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March 05 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
When meeting in cafes or the like, the menu and then food is a good topic, of course try and stick with the main courses as dessert leads inevitably back to sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like to talk about gardening, n how people grow things, I tried to be a bit more self sufficient this past season, grew cucumbers, snow peas,corn, potatoes, even got an apple on my tree, ants beat me to it though,grew a fantastic passion fruit that's so out of control now it's climbing into the roof Of the house, sadly I dont like them, it's the texture, all those seeds, it's just wrong :/ luckily Treeman and the youngest twig love them..... Would love to be so organised to plant all the right things at the right times.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm amazing. Seriously though, don't get me started on horses. I'll bore you to death.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' I'm amazing. Seriously though, don't get me started on horses. I'll bore you to death. Lordy, have you seen a horse's penis though. Huge!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Discussion I seem to be having lately with people have been focused on careers and futures, love and families. But one of my favorite topics is about travelling and other countries and their customs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You about you,you ask me about me...depending on whether or not we have discovered some common interests, well..there's always the weather..oh and Quantum mechanics,art,literature,classical music,archeology,erotic literature,sex and death...all good fall back topics 😂😂😂xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Anything... and everything. The following is the case for anyone I talk to, anywhere, any time. I don't go into conversations with any kind of agenda on topics or outcomes.Great conversation.... banter.... should be organic.... starting at Point A, and flowing via a series of related tangets to Point Wherever. When someone talks about sex, thats great, it can be a sign of an open mind (not always). But if they linger on it its a bit one-dimensional and Im wondering what else they have going on in their life. DG
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Seachange73
11 years ago
When I meet a man, we hardly delve into sexual discussions. I prefer to ask questions about what inspires him. Work career art and sports and of course travels. It is about setting the ground of common interest, establishing our comfort zone and even bonding. A recent meet with a very interesting man made him very sexy in my eyes as he talked about his previous careers as a motor racer of note, etc. If course it helped he was extremely intelligent and very fit and muscled. We never broached the topic of sex during cocktails and dinner until we went to his hotel room late at night. At that point our imagination have been fired enough and we were keen to consummate with passion. If they have kids we may share some war stories abiut our kids. I find it sexy when men talk about things that they are passionate about that is of nonsexual nature.. Their eyes light up, sometimes tgeir speech become animated and there is a recognition of of them as the individual I was attracted to in the first place. I want to hear about their lifes trav ls because I am a curious person. I love talking about sports. Books. Movies - specially arthouse and action films. And food being a gourmand and a bit of a glutton.
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JDM76
11 years ago
I always ask about funny stories or events that have happened , i guess the reason is if the other person is willing to share some of that ,then they usually seem to lose some of their nerves and a good laugh helps with mine as well .
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RHP User
11 years ago
other than Peppa Pig, Ben & Holly, what's for homework/dinner, in my lunch order ... I love to talk about Art and history. It's been such a long time since I've had a coffee and a good chat with a grown up ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mmmm.... Ahhh..... .... ...gee... Struggling here... OK... Jokes... I'm actually quite philosphical, I'll talk about and question everything.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' You about you,you ask me about me...depending on whether or not we have discovered some common interests, well..there's always the weather..oh and Quantum mechanics,art,literature,classical music,archeology,erotic literature,sex and death...all good fall back topics 😂😂😂xx Politics & religion (always good for a lively discussion)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I go for guys who have something of interest to talk about. Musos, poets, travellers, and even war historians. If I meet someone and the chat is all about RHP and sex, it puts me off. Yes, for a while, because its a similar interest, but not for the whole date. I love finding out new information. My interests are soccer and fashion, so best the guy has something else to talk about!
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Ralf74 - great topic - like you ppl seem to find it easy to talk to me about sex n even on fb I get tagged in the sexual things and at work I get called the sex therapist lol.. If ppl know I'm a fitness instructor they will talk to me about how they don't exercise enough etc etc - so I try not to talk about exercise or fitness n diet! We tend to talk about work n children, travel, books, movies n yum food n alcohol Mrs Cheeky - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Movies, music, travelling, food, anything fun really.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So if a guy already knows this, chances are we will talk about my job for a while and that's cool cause I have that kind of job that provokes curiosity TravelBooksCurrent affairsMoviesSport If its not out of bounds I will usually ask the guy about his kids. Its really nice watching a guy share a story about his children - they get this animated, proud look on their face and I find that kinda sexy Had a date once where I met a guy in the bar and I was nursing a bourbon. He asked me why I wasn't drinking a glass of wine and I launched into this rapid monologue about how I find nothing special about wine , how it all tastes the same to me, big spiel.. 7 minutes later I asked what he did for a living and he told me he was a wine critic and wrote for a well known magazine. Awkward
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I have a knack of being able to talk to anyone, about anything. I ask a lot of questions, no not because I'm nosey, but because I'm actually interested in people and their stories, it's how you get to know someone.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
I actually don't have a favourite topic to prattle about. From my personal experiences when I meet someone and engage in conversation, the topics seem to flow one after another... especially if I feel comfortable with that person. I suppose I can be a bit of a chatter box at times, but I won't talk your ear off... only half of it lol!! Topics that I do like to talk about are... music, travel, movies, pets, other peoples life experiences, and of course sex!! Fuck talking about the weather, boring subject although it was quite friggin hot here in Queensland today, it's windy at the moment and perhaps a chance of a shower or two tomorrow haha ;) Catch ya's after
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RHP User
11 years ago
bahaha that's pure gold!!! I agree though; woody tannins and fruity after tastes...what the hell?? It's fricken grape juice lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
are just dependant on the mood; but like DG I don't have a certain list of topics...otherwise I feel as though I'm attending a job interview 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are 😊xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
that does explain a few things then 😝 I keep forgetting my Curriculum Vitae - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your CV ie profile..validations ie references...the interview ...you have just a few minutes to impress...so it's either a yes,you can assume the position...or not xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
.......and I'll chat about any subject at all
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RHP User
11 years ago
and we usually solve the worlds problems. :-D - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Funny woman. Haha. And yes. World domination or world peace topics.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The weather, kind of draw a blank after that... Well after a joke I guess the subject that is at hand, you. Where you from, What do you do, How is life, What are you looking for, Do you have hobbies, pets, children. Then that will lead to what ever from there. Most people like to talk about them selves and what they like so I let them. I usually find some point of mutual interest and then follow that. Seems to work. There is a condition for it all to work, you dont have an escape and as I am bound by the laws of the land, i don't get to talk much. But i dont mind the voices in my head provide plenty of entertainment. What?? no not sex again.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
We love strength and fitness, but not in the corporate gym, media hype, latest article fad bullshit sense. We are both very serious about our Russian Kettlebells (Strongfirst) and Crawling (Original Strength). We joke that at our specialty gym we are all "The island of misfit toys"... we do things different from the masses and quite enjoy not only they physical benefits of our training and knowledge of the way the body works, but the social camaraderie. So... we're always stuffing other ears full of information about proper movement and the skill of strength.
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RHP User
11 years ago
. When I first meet someone. I find the best way to get to know someone is to ask a lot of questions.You know like. Ask about their birthday,What was their first pets name was, the first street they lived on, mother's maiden name, and since you probably already know their email address, it's pretty easy from there to hack all of their social media, banks or any other online data regarding them.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but if the subject arises ' I'll roll with it... But usually i probe and find out what a person is into until I find something we have in common.. Being well travelled , I love to swap stories of where and what was done.. always a good kick starter... I can and do converse on most subjects but steer clear of politics and religion. I love light hearted convo's and things that get us both happy and laughing ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
every time I show my CV eyebrows are raised whe they get to the personal strengths section... Apparently lifting a table with a raging hardon ISN'T the strength they seem to seek... And having random sex with my 43.325 subs that are virgins are considered indulgence not weakness 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
On my CV under weaknesses I listed " My honesty". The interviewer said he didn't think honesty was a weakness. I told him "I honestly don't give a fuck what you think" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met up for a quick coffee once with a lady from a general dating site, we ended up still there chatting three hours later. Just saying... :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I must say that your idea of a first date sounds rather like a job interview to me. I'd much rather let the banter flow, and see where it takes us. It kinda sounds like you're worried the conversation may stall?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Screw reading posts on my tiny phone screen. :-P
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's OK. I have always thought there should be a sarcasm/humour font ( other than comic sans) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Actually, it was the JP who signed my divorce papers (lovely man haha), well when we were doing that I asked him what did he used to work at before retiring. I was absolutely stunned by his 2 hour reply. Just sat and listened and could not believe the history I was hearing! Easily could have stayed another two hours but his wife and my ex had had enough :( Easily the most interesting conversation I have ever had! Apart from that, I like to hear about who you are, your beliefs, ideals, dreams, losses, wins, and funny anecdotes on life. If I can see you in your words then I get a picture of who you are, and that is what I am interested in, or not, as the case may be xx oh and laughing, there must be lots of laughing :)
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MissBishere
11 years ago
I'm not a huge talker but I'm a great listener and I love to listen to people's stories of their life and adventures and how they got their scars my lips are designed for kissing and I'm a phenomenal kisser
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RHP User
11 years ago
I speak sarcasm quite well, but I missed half of your post. *Feels like an idiot*
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Aristippusx2
11 years ago
I also prefer to listen than talk. Whenever I meet a new friend whether its pub club work or socially , I start with " what is the best thing that has happened to you this week/ month / year?" Mr A
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RHP User
11 years ago
Normally I will talk about health, fitness and anything anything active, including cooking, beach etc. Shocking dating experiences have come up more than once lol & have even had a date lead to a word with friends opponent lol. I can talk underwater but love when a convo can flow from one thing to another effortlessly & you don't have to keep the conversation going.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My watch always draws attention. It's made of wood and very light weight. There's obviously reasons why if buy a watch like that other than just style, so the conversation just grows from that. Ice cream is always a great conversation starter too. You can try to guess things about their personality based on their favourite ice cream flavours. I've done it a few times with hilarious responses. Of course you make it up as you go along, but it gets the giggles out. - Posted from rhpmobile
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Anything that keeps a flow. It is terrible when the conversation has to be forced, that signals a dead end for us.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
I love pistachio and black cherries ice cream with panna cotta flavours. What does thatbsay about me? Prime candidate for the future 'Biggest Loser' contestant? Haha
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Seachange73
11 years ago
For me has ti be a two way street. It has to be dynamic. It is a method to learn about another person and Iin the end, about obeself. It can not be static. It should be organic and engaged, preferably peppered with wit and humour, where both parties exchange ideas, share experiences and opinions to make the time worthwhile. Else I switch off and my attention is diverted elsewhere to more interesting people and subjects. I have a short attention span in situations where I have to do most of the talking. Fire my imagination, engage my brain and all will follow.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The person who is not naturally garrulous,an interesting introvert,do we just dismiss them out of hand?...and if this is you,then how do you overcome this in a social situation,let alone the Interview de Bonqe ?...I am not a natural extrovert,I function in small group situations and struggle in a room full of strangers...but one on one I do just fine...but many people just lack basic social skills...I read something that Helen Fisher the doyen of Internet dating said recently...she said that we should give someone a second chance...I am not totally convinced but perhaps she is right xxFreya
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Seachange73
11 years ago
You make a good point. But I am referring to the one on one situation where one need not be over the top nor an extrovert to show your personality nor share your interests. refer to previous post. One does not have to be loud nor overtly gregarious to share experience. Surely not. ? I love the idea and the intimacy of sharing stories and discussion in a one on one setting, and it just gets more interesting in a group setting where the dynamics is umped. No flaying of arms nor shouting. Most people who have met me will say I am not loud except when lauging out loud when there's a joker in the group (ralf comes to mind among others). So not dismissive at all. just saying doesn't fire my imagination. That is my honest opinion. And it also depends on the topic of discussion at hand. That is for another discussion altogether.
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RHP User
11 years ago
when I have someone not helping with the conversation then I start boring the shit out of myself and tune myself out then I have no idea what I was prattling on about... what was I talking about?
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On_Safari
11 years ago
....and I enjoy it when even more when a naturally introverted/quiter person comes out of their shell and glows when they start to talk back about their life, experiences or whatever the topic may be. I'm told I'm good at making people feel at ease, relaxed and able to talk. Two things I'm not good at BULLSHIT and BANAL SMALL TALK. I want to get into the juice of everything and everyone.....how else will we know if it's going to go further? (Winky face)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wasn't actually responding to your post at all.It occurred to me that perhaps Helen Fisher had a point...I have been guilty of dismissing men who are less than enthralling conversationalists...and I have almost always followed the five minute rule..She just gave me a rethink xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
We always feel the need to fill silence..it somehow feels awkward ,so we push the conversation along...but what if we didnt...I wonder if the other person sometimes needs time to process and then respond...fascinating topic..Got me musing...btw it was fabulous meeting you at the meet and greet...I vote you a Fora Treasure hugs xxFreya
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' I wasn't actually responding to your post at all.It occurred to me that perhaps Helen Fisher had a point...I have been guilty of dismissing men who are less than enthralling conversationalists...and I have almost always followed the five minute rule..She just gave me a rethink xxFreya Five minute rule? You have the patience of a saint!!!! Lol. I would be out of sniffing distance in 2!!! lol. x
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kicks in,the part of our brain that is all about fear..Flight or fight,non rational thinking...meeting someone new can be quite scary...so many people definitely won't be at their best..Just more musings 😘xx Freya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go with the flow till they wet themselves either way lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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