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Disappointments..when you meet someone
May 15 2016
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Online connecting has worked well for me in majority of my experiences, Qefenta1, and I rather embrace on those successes in order to keep a positive attitude and vibe towards Internet dating :) and because of this thinking and attitude, all of my former successful short term relationships post my previous life were made from Internet dating :) Before 2014 Christmas, I used to dwell on the bad experiences that I encountered on RHP! But after having lost two friends to cancer since the end of 2014, my whole outlook on life have changed 180°C, for better of course :) hence, I will say that online connecting has worked well for me :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Teach you what to be looking out for in your next meet.We have had a number of meets where the expectations where not met but you have to expect that, it's a part of meeting people in any medium. You just learn from the mistakes and enjoy the ride.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Experience helps weed out the ones your gut tells you aren't worth the time, small things, small signs/flags that tell me, you know what, I'm gonna let this one go. I'm sure I've let some good ones go but being picky over early communications I have found to be a big help so it rarely happens anymore. In the last year, only 2 or 3 who were very different in the flesh to how I expected them to be, and not physically, but different to how I expected them to be in other ways, personality, warmth, connection. Few times, it all seemed to be there but a whole different person arrived. Really disappointing after the build up and I have to say, after a recent experience, attached will probably be off my radar soon. After meeting him, I actually felt sorry for his partner. Thinking she could do better lol She was probably off getting her kicks somewhere else
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had quite a few that just haven't worked for whatever reason, no chemistry or no attraction either on their part or mine. For that reason I dont like to leave it too long before meeting as I feel it builds expectations and it can then be disappointing if it doesn't work, but at the same time I need to chat to someone for long enough to feel comfortable meeting them and long enough to ask the important questions or "screen them" if you like - its a balancing act.
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RHP User
10 years ago
In my first year on RHP, I had several disappointing first meets, a lot of 'blow and go's, guys who had performance anxieties, pics that didn't match, smokers who said they don't smoke. One guy left me standing at the front door in my lingerie while he ran back to his car to get something - he never came back - the arsehole! It used to bother me then but I know better now 😋 Also, I guess it was my own fault, being inexperienced as it was my first time on a dating site and jumping in head first without proper screening. On the flipside, there was one guy I hesitated to meet up with for months because I didn't like his pic - he looked too cocky for my liking and he was outside my age preference. He was very persistent and messaged me almost every day for 4 months! I was having no luck on here so I thought, it can't hurt to meet this guy.... Here we are 3.5 years later, and he still messages me every day 😍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah, the flip side I've had too with the same long period of time, not sure, eventually decide to meet and whoa some guys just have shit pictures up, and they don't even seem to care but in the flesh, they look way better, not just that though, the person within, entirely different to how you perceive them, in a good way
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I learned that words and extreme close up pics of a breast, lips, thigh, etc are not much to go on...and it's a better idea to meet someone for coffee or lunch first. Met some lovely people for coffee and had a great chat, even when we decided not to go further.But I rarely meet people from online. I also learned early that it's a lot of hard work for a man...too much, I decided.So, no real disappointments from the online thing...I just had to find my happy medium.
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225Special
10 years ago
We have had a few times where the chemistry hasn't been quite right, as said previously it is harder when couples are meeting couples. The way we look at it is, at the very least we have had a night out and made some new friends.
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
If they actually turn up it would go a long way toward defeating any disappointment of expectations not realised.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Why is the man an arsehole?? Ms Foxy
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ReyandJean
10 years ago
Our expectations after setting up a meet with someone online are: 1. They won't turn up 2. The male party will arrive sans female partner 3. The online persona will be somewhat removed from the flesh one. So our expectations are low. We have been justified in some cases and pleasantly surprised in others. The online thing is a big effort for its relative rewards. For us nothing beats meeting naked at a party. Wysiwig.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Why is the man an arsehole?? Ms Foxy Because he left her standing at the front door in her lingerie, said he was going to the car to get something, but then buggered off? I'm calling him an asshole too
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RHP User
10 years ago
The guys Ive met have been what I expected, better looking in the flesh and great company........apart from one. He was very charming when we were messaging, and when I told him it was meet first play later, as I say on my profile, he said, "Yes, totally". We met, had a drink, he was very polite, although a bit full of himself, and then he said, "Ok are we going back to yours now?" I reminded him that it was a meet only, and he looked at me incredulously and said, "You really meant it?" I said, "Yes, of course". He stood up and stormed off. Left me sitting on my own. The only feelings I had sitting there were relief......... one rude dude out of a few diamond geezers is no big deal
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RHP User
10 years ago
Foxxxy, I actually felt sick to the stomach and thought maybe I was too ugly and fat to deserve an explanation to my face. Things like that kill your self esteem, especially when I wasn't happy with my body to start with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Does that sound surprising coming from Brad Pitt's more handsome twin? I mean, look at my photos; the camera loves me (not)...and there's some ravages of age and excess one shouldn't try to hide. So I give prospective sexual companions the same leeway and try to arrange to meet face-to-face rather than sound all sexy and seductive and absolutely irresistible and wonderfully fuckable and a privilege to know on email/over the phone. What then transpires in the real-world tends to be prefaced by a degree of'realism that allows each of you to be honest, sniff tails and more often than not do what comes naturally. My two bob's worth.
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RHP User
10 years ago
To two of us
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have you ever thought that it may have been the opposite. From your photos you appear to be gorgeous,he probably had performance anxiety..seeing you looking ravishing at your door,was all too much. Q
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
I was thinking the exact same thing. I believe an "arsshole" (as tulips called the man), would not do such behavior. I believe one would have used you, to have his own selfish needs met. A Fuck and go, in other words. I believe maybe, he did panic see I seeing you. Now, if only I could find my moral compass. 😝 Ms Foxy Ms Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
Im with you Summer, nothing worse than really witty banter, someone who's quick and funny in print and then you meet and there is zero conversation. I suppose it could be shyness etc... My worst meet was with a guy whos pic must have been at least 20 years old (I was a Rhp newbie at that time and hadnt learnt to vet pics) and when I saw him he was wearing brown leather sandals with black socks, floral bermuda shorts, a Hawaiian shirt and cardigan. ..at the beach! Im not normally judgemental but I do believe a little effort to dress nicely doesn't hurt. I knew, even from a distance there would be no attraction. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'tulips4u' Foxxxy, I actually felt sick to the stomach and thought maybe I was too ugly and fat to deserve an explanation to my face. Things like that kill your self esteem, especially when I wasn't happy with my body to start with. - Posted from rhpmobile No, don't ever think that. Sounds like a cliche but you are gorgeous. I just had another look at your pictures and you're one beautiful sexy lady. If he didn't want to hang around and kiss those sexy lips (seriously you have sexy lips lol I'd kiss them mmm) and enjoy you and your beautiful body (nice ass btw ooh I'm getting quite flirty here), that's his problem and his choice. The disrespect he showed however is poor behavior and like you said, would leave anyone feeling cold and like shit. But one guy being like that doesn't mean you're not beautiful and sexy, it means you ARE and he's.......well yep, still an asshole
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'leeleigh'he was wearing brown leather sandals with black socks, floral bermuda shorts, a Hawaiian shirt and cardigan. ..at the beach!Mr Bean?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you Q, I_touch, and Summer for your kind words Summer, I waited for him at the door. Texted him 5 minutes to ask if he was ok. No reply. It took me about 10 minutes before I realised he wasn't coming back. I sent another text to ask why he didn't have the decency to tell me to my face. Not a peep, no explanation whatsoever! This was from a guy who would text charmingly non-stop for days leading up to the meet. It was pretty upsetting and me, being me, bawled my eyes out and I called up my man telling him what had happened. He dropped everything and came straight over to comfort and convince me that I was beautiful and sexy, and that the guy probably felt intimidated by my sexiness. Always my hero! 😊 Funny thing was, the guy in question had put on his profile that he was 6' tall, yet I towered over him at 5'2". Maybe he was hoping for a petite supermodel. Guess we'll never know. I don't plan on ever letting anyone upset me over a stupid meet again. In the words of Helen Reddy, "I am strong. I am invincible. I am woman." 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'tulips4u' Foxxxy, I actually felt sick to the stomach and thought maybe I was too ugly and fat to deserve an explanation to my face. Things like that kill your self esteem, especially when I wasn't happy with my body to start with. - Posted from rhpmobile Seeing that picture of you on your profile now..... The man was a fool!
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RHP User
10 years ago
you are on the net an expect honesty? especially from males ffs lol more likelihood of winning powerball at 84 mill to one accept it for what it is babe a chance to have fun (sometimes) or at least provide you with good stories to tell your friends over a glass of red or two. don't take life too seriously you are dead for a long time so enjot it while you are here.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'bianca_dd' you are on the net an expect honesty? especially from males ffs lol more likelihood of winning powerball at 84 mill to one accept it for what it is babe a chance to have fun (sometimes) or at least provide you with good stories to tell your friends over a glass of red or two. don't take life too seriously you are dead for a long time so enjot it while you are here. I resemble that remark!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well there was no disappointment today. Holy shit, I'm still catching my breath. Today was a good day, what am I saying, today was a GREAT day
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