Compromise

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I dunno if it's the Mr or the Mrs posting. Is it sexist to suppose it is the female then? :-) An interesting perspective but please correct me if I'm wrong. Personally, I believe selfish is the way to begin. Before everyone gets together. I know I compromised decades ago before I joined RHP or met hubby and it has left a nasty taste that lasted since then. But you seem to be putting a lot of pressure on yourself and dissatisfaction with self is going to cause frustration. I really cant say more without anything specific in your post to base my answer on.

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  Sorry it’s the Mrs posting :) things like: - playing seperately - ppl being pretty rigid about sex - not really getting what you want out of the session. expecting something they won’t do for the other. Using protection and pushing the girl not to (that’s a hard no) and being careless with that. I’ve had a run of bad luck lately but wondering if I’m more picky it will stop me being disappointed and tbh hurt by some ppl. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  EarthQueen

  7 years ago

  You say it hasn’t been a big deal but in my experience it becomes one. It’s not selfish to say what you are comfortable with. You don’t exist to please everyone else and bend to fit. Like you say it ends up being a turn off. Just think about what you really want and then communicate ....and then communicate some more. (Before you get put into situations that you aren’t really into). Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  sexslaves

  7 years ago

  It's ok to comprise but also when meeting and playing you got to tell people what you want and exspect and also you limits and also things you want to try if the situation feels right - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  And say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being selfish, as long as it does not become your default setting. Your post implies that you are constantly having to compromise to ensure others are happy, this does become degrading after a while (pretty much my whole life until recently was this). We all have to compromise every day with everyone, but if you are the only one in your relationship doing so then there is nothing wrong with putting your foot down every now and then. A good old-fashioned tantie never goes astray. This is all predicated of course on the assumption that it is the female half posting this question. If it's the male, stop being so bloody selfish. It's not always about you.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Whether you're Male or female, it's not good to feel thot way. If you're taking one for the team, don't do it. It never ends well. Tell your partner your wants and needs. Sometimes it means everyone misses out on some fun, but it's not worth ruining your relationship or degrading yourself. If your partner or playmates truely cares about you, theyll understand. If not, maybe it's time to rethink that relationship? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Details? Everything in life involves degrees of compromise, but It’s hard to discuss your topic without some context Because as it stands it reads like it’s not only compromise..... but repetitive railroading 🤔

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  DynamicCouple36

  7 years ago

  often result in regrets. We prefer to be upfront about what we like & dislike. We make it clear that we do not like to compromise. Selfish perhaps, but it’s better than feeling violated and or having regrets. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  You know the kind where your eyes roll into the back of your head. It’s pretty hard to balance needing the sex and respecting yourself, your marriage and all parties. Eg... ppl wanting sex at a moments notice, when you have kids at home. I hope to be a MILF for someone but it doesn’t mean I’m not a Mum first. Ppl can be so demanding. So.. the new part of this journey is knowing what I want and realising it’s never just one thing you compromise on is it? I’ve had some really respectful and consequently hot encounters. Ready for more of that I think now. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  curiousnhorny05

  7 years ago

  Has always been a great partner in all of this. He never asks me to compromise. We seem to want the same things which is great - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It’s not about compromising it’s mutual pleasures within the limits and boundaries which we all have maybe - Posted from rhpmobile

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  countrytouch82

  7 years ago

  NO. I'm NOT compromising on my share of the ice cream :)

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I’m a people pleaser and a giver. I have compromised my own comfort and boundaries in order to build trust or pleasure my partner. “Let me experience a FMF with you, then we’ll have an MFM for you.” That old chestnut 🌰 Then after they’ve had their fantasy completed, now they’re feeling jealous and just can’t bring themselves to share you 😣 Dumb dumb. Not anymore! Compromise is a negotiation and a two way street. Not a tool for deception and greed. - Posted from rhpmobile

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