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Divorced status

June 04 2017

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Basic innocent question, posted it once but thought it deserves it's own topic. I was wondering, how long after someone has been married do they change their relationship status from "divorced" to "single". Also, what is the benefit or purpose to putting divorced instead of single right away or at all? Is it more so that others can be clear on the moment of life you currently find yourself in, and can be more aware of perhaps your emotional state? Because even if someone puts single, most would assume after a certain age that you would have had one or more serious relationships regardless? I also ask because there is no equivalent status for other long term relationships that have ended, but were not a marriage. This question is applicable to vanilla and non-vanilla websites, and perhaps even other types of general documentation/paperwork. Over to you...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I got rejected! I didn't put "single".I am am single though, so I don't put divorced on anything anymore. I've been single for 4 years now.Doesn't divorced basically mean the same thing anyway? It's just one explanation of WHY you are now single...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I've always thought myself pretty non judgemental but this subject has made me challenge myself. Basically when I see divorced I think.. ok probably has kids so may need planning time... It's actually a stupid conclusion to make because lots of single people also have the same time constraints. Lesson learned for me! Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    divorced, give or take a day or so...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    ...legal contract and like most others, requires legal action to terminate it. The good news is once it's done it's over with that person albeit you may share children. Attached is another term bantered about here...hell I'm rather attached to my Staffy and occasionally the big ol's sofa in the lounge room on a lazy Sunday but those don't even count, do they? Attached to who or what...sounds more like gum stuck to my shoe on a hot day rather than a relationship status. I'm in favour of stating married or single...end of story. The rest if it's necessary or poignant to a conversation, it will eventually be discussed but only with those to whom it really actually matters. The end...... CM

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Another site I was on for a bit had a ''separated'' option, which I duly checked as I had been for a couple of years and I am an idiot who picks the most literal option. Turns out ''separated'' was like a crucifix to vampires. They all thought you were going to have a few random shags then you or your ex would agree to reconciliation, and all of a sudden they are ''the other woman''. It took me a while to change my status to ''single'', to my mind I was indeed separated so I would be lying if I checked something else. Never mind that being truthful did me no favours at all, bar some whacko chick that just wanted me to massage her back for 2 hours while she watched the grand final of a reality cooking show. I kind of took a cue from friends of mine starting to see me as fuck buddy material that I was indeed no longer separated but ''single'', so I changed. Did any of that make sense? Was it even relevant to the topic? I mean, does anyone even like Salted Caramel? Why is it everywhere all of a sudden?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I have divorced on my profile, never thought twice about it because I am divorced (twice) but now I think about it.... I have no idea why I didn't put single. I have been single for quite a few years and if it ever comes up in conversation I say I'm single, would never describe it as I'm divorced... Mmmmm you have me pondering, I am going to my profile now to change it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    They even have Salted Caramel Magnums - disgusting! To me, Magnums are the original, the white chocolate and the Ego. That should have been it, but nooooo.... along come all these wanky De Graves Lane hipster flavours.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    since there was some discussion about this, I've been tossing up what to select. Although I proudly call myself single and would be happy to show that on here, I don't and for this reason. If I'm looking at a profile, let's say the guy is 35 just for this example. If he has been married and is currently separated or divorced, I like to know that, it tells me something about him. So what does it tell me about him? Keep in my mind this is just thoughts as I'm viewing, but it suggests to me he is now free as a bird to explore his sexuality, sexual liberation/exploration, they usually come out of the gates horny lol I did 😛 also suggests he is honest, not married and displaying single, that he will be fresh and excited by all this sexy stuff on offer, appreciate the experience, appreciate me, lots of reasons. So I choose to offer that information in reverse, give as much information as I can, within the bounds of what we can on here, being up front is important to me. What you see is what you get. I do think it is sometimes perceived as having baggage, and the old stereotype assumptions where it is assumed my husband cheated on me and dumped me, leaving me devo 😏 for now, I'll leave it displayed as divorced, but a really good question because I've been thinking about this re how long? No clue. I'll be reading other comments with interest

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    The issue,there is also separated..A status that is a bit in the land of limbo.....neither one thing or the twother..:)Q

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  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    9 years ago

    But I label myself as single. I am not going back there, there is zero interest in any type of reconnecting with my ex. I have disengaged so I see myself as single. Seperated, right or wrong, to me sounds like there is a possibility of reconciliation . But that wouldn't be a barrier to me engaging with a person. That's their business. Hopefully they would just be honest about their situation. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Mrs LAL I liked your honest comment. Combined with other comments suggesting bias or judgements about status, it makes me wonder how we judge based on the gender of the profile also. I was for a short time 'very' attached 😉not on this site I don't think, pretty sure I was separated when I joined here, still living in the same house, but separated. Re married, I stress a very short time, but displaying as such, I was swamped. Fresh meat and a desperate married woman, a tasty morsel actively hunted 😀 displaying as married didn't do me any harm at all, the exact opposite. Heady days 😜 but a man either married or separated, gets judged, and not being snippy about that, we all judge based on our preferences and their order of importance I guess 😃 so much harder for men though. I'm tired, I'm rambling 😊

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  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    9 years ago

    Who were never married but had a long term partner? They can't use 'divorced', could never use 'married'. Do long termers proceed straight to single from attached? Is attached even an option on other sites? Why do we care so much about labels? Oh wait.....some have expiry dates on them.....and some are definitely pasr their best before date 😅

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Hi i can help any woman with or after divorce, am lover & can make all women very happy, good lover & sex for long time - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    lol best before, even better after? 😉

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  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    9 years ago

    Married...Seperated.....Divorced......Single......and now Attached in chronological order as they occurred. I was simply honest, I mean who has the time for bullshit really? Just like my age ticks over every year so are the days of our lives...😊 Divorced doesn't mean defunct Seperated doesn't mean defective Single doesn't mean desperate Just as Attached doesn't make you special Married doesn't make you Forbidden Fruit You've still got to consider each person on a case by case basis and how YOU FIND THEM.

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  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    9 years ago

    I'm. Or past my use by date 😂😘 And OkeyDoke45 I feel the same way about ice-cream (and chocolate) sometimes the simpler the better.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    shouting 😕 inverted commas, they're on the keyboard 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Yes I agree with all people it's AS YOU FIND THEM 😉

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    If you have divorced as your status it means you still feel connected to your married status I think. When you are ready to put single then you are really ready to move on with your life. It's how I see it anyway.

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