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Boundaries & Respect

August 13 2023

Before anyone says anything I’m fully aware this is a swingers site. And I’ve been in and out of the scene for 15 yrs. Boundaries and respect is something that’s slowly disappearing from the scene. I mean we treat the people in our life’s this way so why not here ? Also why, and this is for men & woman, do you give up the thrill of the chase when you connection with someone ? It’s sad we treat people the way we would want to be treated. It costs nothing to be, considerate, kind & respectful. Time are definitely changing and I don’t like it.

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MrandMrsEss

2 years ago

Our civilisation has again reached the point where most of us have more than we deserve and with this the demands to satiate greed is spinning out of control. I was listening to a podcast the other day and they mentioned that just before the crumbling of all societies they became obsessed with gender and sexuality. I guess once we have everything our brains need more stimulation. I think swinging is most often an extension of this greed so the results are as you have stated. I have been around the scene for a while too, I can admit to being lost in the hedonism of it all at times but apart from this my main driving force is to connect to people on a simple but deeper level. After all, isn’t it great to strip away everything (including clothes) and just being and feeling in the moment with others. I have not been able to find many that share my outlook so these experiences remain predominantly theoretical!

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OpalRose

2 years ago

I don’t have your experience, I’m only at 14 years 🤣 But 100%. I enjoy the chase, banter and lead up.

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FeistyFatty

2 years ago

I can honestly say I've had the exact opposite to your experience. Sorry you feel this way 😔

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nightingale8

2 years ago

Another variable that goes with time is age… 😅

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EarthQueen

2 years ago

I don't think it changes its just our boundaries get stronger with age and experience. We just get less conditioned to put up with it, we notice it more and ask for more respect. Which is a good thing really. So it's a positive. If they give up it wasn't meant to be. Don't emotionally invest in unknowns. I know it can be disappointing, but it's honestly a waste of time and energy. If its too much just stop doing it. Maybe it's not the scene for you anymore? Find more enjoyable pursuits that won't let you down.

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RHP User

2 years ago

Not sure what your goal is here.. Do you want this behaviour to stop? If so how do you propose that to happen? OK so you can't control how people think and act/respond. There are so many factors here. Eg traumas etc. Just do what you think is right and you will attract the same.

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RHP User

2 years ago

We are sorry to see this post. Yet we also recognise the change. When both of us were single, we used to be able to meet someone and it was a social and amicable occasion. Moving on to sex was a natural next step. We became a couple because we 'clicked' 30 minutes after meeting and were holding hands. Its seems to have become fuck-n-run.

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Alex_Lover

2 years ago

Respect is lacking in the majority of single male communications, along with some couples and single ladies. But we've not noticed boundary incursions, for the 1% who get past the first message or 2. Although we've not been here long (2+ years), our naiveté to the reality of how poorly people treat each other in these online dating spaces was quickly quashed. - Alex.

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Mrs_Deep_Love

2 years ago

People are disrespectful on social media as a whole not just RHP.

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Hungry469

2 years ago

Hedonistic pleasure is what we chase or is it connection and community. This can be a dance fraught with the risk of stubbed toes but also such a delight when you find a partner who is on the same wavelength and the music doesn't need any focus, it just play's

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Mike75

2 years ago

I’ve been in the scene for several years now and the thing I still find appealing is how nice and respectful swingers are.I’m not sure where your going but I’m finding really good people in these circles.

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Langie

2 years ago

Finding the right one. My friend and I have been looking for close to two years. There is no shortage of men wanting to play. The problem is largely an overwhelming shortage of respect, mainly for her but also for our relationship as long term fwb. Demands for photos, suggestions as to what they want to do to her, wanting to meet today as they are passing through town. All red flags for us. We did meet one guy a couple of times. The three if us really hit it off. Unfortunately his circumstances changed. So back to square one. Then recently we broke one of our fundamental rules and met a guy passing through. We chatted for a week beforehand and he ticked all of our boxes. Very respectful. We ended up having a very pleasant evening. Take home story. Plenty of bi men out there. They just need to pick up their game if they are serious about meeting decent couples.

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