M39
Confidence killer
November 07 2015
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
I looked at your profile and as with quite a few men saying the same thing as you but in a different way. Anyway a profile pic and more details about yourself would help. I would say curiosity got her but maybe you where hiding something in your ASK ME.....Me personally I don't answer flirts or messages if a profile is like that. And if you only sent her a cock shot...please geez...grow up. Could be a lot of reasons like your attitude
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Perhaps you were just not quite what she was looking for? People are allowed to change their minds are they not? They still do have personal choices & preferences. Clearly, judging by your angry outburst, you don't like being turned down and or not getting your way ? Perhaps she sensed that ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
How do you know it was even woman you exchanged messages with?..we all have our personal preferences,and you should not feel entitled to anything,and there is nothing more unattractive than a man who is verbally abusive..calling a woman a c...is entirely unacceptable,she had a lucky escape.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Until you called her a cunt. Aaaaand I'm out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"an average looking women on here feel they have the power of rejection just because they get flooded with messages everyday?" Any woman here has the right to reject anybody for any reason at any time. Your whining and abuse gives the rest of us a bad name so please stop talking!
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
If that is your response after a rejection, I suggest this is not the place for you.This place will either develop or destroy your soul.Use the rejections to grow yourself. Become stronger and respect the women.When your character has developed to take things in your stride your demeanor will entice the women to look past what they see within the photo.It's not looks so much, the message will win or lose it. And going by what you wrote in your OP...........your're stuffed
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RHP User
10 years ago
Added to evidence bag. I am sure it will come in handy for the next thread that will pop up about; why don't women reply to messages?!?!?!? If "sorry not what I'm looking for" is an unacceptable way to let you know she didn't want to proceed, what is?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe she, and every other person on here, regardless of their genitalia, has "the power of rejection" because she is a person with her own rights, interests and desires, and doesn't have to say yes to you just because the poor little postman got his feelings hurt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You feel you have a sense of entitlement because you are fit and you work out! From another post you made that you have no trouble outside of rhp. Calling people cunts because they were not what you were after, pretty childish really. From what you say would you give everyone a chance who messaged you? - Posted from rhpmobile
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horneycouplewa
10 years ago
We have been rejected and done so ourselves even with the "your not what I'm looking for" and guess what, it was perfectly fine as we look forward to meeting people where we all feel comfortable. Sometimes this site can seem like a lot of work but you learn as you go. It has more ups than downs with everything else it has too offer too.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
on my bell. I ahve closed shop on you. Just angry post and a huge sense of entitlement. So I hear you are frustrated but really is no way to handle rejection. We all get rejected one way or another. some by words of 'No Thanks' and some people do not show up to meets 'which is outrageous. At least she had the decency to tell you upfront what she thinks? So when you go out in the real world, in the pub, when I girl does nto reciprocate you advances, do you call her a Cunt? You do have a way with words and I can see the women queuing up to you now. What a good role model you would be to your daughter, if you have one in the future. So you work out in the gym, do you suffer from brain damage as a result of dropping the weights on your head ? I am glad you love yourself. as per your quote "fuck me lucky I love meself'. So now, go away and love yourself more.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Mr Postman has lost all confidence now. Or he's delivered all the mail and gone home......
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aussian43
10 years ago
It is rare enough on here to actually catch a ladies interest enough to get a response, let alone an actual rejection! ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can't have been all bad, seeing he had a validation from a respected forumite, but what bad form. That's the third guy who's committed forum suicide this weekend, is it lemming season or something?
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RHP User
10 years ago
are you angry that you got turned down, or in the _way_ she turned you down? I'm sure almost everyone here has done the chat thing, and it's all going well.. then comes the dreaded "Private gallery" moment and they're going to see whichever bits were kept hidden till now - and you hit send and cold sweat "what is the response going to be". And I'm sure people have been on the opposite end, where someone sends you their pics after a great chat and you do the "yeurgh" face and you go limp as a wet noodle/dry as sandpaper... but they seem like such an absolute sweetheart so you don't want to just say "erm no thanks" straight away cause then its obvious what flipped the switch and thats a bit soul crushing to some. But My Postman, lesson for next time, consider how you deliver a message. Your whinge, versus a thread on "better ways to let someone down" or the like.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mate I have had the replies "your not my type" and I see no problem with that as a man there are many differents TYPES of men. The best think to do in that situation is be greatful you got a reply, show some respect and reply back with "thank you for taking the time to reply and best wishes" Bad form mate, not every woman is going to drop at your feet. Leave the ego at the gym, stop loving yourself and direct the love energy to your fellow humans. Respect will always win the day :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
With these sorts of posts if the OP was entirely sober xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think he's just drunk a bottle of Ego and a couple of shots of self love haha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Better to describe yourself as a fit guy who looks after their health... and leave it at that. I think most women put their guard up once you start talking gym etc.. Besides ' leaving something as a surprise is a trump at any time. Calling her a cunt didn't help . As much as we think these things at times , blurting it out won't win over too many fans ..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Just this week I was in your circumstance and got knocked back after sending pics. Probably because I've got a head like a gangrenous foot. But you know what? Everyone has their preferences, and no amount of moaning will change it! Oh and btw - 'Ive boxed for 4 years'..... I've done it for 15, and one thing you should have learned by now is there's ALWAYS someone younger, quicker and punches harder than you...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' Probably because I've got a head like a gangrenous foot. geez, all this time I thought you'd just blurred out the picture ;-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
It scares the horses.... :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive met this young man for a few drinks and he was respectful, great company and just a nice guy. I guess he has suffered the same frustrations as many other single guys, and that has come through in his post. Another young guy Ive been chatting to put a similar post up not long ago...again, a really nice guy but he is now talking of closing down his profile. I have said this before, and Ill say it again. Its easy to let all the attention get to you on here. I had 5 and a half thousand views on my profile last month. I guess some women would have had a lot more, but considering most guys get about ten a month, I can see why they eventually give up. I like to give people a chance, so sometimes Ill meet someone who isnt in my age range or preferred criteria if I find him interesting? And a couple of times it has paid off and I have made new friends. I go out with my girlfriends, I go shopping, I go walking......... I dont have guys following me around or lining up to ask me out.......RHP is not the real world. Yes, its nice to get the attention, but its cyber attention. I do have some sympathy for the guys on dating sites, there are some genuine ones who want to connect and see women, but the one or two who are only in it for random fucks can spoil it for all of them. If you are reading this Mr P, go and try your luck outwith RHP, as your real personality will be apparent xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Beautiful words great you have stuck up for him sometimes people need to vent as sometimes in the real world they can't tell there vanilla friends about the going ons on pie , I have a habit of not replying to messages as it gets to overwhelming ... When I check woman on line or with pics there's not many so maybe they just give up or on another site or over guys wanting a random 20 min meet to fuck and run , but the 1 message out of 200 could be very appealing so for the nice guys out there don't give up Sally
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'I have said this before, and Ill say it again. Its easy to let all the attention get to you on here. Should we take the OP's word for it and assume the woman in question turned him down because all those messages had gone to her head? We only have his version of events and she could have decided no for a myriad of reasons, none having to do anything with ego. If you are here, Mystery Miss, I'd love to hear your side of the story.
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RHP User
10 years ago
tough crowd. Game over.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We have the right to turn down people who dont appeal to us or dont fit our criteria, I think I was trying to say that sometimes its a good thing to take a chance on someone, and not go by looks alone? Ive heard women complaining that they get messages from "ugly" blokes, and you know what, some of these "ugly" blokes might be the kindest ands sexiest guys? But its just my opinion? And because Ive met the OP, who seems to have deleted his profile, as far as Im concerned, he was a really nice bloke, we had a chat filled evening with a few drinks and there was no sign of the bitterness shown in his post. Ive seen women in the chat room talking to someone and ask to see his cam and then go " Oh, def not!" or " Just seen you and no thanks" I think its rude and can see why some guys get the hump, so to speak
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Say in a bar, you get approached. You instantly see what they look like and form an opinion whether to talk to them or dismiss them. Or let them buy you drinks all night and then say no. Physical attraction is always part of the equation. The woman the OP is talking about didnt feel it and she told him. Cant see the problem. But back at the bar, the not so handsome guy seems to have the gift of the gab. He's talked his way in and will be leaving with the hottie. Punching above his weight. Happens at the bar, happens in here. No difference. Physical is half, personality the other. Got eiher you are a chance. Got both, you will be busy...... Sorry, i think im rambling. .....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Going for someone outside my age group AND I actually didn't see much in his pics lol But look where it got me 3 years later.......in deep trouble 😝 Love ya babe ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Maybe she had a problem with your spelling, punctuation and grammar, or lack of. You never know, she might just be a grammar nazi 🙈🙉🙊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
At least she was polite and explained you aren't what she's looking for. Can't really blame her if she's not attracted to your physique, you're just not to everybody's tastes. It's not a problem with you or her, it is what it is. Be gracious and thank her for her honesty, don't call her horrible names because you didn't tick the box. She said your profile interested her, so it sounds to me like she was trying to be nice.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have had a few thanks but no thanks and the reality is its a Shark Tank on here the girls can tear you to threads if you let them, the glass ceiling is for us guys. Not whinging you must know this when you log on. I actually accept the early "not my type" or "your not what I'm looking" Asia good sign that it's not going to work out. Pointless getting too shitty (and yes done the dummy spit myself also) but as one of the three ladies said to me early in my journey, "sometimes a no is to see if he actually has considered if he was me or just a fuck". It was like a sledge hammer to my forehead, how stupid was I its a adult sexual matching site no the cattle yards back home you can't just through numbers at these ladies and expect them to move into the pens for insemination, it's Back to the Future time where you actually have to know what you want and stand by these desires and needs. Any mindless meathead and pound away all night but the real ladies and the ones worth meeting actually expect you to know yourself and what your looking for. If you can't articulate that then yes your just chum in the water. So chin up MrPostman get on your bike and deliver a better service if you want to find someone(s) the reality is as The Weather Girls sang "it's raining men" so get out and get wet block. Life's a bitch then you join RHP, lol
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BrightBubbly
10 years ago
I had a guy send me a message on here, his profile was blah and his pic wasn't much better, so I didn't reply. I met him at the Meet and Greet a few weeks ago and he really is a genuine, nice guy. He remembered me and said he had messaged me. I got out the phone, did a search and found his message. I did feel bad that I had brushed him off but sometimes it's hard too. We don't get a lot to go on either and when you get multiple messages and flirts then you have to try and filter through them all. Sometimes we get it wrong too !!! I like a guy that likes to chat, if they message with a straight up "wanna hook up" I never bother but if they ask how i am going, what have I been up to, etc.. then it is a lot harder to snub them off !!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Looks like Admin had an issue for me nominating this weeks "Douche of the Week"
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RHP User
10 years ago
When shit happens... just move on... there is always another day, an other place and another person. Life is short... too short to get angry over stuff you cannot control.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Looks like Admin had an issue for me nominating this weeks "Douche of the Week" Feel better now ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Did I miss your week?
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Looks like Admin had an issue for me nominating this weeks "Douche of the Week" Yesm We had a few people going off the rails with their very angry rants on the forum this week. Just punching blind... So much frustration. Never seen anything like that before, at least 3 men in a week. Must be full moon somewhere or a bad batch of something. And then they disappeared....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Always was, always is and always will be her choice. The need to respect this is paramount to any interaction on this site, or anywhere for that matter.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That it was not a girl at all bu rather just a guy pretending to be a girl so he could collect pictures. So sad and so common on all these sites. Been caught out in the past myself and caught them out too, now I rarely bother unless they have some obvious history
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have had plenty of guys abuse me because my beautiful lady said they werent her type or she didnt click with them....Postman you are just another great example of an immature, egotistical self absorbed poser.... get over yourself and have some respect for her actually replying to you with a nice response.... LOSER!!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mate, really not a good way to make friends,you have just invited a WHOLE world of rejection. We all get the rejected msg now and then but to be honest I have continued to communicate on and off with the rejecters and personality has won over the original rejection. I have met some wonderful women after they have initially rejected me. Personallity will win over in the long run. Anyway back to my perfectly sculpted body at yhe gym,got 700 more teps to do😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...Perhaps she was looking for someone a little more safisticayted and knows what spellcheck is. !
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Good to see you nailed the spellcheck. Lol.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo'I had 5 and a half thousand views on my profile last month. I guess some women would have had a lot more, but considering most guys get about ten a month, I can see why they eventually give up. I get about 30 views a month I think...so I must be some kind of God amongst Men! Or not...But seriously, as you said, RHP is not the Real World. The Real World. That's a term I use often incidentally, when I talk about my work and the lifestyle that is part of it. I work away on the mines of WA and male/female dynamic on site, away from work, is nothing like it is back in Perth or anywhere else.I've been doing it a few years now and as a chef, I interact with people being social after work...away from the workplace rules that regulate them tightly, I suppose...and I see many young men lacking really basic social skills trying awkwardly to chat up the female dining room attendants with the sorriest lines: "Um, hi. What do you call that?""Lime cordial".Okay. And what's that one?""Red cordial"."Oh. Okay.." And so on...What has happened to their social skills? Not enough exposure to the Real World maybe.Curiously, I'd never had so much attention from females until I worked on the mines...as opposed to the previous 8 years on the Gold Coast. Strange. I've thought about it a lot and I put it down to just finding confidence in myself...that and the higher proportion of women in the catering industry than out there.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hahaha... 😂😂😂😂 Could it really be..? Is it...? Dr Not so feeling Good in disguise. Has he resurrected himself into another being...? Could it be his Twin..? I think we just put them both in the same class, together.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Even on this platform, No means No. Everyone has the right to use the word. Everyone has individual tastes and preferences. Boo hoo to you if you didn't quite take her fancy or anything else for that matter lol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol....ahhh he trolled all of you. His account is closed, he never responded. The original post is plainly crap, made it up to get a rise. Admin must have been asleep.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Change their mind... be cool about it and look elsewhere. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
10 years ago
The OP was around for about 24 hours after he put up the thread. I believe it may be more a case of forum suicide than a troll.
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'social_suicide' Lol....ahhh he trolled all of you. His account is closed, he never responded. The original post is plainly crap, made it up to get a rise. Admin must have been asleep. I think it was the OP venting, a case of forum turret, no filter between his thinking and frustration and posting. it is not the first tinme it has happened in the forum and I have done the same in the past. Now he feels we have demonized him and scared him into hiding. To a degree, I feel bad about him now. He is not a troll as Koko has mentioned in her post that she has met him and vouched he is a nice person. Maybe a case of the straw that broke the camel's back and we may have jumped on him too soon. But we only had his original post to go by initially. OP, if you are still around, take note that this will pass and learn your lesson. Good luck.
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Katkat
10 years ago
women will always change their minds & can be very picky well I am myself very picky so in saying that yes they have the right to refuse or reject anyone. Also it doesn't mean they are here on RHP that they will sleep with everyone. But honesty is the best policy just be straight out & be upfront simple as that well 4 me anyways. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Lol, I was convinced he was a shit stirring troll. The post was off the scales, to the point where I thought it couldn't be real, especially when he called her a cunt.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I long for the day when guys like the OP become less common so they don't give me a bad rep for simply also being a single male on a sex based website - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
@JackMacker well said 100% correct and the same works in return, I get rejected all the time and I'm a female don't take it too personally. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Seriously people just like the average looking woman can reject him.. he has the right to voice his opinion. ..whether its wrong its his opinion and he is entitled to one just like anyone else is...so please ladies and gentlemen take a look at yourselves in the mirror and then think about what your saying....loom at the site your on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you think it's ok to refer to a woman as a number and a cunt, then that's certainly your prerogative. Most who posted here would disagree with you though, in my opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I dont like that word and yes, he shouldnt have used it in that context, but I am sure not many of us on here havent used that word or worse when we have vented off about someone in anger. He had his say, was shot down and has now gone. Happens all the time on here. Its the forums, we can say what we want, we either agree or disagree, it keeps the wheels turning. Koolgrey, I totally agree with you. Most young people would rather use dating sites such as RHP and Tinder to meet people than get out and actually meet in real life so to speak. I get messages with one liners "Wot u up 2". Fine, but it doesnt inspire me to reply. What happened to good old chatting up and flirting face to face?
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robb4532
10 years ago
I understand we can all get frustrated and blow of steam in different ways. But there still needs to be strong boundaries around respect on a site like this. - Posted from rhpmobile
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