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Confident, cocky, delusional or misleaded?
November 14 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
so, lyk totes watevs but I mean, every1 is a little delusional in sum way. I meen, aren't we all beautiful and perfect, just coz we're people and following are heartz, that lyke attractive and very attractive, cos itz inside that counts, and itz that insidedness is shyning thru. (OK, enuff, I can't keep doing that :p ) I reckon the bigger (pun intended) discrepancy between reality and imagination is on the selection of average, extra padding, etc... where, shall we say, sometimes an understatement is not the humble position. (I think most people will give themselves ratings that fall somewhere between a real appraisal and an aspirational rating, and how it differs on different aspects of a person will be different for different people) But... how can people be expected to categorise themselves properly when they include "average" in there? I don't know everyone, just the rest of the folk around me, so it really makes sense to just surround yourself with people drastically more overweight than yourself who are a toss up (and presumably a missed catch) of smashed crabs and dropped pies... then even if you do run into some Beautiful People you can still honestly put yourself into the above average categories (or below average, as the case may be). It's just science, not ego or delusion - and anyway, isn't this place all about fiddling with your cohort (in one way or another) ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
...but, what exactly do you mean, the "boys are struggling here..?" ☺
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RHP User
9 years ago
just awesome about time someone turned up with spunk and personality, great stuff. Your post made me smile, lot of fun. As far as self analysis, looks or whatever, it's just a rough guide, we're all going to view a person differently anyway, so it's up to us to make our own judgement, so long as they show themselves though. If not, it's a no reply from me anyway, wasting their time. The attractive options are I think good just to let them know we don't look like we've run into the back of a bus, that they won't need to get really drunk just to stand the way we look and can leave the paper bag at home lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
We join online dating clubs and BAM! Suddenly we are the centre of attention regardless of what we look like. Countless flirts and messages....it goes to our heads and we become sex goddesses. And all because the boys outnumber us something like a million to one on here. In real life we are still our normal selves working, doing the shopping and wrapped in a blankey eating ice cream and watching reality TV. Here we are beautiful and adored so therefore we can dismiss 98% of the guys who get in touch because they are not perfect. So.....who is delusional? Ive met a lot of awesome guys on here. ( And girls :) ) Beautiful inside and out. Guys who have Average on their profile and are far from it. Ive made some great friends on here. Confidence is very attractive. Maybe these guys put Very Attractive to get our attention. And maybe they are in personality. If youre only looking for Greek Gods you might get the egos to match. Anyway ....... good luck in your search. S...Smashed Crab and Dropped Pie? Sounds like the menu from one of these new Hipster Bistros :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
That has a spliff hanging from her lips.... Hahahaha well played ma'am well played :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You seem both cocky and delusional. Hope this helps.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
If you get past looking at the pics and read, it says its not a joint...... I'm with the OP. Everything can be exaggerated. Looks, body type and age. Pics are worth a thousand words as they say. And some of those words can say "look at my 15 year old pic when i was gym fit and tanned and tight. Ah those were the days. Hit me up and come see how much I've let myself go. You've seen the before pic, now i dare you to interact and see the 'now' me."
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Welcome to the sandpit and your first thread. Well done. Annie
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RHP User
9 years ago
Its true. Some guys have old pics and are nothing like that image now. But its the same with females on here. I know guys who have met ladies on here who have looked nothing like their photos. Why cant people just post a photo of themselves as they are? If youre going to meet someone it will just be awkward when the realisation hits. If people want to put very attractive and have pics up that are real, then they obviously are confident about their looks. I think they should scrap the Looks options anyway as half the time they have Ask me. Theres no reason not to have pics up, as there are PGs for those who want discretion because of work etc
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RHP User
9 years ago
S_OnTheLoose That's what I meant (I think), I agree with the body description, should have included that too. Anyway, I think guys n girls are different in a sense that guys probably don't get as many messages as girls do (this is what guys told me). So they don't get as many dweebs n fakes as we do. N I think after that many "misleading" or "disappointment", it does get to us, coz i do. I know it's competitive, you gotta sell yourself, but we're not here to bang every dude. I do reply to every messages n flirts, unless it's their 3rd or 4th ones. This is when I found some guys whom I thought to be not my type actually kinda appealing. Their response is honest n cool, I guess it's more than meet the eyes moment, n I like that too, rather than being shoved in the face with unnecessary info. Also believe it or not I'm more inclined to select guys who described themselves as average. Also when I did look at his pic, is actually not bad. I think what annoy the hell out of me was a message I got few days ago, from a so called attractive guy but he looks like popeye, I do reply with a thanks n sorry but he called me a cunt. His fault anyway for describing the wrong package I think my conclusion is not all average joe are lame n not all studs are a'hole. Just want everyone to be themselves, sad but true not everyone can get lucky here, but still it's just an online site not true reality.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Dunno, just from what I've read in forums and most messages i received from guys. If you're doing well then good on you!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Welcome and well done 😉 I agree with you. Look the options to choose from are poor at best, but it's what we've been given here. What do I expect? That you look somewhat like your pics. I have normal face pics in my pg. Some have been filtered but some are just good old me. I do that to show who I am and give guys the opportunity to ghost me or say they aren't interested. I'm honest on my profile but there's a lot that will just write what they think will get them laid. And there's nothing we can do about it. So I look for a combo of pics, well thought out profile, seeking the same things and then it's onto messaging. If they aren't willing to put in the effort to converse with me and want to jump straight to a meet or a cock shot then they aren't for me. I like guys that love the chase, the build up and the anticipation. But also someone who wants to know more than my username and cup size. Because if they don't - it's highly unlikely they are going to put much in effort wise in the bedroom. And I'm more of a regular kind of girl not a one off bang. If you're like me you get to learn fairly quickly who's been telling porky pies on their profile. It takes a lot longer to to find someone, but it definitely weeds out the ones you don't want. Have fun here on and off the site 😘
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RHP User
9 years ago
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yo Stirry I'm artistic, I create my profile based on my upfront-ness, upload my pics based on creativity n style, it's not for everyone's taste especially the feint heart but I like to be unique tell u it is what it is. Soooooo what's a spliff again??.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'ImDiamond' I think my conclusion is not all average joe are lame n not all studs are a'hole. Just want everyone to be themselves, sad but true not everyone can get lucky here, but still it's just an online site not true reality. Well said. A lot of people seem to think that this place is going to be a instant pick up site and that the person of their sexual dreams are just sitting there waiting for them, however the normal rules of socializing apply here just as they do in the real world. Be yourself and simply don't apologize for it. Oh and trust Annie to notice it was not a spliff ;) Welcome to the sandpit xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Champagnesunsets That is exactly what's in my mind, but you word it better n nicely. I'm sure there are girls like that too but since I didn't receive any message from girls, I can't say. Well..... I did n they're beautiful :p My profile is already scaring the dudes, and I purposely create this topic to filter more unnecessary profile. In my profile I described basic things about me (of course not many really read isn't it), but if one read carefully about who I want, the guys I described is more towards his personality n persona. N yeah it's a hook up site of course I prefer someone amazing in bed rather than a limp dick, that I can go rsvp. I don't like Greek god by the way, they're too tanned n oily n more feminine than me ;p
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seems shallow too judge on one face pic too me the head turner u know the lady u see and go damn she us fukn amazing is more its looks personality aswell as poise how she carries herself and weve all seen that hot lady no ill say girl instead that is attractive and some but is that far up her own ummmm alley lol that it's a turn off so yeah umm diamond u may be missing out on amazing experiences judging off one pic 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Irrespective of what a spliff is... People are always going to see themselves as attractive to a point.... And.... There will ALWAYS someone right behind us telling us how delusional or cocky we are...... One mans delusion is another mans reality...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not sure, but I don't recall the post mentioning anything about it not being a joint....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Upfordafunstuff I might... I might not... Who knows... I've said no to a looker too, yes my judgement are based on look, but also a hunch whether I can have fun or get along with that person, might be weird, but they don't call women with strong intuition for nothing, it's bitch 101! And so far it has been keeping me safe n have been having fun with a few looker n non looker n currently only 1 person, but I'm content so I'm going to keep on doing what I think is best for me, not for him, for her or you, but me :) I would do it in the utmost respect possible, I won't leave a guy hanging but will reply. Like I replied you. However sometimes when a guy's ego is crushed there's nothing to ease his mind from thinking that chick is a bitch, but as long as I know I think I'm doing the right thing, I couldn't really care I've done my bit n will continue to have amazing time. N now I know why I trust my hunch Yo again Stirry Yes to a point, but everyone should stop listening to their mama when she said you're gorgeous, this apply to chicks to btw (just to calm the boys down). So if they chose to exceed beyond that point, then they should also accept rejection beyond their bitch. Uummm don't really make sense but it does sounds cool :p Peace Love n Sex
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' Not sure, but I don't recall the post mentioning anything about it not being a joint.... Read the profile... Apparently we're more into mud pies than hot pies... in the fora... Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would and all....but diamonds are a girls best friend only .... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' I would and all....but diamonds are a girls best friend only .... :p - Posted from rhpmobileYup coz little boys can't afford it ;p
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hahahaha Agreed....we can't be insulting those that rely on their mothers for their esteem else they'll run back needing the tit again lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nor THAT gullible ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do whatever you want, describes yourself however you want, but be respectful, as long as it's not hurting others. Bear the consequence of own choice n acknowledge other's choice whether to have fun with you or not. Just imagine going into a supermarket hands cuffed, I wasn't referring to the kinky imagination but this site feels like you are browsing all the goodies but your hands are tight. You tried to kick the shelves in hoping something might fall, if you're lucky you get candy if not you'll have those shelves. This is a weird description I hope it make sense Most importantly stop asking mom, coz my mama told me I was the prettiest girl in the whole world. I was delusional till I was 14 n realized that I was a bitch, a cool ass bitch but It's been a fun n interesting banter
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