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September 12 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe the guys who you are taking a liking to just want to save time, by meeting you at your place, cutting out the getting to know you bitand getting straight to the sex. You know for the sake of efficiency, time managmentan all that.OrThey aren't really who/what they say they are.Hope your luck changes soon.Cheers Felonious
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh I agree! Not so much asking to meet before sex, but just asking to meet generally. Men seem to have lost the art of taking the lead in these things. Shame, a man in charge makes me swoon.
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RHP User
13 years ago
But some blokes do say that. And yes some blokes seem to go around in circles a bit. So if you exchange a few emails and you like the guy... why don't you suggest a X time and Y place. Meeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' But some blokes do say that. And yes some blokes seem to go around in circles a bit. So if you exchange a few emails and you like the guy... why don't you suggest a X time and Y place. Meeka I hear what your saying but when Im to the point and say please set a time and place that is not now and my house I think that is a pretty strong indication I am willing to meet. I understand they fear rejection like we all do but being pushy enough to think my house is ok for a first invite then they can ask to meet in public what do they have to hide?
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
Perhaps they feel they can jump the line.As a single male who's been on here a while,perhaps they feel that by meeting at your place, you are going to meet.Given the number of posts on here from both sex's re no show's it cuts out the chance of a no meet.And vice versa.Just a thought
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess I'm one of the lucky ones I probably write a novel !! I personally find it quite appauling that people (mainly men) take very little time to A. Read a profile B. Send a message that has little to no substance C. Only interested in meeting for sex without even meeting for a simple coffee - and yes, like all2sweet, I realise the basic fundamentals of this site Come on people, let's get some manners and common decency Rant over !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Most of the guys I have met are quite happy to meet first play later, you are the one in control, if you chat online you can get a true idea of what they are like and you have the choice. I don't need to do this now as I have a regular situation that suits both parties.
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RHP User
13 years ago
All2sweet2 :) Hi! Thanks for the topic.. It maybe the Guys tyou're attracting..I Chat with Guys a few MSGs 1-1 Chat we talk on the Phone the 2nd time we both arrange a Meet time and place which suits us both .. Another thing that makes me Ponder is why do Guys have either a Long List of Interests and activitiies and we rarely get to share them...Great Expectations on My Part I guess. .or they have very little .Atleast I know what their Priority is .... Good luck! with your online Dating Hun Cheers Lu :).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Perhaps because of the nature of this site, some men think that women will have sex with them regardless of whether or not there is any attraction....the male mind is a foreign land to me. There does seem to be an expectation that women will provide the venue ''we will meet at yours'' is a common theme...I recently had a man contact me on another site and immediately he said ''I am married,we will meet at yours but only in school hours ,does that suit''...''what,no 5 star hotel!'' was my response.and then he disappeared. I think many of the men who don't want want to meet for a coffee or drink in public are married or attached.They just aren't honest about it, because it minimises their chances . The ''lets always meet at yours'' attitude is perhaps also an indication that he is just plain lazy and doesn't like washing the sheets and doing the housework....but as I said...the male mind is a foreign land to m,e but I do love to travel.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If modern women are that liberated, why not do the damn leg work yourself? Ask him to meet at X and Y. It's not his job to make you feel justified, and to act all romantic. Seriously, we're all just here to get laid. If a guy doesn't fulfill your requirements, just move on!!! There are way more guys on here than girls, so you're able to pick and choose. Don't bother waiting to get asked out. Do it yourself!
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RHP User
13 years ago
all2sweet 2, WARNING, dickheads approaching"Wouldn't dream of it myself, arrogant and disrespectful, not to mention potentially dangerous.Delete, NEXT !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' If modern women are that liberated, why not do the damn leg work yourself? Ask him to meet at X and Y. It's not his job to make you feel justified, and to act all romantic. Seriously, we're all just here to get laid. If a guy doesn't fulfill your requirements, just move on!!! There are way more guys on here than girls, so you're able to pick and choose. Don't bother waiting to get asked out. Do it yourself! Love you attitude girl ! Damn nailed it !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Don't take it to heart. Some girls will say yes to a meet at their house straight away...Some even do the whole fantasy role play of leaving their door open as they wait in the bedroom for the stranger to come in and take them! That is fine, if they feel safe in doing so or even if they are into that! . Stick to your guns and you will find the nice guys that have no problem with meeting in public first! Maybe change a bit of your profile to wanting to meet for coffee first! Most people don't want to be "stuck" with someone for as long as a dinner date or a night out dancing if there is no connection! At least with a coffee date you have the time to get to know each other and if things go great then progress to the dinner/lunch date or the all night dancing! Good luck xo Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' If modern women are that liberated, why not do the damn leg work yourself? Ask him to meet at X and Y. It's not his job to make you feel justified, and to act all romantic. Seriously, we're all just here to get laid. If a guy doesn't fulfill your requirements, just move on!!! There are way more guys on here than girls, so you're able to pick and choose. Don't bother waiting to get asked out. Do it yourself! If the guy isnt proactive enough for your liking make the suggestion yourself. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not that I have noticed anyway
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks for the suggestions. I think maybe its a location thing. Most males that have contacted me still want to push the your house logic. Its not even and invite to their place.Lord knows who will turn up at your door step!again thanks for the positives and feedback.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Gee I dunno why they want to meet at your place... they don't clean their own place? their sheets smell like old socks? their wife might get suspicious? I always like to meet in a public place but sometimes a woman wants to go for a ride on my bike and its usually easier to pick them up at their place. Good luck mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
because.....in our experince at least...the guys cant commit because even tho they claim they are single and available, invariably thats not the case, and they have to fit you in around girlfriends/boyfriends, wives and children....or housemates and the like....
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RHP User
13 years ago
And here's some more truth... some guys still don't get that woman just want sex. They hide their numbers, use fake names and only want to meet at the womans house because they assume they'll get clingy and want more. Those guys haven't evolved yet and are caught up in their own importance
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'keekee1989' If modern women are that liberated, why not do the damn leg work yourself? Ask him to meet at X and Y. It's not his job to make you feel justified, and to act all romantic. Seriously, we're all just here to get laid. If a guy doesn't fulfill your requirements, just move on!!! There are way more guys on here than girls, so you're able to pick and choose. Don't bother waiting to get asked out. Do it yourself!
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