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Do men actually read profiles?
July 13 2022
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Freaky_Fun
3 years ago
Fuck no 🤷♀️
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Flirty2020
3 years ago
The majority in here don’t
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RHP User
3 years ago
Some actually do and you get a really nice well thought out message. These guys are the ones I usually meet. As for the others, it becomes really frustrating but Ive started just ignoring them and deleting their dick pics or messages. One or two will return with abuse, it just shows them up. These ones are the ones that pop up on the forums having a pop at women for not answering messages or ignoring them.
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Libertine001
3 years ago
It's a wonder men and women actually meet up at all on this site with all this tarring going on...🤔 Libertine.
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RHP User
3 years ago
No they do not. 🤨 It’s a very visual demonstration about the entitlement of men. “No” just means push harder, coerce or gaslight. Being threatened with the C word and rape by men on this platform, after I’ve pointed out that they’ve ignored key elements/boundaries in my profile (smoking + cheating), has shown me why ‘blocking’ is now perfectly acceptable. If they don’t read my profile and still approach me, it’s clear that they don’t respect the boundaries of a woman. Which is a 🚩 NB I have been told by a small handful of men that I appreciate, that men justify this action, because it’s SO difficult to meet women online. They compartmentalise their actions by saying it’s only fair when they’re a “nice guy” and no woman will give them a chance. That IL-logic makes my brain hurt tbh.
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RHP User
3 years ago
I can only speak for myself, I do read profiles, though I can’t say I always manage to articulate a good first message 🤦🏻♂️
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2EssesExploring
3 years ago
I (m) read all profiles and if I like them well I’ll push the like button whether we may match the or they us. I feel this is ok as a like isn’t that imposing. When we are members I’ll usually refrain from messaging if I don’t think we are their cup of tea but on the odd occasion will message if we have some mutual interests to maybe discuss, but I’m very much not expecting a hook up. We too are amazed at how many people send friend requests even when we have never even conversed. It’s not just men though but mainly. Being male, I understand somewhat the fuckery that goes on in our brains. Can’t say I’m immune to it but definitely aware that some of our thought processes seem to naturally be incompatible with achieving our desired outcomes. A few times we have tried to find a compatible “nice” man to share some good times with, we have got close a few times only to have the man drop his guard and show that the “niceness” was all a play to just get a body part inside another. Sure we may all say that’s ultimately where we want to end up but we all have different needs to fulfil and the dick in hole should come after those needs are met. I equally enjoy and am frustrated by our online experience but ultimately it makes me appreciate what we have when it’s just us two. I just have to accept others actions will influence how people react to me/us and we just hang around until we bump into those that we are meant to explore with. Those times have mostly been well worth the annoying bits.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
When I am searching for a play partner, (I am not at the moment ) I find that some men do read my profile. Those men are the ones I want to attract. It quite quickly sorts the hay from the chaff.
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ddlbm
3 years ago
Maybe too much time spent at the gym and porn hub and not enough time interacting with people in the real world . It amazes me how entitled some men feel just because they have a six pack . I personally prefer emotional intelligence, charm and wit .
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RHP User
3 years ago
It is very frustrating. Don’t know why they have any age and criteria as anyone can seem to message. I just delete now. At first I would politely message back but you would be on there all day. I am very specific on my profile about what I’m looking for,. If they don’t take the time to read I don’t take the time to reply. Simple
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Obi1kenietzsche
3 years ago
Being an aficionado of the Forums, I have, undoubtedly along with many others, read with great interest the plethora of various viewpoints (and responses) regarding the actions of my fellow men on this platform. Whilst I do concur that the behaviour of “some” men is inappropriate within the context of “normal” social interaction, and (of course) subsequently wish that said men would act otherwise for the betterment of everyone’s experience here, the fact remains that this is not what mainstream society would deem a “normal” platform for everyday interaction. Indeed paint it anyway you want, but in truth this is a site where men and women engage predominantly for the purposes and pursuit of sexual enjoyment and fulfilment. But as the inevitable gasps of indignation fade over morning coffees, and fingers reach for keyboards, please consider that this is not a “mundane” site like Facebook etc, and nor was it ever meant to be. And whilst we all here for myriad reasons, and whilst we all bring our own ideologies and rights of expectation along with us, the underlying function of this site endures, irrespective of social norms and moral correctness. The paradoxical danger here for men as a cohort on a “sex based site”, is that their integrity is diluted by a minority using the luxury of anonymity and a perceived non requirement for the core aspects that underpin any meaningful sexual connection. But whilst it is indeed distressing to see the effects of inconsiderate and disrespectful behaviour by “some” men here, I also believe that this behaviour is NOT indicative of the MAJORITY of men, and care should be taken to not tar nor condemn said other men with the same brush, nor feather them accordingly. Yes, there are those men who overstep, and hide behind the purpose of this site to justify their behaviour, thus perpetuating the notions of entitlement, misogyny and patriarchy (subjects that have of late been oft discussed on the forums), but there are a vast number of others who hold their masculinity well, and their presence should also be remembered. And please note that grandstanding or virtue signalling can go fuck itself, for that is not the intent of this post. The reality here is that we are all ingredients in the Pie, and the recipe is, by human nature, diverse and ever changing. So ignore the distasteful bits (although sometimes difficult to do), and savour the ones more to your discerning taste, for shouting at the chef, although cathartic, will not enhance your dining experience. Obi1
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Libertine001
3 years ago
Obi are you running for the next election?
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Ex007
3 years ago
Well, I must say that’s not my experience at all. I get many many tasteful messages from wonderful kind men of all ages. I’ve made so many friends from all over Australia. Some I’ve messaged and spoken to for years but never met. Such kind and caring souls I have a lot of time for. I don’t accept friend requests but it’s quite simple to delete them. It's not a big deal. However, if I’m able to I message them to say I don’t accept friend requests but if they would like to chat they are welcome to. RHP is a wonderful platform. As a customer, if it’s not serving you, you can always take your time and money elsewhere.
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Hiluxman1
3 years ago
Yes we do!
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RHP User
3 years ago
I have over 60 men in my ignored box. I've ran out of patience and I don't have time for people who cannot read or string a sentence together. There are plenty of women who do the same, go find them and be stupid together.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Simply yes. Yes they do if they do not feel intimidated, only here for the visuals, chat or icecream. Go figure 🤦♀️
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RHP User
3 years ago
I always read profiles
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2EssesExploring
3 years ago
Oh OP we have gone through many iterations of our profile and have worked out the following - the more photos and the sexier they are the more unwanted attention you get. - the more words in your profile the less unwanted attention you get. Might help - we love your sexy photos by the way but are not on your wish list (profile read)
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RHP User
3 years ago
I read all profiles I plan to attempt to interact with, but I guess attraction for me is deeper than looks alone, and so I want to get an idea of what the other person is looking for and whether I think we’d click, otherwise I’m not interested in wasting either parties time! :)
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RHP User
3 years ago
Maybe 🤔 look at other options out there? Where this kind of behaviour isn’t acceptable?
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AgeingHam
3 years ago
Men visit and like regardless. Women are so flooded with men that they often don't even visit other profiles. I am generally visited by straight white men, which is curious indeed
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Lovetotouch
3 years ago
I read them, I don’t message women that don’t match or say they don’t want want I offer. I suppose after reading this post, is the reason women don’t reply to my messages. Maybe they think is blokes are all them same!!
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Letslaughtogethr
3 years ago
I do! So anecdotally, yes.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Who knows. But not many women read profiles
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RHP User
3 years ago
I read the profile and I ask them to read my. We are on a very particular app. You would be a fool not to read someone’s profile. And if everyone was honest about what they put on there. Then it’s even more important to read.
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FunwithSandS
3 years ago
I think reading is the first test. If any potential playmates haven’t bothered to afford you that courtesy, surely that’s the first screen. Any others don’t warrant a reply. Annoying? Of course, but you can’t control them. You can only control you xxx
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yes! Speaking for myself though
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RHP User
3 years ago
Reading profile is like time waste for men
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RHP User
3 years ago
Hi I’m 34 looking for an older man to fulfil my fantasy
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RHP User
3 years ago
I do
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RHP User
3 years ago
Of course ,
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RHP User
3 years ago
I think that was back around 1991….
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Gentlelovers
3 years ago
Some do and some don’t,similar to couples on here some do read and some don’t.
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RHP User
3 years ago
As though primal instinct is something to be ashamed of. Men think differently to women and that’s that. I suspect the issue lies in the mechanics of the site. Men are lured to pay for a hook up tonight (see the marketing and emails). So how do they behave and what do they expect for their dollar? The behaviour of many females is just as poor in return - many profiles have scant information of use and are set up in a way that speaks a giant fuck you to men. Mindset changes every experience so I feel there’s a common ground somewhere. Anyway. That’s how these sites work and stay profitable. That won’t change until someone altruistically starts a not for profit one.
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Elizabethhenry
3 years ago
The block button works fine for us. Any single male that engages us on the site gets blocked, sorry boys. Not sorry.
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Timmco
3 years ago
Yes I do as I’m looking for a particular type of woman or coupl
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MissRedFox
3 years ago
Meh don't read my profile and I won't respond to your message. Quick way of weeding out the duds. What does annoy me is men who whine about women who don't respond.....but this is one of the reasons why
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RHP User
3 years ago
I literally just had a man I was exchanging messages with, who appeared respectful, send me unsolicited dick pics and pics of him fucking a woman. The two things listed in my profile IN CAPS. Fuck off!!!!
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RHP User
3 years ago
I read the profiles which is why I don’t contact anyone! 🤣🤣🤣
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yep it helps you getting to know your potential partner. And hopefully what she’s into.
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RHP User
3 years ago
It's not just men who don't read people's profiles trust me I understand where you're coming from yes it can be annoying I think everyone on here gets annoyed with it.
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RHP User
3 years ago
True
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RHP User
3 years ago
I don't think many do. If they do they actually respond with what they can bring to the table. I mean I would prefer to hook up with women but it appears most are bots or wanting a free ride no sex just making money lol. Girls gotta do... If we just wrote what we want like I have on my profile then why does it still attract numpty hopefuls that you just block anyway lol
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Mr_Brozzie
3 years ago
I find most PEOPLE don't. Men or women and even couples. They check the pics and go straight from there. You can see that most of the profiles do not write on theirs. How can we expect them to read? Most go for the pics and then complain about other stuff that could have been avoided if they only had read the profile. It is much like Facebook markets: you say you are selling a chocolate cake slice for 5 dollars, and the questions are: -how much? -is that a cake? -can I have a strawberry? -I know someone selling cheaper. -how many slices for 5? Same here... oh and the classic: "is it still available? (Let's meet?). You say yes and they disappear. 👻 hahaha Would love to hear ideas on how we can change that... Maybe the profiles with less text have the most success. Maybe?!
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Geoff77
3 years ago
I always read the profile and i am always respectful
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RHP User
3 years ago
There's most likely plenty of respectful men looking for what this site is suggestive of. Im sure some are left in the dust as they stumble with first comments and trying to not be the "average , no respect for woman " guy. I have been guiltynof that for sure . I think the best option is to read the profile of the messager and just delete if it doesnt suit you. Option to block so you dont get the abusive countermeasure from the pig who sent it . All these type of men will expose themselves pretty quickly anyway
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RHP User
3 years ago
OMG !!! You poor baby 😳🤷♂️😂😂😂
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RHP User
3 years ago
I for one definitely read every word of every profile I look at, yes this is a sex site but I still want to have a connection (other than body parts) with the person I'm with so reading their likes and dislikes is kind of imperative for that to happen. What's disappointing though, is taking the time to read a profile, send a message with DECENT content (no dick pics, "hi" or "wanna fuck?") only to see the person check your profile then not even bother to reply to the message. If my messages were the above ho-hum sort of shit then fair enough, but a well thought out message that makes it clear you've taken the time to read, understand and respect their bio, surely this deserves a common courtesy reply, even to politely decline. For those who say they receive too many and it would take too long, write one message and simply cut and paste - again, if we've taken the time to read your profile, the least you can do is take 30 seconds to reply!
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Obi1kenietzsche
3 years ago
Given that a “no reply at all” AND nasty subsequent responses from a “thanks, but no thanks” response seem to be issues of irritation here, what about a generic reply option that simply says; “RHP advise that the recipient of your recent message thanks you for you interest, but unfortunately it is a very polite no from them. We trust that you are not too disappointed however, and hope that you find future success with another one of our very many members. Sincerely RHP” If the recipient selects this generic reply option, then the original sender is automatically blocked. That way it’s a automatic feature and not personal. This would also provide the original sender with a definitive reply, AND protect the recipient from any subsequent “wah wah” messages. Just a thought? Obi1
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RHP User
3 years ago
Great idea Obi1... you need to be the CEO of RHP!! Got my vote!👍
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RHP User
3 years ago
I read profiles
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RHP User
3 years ago
Do what’s this forum for? 😂
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yes, I wonder the same of women. They tend to look at pictures and nothing else in my experience 😅
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Lucifer94
3 years ago
I love reading some profiles so of u gal’s are a crack up and quick witted
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Lolitalover
3 years ago
Obviously most of them don't. Why do I get messages from guys on the other side of the country? And if they actually have photos, they demonstrate that they haven't read, or ignored, my likes & dislikes. But it's not just this kind of site- I sell clothing to women online, and constantly get orders from women who've liked the photos, not read the measurements, and then want to return them because they didn't fit! There are just too many illiterates in this world!
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lovinlife53
3 years ago
I certainly do, I'm getting very few replies 2 out of 3 were scammers and one was in Japan!!!! Some blokes just dont follow instructions, fortunately i do. Message me and see if were a match!
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RHP User
3 years ago
I read every profile here. I don't on Tinder.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Trust me being a cuck female, couples or the male of the couples struggle to read also grrr
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RHP User
3 years ago
I do read ... my profile description is not the best, I really find it so hard to talk about and market your self here, tho I love writing. I am not good at writing or talking about my self, I am much more interested in learning about other people. That said, a well written profile demonstrates intelligence and depth, the opposite demonstrates shallowness. I like intelligence and depth = better connections.
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RHP User
3 years ago
No. Tits and arse works better. Im a visual kinda guy
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KorGez
3 years ago
i read everyones bio that im interested in as i hate wasting mine and someone elses time
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RHP User
3 years ago
Yes, every female and couple profile I read from top to bottom.
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