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Communication anyone?
January 31 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Although I dont like the term "chasing". I rarely texted my lovers, left them to get in touch with me, as I wasnt looking for anything serious with anyone. Still talk to some of them because apart from one guy, I was never on bad terms with anyone. As far as communication went, I didnt mind getting texts even if we werent catching up because we had become friends. I do know one guy who had to block someone as she kept texting all the time and then became abusive. I think thats the actions of someone who is after more than a FWB situation? Anyway I suppose it is what the 2 of you are comfortable with. Who is to say? I enjoyed chatting to/texting with my FWBs, and my man when we first met. Some people are happier just to get in touch when they want to catch up?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like sharing the 'responsibility' of communication. I do love the texts saying he's thinking of me ... I love the cheeky texts too. In my view there's never too much communication and I'm turned off and tune off with the odd and random message from someone. When I was playing if I didn't hear from a FB or FWB for weeks I would go cold ... I found the 'reconnect' too difficult. Words (sweet, sexy or bold lol) and messages from my sexy men or friends, are my kryptonite 😘💋 Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like it "just right" a little here a little there, not a constant barrage nor waiting 24hrs for a reply, and not just drivel for the sake of it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I find this quite a challenge as everyone is indeed individual and have varying requirements, expectations and desires!!! I find profiles with specific does, donts, turn ons and intellectual matches! Etc etc... Makes all the difference on approach and understandings of how and why you are suitable for further communications!!! I like the old straight to the point what can you do for me! Approach! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A close FWB every few days. More casual lovers could be every few weeks or every now and then. Depends on your relationship.
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VillainNVixen
9 years ago
I love a lot of fun chat with someone that gets you and stimulates you. At the other extreme im happy for the bare minimum, where, when etc with some. In between, stilted conversations, irregularly dont do it for me
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On_Safari
9 years ago
If you're having a txt chat then make it a full conversation. If after a few of these over a week or so (I get everyone's got a life!) then let's have a phone conversation. If I think someone's got potential I'll ask permission to call them. Shortly thereafter I think it's best to meet face to face so we can see if we click. I don't enjoy incessant chatter but I also don't like to feel like I'm wasting both of our time. It's been quite a while since I had a lover/FWB....it's hard even finding someone I think has potential to offer what I'm seeking. Most are Sprinters not Distance runners...out for the immediate gratification and interest only 6in deep (here's hoping!). The lovers I've had were engaging, as Mary has said above about Connectivity. Anything worth having has strings and connection. The rest is just a booty call (which can be fun too if random is what you enjoy) I tried that and it doesn't work for me...I like the people I gift myself to to actually realise it's a gift and give of themselves in return. Just sayin' ~ Indy OS
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RHP User
9 years ago
How much or little communication do you like with your rhp love or lover's? It is directly dependant on how much I like the person. Nightly or once every two to three days is great if I like him a lot. Do you like them chasing you or prefer to chase. Should it be 50/50? I'm a bit traditional - I prefer to be chased. I reciprocate by rewarding the endeavour and the effort. ;) If I have to resort to chasing him, I'll secretly resent it because I'll think that it's a clear indication that he's not that into me and it often marks the beginning of the end. Does too much or too little communication piss you off? Why? Too much - Yes. Too little - Also yes. If I'm not that into the guy and I hear from him everyday or worse, a few times daily, I won't be amused by it. Or, if I've had a rough day at work or I'm having one of those weeks with a punishing schedule and I've made him aware of that and have indicated that I'd like to have some time off to deal with things but it lands on deaf ears, I'll feel that the constant communication would be an encroachment of the solitude that I have requested for. It would make me feel stressful because it would feel like yet another demand being placed on me at a time when I'm already spread thin. Touching base would be ok but not full on stuff. If I think that I might have found an awesome FWB and am looking forward to lots of playtime but then I hardly hear from him, the disappointed, unfulfilled and unquenched libido won't be too happy being left high and dry. The frequency I'm referring to would be sms "grunts" consisting of mainly one sentence replies, evasive and elusive in nature, and never answering your questions or offering any info, and it occurs like once every six to eight weeks. That will royally piss me off. I'd rather be celibate than suffer obvious disinterest. I don't like being tossed crumbs and would rather cut the person loose, no matter how much I like them, and find someone who's more interested and would toss me a lovely slice of cake on a fine china plate instead.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thank you Pure Peony and others for your views. Pure I really think you nailed it on how much contact should be shown, I do understand everyone's situation is different as ChampagneSunset mentioned.😉 No harm in meets if everyone's happy.😈 For me it's a little bit of both, Give them enough space that they miss you, but enough contact to let you know your still thinking of them. Indy I absolutely agree about wanting to hear there voice prior to meeting and even after.Having a conversation over a drink is even more pleasurable. ☕ I actually miss the verbal and physical connection you have catching up on a regular basis. Just a shame we all busy lifestyles. Agree with you 50guy about messages send 2 days later that are luke warm at best. Ones that fail to answer a question you might of asked.? You start to wonder if they're realky into you or just to busy or both. It's a fine line sometimes. 😉 Hotwives Inc. Mmmm talk to me, ❤❤❤ cheeky messages luv em. lol 😉😈😇😂
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry for typos. Mental note don't post at 1am 😴
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Most guys run hot and cold. They seem en pointe until you hint that you are unavailable for immediate gratification and they disappear for a period until the next time they get a sac load. I like consistent communication both in the lead up and afterwards if there is any development of relations. Inconsistencies make me feel like just a hole. Should depend on the level of relationship of course and not the levels of testosterone. Communication will get you laid. Lack of communication will give a slack dick.
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RHP User
9 years ago
with Annie, PurePeony and On_Safari! Each situation is going to be different though, and you're going to have different wants and expectations. So I take it as it comes. But I won't chase either. I like to know the other person is actually interested in communicating with me (and not just in the lead up to "getting lucky", but afterwards as well)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I definitely agree Annie that keeping in contact regardless if your getting action is imperative for any lasting relationship. I'm currently getting over a operation that has stopped any horizontal sword play for the last month or so. I'm always in contact with the person I care for. Unfortunately they can busy with work which limits the amount of dialogue. Spending time away from being able to have sex has only enhanced my friendship with other's. The occasional message saying hello how's your day ? also is appreciated from us male's. If we keep in contact and as i mentioned then get a Luke warm message back, our mind's start to wonder. 😔
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MissRedFox
9 years ago
Then I'm not engaging my body. I don't do the booty call thing - I see through the out of the blue messages close to the weekend. I love to engage in conversation, I love to anticipate and plan our next encounter. I love the tease, the build of up desire, the exploration connection brings. This is the thing - if you're the type who rarely sends messages to women......guess what - another man is likely seducing her in your place. The man who gets my limited time....is the one who has been working for it. And honestly, I'd rather go without than see someone who hasn't bothered to put in some effort. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
9 years ago
Oh hell YES!! What RedFox said. This is what I mean by Sprinters not Marsthon Runners. A man that takes his time lol that doesn't mean "Hey babe I'm in town wanna hook up" or "I have some free time wanna meet". So often it's been said seduction starts in the mind not the loins and the "build up" makes the pleasure of finally being together so much more intense and lustily fulfilling....❤ Miss Fox you nailed it! Thank you
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll let you know when I actually find someone from this site ha ha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me I'm a communicator, I went through a stage in my life a few years ago where I was housebound for about a year. It taught me a lot about staying in touch with people, and staying connected to life outside my 4 walls. Even when I didn't want to come out of my blanket fort 😊 It's a habit now, I communicate on various levels with everyone that means something to me personally, pretty much on a weekly basis. And that has included FWB's, as I do consider them friends. For me, I have a busy life, I make the time to let them know I'm thinking of them or even just shoot the breeze. You pretty quickly get the gist of how much communication is wanted, welcomed or needed, and if it's none....or they pop back up after 6 months of being a ghost.....then meh I can't be fucked to reply lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
I reply only to a reply. No repeat messaging, l guess they'll get back to me when they can or the silence as they moved on. If it moved to text still go with the flow, reply to a reply and no random calls, text first and check if ok to call. Not pushy and don't want to add to the crud here. I don't know how it works that's just how l roll. Best of luck to you op.Cheers
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me it depends on the relationship. I don't like to "keep score" with regards to who's turn is it to text or call, though if it is a mostly a one-way exchange it becomes hollow and there is no conversation. We're all immersed in such busy lives that an sms message here and there brings great joy, and as MissRedFox and On_Safari made mention, heightens desire and builds anticipation. I enjoy knowing my lover is excited to hear from me, and I'm confident the feeling would be mutual.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks all for your awsome feedback. 😎 Definitely appreciate your views & agree with you all. MissRedFox certainly sumed it up perfectly about someone else woeing you if your not in constant contact.. I stay in contact daily or 2 max with the one's I'm seeing or any friend who sends me a txt or Kik. Even if it's sometimes just- Hi have a awsome day, I have also sent a message out like 1Adam44 mentioned & never got a reply.Should a guy or girl think your not Intrested if they don't get a reply.?? On Safari 😉 LOVE pre arranging a meet up with close friend's through the week even if it's a cheeky photo down the beach or something that makes them laugh. With constant communication both of you can explore each other's desires and fantasies. 😉😈 Agree with you Ruby Red 6 months is to long. 😔 Ash2n 100% agree if communication is not recpricated and one way it's almost fatal. Doesn't have to be every day but for me it's the content and effort someone puts into there message. Also agree if my mind isn't stimulated with cheeky,witty banter mixed with erotica I'm out of there.Lol oh & some cheeky naughty pic's that stay private. 😉😈
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Is paramount to me! Too little communication means troubles, disrespect, high risk and danger, in my experiences! Too little communication does make me frustrated because, I don't know what the other party is thinking and what he sees me as! Would be my nightmare if a man saw me as a hole of convenience! Usually, I like to put everything on the table for discussion right from the beginning. But there had been times when I didn't do that and problems just occurred like hell break loose! In fact, I encountered a really bad run in with a guy from here last August and honestly, he would be squashed to pieces if I didn't care about law! Therefore, I learned my lesson and will never ignore communication ever again! I wouldn't chase nor like being chased. I much prefer mutual attraction and connection. I had done the chasing before, it was tiring and I was taken for granted, simply because I did the chasing! Equally, I don't like being chased either. Met a guy from here late last year, things weren't as good as I expected upon meeting in person. So I didn't enjoy the time meeting him and have been given him so many hints about not wanting to see him again since then, but he just doesn't get it and still chases me to date! Hopefully he will see this post and stops! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Am sorry to have to read your bad experience Sweetgem. Laying down guidelines and communicating what you both are looking for early in the piece is essential. Being totally honest with your partner to be is a must. Some people unfortunately are a few bricks short of a full load and only have there own agenda in mind. Be as suttle as a sledgehammer and if he doesn't get it after your last post hit him with one.lol 😉 If only we could do that. Just be blunt with him and say fuck off.!! Blocking his number or profile might do the trick.? Don't give up Sweetgem, There are still is honest respectful males out there who aren't shallow who have good intentions. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
What we have here is a failure to communicate; Tell him to take the hint and fuck off !
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RHP User
9 years ago
I wouldn't go so far as to tell him to fuck off (50z:-P) but a straight out no would probably do it. I can imagine him hoping for a year and not wanting to recognise 'hints'. Put him out of his misery, eh... Learning to say no was one of the hardest things about RHP for me but a valuable experience. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
If a guy is still chasing you a year later and you have never been interested in taking it further than the communication issue probably lies with you. Fancy hoping someone will read a forum and get a clue. Where is the respect shown to this guy? Be honest with that person and tell them straight. If he still chase you then block their number as you have a stalker line situation on ur hands.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A bit on a conundrum there, if you're a good communicator and cherish words and being straight up, a lady should be able to tell some pest, to Fuck Off so nicely, they look forward to The Journey! Otherwise, maybe, the attention is not as unwelcomed as you protest it is? That's where some guys, get confused. MD4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm just assuming the guy is being stubborn/a pest and he needs to be told. If on the other hand Sweetgem is being too cryptic then she needs to harden up and be "firm but fair" and leave no doubt his attention is unwanted.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know much, there's not really enough to go on. But I see the word hint and figure it's not a guessing game you know. Good posts above, all good points... Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
some people don t love you they don t even care about you they just want to stay connected to you they love the benefits ...a little phone call here and there just checking in thinking about you etc... what they really doing is maintaining, a connection so when they need you, they still have a way in,,,,,,
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Never judge anything, or anyone, if you don't know the story 🙃 you talked about me not showing respect to the said guy without knowing what I have told him 🤣🤣 I don't know, some men probably really need a woman to tell him to fuck off? 🤔 all I know is I did tell the guy that I have found love and so I was not interested to connect with anyone on intimate level anymore. Isn't that a clear enough message to say "I have a boyfriend, so I'm no longer available nor interested"??? 🙄 Perhaps the communication issue really lies with me......as you stated in your words 🙃......because I didn't go harsh and mean to the said guy and tell him to fuck off?! 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Thanks guys for your suggestions given above. I did cut all contacts with the said man outside RHP since last December. Just didn't think of blocking him in here sooner and that's where he tried to track me again. Sorry Mr cheekyass71 for sort of going off your topic, as I didn't expect my first response to your OP would have attracted some comments to go off track 😜 I mentioned the said guy in my first comment simply to use the incident as an example of how I dislike being chased, that's all! 🙃 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nothing wrong with what you did or said, Extremely sweet that you told him and were direct. Unfortunately some guy's just can't understand. Never easy being let down but some guys just need to be told to move on. No need to apologize for comments being off topic by anyone.😎 Considering this topic is about communication it's extremely refreshing to understand how everyone can have there own view without knowing the full story. (Including myself) Can only hope he reads this and let's you go. To truly love someone is to see them happy regardless if it's with you or someone else.
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RHP User
9 years ago
That may be the case for some here if not most, Are we all just looking for companionship or more ? Would most lady's on this site want or commit to a relationship ? Intrested to here your opinion on that 😉😎 Would guy's? Am sure everyone is looking for diffrent thing's from the pie, but I can only say this personally. The one's I communicate with and give my time too are my friends & lover's. People that I'm Intrested in not just for sex but have geniune feelings for. Coffee or wine out somewhere sometimes listening to what's going on in someone's life isn't important? I have friend's from the pie that I've known for year's that i don't play with but continue contact.. They checked in on me when in hospital recently. Are they not worthy of my friendship.? I've meet new friends here from the pie that i talk to regularly that i haven't slept with nor care if I do as i like them as a person. Are they not worthy of my time ? Yes if i like them and have a connection. Forming relationships regardless if it's about sex is only possible if we communicate through regular dialogue be it txt,kik or phone call. Laying your card's on the table with honesty and intregatity with what we're searching for early is imperative for anything to grow or survive. Love comes in many formats. Be Intrested hearing people's thoughts?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
In terms of messaging people, meeting and then engaging in casual/FWB relationships... It's only happened Twice for me in 6 and a half years on this site (granted I've been offline and in relationships for 3 of those years). Indirectly though... It's a completely different story. I had more benefits from one of those FWB's when the sex stopped and the friendship increased via being introduced to people she knew (which led to one of the aforementioned relationships) and having her as a wingman at clubs... the honeypot became an entrepot. As a tool for social interaction and communication I've found this site to be an excellent way of meeting like minded people, used in conjunction with parties, swingers clubs and other social sites. To answer your questions though OP...I'm seeking a friendship with benefits, one of mutual respect and consideration... finding someone that I enjoy hanging out with and communicating with on an intellectual and social level... the fact that we can have awesome sexy times together is just one of the benefits of knowing that person... and if for one of us the spark wasn't there sexually, I'd hope that the friendship could still continue as I'd already know that I enjoy their company. I'd hope it was reciprocated and therefore I'm looking for a 50/50 split in communication. Cheers to meeting peers Rusty
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RHP User
9 years ago
Are we all just looking for companionship or more? More. What happened to the sex? Would most ladies on this site want or commit to a relationship? I want a committed relationship but I recognise that the playing field has changed. Established "social patterns" are being challenged and destroyed. We live in a brave new world these days where relationships are often short-lived and some people have become too smart to become chained in a codependant situation and they can walk away with more ease than in previous decades. There are now choices galore, little to no social stigma's for however much we deviate from "the norm", "the norm" no longer exists as a foundation that everyone subscribes to, and it has generally become a free-for-all with no rules to abide to. There's a growing demographic of single (often divorced) men in their 40's and 50's, my targeted age group , who are running scared of "real" committed relationships and shunning it altogether. Maybe they've had nasty encounters? Maybe they've not fully reconciled with the hurt, pain, disappointments of a broken marriage? Maybe they've had horrible women use and abuse them? Maybe they find it all too stressful at work and it's too hard to return home to find that they have to make the wife and kids happy now, no end and no rest in sight? Maybe they love their freedom and having unshackled their chains, they aren't about to be chained again? It's sad but lots of men associate masculinity and macho-ness with not divulging feelings nor talking about emotions and so the wound festers and robs them of opportunities of future happiness and joy with someone else who might be a better match for them. They do things that show that they have "moved on", but the heart is broken, needs fixing and cannot "move on". And so, they and the women they choose to dance with end up in a sort of limbo - it's a relationship that's not really a relationship and once the women start seeking clarification, show their love for them, etc they do a runner and *poof! down the rabbit hole they go. It's a sad situation too many women are too familiar with, unfortunately. I have encountered it so many times that even though I do want a committed relationship deep in my heart, I'm not sure that I'll be able to meet someone who share the same goals anymore. And so, I find myself "evolving" and experimenting and embracing new thought patterns and experiences and accept a new lifestyle not that I want to but more so to meet my innate needs and for survival. Brave new rules, brave new face and persona for a brave new world. Besides, with Tinder and similar apps giving men the opportunity to seek casual sex with a different woman everyday of the week if a guy so desires, why would a guy who already leads a busy and stress-filled professional life want to put up with a partner who may be demanding, naggy, inconsiderate, selfish, stress him even further with high expectations, etc? Maybe, just maybe, the price of "sexual liberation" is a shift in the way men view relationships in general? In economic terms, if the supply is overwhelming and just a swipe and a click away, why should anyone bother to put in the extra effort at courtship, dating, running a household together, bending over backwards to make the wife / gf / partner happy, etc? I'm a traditional lady at heart - I love my men to be masculine and I love it when I am free to relax and play the feminine role in a relationship. I actually love the traditional gender roles although I recognise that sometimes, a female may be more androgenous and testosterone-fuelled and the male more effeminate and in those cases, it makes sense to reverse the roles. (I have met men who have made me feel that I have more balls and wherewithall than they have! :P ) So I am not entirely submissive nor subservient, hell no!!! Prove to me that they are of stronger mettle first, tame this shrew through sheer strength of character and superior intelligence first. And also, gain my trust so that I am assured that I am not being made used of and manipulated. Then, and only then, will I heave a sigh of relief and remove my armour and let him remove my delicate lingerie underneath. That's the new essential modification to my conditional embrace of traditional roles. I'm a modern strong and independant woman with fire in her belly and a courageous heart in her bosom so don't expect me to submit to a man who isn't my equal or more. When it comes to selecting a partner, a wise woman suffers no fools and can see through acts of deceit. Unfortunately, given the great no. of cads around these days who will use and abuse, women have to protect ourselves and have a good head screwed on right... and a pussy that remains tight. (Sorry... my mind is never quite far away from lustful thoughts and hey, it all rhymes! LOL!!!) I'm also listening to the shocking stories I've heard from other women about how they've been treated and how over-rated relationships are. All my married / divorced / coupled up friends and colleagues and clients are telling me to enjoy my singlehood and so, I am taking their collective advice and enjoying life as a bachelorette. The grass is always greener on the other side... but I'm fertilising my turf, patching up the bald bits with indestructible astro turf, and jazzing it up with landscaping so that MY grass is now greener. My life won't be at a standstill whilst waiting to see if I might bump into my Mr McDreamy so excuse me whilst I drag my deck chair out and enjoy a cocktail in my lush, green lawn! PS. Sorry for the verbosity. I'm a natural-born dreamer-writer and I ain't gifted in brevity... unless I'm in a super bitch mood in which case, my deadly silence can choke, asphyxiate, and kill.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Most guys run hot and cold. They seem en pointe until you hint that you are unavailable for immediate gratification and they disappear for a period until the next time they get a sac load. I like consistent communication both in the lead up and afterwards if there is any development of relations. Inconsistencies make me feel like just a hole. Should depend on the level of relationship of course and not the levels of testosterone. Communication will get you laid. Lack of communication will give a slack dick. Annie, that is such a classic! I'm still luvin' that post! With such poor / no communication, little wonder why some people at the receiving end of that end up going ballistic / "dramatic". Some guys criticise the effect, but forget that they are the cause of all that! Cause and Effect... plain and simple!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Am i looking for a relationship? I'll answer that one later. What an amazing and thoughtful response. One that I certainly indulged in reading. I Can relate to Men in there 40s or 50s being burnt by past relationship and have similar thoughts on singlism if there is such a word. But fuck it I'll just make that one up.lol 😉 Pure you nailed it when you described being with the right partner who is there to listen not nag. To be there for you when your down but never abused or taken advantage of. That is not what a true friend/lover does. I think as we're younger we fall for the facade that we must all be in a relationship with someone ,2 dogs, 2 kids and white picket fence and grass out the front. (prefer natural grass.) You might get a laugh from my second book I'm writing Pure. Calling it 101 to keep a partner for us mere males. Pure my answer to wanting a relationship is best described from a quote from the book. #1 Never settle for second best. 😉 That is all I'm giving away until i finish it.😂😂😂 Up to # 80. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Most guys run hot and cold. They seem en pointe until you hint that you are unavailable for immediate gratification and they disappear for a period until the next time they get a sac load. I like consistent communication both in the lead up and afterwards if there is any development of relations. Inconsistencies make me feel like just a hole. Should depend on the level of relationship of course and not the levels of testosterone. Communication will get you laid. Lack of communication will give a slack dick. Annie, that is such a classic! I'm still luvin' that post! With such poor / no communication, little wonder why some people at the receiving end of that end up going ballistic / "dramatic". Some guys criticise the effect, but forget that they are the cause of all that! Cause and Effect... plain and simple! I am a communicator - just look at my profile!! Men generally are not - look at most of theirs!! I want/need a connection. Connection needs communication. Not constant and incessant - just comfortable with hints of the risqué. While I understand we all have lives outside RHP, I find it disconcerting when I get a lot of communication leading up to a first coffee meet with a play date a little after.... then nothing for weeks. Then a message saying 'Hi - want to catch up?' Why the difference before and after? Definitely makes me feel used or suspicious - as in they are married/attached. If no message after then yep - I definitely feel used! I also get a little peeved if a guy leaves me hanging. Communicate! I'm a big girl. I'm not keen on being left hanging after the fact. I would rather a guy tells me he wasn't feeling it. Oh and I hate it when they try and keep their options open for when they get to the point of exploding - and have run out of other options. I have one long term FWB and we chat/message most days as we are true friends now. We don't see each other very often but when we do, it's hot and heavy. A couple of others who are now friends (no longer with benefits) keep in touch fairly regularly as well. I'm hoping a new guy is as he seems to be as he is a great communicator and fun to be around. I don't need to be in contact every day. I just think that a little regular communication goes a long way to prevent the 'effect' guys would prefer not to experience.
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RHP User
9 years ago
True goes both ways and I've also been on the end of someome not communicating and leaving me waiting around all day. Needless to say they are now longer - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
everything you said KillerHeelz!"Why the difference before and after?" - before they have to work for it, after sex you're no longer a challenge...on to the next unsuspecting victim..I mean woman ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' everything you said KillerHeelz!"Why the difference before and after?" - before they have to work for it, after sex you're no longer a challenge...on to the next unsuspecting victim..I mean woman ;) ...... of being part of the 'notch on the bedpost' challenge. If only they realised that a challenge can happen again and again - if they only had the imagination and the communication skills. Men are hunters and most are very goal oriented. Doesn't get them laid all they like nor does it get them all of the 'experiences' in which they may wish to indulge.... lack of communication leads to lack of trust leads to lack of desire to indulge in more fantasy 'experiences'.... oh well their loss and the gain of those guys that put in the effort to communicate
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RHP User
9 years ago
I certainly dont mind a bit of chit chat if you really connect with someone. I also generally don't chase either. I have a great respect for others privacy and would hate to be accused of stalking. But if it's a regular thing I dont mind wishing someone, a great week or day depending on replies. I also dont like, if you haven't heard from someone for weeks, and all of a sudden they pop up out of the blue, makes you feel like a last resort not cool. Stops me cold. The other thing is going on about former others and naming names. Not only is it rude and disrespectful makes you wonder what they will say about you. So I stay well clear. Happy days 😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am just sooooo bashful that I get lost for words when trying to type or text with a woman...and even worse if I have to talk to them on the phone! I sometimes even end up speaking in a foreign language just so they aren't quite sure what I'm actually saying! I'm okay in person and more so if we're nekkers! Seriously...or not!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Chasing and being chased can be wonderful and frustrating but ultimately the build up will be more than worthwhile. I am no sapiophile (or maybe I am) but damn the mind turns me on. I also like communication at times during sexual encounters and I love a woman who lets you know what she needs if you aren't quite finding THAT spot. I don't care how much of a great lover one thinks they are as you have never been the person you are playing with
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RHP User
9 years ago
Want to get advice from the pro's here..... I'm currently taking to a girl who I fancy as a FWB, we've been messaging on Kik for the last week or so The challenge is she keeps replying with one-liners, or a smiley face etc, she doesn't offer any real conversation back. I'm getting really frustrated an am considering just cutting it off, but I'm confused too.... what the hell does she want? Does she want me to chase her somehow? I've suggested progressing to a phone call and she ignored it. I feel stupid just sending messages and getting one-word responses so not sure what 'chasing her' would even look like What would you do? - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
I would go quiet. If she is interested, she will contact you. Start reversing the situation, she may like the being chased and she may give that away if she is interested in you but looks like you are drifting away. Play the same game as her.
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Use those brain cells. Are you always initiating the contact...which then results in the written equivalent of monosyllabic replies and emoti-thingys, sent with lengthy delays.... There's two options - She's just not that into you You are contacting her at an inconvenient time...like at work lol...and she doesn't have the time to chat. Ohhhhh.....one more option which would explain ignoring the offer of a phone call......the deep voice you hear on the other end of the phone may give the game away....that its a male pic collector 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's a fake, just cut your losses and delete.
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RHP User
9 years ago
What Annie said. If it were a shorter period of time, I'd say it can sometimes be hard to make the shift from quick chat, to getting down to specifics, and both might be waiting for the other to start that. But after that period of time, I'd probably ask straight out, or lose interest and go quiet. If she's a guest, I'd probably ask because if you go quiet and she does want to take it further, she can only reply to your messages 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally I enjoy chatting. Messages are great. Especially when you wake up and see "Good morning sexy" (not on a daily basis though, that would be to much) from a FWB. I take interest in my FWB and unfortunately I feel like that scares guys away. Messages also give me an idea of what a guy is like, what he is looking for 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
@Annie and @Meander and @MsJonesey - thanks for your advice, makes total sense. As you can probably see it's sometimes hard for a guy to know when "chasing" is the best thing to do and when "just leave it" is best. I'll follow your advice and just go quiet for a few days, if she initiates contact great, if not then I'll cut it off
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RHP User
9 years ago
This will be of no help to you whatsoever, but I think the girl in question needs to have her eyes checked. If it was me you were contacting, I'd give up my current 'no meeting' status in a red hot hurry :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Does she read the forum's ? She might be onto your game champ. lmao 😉😉😉 Definitely agree cut her loose. If someone wants to be with you ? They will. !! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
People that make time to communicate and connect is a turn on for us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My policy if I find someone's profile interesting has been to msg them and wait for a reply,most times the reply never comes.i feel a little weird sending a repeat msg to someone I don't know yet and has not replied to my initial msg,sort of feels like stalking I suppose. A common thread seems to be 'this ones just a booty call 'towards someone attempting to establish contact for the first time.i think there is a danger that that can lead to genuine people being discarded along with the players,the players will persist with their bs and the genuine ones will lose heart and drop away. There can be very few as lonely as someone trying to communicate with those who are not listening. - Posted from rhpmobile
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