you may reply to. So I do actually always reply to emails, but as I said sometimes it was a month or more after I received them.
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
What about your message makes it stand out enough out of the hundreds she probably gets in a day? How does she know it wasn't just a template you send out to all and sundry? Did you meet her profile criteria? It's pretty simple - single females get bombarded, so unless something really grabs our attention, most of us don't have hours to spend online replying to people (most of whom are rude in their messages to begin with) just to be 'polite.' Especially when often by being polite we get called stuck-up bitches or get asked 'why, am I not hot enough for you?' etc. etc. Your reply chiding her was pretty patronising and plain unnecessary. If she doesn't have manners, some random dude off the internet won't change that, and if she does, she doesn't need you to tell her when she's being rude because she would already know it (and obviously not care). You can take a non-reply most times as an 'i'm not interested.' Unless you follow up with a second message 'just in case' she didn't get your first, then there's really no need to message again. I probably would've blocked you too, because even though you might not be a serial-messaging pest, others are, and they give the majority of guys a bad rep. Jess xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Those messages that say nothing but hope to hear from you soon. I mean what are you supposed to say to that? I look at it like this. If you have made no effort, so why should I really.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I often open messages and have every intention of replying but sometimes life does get in the way, and it can take a while to get round to it. Which reminds me, I had better do some work ..........
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
YEP - you blew it Sorry OP Now to turn it around, What happens if she reads this.... What would you like to happen? An apology from her ? Does the woman know you have written this up about her and included HER message?? Where's her privacy and choice?? Did you ask her before posting ?? If it were ME reading this, I would hit the ROOF and be offended! Just sayin.......... Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
You can't contact her because she blocked you..that's right!......Silly me!! But still, she deserves some sort of privacy even tho you didn't mention a name, you did use her email. And by the sounds of it...do you really want a feedback or is this just a rant about the woman and her message reply?? Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
All the feed back is great, thanks, i havent been single for quite some time and sometimes i guess the expectations need to be fine tuned, figure it a whole load better to put it out here and see what the general opinion is. life is just a big learning curve after all. I guess its just an extension of life..........some people will always go the extra mile, while most just cant really understand why they should. Cheers everyone
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow, just wow, and us men still complain we don't get replies and women complain they get terrible messages. If this is an indication of what is considered normal here, damn I am going to have to start sending messages again. To the OP: If what you stated in the opening post was what you sent, it is generic. You could have sent the same message, word for word to every woman on this site, no where in your message do you address the recipient directly, nothing personal in relation to her profile was present. And the lady in question would have read that, probably correctly assumed you had just opened her profile, looked at the pretty photos and hit your template button. The majority of women would like to feel special, like to 'think' us prehistoric throwbacks actually took the time to read her profile and smart enough to send a message referencing at least something she has written. You could have simply said where she lived was a lovely place (even if it isn't), just to let her know you did more than look at the pics and send a message one handed. Then you compounded the fact by acting like a spoilt teenager who didn't get their way, accusing her of being rude and ignorant. And yet you are surprised she took umbrage at your second message, that was the bit that made me laugh. Unfortunately you have probably screwed yourself here now. Any woman that you contact will look at your profile, check the activity feed on the right hand side and notice your activity on the forums. Natural curiosity will kick in and she will click on the forum to see what you wrote, read this thread and probably file you away as 'not worthy' (being polite here). What can I say except good luck, I think you may need it. Mooka
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP..... does it really surprise you that your message would receive the reply it did? Really??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Dude, your biggest mistake was choosing to write to that person initially. Then you went and repeated your mistake by writing to her a second time!! The only reason you got a reply was so that the person involved could show her true character.... obviously she is going to misdirect her shortcomings straight back on you. It's how that person builds self esteem. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Dude, your biggest mistake was choosing to write to that person initially. Then you went and repeated your mistake by writing to her a second time!! The only reason you got a reply was so that the person involved could show her true character.... obviously she is going to misdirect her shortcomings straight back on you. It's how that person builds self esteem. Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile The same way he did you mean?
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RHP User
12 years ago
to respond to people that do not reply reason as most women have said, they get a shit load of messagesand they don't always want to send the rejection thing to guys NO reply means they are not interested in you plus people might be away, or have other stuff going on in their livesthey might just check a message and leave it at that if you get annoyed and reply like that, it just makes a woman think well I dodged a bullet there I try to reply to all my mail and be polite but sometimes I just do not have the time and also some of the stuff that gets sent well, honesty you would not want to reply to it. so you made a twit of yourself all you can do is learn from it and move along to the next lady that might be interested trick is to read the profile and never contact a woman if you do not fit what she wants in her profile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Search the forums for many previous posts on messages and replies. Lots to learn from there. My two cents ... No-one is obliged to reply. Yes, women are sometimes THAT busy. When I first joined years ago I used to get 30-50 messages a day for months. The time to read them, check the profile and craft a genuine response would have been ridiculous. People do, and have the right to, pick and choose what they spend their time on. No response IS a response, as others have said. Silence means no thanks, or not now. Your second message sounded preachy and needy. Whatever she thought of you in the first place, you instantly became LESS attractive. No, you're not a twat :) Yes, you have a chance to do things differently in future, and get a different result. Good luck x
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JessicaRabbit
12 years ago
LadyTuscan, while the rest of what you said I totally agree with, I disagree that they shouldn't reply at all to a non-response. I've struck up conversations with people on a second message after having overlooked their first by accident. The difference between a good follow up message and a bad one is all in what's said. Clearly no-one will respond positively to the kind of follow-up message that OP sent, so i'm not sure what the reasoning behind even bothering to message again was. Gazpacho, I don't see how this woman has 'shortcomings' just because she failed to reply to one message then replied negatively to his second one? I would've done exactly the same thing, minus the name-calling. Alternatively, I would've just hit the block button without replying so that I didn't get any more emails like that...depends how bad a day I was having.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Her response was definitely unnecessary. She could have chosen the graceful route of more silence, but her frustration is absolutely understandable. Until you've been on the end of the sheer volume and mundanity/hostility/vulgarity of most messages women receive, it's a bit unfair to judge her so harshly.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'up_in_smoke'I guess its just an extension of life..........some people will always go the extra mile, while most just cant really understand why they should. Cheers everyone I assume you are trying to say that it is you who goes the extra mile. That boring, bland, generic message you initially sent to that woman, would indicate otherwise. Plus you have absolutely no idea why she hadn't yet replied, so sending the pushy, rude follow-up was unnecessary. So basically, yes you did act like a twat.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Make it personal, make it a lil fun, don't make it sleazy not that you did!!! Show her an element of who you are, however mostly make it about them. NEVER, NEVER make anyone wrong. The lady rebelled, and quite rightly so. You made her wrong for not answering back.You put her in a corner. You actually showed her your true colours by lowering yourself. to all the other people she has fobbed off. And you know it. Always teat a lady with respect, humour, fun and creativity. This is their DOMAIN. They rule it. They're the spiders, their profiles are the web and we're there flies. They choose to bite what they want to sample. Koz.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh dear OP, it doesn't seem to have gone entirely to plan for you on this one. But welcome to the world of the Pie and here, you will find a wealth of info to help you be more successful in the future. There's heaps on old forums about good first messages and maximizing your chances so my advice to you is to spend some reading and learning. Were you a twat? That's probably overstating it but I do think your second mail was equally abrasive as her reply so I reckon you're even Stevens. Better luck next time! Kisses, J (Mrs) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You dodged a bullet there! Forget about her and move on!
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Yes Meeka. You might even say they're well suited, :) Hugs Gazpacho - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I work 5 days a week away from home, by the time I get home I'm tired. Then I also like to go to the gym, then there's catching up with friends, family then there's sleep etc.....get my drift? OP, some people also have other things that take up their time and focus other than RHP. If a message wasn't memorable enough sometimes it doesn't get a reply. If you sent such a message to me I'd be like well, you have sent me a message asking me if I would reply if you sent a message.....but but you've already sent the message. So I'd ponder a while over this and on how to respond to you and that could take days. In the end if probably not reply - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
He 'n' me used assorted ways to cut down on unwanted contact to start with. We used a template to reply after a while on here, it worked well, took a moment to send with no nasty messages in return, yay lol. And the thanks we got in return were well worth it. For times outside the template if we'd gotten to know them a bit better, but hadn't met up, we'd let them know. We weren't inundated with messages as younger couples or women might have been though.
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madotara69
12 years ago
I think you would find there is lacking, by ladies need to be captivated to your imagination, to have found what it is they have written between the lines. If you type straight past it (her) what in the world would she find so interesting, while sieving through the lists of desire for chance to the moment, she has been taken by her guy who has found herself. If you can't find her in that profile, then you are not the one she is looking for, maybe try by narrowing things down to where you feel that something she may be in not so many words calling for, complicated mystery is a lady, just a thing about her. Good luck Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Upinsmoke, what do you think? Do you think you behaved like a twat (a lesser charge than *being* a twat)? Do you think your second post in this thread indicated contrition? I'm curious to know because I often read the world one way when all the other salmon are swimming the other.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If your not getting a response the best way to get a response is to be rude crude mean nasty dirty wrong despicable disgraceful disgustingly negative and all with a nice big smile :-)) - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Some people do lead a busy/full on lifestyle. For example me, I work one part time job, one casual job, run a full time business, and have a parent to look after. So you can imagine the picture and see how little time I have for my personal life! So the last thing I would want to do is to promptly reply to a very generic message! Therefore, some people really are that busy :-) perhaps the woman in question is too, but you won't know until you get to know her, right? Hence, I do suggest that you give it time and patience when approaching someone that catches your eyes. Of course, if you don't hear from the person for a week, then you know the answer and move on. I am curious to know though, OP, why didn't you send a proper message briefly introducing who you are, what you're after, etc. etc. instead of sending the generic message? Was it the flirt template that you used? It sounds like the flirt message I get sometimes lol Anyways, here are my answers to your questions: is reminding someone that basic manners are stiill socially acceptible such a bad thing? * It would not be a bad thing to remind someone that manners are still socially acceptable IF you have already had interaction with them, or know them, or their friends. The woman in question is not a little child, so she doesn't need to be spoken to by a father. maybe i went about this all the wrong way? * Yes, you have chosen the wrong way of speech and shown a demanding attitude! Nobody is obligated to play the same game as one does unfortunately, and we all know that we cannot change what others do or how they think. But we can change ourselves :-) did i say something wrong? * Yes, it was harsh when you said "manners ain't taught at school anymore".......you might not mean to be harsh, but the tone of your line sounded like as if you were saying to the woman in question that she had no manners at all! was i rude and was this an action worthy of the blocking function? * Definitely! I would do the same if I was her. Because she has not yet interacted with you, and you already showed her your attitude, so she didn't know what else would you write to her after her reply, and so she might not want to get abused verbally no more. Of course, all my answers are made based on my assumption as a woman, I do not speak for the woman in question, just try to paint you a picture, that's all :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
..And their are certain rules that apply to writing and sending messages…amongst all the other stuff you learn. Unsurprisingly, they're the same as when you converse with people in the REAL world. Being humanand compassionate is fine. BUT…don't expect people to respond to you under the same rules.They don't apply in reverse. Confusing? Not really. Just remember them if you don't want your feelings stung : )I've had one "Sorry, your not my type" reply so far and I wisely kept it too a "Thanks for replying" return.That's all. Nothing more. No malice intended, none taken. Keep it simple. I think LadyTuscan summed up The Rules( for me, anyway) pretty well on the last page.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You can't expect people to behave in a certain way, and you certainly can't have a go at them when they don't behave the way you wanted them to behave...... If you were out somewhere and saw someone you fancied the look of, and you just said "hello" or something, would you then expect anything from them? If they didn't say hello back, would you chase them and berate them?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Uber minimalist response.......small whinge,large wack... if you expect to be treated differently then act in a way that will impress....and still expect nothing,but hope for something.....not just anything,but something xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
We indecent women are far more fun:-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wouldn't have even bothered replying to the second email.. you just would've found your self blocked.. 😉
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have to agree with Meeka on this one...
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RHP User
12 years ago
hey thanks everyone for your comments, i in no way expected so many.but you know what........im going to stick by my very simple rules of life, if some one asks you a question.....you answer, if someone talks to you, you talk back, you may not answer the way they like and you may brush them off with a "thanks but no thanks" but thats ok, at least youve either left the door open to something more or closed it with no doubt in anyones mind. If you talk to someone in a public place and they simply turn there back at least you know where you stand, It takes less than 15 seconds to type "thanks but no thanks" and hit send, how hard can that be, its gota be better than no reply and having someone bug you for the next week, come on guys n gals, if you dont tell people that poking you in the ribs is anoying you, you cant complain if they keep on doing it, all i ask is for people to treat others as they wold like to be treated...........yep a little old fashiond but figure maybe thats a good thing......................oh yeah, if after that they dont get the message...........block there arse, some people just dont learn. Thanks again to everyone who commented. Have fun and smile loads
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some of us don't type much in 15 seconds...times up Facts of life on the dark side don't ever expect a reply here... simple...that's a given for reasons that should be more than obvious by now. It's not your world and not your rules, local rules always apply.I've been known to thank women who reply just for saying no thanks
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23'That boring, bland, generic message you initially sent to that woman, would indicate otherwise. Plus you have absolutely no idea why she hadn't yet replied, so sending the pushy, rude follow-up was unnecessary. So basically, yes you did act like a twat. Completely agree with LD.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'up_in_smoke' hey thanks everyone for your comments, i in no way expected so many.but you know what........im going to stick by my very simple rules of life, if some one asks you a question.....you answer, if someone talks to you, you talk back, you may not answer the way they like and you may brush them off with a "thanks but no thanks" but thats ok, at least youve either left the door open to something more or closed it with no doubt in anyones mind. If you talk to someone in a public place and they simply turn there back at least you know where you stand, It takes less than 15 seconds to type "thanks but no thanks" and hit send, how hard can that be, its gota be better than no reply and having someone bug you for the next week, come on guys n gals, if you dont tell people that poking you in the ribs is anoying you, you cant complain if they keep on doing it, all i ask is for people to treat others as they wold like to be treated...........yep a little old fashiond but figure maybe thats a good thing......................oh yeah, if after that they dont get the message...........block there arse, some people just dont learn. Thanks again to everyone who commented. Have fun and smile loads there is many times where I will read messages, like I did last night while I was having trouble sleeping, but there is no way I am even going to send the simplest message in return while I am only functioning on sleep deprived brain, it can sometimes take me an entire day to reply, as life commitments get in the way the moment I wake. You also need to keep in mind that that person might show online and not actually be there any more, my mobile will keep me logged in while I am not there, or I might have quickly read a message, left the tab open on the desktop and taken off up to the shops before they shut.. its not as black and white as you wish it to be. As long as you are so rigid and inflexible you will keep having these issues, there are many who haven't returned my messages, most of my messages are even reply's to them, so I step back and say oh well their loss. If you keep letting it get to you, its going to do your head in.
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RHP User
12 years ago
someone sends you a message like that...."if I send you a message would you reply'? and they don't answer.....isn't that your answer???? Then you went ahead and messaged anyway?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Uber minimalist response.......small whinge,large wack... if you expect to be treated differently then act in a way that will impress....and still expect nothing,but hope for something.....not just anything,but something xx Q I might quote you word for word in future :) Brilliantly put.
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LittleBitWeird
12 years ago
As the saying would go you win some you lose some it seems that here is a case of you get response some (win) and no response from some (lose). The same goes for responding to some and not responding to some. We have sent numerous flirts and messages that have gone by the way side into the bowels of other users trash baskets and vice versa. For us to not respond it generally is a case of a) the writer of the message not meeting our match criteria but messaging all the same, b) a lack of attraction or feeling of friendship potential. In terms of not getting a response we will, if we feel that the attraction is strong enough or our social interests strongly match those of the intended recipient, try and try again. Maybe one more flirt to see if no reply was an oversight. Maybe a quick message to see how their days was. If that fails it was not meant to be. Good luck all in your search for fun and friends ;) The weirds xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Generally speaking, you should probably assume that no reply = no interest. As I understand it after speaking to some women on here, there's a pretty heavy bombardment of messages from guys each day. I think that's something that we guys don't quite comprehend, because we're generally the ones that do the seeking and messaging in the first place. With that in mind, it's understandable that women simply don't have the time to respond to every one of these emails. I'd say try to understand that and try not to take it personally. If you don't get a reply, just move on. Sort of like the old bar experience. I wouldn't say you were a twat in this scenario, but I can see how it could have upset the lady (especially if she's been overwhelmed with initial contact and then the billions of 'why didn't I get a reply' messages).
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RHP User
12 years ago
spoken to a few guys about this as there have been a few who have said that they find women rude who don't respond and I have politely explained as most other women on here have that the sheer volume of emails we get is incredible. I was here a few days and I checked out my stats of number of flirts and emails, how many hot lists I was on, how many views on my profile, etc, and I relayed that information to a few of them and I think they then understood where we are coming from. They were quite staggered by the figures and I am not anything to look at compared to some of the gorgeous women out there, I hate to think what the hot ones get bombarded with. I think it would help if guys (generally speaking) actually contacted those who fit what you want instead of playing the numbers game hoping somebody answers. Be selective and genuine. I personally think guys come off really desperate when they start getting really pushy or start begging and I can't stand it when men appear to have no standards as long as they get their dick wet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like to think I'm a gentleman at times I know, I know wrong site right? The thing is, I'm interested enough in that person, I've taken the time to send a decent message, and nothing! How long does it take to reply no thanks? And it won't eat into your message quota! If I'm not what you're after then that's fine, I've had women reply with no thanks and I really appreciate it, getting the cold shoulder so to speak really annoys me, and to the ladies that have me the courtesy of a reply, thank you :) End rant - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tough competition here and you always want to lead with your best foot forward. Ladies on here can smell blood in the water and are very discerning (and very busy wading through a pile of email every day). Much like a job application, you just have to send and trust that your profile is every bit the taster of who you are, what you can offer and what you are looking for, and that the person you are trying to reach picks yours because it has a catchy subject line. For myself, I am back after a long absence (wonderful relationship gained through this site that sadly ended but with so much personal growth for us both and good will to each in their endeavours that it was nice to still have a friend). Its a great way to meet new people of all flavours.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You sent a follow-up message to someone who didn't reply? That's not overly twatish but it sure is pointless.There are probably 10:1 real female profiles to real male profiles on here. There is every chance a woman won't reply to any given message.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women being the fairer sex are at an advantage, they can pick & choose as they like. I'm envious of their position, but I would like to say that I don't think a short reply within a week wether its a yes , no or I'll get back to you is too much to ask. You ladies want us to be nice guys & i know i try to be. I am a big boy & wont be offended by a turn down but only ask for that courtesy of a reply. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know all about getting buried under with flirts and Messages so I clearly state what I am and am not looking for. IF someone messages me, who fits my criteria yet I remain uninterested I either flirt reply sorry but not interested or message the same. It takes 2 secs to do and I feel I have at the least been respectful. However If they do not fit what I am looking for they still get a reply like cant you fucking read and then block. It's not hard to act civil if the other has first respected your choices.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not sure of the policies on here but on other sites men pay (varying amounts as to level they want) & women get to use the site for free. So I point out that not only do we as men pay & support these sites & then we are expected to be gentlemen, only to be left hanging in the wind with no response. If you're not interested, say so. For me it's time consuming picking the people I am genuinely interested in only to wait till forever, I don't jump on & msg 100 contacts every day. My point is ladies, feel lucky that your not in mens shoes who are lucky if they recieve a message at all. so if you tell them "your not interested" they will look else where & you'll create more time due to less repeat messages. End rant😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
To the ladies & couples that do reply thank you. To the men out there being arseholes...stop it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'up_in_smoke' but you know what........im going to stick by my very simple rules of life Actually, I think, you're a twat. Angry, obstinate, and dull.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'funnybut_strange'I either flirt reply sorry but not interested or message the same. It takes 2 secs to do and I feel I have at the least been respectful. I've made a template reply that says they're not who I'm looking for and wishes them all the best. Indeed, it takes two seconds to hit "Quick reply" and select my response. There are even seven template messages that RHP has already written! No excuse for not being polite if a man has put the effort in to read your profile and write a polite message, rather than the lovely "hi, I think we match and i will rock your world". In that case all bets are off.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you really calling men fuckwits in your profile heading, then tell them all to fuck off further down? Respectful...
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RHP User
12 years ago
You weren't being rude in your second message. I guess that with the disparity between men and women on sites like this, it would be more difficult for a female 'guest' to be as even-keeled as she might be in real life. Who knows what the previous 20 messages were like on that particular day - she must've been dazed and disoriented. Then again, if someone does not want to reply to your initial contact, it's entirely their prerogative. You can't really take it personally...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Are you really calling men fuckwits in your profile heading, then tell them all to fuck off further down? Respectful... If any man is crazy enough to send a flirt or message to a profile like that, they get what they deserve!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Guys if I dont respond to a message its because it takes more intelligence to get me interested than a shot of your regions.. Seriously a photo of a guts genitals isnt enough to interest me especially if its arriving within the time frame of a first or 2nd message.. Takes more than that for me .I know your proud of it but think about the woman on the recieving end is it enough to keep her wanting to know more about you. Drinks and dinner first???!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'evahard4' Not sure of the policies on here but on other sites men pay (varying amounts as to level they want) & women get to use the site for free. So I point out that not only do we as men pay & support these sites & then we are expected to be gentlemen, only to be left hanging in the wind with no response. If you're not interested, say so. don't have to pay to use RHP. And a lot of women do pay, including me when I can afford to (mainly so I can perve on the pics, I freely admit it). It has nothing to do with 'equality' and is based on sheer numbers...fact is that on sites like this one men outnumber women by a significant amount and if the sites made women pay they would have even more unbalanced numbers. It may not be fair, but who said life was always fair. Also, while your paying for use of the site may entitle you to expect certain things with regards to the site itself, that doesn't extend to the behaviour of other individuals on the site.As many people have pointed out, no response is a pretty good indication that the answer is 'no'. Maybe send one (polite) follow up message a couple weeks later if you can see that your message has been read, then leave it there whether or not you get a response to that. Believe me, if a woman is interested she will get back to you, unless some life event/s get in the way (or you've messaged a fake profile). It is simply a waste of your time and energy to get your knickers in a twist over people not responding...you cannot control others' behaviour, you can't demand that they 'say so' if they're not interested, and you don't know what is going on in their lives at the time. And in the great scheme of things it really doesn't matter. Yes in a perfect world people would be polite and always respond one way or another but we all know it is far from a perfect world.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Only to the males who do not respect my profile request of "S ee king: SEEKING : Woman,Couple,TV,TS" as I already have a male who looks after my needs. IF after seeing my very direct statements and still flirting or messaging me they deserve what the get , Both barrels! lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To a point i get what some of the non Neanderthal guys are saying on here. IF they have read the gals profile, think they may fit it and then send a message, it is only plain good manner's ( which we expect from them ) to take those 2 secs to reply , one way or another, even if it is a template
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RHP User
12 years ago
I try to reply to all my messages and flirts as I feel it is the polite thing to do. I find the "No thank you" ones the quickest and easiest as there is the template. Or if I see someone has taken the time to address my profile but I am still not interested I try to personalise a response to them. Amazingly my "I'm interested" responses take longer. I may read a message but not respond for a few days with a "yes" due to working on a carefully crafted witty reply in between having a life outside of the RHP world. Having said that some people respond with "Why?". I don't think I should have to justify my reasoning. So those often do not get an answer. However, we all have our own methods dealing with messages and replies. If you don't get a favourable response (be it ignored or a flat out no) leave it be. So to answer OPs question. Yes, I think you are a twat. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
ABSOLUTELY!!! Dude, you are damn lucky that she didn't reach through the internet, take your balls in her hand, twist them REALLY HARD and then rip them off, first one and then the other...Your email was just plain rude... On the other hand I appreciate your frustration..she looks nice...she sounds nice...HOW COULD SHE NOT want to meet you and fuck you... Ah well, that's the rub of this site, here we sit, the hottest fuck that she'll ever get and she's missing it...so move on S'nP
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