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July 15 2022

I had been chatting to a guy about 6 months ago, exchanging pics chatting for weeks. Never heard from him every time I messaged he was “busy”. I got sick of making the effort all the time so gave up. About 2 weeks ago I get a message from him, forgetting he had contact with me. We exchanged messages pics etc make arrangements to meet tomorrow night. I get a message this afternoon cancelling, I thanked him for letting me know. Now his profile has “ disappeared “ wtf why do scum bags do this ? I hope karma comes his way. Not only did I give him 1 chance but twice.

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RHP User

3 years ago

You said it, he is a scumbag and tbh happens to guys too. Hope you find a decent bloke .

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RHP User

3 years ago

Probably married, cheating on his wife and got cold feet. Never give the flakes a second chance.

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RHP User

3 years ago

Unfortunately its a sign of the times with the electronics age .... say anything promise anything with no commitment to do anything.

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

6mths is way tooooo long to chat with someone. That's a Red Flag right there. That's on your too for allowing it, not just him. If he's "Busy" and you put in all the effort, that's another Red Flag and on you for doing so. If plans were made and got cancelled, so be, that's on you for not making Plan B. He informed you. You thanked him. Now move on. IMO You didn't see those above Red Flags. Yet post naming him as a "scum bag" and hope karma comes his way. That's not cool. Sorry, but you need to be accountable and screen much better. What's trash to others is treasure to some. His wife probably thinks he's the ants pants. 😉 Ms Foxy

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FeistyFatty

3 years ago

They're Fishermen. They love the the thrill of the chase, baiting you, luring you in, getting you right up into the boat then they cut you loose. It's a game. You dodged a bullet and he's just a douche.

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teamaj2

3 years ago

So sorry this has happened to you . We all learn from experiences .Don’t beat yourself up , you are human . Most of us , at some time or other trust in someone or give of ourselves, be it time or energy to be left high and dry . My advice , take a deep breath , know that you dodged that untrustworthy persons bullet and find someone that deserves your time . Who knows what his motives were . I agree , perhaps he is married and just wanted the thrill of the chase with no intention of meeting . Maybe , he wasn’t the man you thought you were speaking to , his photos weren’t his etc . It truly doesn’t matter and I personally wouldn’t waste your energy thinking about why . There were red flags perhaps . Next time , you will see them and move away . Anyone that wants to meet you , will make time and put in the effort . Stay positive . Good luck . Ax

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RHP User

3 years ago

I’m really sorry you experienced that 💔 Unfortunately I’m not surprised. This site is filled with time wasters.

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couplefb

3 years ago

Maybe your fishing too close to home ? Rural towns can cause people to be a little cautious about being seen out and about. We had a great time in your town, I would suggest casting the net a little wider 😉

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MsSuperFoxy

3 years ago

This situation is no different to any other ghosting situations that have been posted over the years in the forums. Like magic. POOF! And just like that they've goneski. Shit happens. It probably hurts because there was emotional investment in the exchange of messages, Hope invested and bruised ego. I don't think it's fair, this guy is copping a roasting tho. He's allowed to change his mind, just like any other person is allowed to too, especiallyif they have not met. There's always 3 sides to any situation. We've only heard 1, that's the OP's point of view From my own life experiences on here, there should be no emotional attachment to messages, no expectations or pressures until one meets face to face. Ms Foxy

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Flirty2020

3 years ago

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canbefun4u2

3 years ago

it's also couples and ladys do the same thing . it's so easy to say sorry not intrested but chat and lead you on the merry path to waiting for them to show up and when you check profile for messages they have blocked you .. just say cold feet or not my type .. thats another thing people looking for dates having 60+,people in their friends list asking for dates or the reply of you not what I'm looking for then you look at their friends list and your hope are shattered .

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RHP User

3 years ago

It comes down to common respect which there isnt much of anymore with people. Just tell yourself he missed out and your not really bothered because time wasted trying to connect isnt actually wasted time at all. You put in the ground work same as you would with someone in person. If it didnt work out then your right is to move on with your life. No biggy

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RHP User

3 years ago

It is very frustrating. Have experienced similar. Messaging a RHP member, everything seemed fine. Try to arrange a date. Set a time and location. We were excited. Then silence, check her profile and no longer visible. I have to say I loathe ghosting. It’s a cowardly and despicable trend in society today. Everyone deserves to say goodbye. If not interested or not for you just say so.

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