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As you like it?
June 28 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been single for wayyy too long..I suffer from emotional claustrophobia 👿Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Arms around each other, stroking his warm skin, him kissing my neck.....and even when you are not naked, the little touches on the arm or stroking each others back.....cheeky feel of the bum. Cosied up together with a glass of wine having long winded discussions. When youre with a group of people, the eye contact.....I love it, it adds to the chemistry and I have to have it with a lover. But Im a very affectionate person anyway, which isnt for everyone. Intimacy...one of my favourite things in this life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Amo ergo sum...or something like it.
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Grouse33
10 years ago
Physical intimacy, like kissing, holding somebody close, running my fingers through their hair etc: I'm all for it. Emotional intimacy: Yeah, nah. At least in this point of my life. I have declared myself an island for the time being. I suspect people conflate the two. At least in my recent experience where I did a lot of the former with somebody and they they thought there was more of the latter. I suspect I may have got the etiquette wrong.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The physical intimacy is what I miss most. But I'm willing to wait for it as I've found the fleeting connections (and 1 night stands) just don't provide it. Emotional intimacy...meh, not so much. I like good conversation and company, but don't want (or maybe I'm just not willing and ready for) feelings and emotions and such to be brought into it. I'm too selfish at the moment. I'm enjoying my freedom for the first time in my life...the freedom to think soley for myself, and not consider the feelings or reactions of a partner to anything I do, want or say. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
in that intimacy and love aver very different. You can be intimate with someone but not love them and you can love someone dearly but not be intimate with them. Sex without intimacy is like quick masturbation in the shower, it is fun and feels good and gets the job done but it is also kind of bland and unfulfilling. There are different levels of intimacy. I believe that deep intimacy can develop and become intense over time. but I also believe that it is possible to commit yourself intimately and connect with someone and become lost in them during a one off nsa play meet if there is a chemistry/connection and a common purpose. I wonder if some of the bland unfulfilling hook-ups people have are because there was a lack of intimacy rather than lack of talent. Having said that not everyone is after intimacy in a play date and just want a good hard three-way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thought provoking...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
EveryOne is different but sometimes it's hard to separate physical intimacy and emotional intimacy, sometimes the boarders cross. Which for me it can enhance the experience. I would say something smart in Latin, but I've got nothing 😆
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RHP User
10 years ago
When swinging with males no.When swinging with females yes.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I like it...in fact I love it. I have quite a few people in my life, I'm quite intimate with and we don't even have to have sex. It's very powerful. We have very strong emotional attachments. Its very captivating and soul enhancing. It makes me feel safe. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
True intimacy is more than just fooling around with someone you're attracted to. I want to share myself with somebody who will press her hands through the surface of my skin, curl herself up inside my soul, and say "here this is who I am" Beau Taplin Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is that person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Your very right... I was just goofing with my limited knowledge of Latin. Just glad it didn't come out ''I eat therefore I am''. Intimacy is a part of love but love is not required to find intimacy... they are very different.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...is something personal..something to be cherished, I think. When it's no longer cherished..it's probably not personal anymore.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intimacy is about the only thing I live for
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RHP User
10 years ago
Puedo vivir sin posesiones y riquezas pero no podemos vivir sin intimidad. Best to stay with the things we know.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
You must really be able to please......... Intimacy follows honesty, trust and respect
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Wish I had it again 🤔 And wouldn't lose it 🤓 The x-factor thing though is an entirely different thing and as rare as rocking horse poop 😔 Or maybe I'm being punished? ~ Reflective
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' True intimacy is more than just fooling around with someone you're attracted to. I want to share myself with somebody who will press her hands through the surface of my skin, curl herself up inside my soul, and say "here this is who I am" Beau Taplin Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is that person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are. I don't really agree here, though I do understand what I think you mean, that the connection continues after the physical, it's more than that, definitely get that, but texting at 3am, that would be more like love to me, probably going a bit beyond intimate? But I'm not a one guy only type of person either so it might be different if there was only one in play. Not saying that's your situation, but also think 'curling up inside your soul' is love. Let's not get carried away here, unless we want to keep them, curling up inside your soul I would think would be off limits and a bit risky letting yourself go there, just my thoughts
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Wish I had it again 🤔 And wouldn't lose it 🤓 The x-factor thing though is an entirely different thing and as rare as rocking horse poop 😔 Or maybe I'm being punished? ~ Reflective
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' ...is something personal..something to be cherished, I think. When it's no longer cherished..it's probably not personal anymore. and therefore not intimate and on that note, I've officially hogged another topic, I'm out of here
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Quoting 'SoftandCurious' True intimacy is more than just fooling around with someone you're attracted to. I want to share myself with somebody who will press her hands through the surface of my skin, curl herself up inside my soul, and say "here this is who I am" Beau Taplin Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when ten other people are asking for it. Intimacy is that person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are. I don't really agree here, though I do understand what I think you mean, that the connection continues after the physical, it's more than that, definitely get that, but texting at 3am, that would be more like love to me, probably going a bit beyond intimate? But I'm not a one guy only type of person either so it might be different if there was only one in play. Not saying that's your situation, but also think 'curling up inside your soul' is love. Let's not get carried away here, unless we want to keep them, curling up inside your soul I would think would be off limits and a bit risky letting yourself go there, just my thoughts Both of these are quotes I've found. But the thread is on intimacy - not intimacy confined to the bedroom. Intimacy can be with your sexual partner/partners, friends, family members etc. For example the feeling from the first quote I've felt a couple of times in my life - and excluding the attraction, my mum was one of them. And my hubby and I are like this. There is no feeling like it in this world than having someone "see" inside you, be able to speak to you without words, just by looking at you. And yep - I have a few friends I'm intimate with in a non-sexual way who I message at all hours and who are always in my thoughts. Its not about being in a Jane Austen novel but rather having relationships where you have opened up and exposed yourself, been vulnerable and been accepted in spite of everything. But there are different levels of physical and emotional intimacy. The more you expose yourself, the more chance you have at intimacy - but you also risk more too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious'But there are different levels of physical and emotional intimacy. The more you expose yourself, the more chance you have at intimacy - but you also risk more too. And as always, Soft... the equatiion of risk and reward are truly in proportion with the opportunity for reward substantially multiplied. Nice.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
No, we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. Of course you're intimate with your husband and Mother, you love them, they love you. Yes, we're talking about intimacy, but the op asked about x factor, you don't have that with your Mother, that's inappropriate in your case, but you know what I mean. The op asked about x factor, I didn't think he meant friends and parents, have i missed something? Cruisin, can you clarify what it is you're asking about here. X factor with who? Thanks
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RHP User
10 years ago
I also stand by my comment about it being risky, letting yourself be 'that' intimate with lovers, when you're married more so. You already have someone at home to share that with, I agree some intimacy is great with lovers, but the heart is a fickle thing and the warmer and more intimate the person is, as I think you are, so am I, the more danger of falling for them. That was my point. I wasn't suggesting you shouldn't be intimate. I'm a very warm and intimate person, but I keep it for meets and the immediate time surrounding meets, otherwise it can just tip too far
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intimacy, where angels rush in.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am by nature a bit of a hermit...just recently someone has come into my life almost demanding of my time in a very intimate way..it is not sexual but an emotional and intimate connection..it has caught me off guard but I am embracing it..Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intimacy encourages compassion yet compassion can exist without intimacy. I've a list of about two dozen people on my favourites list on my phone so even when I move it across to ''Do Not Disturb'' I am available to them even in the middle of my night, 24/7. Many are overseas and I know it would work the same way should the need arise. With only two exceptions as a part of former long term relationships, none of them are the least bit sexual in nature. Be well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I also stand by my comment about it being risky, letting yourself be 'that' intimate with lovers, when you're married more so. You already have someone at home to share that with, I agree some intimacy is great with lovers, but the heart is a fickle thing and the warmer and more intimate the person is, as I think you are, so am I, the more danger of falling for them. That was my point. I wasn't suggesting you shouldn't be intimate. I'm a very warm and intimate person, but I keep it for meets and the immediate time surrounding meets, otherwise it can just tip too far ...Ahem. Touch....I thought you'd decided you were bowing out of this topic yesterday. The gag doesn't work so well when you tie it on yourself...
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RHP User
10 years ago
What gag? Are my thoughts annoying you? Little suggestion, don't read if you're not interested. Who are you to tell me what I can and can't say?
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RHP User
10 years ago
...it was an open-ended comment and question, hopefully allowing others to freely express their thoughts and opinions without being prejudiced by any limitations that I may have imposed. I like getting a bit of a look into the character and personalities of others here. What you make of it is.... As You Like It - Shakespeare
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RHP User
10 years ago
Relaaxxx _touch....I'm just having a little dig, not being serious. Chill.. 😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' ...it was an open-ended comment and question, hopefully allowing others to freely express their thoughts and opinions without being prejudiced by any limitations that I may have imposed. I like getting a bit of a look into the character and personalities of others here. What you make of it is.... As You Like It - Shakespeare No worries, thanks for that
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have the Buddhist mantra of compassion tattooed on my left shoulder.It is the Dalai Lama's mantra and is in Sanscrit. It says Om Mani Padme Hung or Hail to the Jewell in the Lotus..all Buddhas being Lotus born Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
The problem with humour is ,unless you know someone intimately the personal dig can can feel like an insult..it's not what is said.it's who is saying it Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' The problem with humour is ,unless you know someone intimately the personal dig can can feel like an insult..it's not what is said.it's who is saying it Q Yes and No, Q. I think the risk with verbal humour is how it will be interpreted...inflections of voice and face aren't carried through, and Emoticons are not infallible.That won't stop me taking risks, though..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Nice... Buddhism forms a part of what I believe in the context of spirituality. I am still very much an advocate of the concepts presented in the book by William James - ''The Varieties of Religious Experience: A Study in Human Nature''. It's a laborious read although well worth the effort.Free to download on the 'net too...my favourite price! Be well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Great topic, OP! And a great move to keep it open-ended so liberties can be taken with interpretations and perspectives. I loosely categorise intimacy in three areas : Physical, Emotional and Spiritual. Physical Intimacy is probably the quickest to attain. Hugs, cuddles, kisses, nuzzling of the neck, nibbling of the earlobes... proceed further and we'd have to slap an XXX-rated label. It is possible to feel physically intimate with someone and yet, not feel any love / affection / adoration for that person. Afterall, Lust and Love are distinctly separate entities. Physical intimacy can be reduced to the mere nuts and bolts, to satiate the lust when the potent hormones drive us absolutely nuts, when we react on a subconscious level to someone's pheromones that unleashes the floodgates of desire... There can be so many juxtapositions and ironies when it comes to physical intimacy too - there might have been genital-to-genital contact and sexual intercourse, which is really intimate but yet, one might not want to kiss that same person at all because kissing might be considered more intimate than intercourse! Emotional Intimacy... I share that with a very select group of close friends and buddies. Emotions can be very raw and murky and at times, tumultuous. Not everyone will want to be a crew aboard your boat when the storms of life tosses your boat about. Not everyone will love you enough and have your best interest at heart to help you navigate the stormy waters and steer away from the whirlpools of life. I feel... therefore I am. And a huge part of emotional intimacy hinges on acceptance - do we dare go out on a limb and risk being rejected by people we like and / or hold in high esteem? I'd say emotional intimacy is never instantaneous unless unique circumstances occur that throw two individuals together and strip away all pretence and protective walls. For instance, in times of disaster / crisis, all who are involved in the situation might be thrown into instant emotional intimacy, totally spontaneous and unplanned and totally dictated by the adverse circumstances. Whilst emotional intimacy is a thing to be desired, we may find ourselves in stages in our lives when we simply wish to avoid emotional intimacy because it is too full-on and we aren't ready to take the deep dive and just want to keep things light, fun and casual for the time being. And finally, Spiritual Intimacy. Soulmates, Kindred Spirits, Twin Flames, "The One" ... whatever you choose to call it, it evokes some form of mythical cosmic soul ties. You look deep into someone's eyes and you sorta "see" their soul, you sorta "get them" and vice versa. It transcends words and it's soul articulating with soul. It's very rare and one has to cultivate one's spiritual awareness first and foremost and most aren't attuned to their soulful aspects. It is very gratifying when you are able to enjoy spiritual intimacy with someone but often, you'll both "know" but one of you may be avoidant or simply be in the wrong time or wrong place in their lives and so it just simply wasn't meant to be. Star-crossed and ill-fated...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Great topic, OP! And a great move to keep it open-ended so liberties can be taken with interpretations and perspectives. As always and great to see you back in full form... your post was an epic read showing both your thoughts and emotions. It may be a ''Brave New World'' (Huxley wrote the book) and think you could have easily added a few chapters! For me in ascending order... physical, mental then emotional, my emotions being the most guarded yet the most enticing of all. That's where love or something like it begin...or end. In the mean time and with due respect to your frequently expressed need for safe sex? Wanna get physical and stay safe? You're not bad..and I'm no goddam good!Be well.......
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jerryc
10 years ago
Intimacy is the sharing and entrusting of your vulnerabilities to that of another. In response to other posts - Intimacy does not follow, lead, or exist within any set of emotional scales, it is neither less or more important than any other human emotion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Quoting 'Qefenta1' The problem with humour is ,unless you know someone intimately the personal dig can can feel like an insult..it's not what is said.it's who is saying it Q Yes and No, Q. I think the risk with verbal humour is how it will be interpreted...inflections of voice and face aren't carried through, and Emoticons are not infallible.That won't stop me taking risks, though.. I interpreted your comment fine thank you. You were clear as mud
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RHP User
10 years ago
don't think that made sense, mud isn't clear hahaha I think your comment was rude and the body of my comment, the one you responded to, had some valids points in there, which are the types of things the op was encouraging, or at least encouraging discussion, which should be encouraged on any forum. Or is that encouraging other people, just not me? I don't appear to be popular in here, I don't really give a shit, at least I keep it real. What are your thoughts on that cruisin?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intimacy, for me, is a wanting to be seen, its connection with my fellow partner, connection with another human being on a deeper level not commonly reached day to day, so I think go Beau Taplin
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RHP User
10 years ago
Intimacy, for me, is a wanting to be seen, its connection with my fellow partner, connection with another human being on a deeper level not commonly reached day to day, so I think go Beau Taplin
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' Quoting 'PurePeony' Great topic, OP! And a great move to keep it open-ended so liberties can be taken with interpretations and perspectives. As always and great to see you back in full form... your post was an epic read showing both your thoughts and emotions. It may be a ''Brave New World'' (Huxley wrote the book) and think you could have easily added a few chapters! For me in ascending order... physical, mental then emotional, my emotions being the most guarded yet the most enticing of all. That's where love or something like it begin...or end. In the mean time and with due respect to your frequently expressed need for safe sex? Wanna get physical and stay safe? You're not bad..and I'm no goddam good!Be well....... I'd say that "Brave New World" has run its course and it's more apt to use "Strange New World" or even, "Conflicting New World" to describe the era we live in. We have become more efficient with automation in all forms... and joblessness will hence increase as more jobs are made redundant. We are able to grow crops that are hardier and less susceptible to blights of nature, and produce poultry, cattle, etc that are stronger and more resistant to diseases ... but our bodies are not able to fully deal with the unnatural GMO's. We distract boisterous and hyperactive children with iPads, mobile phones, the Wii, Playstation, and Cable TV because parents are too tired to deal with the constant noise and energy... and our children grow up becoming experts in communication via social media, apps, etc but they become retarded in face-to-face communication. We have created younger generations of zombies who sit around at the dinner table, uttering nary a peep, totally engrossed with their iPads, mindlessly shovelling food and not tasting anything. We seek love and we dream of being in a loving relationship... and yet we put in strange rules to ensure that we never fall in love with our FB's / FWB's and we indulge in casual, transient, touch-and-go relationships that are ultimately shallow but yet, we feel strangely at ease with this new arrangement and lifestyle because we are too fearful of becoming vulnerable and of being hurt yet again. And so, we push away the very thing that we yearn for and love becomes more and more elusive and complicated and our souls shrivel away from a lack of love. Strange New World, indeed. The famous prose of Charles Dickens in "A Tale of Two Cities" sound the knell on our future : "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, …” I have often wished that I had been born in an earlier era, where moral values were clearly spelt out in black and white, not in various shades of gray. And to risk the ire of the feminists here, I have often wished that gender roles were not blurred. The past should of course, not be viewed with idealism as it was far from perfect, but I remember growing up in an era where granddad spent many an afternoon repairing things around the house, polishing the brass and silver ware, listening to the opera on radio, laughing at my antics and conspiring with my brother and I to hide our mischief-making from our stern grandmother; and grandma busied herself with the housework, laundry, sewing and cooking. Perhaps, it's nostalgia that makes me so fond of winter because it's the perfect weather to remain indoors and enjoy the slowing down of time as one reads / listens to music / sews and mends garments with missing buttons / slow cook soups and other nourishing meals / enjoys cups of hot tea and beverage / gets engrossed in TV series and languish in bed under the warm covers for as long as one can get away with... Life should have been simple and straightforward, but instead, "It's Complicated!".
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, I_touch, you were right the first time... I was as clear as mud 😊. And I probably shouldn't have paraphrased your valid comment...that just muddied the waters. I was actually referring to your earlier comment about having said enough...in jest, of course. That's all... 😥
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RHP User
10 years ago
I got your joke. You were just inviting someone to have a bit of a laugh at the irony of their own comment. It wasn't rude at all. Teaches you can have a bit of a joke at their own expense and who can't.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Life should have been simple and straightforward, but instead, "It's Complicated!". ...yet once we begin to superimpose the complexities of our day to day lives over our relationships with friends, lovers and others we are definitely on a direct crash course with another planet. I find my strength in my intimate relationships and wear it like armour when I step out the door to meet the world. Be well.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Anybody close to bentleigh 👅💦 - Posted from rhpmobile
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