Body Issues

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Gordon Bennett you're a brave man roughfukr posting this q in a joint profile!! I figure everyone wants to look their best, m or f makes no difference. Also, it's a gimme that people who are feeling sexy definitely make better lovers... so I think it's my job to get my lover into that groove.... and if I succeed tht makes me feel sexy too. Meah... whimsical thoughts... Gaz

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  i've had partners the were defiantly affected by lack of pleasing feeling of self image.. like rough, i thought they were lovely. but i hated having to constantly talk them up, instead of just being natural. then again my fave ex use to have no arse to speak of, i'd tease her about this and she'd give back better then she got. she was certainly not very happy with parts of her body, but there was no way it affected her sexually. it was a case of not perfect but quite at home. as for me. whenever i drop my game in bed it's usually to do with other stresses ( work, eating too much or general life stuff) not my body worries. and my body could do with a little work.. LRE (off to do 20 push ups)

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Great topic and a HUGE thumbs up for putting it out here for people to respond to. In my case, my body image issues fluctuate. There are times when I accept my less than perfect body and feel great in it. These times usually happen when something good is happening in my life, like I got a contract for some work or recorded a new song or did a great performance. Good things happening feeds my positive self esteem which makes me more confident. I walk taller, people notice me and I feel even better. Great upward spiral. Then at other times, especially if I have not had a lover for some time or no work comes my way or I get sick or some other thing happens that shakes my confidence I can go on a downward spiral and can't see anything sexy about myself. I have also known men who aren't confident in their bodies. And some of the most beautiful women I know have body image issues. I believe its all linked to our experiences of growing up and developing into women and men and how influenced we are by current perceptions of beauty. In the Rennaisance period I would have been considered a Goddess. Good on you roughfuckr. Regards Wild

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Its darn hard to NOT have body issues when the majority of men all seem to be looking for "hot" women!!... Hot generally meaning petite skinny arsed gym bunnies.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I definately have body issues that affect who we seek within the RHP world. As i am on the larger side of life i look for a couple that is also the same, i would feel intimidated by someone who is a size 10 for example, i would also feel like i would break them, lol. I go through stages of how i feel, some days are better than others, losing weight again has given me a confidence booster but i find it very hard to accept a compliment from another guy when they say i look sexy, including my husband! at times. I will watch this thread with interest, cuddes

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Lots of women have body issue's but the best way for them to overcome them is for us blokes to tell them how hot they are how sexy they are, how they make us hard. I love my girls body and its no where close to size 10 closer to size 16, i love her bumps and curves and she is just so hot. So come on guys tell your women that they are great, they are hot, they turn you on and yoy will notice a big difference in your sex life eastgippslander

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I find it interesting how a larger person can say they are intimidated by a skinny person, and skinny people don't get offended. But let a skinny person say a larger person intimidates them, and oh boy, do the daggers come out. Proof....just look at previous posts. Wonder who the bigger(sic) person is in this case

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  All I will ask is do we live in a perfect world?? Yet, we more than often have to accept things for what they are, why should body image be any different. I suppose life would be far better if we were Blind and have no feeling in our fingers so our imagination can keep us all in our own perfect little world.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Whats wrong with skinny women!!! im skinny.Im nearly 40,and i dont have body issues with myself, why should i. I watch what i eat, exercise regulary, indulge now and then, (who doesnt) and yes i am hot :). It doesnt always go by the size you are, it can also be the way you present yourself,the way you treat others, your clothes, the way you talk etc. shy shy

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Yes, we are all fussy in what we desire. And each one of us.. desires differently. Some desire Kylie Minogue, Some Desire Kate Winslet, Some Desire Rosanne Barr.. Some desire Fabio, Some desire Johnny Depp, George Clooney, Sean Connery etc etc or they desire that girl/boy that no one noticed. But the most COMMON factor of desire is personality. When that comes into play.. all body issues ...disappears... Grant, as the basic human natural instinct is to go for looks first. We tend to perve some arse. We tend to wolf whistle those that walks past. Even I am guilty of this "looks first" .. we all are. Its part of the attraction. Personality comes later, thus making it the NEXT step of Attraction. Or perhaps, we are so blind to the personality, that we didnt realise it was there before its too late, and most times, its never too late.. oh sorry for me to ramble on. Anyways.. back on track.. i guess it sums it up to "beauty in the eye of the beholder' is why most people get frustrated with. That they are not in the spotlight , and thus concerns with their own body. If only they think: "fuck it, i like my own body. im hapy with my own body, who gives a rats arse what they say..." Mind you, history shows the constant change of Body Desireability. Back in the good ole days of1500 and 1600.. Curvey girls was the IN thing back then.. as apposed to the modern thin girls. Where SEX SELLS seems to rake up the market. In 1500's+, Men find that women with enough meat in them, knows they are a good wife, lover and cook! :P Perhaps we men should think about that... :|

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  If we could see ourselves the way the one who loves us does, and vice versa, i think we woul dhave less concerns - we figure if we can see the faults then somone else who spends so much time with us must be able to too....hence in insecurities, the being over critical...the owrrying we are flawed, not enough, not worthy... and in my experrience i have found this in both sexs... it jsut coems out different ways - some are overly critical of themselves, and same throw it as being overly critical of others... truth is - its the same things really.. jsut be happy with the skin your in!!! becuase there is someone else who is happy with you jsut the way you are....

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  arhhh yer the old bag of worms is open--- your a brave man my self i havent had a relationship of any sort in a long time. as i droped the ball a while ago and put on wait, couldnt give a shit about any thing. wouldnt even get out of bed if i didnt have to. but i dont like the weight ive put on so i dont think that any women would want me either. tho i have just started to restore this classic 1961 model to its former glory and i hope that it will be inpresive to some one hey. in saying that yes we all have problems with body image to some extent. who to blame is it the media with all those lush's ladies in the magazines ect you know what i mean. after all our teenages certainly seam to take it all to heart. oh well enough rambeling one day what i desire will come mal take care ppl treat ppl the way you'd like to be treated.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Is it any wonder that alot of us have body issues when everytime we turn around there is some form of advertising telling us that their product will make us look better????? Everything from diet products to gym equiptment, makeup, clothing the list is pretty much endless. It's all aimed at our insecurities. Just like most females I have body issues, I'm a larger sized lady. The best thing I ever did for my self confidence was getting out there with hubby & going to a few house party's. It has made me realise there are a lot of other people out there just like me. We are all different shapes & sizes & all desirable to different people. Sexy is more than body shape or perfect skin tone. Being sexy is the way you present yourself, the way you interact with people , the X factor that is nothing you can describe but you know it when you find it. Just the 2cents worth from a bigger girl who now has a better attitude & doesn't have a problem with other girls being smaller,,variety is the spice of life.. Wouldn't it be boring if we all had the same??????

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