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Decision time

May 21 2016

I went out last night to the local swingers club with my girlfriend, a spur of the moment decision after a pretty stressful week for both of us. It was more about how hanging out and relaxing in the spa than finding anyone to play with; it is a friendly and familiar place where we feel very comfortable. We met a nice couple, it was their first time at the club - at any swingers club for that matter. While chatting with them they said they had played with others before in group situations in the 12 months they had been together. They had decided to venture out to the club to check it out. They didn't elaborate who they were seeking...m, f, couples etc. We had a chat about boundaries, expectations, play room etiquette.....all the stuff which helps people new to a club feel more at ease. Over the course of the next hour we hung out with them, had a few drinks.....well she had quite a few drinks and admitted to having a few before they came. In fact she said she was really quite drunk. Not too long after that she made it very clear they would like to play with me. Decision time! What would your decision be? Play or no play? What would your decision be based on? I will reveal what my decision was a bit later :)

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RHP User

10 years ago

Sexy time in the spa - always in for that. But it's hard to say for sure, without all the nuanced information you have at hand. Just how drunk was/is she? Is she doing because she is drunk or because she actually really wants to? I don't like drunk sex - it's not the type messy sex I enjoy. So I'd want someone with their full use of their noggin before I would want to meld my inner thighs with them. The rest would just depend how it all felt at the time. That elusive feeling of 'Fuck Yeah - this is totally what I want right now. Let's smoosh our bodies together.' Do tell

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madotara69

10 years ago

Could imagine, almost a selfless decision, an act of kindness by giving, not necessarily expecting anything in return. Mado Mado Tara xx

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RHP User

10 years ago

With a drunk,I do thunk,is an unwise thing to do...👿Q

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RHP User

10 years ago

...would be that you perhaps traded phone numbers and gave her some space, along with a bit of time to sober up. You seem to be far to gracious to have done anything else. I'm sure you did well in the given situation.

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RHP User

10 years ago

I once hooked up with a girl and a random guy, it was her first time with a girl and first mff. I stopped play half way through as she was rather drunk and I wanted her to remember her first time! But I have had plenty of drunk sex so I'm not really one to judge lol - Posted from rhpmobile

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AnnieWhichway

10 years ago

A woman and drink......a bit loose A man and drink........a bit soft So, answer depends on the sex. A man = disappointing A woman = as long as she can recall your name

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MsJonesy

10 years ago

I don't mind a drink myself, and yes Uni, there has been plenty of drunk sex too lol. I guess my concern was that she may later regret her actions if I said yes. As it was their first night at a club I could understand a few drinks for dutch courage, but drunk is another thing. I couldn't help but wonder if it was a bad move to say yes.....so I said no. But they perked up later when I let them know I would be there again next week....even confirmed what time we usually get there. So there may be another chapter in this story 😉

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compressor

10 years ago

go with your heart and how you feel. enjoy yourself

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RHP User

10 years ago

If you felt the attraction then absolutely. In regards to the other girl being drunk, if you were ok with it, fine. I mean they didn't go to the club to play cards, so in no means was she being taken advantage of. Good topic. I wonder what your decision was???

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MsJonesy

10 years ago

I said no.....for that night. I didn't close the door on further interaction; see my post a couple up from yours.

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RHP User

10 years ago

Sorry, I was drunk. Lol

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RHP User

10 years ago

Swapping with new people and drinking don't really mix well I think. One or two maybe to loosen up anything more than that is just asking for trouble. Especially for the guys and performance issues, I know it doesn't work for me especially so refrain. Also in terms of everything being above board and rational decision making needed for swapping partners excessive drinking is not a good idea at all. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

10 years ago

Except I wasn't out....I told this particular lady no as well. People become unpredictable and make errors in judgement in alcohol fuelled mind sets..... The last thing I'm going to do is to open the flood gates to an unfounded rape allegation all because the other party regretted their actions the following morning..... Yep it's a far stretch and quite possibly a massive exaggeration, but not all together impossible either. The other issue I have with alcohol relates to previous experiences that I've not been able to let go of. These experiences left me feeling as though the other party needed alcohol in order to feel a level of sexual desire for me, and that's not a place or scenario that I'm going to invite back into my life either. Having a few drinks is fine, I have no issue with that, but blatant drunkeness just makes people in my view look ugly. - Posted from rhpmobile

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