M65
Failures Corner
February 14 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
About your profile. Generally I like it, you've got a variety of photos that show what you're passionate about which seems to be travelling and adventure. The separation thing might be an issue for some but I don't think that would be the main thing - are you recently separated? One thing that would put me off as a female say you're into meets not into chats. That's your preference and that's fine but a lot of women want to get to know someone before they meet. And if they are playing with someone on a regular basis they want those chats in between to maintain connection. Also and again it's your preference but some ladies won't be interested in someone who is happy to have an affair or be a sugar daddy to a young hottie. You location and age does cut down your chances greatly. You've only been on since December give it time. Guys half your age with great profiles in larger cities have sometimes taken months for the first meet. Looking at it as "scoring" a meet isn't that attractive to be honest. Go with the flow and don't put too much emphasis on it. Only message women you're really interested in and it will happen at some point. Put up a date finder and see what happens. Good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
In part answered your own question...there are few women from North Queensland here and the men by far out number the women. I like your pics but IMO you look older than your stated age. Yours is a common complaint here,in the world of RHP two months is not that long.Why not contribute to the forums,make some connections that way and good luck Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for that. You're right about using the word "scoring". I hesitated when I wrote that but the language was, I thought, more in line with this site. Does go to show how little things put people off. Needs care.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...saying ''since December'' really isn't much time at all so be patient and be yourself. Too if you spend enough time texting and talking on the phone, there is a wonderful new invention called an airplane and going on an adventure to meet a special woman can be a lot of fun! Best...... CM
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aussian43
9 years ago
I think I was on here for three months before my first meet (when I was travelling). I have a similar problem of living in a relatively small town. Seem to have more luck when traveling. It is rare that I would get any interest from the datefinder/travel tools. I would start a few weeks before the trip with messaging potential matches. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...until you quit Maybe "work in progress corner" would be a better fit
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was one of the women you messaged and I told you I was looking for local regular meets. So I hope you didn't think I was being terse. I get a lot of messages every day and i haven't got time to reply with long messages. Also my profile states what age guy i am looking for. Hope this message clears things up because i dont want to appear rude. Good luck😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm on my second three month stint. Joined back in April last year. Met one lady, just for lunch. Got yo talk with another by phone. That was all that happened in that time I let it lapse for three to four months. Curiosity got the better of me. So I re joined for three months. Not met one person this time. My membership finishes early March. I doubt I'll re join again I've just tried to work it out. I get five messages per day. I'd say I'd send on average four a day (over the whole period). That's an estimated 350 messages. For a reply of less than 5%. I can honestly say that more than 3/4 of my messages match the person criteria/profile. I do know I've sent them that it's asnt been a match (hey, I couldn't help myself) I've said this before. From my experiences. Couples respond the most I've still got a few weeks to go, I'm not giving up. Yet Cheers GB
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think your profiles awesome.Maybe they feel a bit intimidated by your compulsive over achieving ? (tongue in cheek) There are a few other things I won't mention here but........ keep on keeping on buddy. If you travel a bit, try and get to a meet and greet because I reckon your conversation would be ice breaking.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Well, my advices are: 1) Do not complain, or whinge, about your unsuccessful experience on RHP! It is unattractive when people complain or whinge! And that unattractiveness is actually damaging one's name on the site instead, as it becomes a deal breaker for some women, especially the younger age women! So, do not damage your own "brand" with your own words! 2) Be patient! Many people on this site are real people, they have a life outside RHP and clearly, RHP is not their first priority. 3) Know your target audience. Be accepting of the reality that age isn't just a number to some women. I don't know about other women, who are in their 30s, but for me, any man who is 10 years and more older than me is not my type, because of a few reasons and one of them is, my youngest uncles are aged in their early 50s. That would feel so weird for me to hook up with men in their 50s! Therefore, if you message women who aren't into men your age, chances of you convincing them to change their minds is slim! 4) Take RHP exactly the same way as you would take the meeting scene in the real world. Cyber world is no different than the real world! People still have preferences and beauty must meet their eyes first, right? So yeah, be accepting that not many women would jump at any chance to have sex, just because they get the offer 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
agree with a lot of what has already been said. Also, you say you often message the people who have viewed you. Are you checking first that you meet their looking for criteria? Just because someone views your profile doesn't mean they're interested, that's why I'm glad RHP has the option to look at profiles anonymously. It's a bit annoying to look at someone's profile and then a minute later you get a message from them, and it's clear that they either haven't read your profile or they have and chose to ignore your preferences.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
It's only been a few months, so hang in there and go with the flow. Males on this site, vastly outnumber females & couples, and so there is a lot of competition. On the flip side of the coin, we have arranged several meet & greets (drinks) with single males from here. We have also had a 2 dozen or so single guys approaching (messaging) us and setting up a meet & greet (drinks) with us, on their request / instigation / invitation. Of all of these (perhaps 40 or 50 in total over the past 3 years ) only 3 have ever bothered to turn up. It has never been a "train smash" for us, because we have always suggested / arranged that they meet us, at a venue we were already going to, on the night in question. That way it does not inconvenience us at all if they don't arrive (of course we never told them that) When the "no shows" have then re-appeared out of the woodwork, requesting another meet & greet, we have declined their invitation. Once bitten, twice shy, as the saying goes. If you are polite, courteous, respectful and patient, good things will come to you in time, perhaps even when you least expect it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks for all your feedback, people. These are the messages: 1. Don't whinge (didn't mean it to look like that! Just learning); 2. Be patient; and 3. The "forum people" are probably the most genuine of the members. You care enough to help!
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Is relative. Joined in December hey? Thats about the same time of the year most people start the strange behaviours brought about by incessant visits to the shops, too many parties, tired and fractious children are released into the wild by their handlers (AKA teachers), vigorous debates about food and functions break out...and a fat man in a red & white suit comes avisiting. Then we get to the insanity of New Years...which is closely followed by the annual pilgrimage to the beach which lasts anything from a week to a month. The end of the pilgrimage is marked by yet another party at the end of January. So..........what I am trying to say is the time you chose to join has coincided with the time many people are turning their focus to Real Life. You may have had quite unrealistic expectations as to what response you should have had during that period. But then again you may always have that level of expectation.....time will tell. 😊
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem' Well, my advices are: 1) Do not complain, or whinge, about your unsuccessful experience on RHP! It is unattractive when people complain or whinge! And that unattractiveness is actually damaging one's name on the site instead, as it becomes a deal breaker for some women, especially the younger age women! So, do not damage your own "brand" with your own words! 2) Be patient! Many people on this site are real people, they have a life outside RHP and clearly, RHP is not their first priority. 3) Know your target audience. Be accepting of the reality that age isn't just a number to some women. I don't know about other women, who are in their 30s, but for me, any man who is 10 years and more older than me is not my type, because of a few reasons and one of them is, my youngest uncles are aged in their early 50s. That would feel so weird for me to hook up with men in their 50s! Therefore, if you message women who aren't into men your age, chances of you convincing them to change their minds is slim! 4) Take RHP exactly the same way as you would take the meeting scene in the real world. Cyber world is no different than the real world! People still have preferences and beauty must meet their eyes first, right? So yeah, be accepting that not many women would jump at any chance to have sex, just because they get the offer 😁 - Posted from rhpmobile ........especially about not damaging your own brand with your own words.
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On_Safari
9 years ago
I've been here 7yrs and still haven't met anyone!!! I'm a FAILURE!!!! Sorry OP thought I'd lighten the mood ~ "scoring" a Meet isn't easy for us girls either. Most guys shot thensekves in the foot before it gets to that OR they bail last minute OR they just don't show and disappear into the vapours like the Holy Ghost 👻 Meet & Greets are good for an adventure and a trip away....there's one coming up in Brissy in a few months. You should come along. Oh and welcome to the Sandpit. Indy On Safari 👍🏽
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RHP User
9 years ago
Or maybe visit some east european countries and come back with a hottie, or asia or south america or even algeria ir morroco in africa. You got money and live in lucky australia many women from developing countries wanna come here. I can go back to my native country in africa and visit my tribal people and get married this coming weekend 100 percent. I just like the challenge here. And its fun. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
And I agree with 50z guy,if you went to the brissy meet and greet ,going by your pics your a good looking man and you would be an awesome conversationalist ,those pics are awesome,so much to talk about in them ,,am I asking too much at the end ,and the little bit about affairs doesn't really win me ,but then again I'm a dude ,so I don't count ,lol Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' I've been here 7yrs and still haven't met anyone!!! I'm a FAILURE!!!! Sorry OP thought I'd lighten the mood ~ "scoring" a Meet isn't easy for us girls either. Most guys shot thensekves in the foot before it gets to that OR they bail last minute OR they just don't show and disappear into the vapours like the Holy Ghost 👻 Meet & Greets are good for an adventure and a trip away....there's one coming up in Brissy in a few months. You should come along. Oh and welcome to the Sandpit. Indy On Safari 👍🏽
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RHP User
9 years ago
Virtually every person I have met, has themselves shown up at a meet and greet at some point. I didn't necessarily meet them there first, but it shows their willingness to actually talk to and meet people in real life. I also agree that messaging other stranger's profiles directly, can be a very long and lonely road with almost complete lack of replies or interest regardless of your effort. So I have made sure I showed at every invited meeting, attended every meet and greet I can. It at least gives you hope that there are real people on the site willing to talk to you, if not spend further time with you, and then you can not put as much personal worries on the lack of replies from messaging.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm going to be blunt here, not to hurt you but to give you honest feedback. You do have a great profile, except with regard to the line about not having had much success here on RHP - I would get rid of that ASAP. I can attest to the fact that you don't send 'dumb' messages. The one that I received from you was polite, engaging and informative. And for me personally, your location is not an issue. So why didn't I reply? You're out of my age range, simple as that. Sweetgem put it very well in her third point: "Know your target audience. Be accepting of the reality that age isn't just a number for some women". Call me shallow for only wanting to interact within in a certain age range - I won't argue with you. The fact is that everyone on RHP is entitled to their preferences, and if that's considered being shallow I'm not going to argue the point. I wish all the best on here, I think you have a lot to offer the right woman i.e. someone who meets your criteria and whose criteria you meet. Be patient and keep posting in the forums... there are some wonderful people here :)
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On_Safari
9 years ago
I'll whisper in your ear 😘
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RHP User
9 years ago
Before I met anyone off here. So dont give up!
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RHP User
9 years ago
but I'm going to agree with Q here, I think you look older than your age, absolutely no offence intended, some people do, but be sure to have your correct age displayed. Your facial hair isn't going to be to everyone's taste either. Regardless of age or anything else, that alone would be a no from me, so again, it might sound harsh, but it's real, not sugar coating, giving actual feedback about possible or personal contributing factors, that's all. You sound genuine and nice, respectful, my business model lol for better or worse is to dot the i's and cross the t's as far as my profile being accurate, make it easy for people, remove any question marks where possible. Agree with above about not being negative either, positivity is endearing, and sometimes women will warm to you given time, particularly in the forum, not limited to, or where you can get to know people, either 'virtually' or in the flesh, whatever works best for you. My 2 cents, good luck
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