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Fake ages on profiles
June 12 2018
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't know about a default age being applied, but as for not being able to change it, I don't believe that story as I'm able to edit my age at any time, if i wanted to. Unless there is a difference between membership levels? - Posted from rhpmobile
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usrightnow_Again
8 years ago
Oh gosh, we posted comments in 2016, with our original profile on this subject. We are always of the mind, if you can't be honest with yourself, it's unlikely you'll be honest with others. There are people who actually think they look younger than their age, in reality, very few do. Others think they can fudge a couple of years and people will accept it. Some do it to fit within specific search criteria, scared they'll miss out otherwise. All shows remarkable vanity. In our original profile we were a few months older on our profile ages than our actual ages, not many do that. And, for the record, we are fifty and forty-eight. Listing as a hundred each this time around, as we aren't looking for playmates or a relationship, here for the Forums and support friends and those we know. The only excuse I've ever heard that we found acceptable, was a wonderful woman who moved her age by I think two years because a close relative was on here. Hi from us, think you are still out there. I'm always amused by the condescending, but it's not the real world. However, there are real people, with real profiles, real hopes, and real feelings. As they say, you dodged a bullet. Enjoy your rhp experience and don't let others define it negatively. Mr. urn. .
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RHP User
8 years ago
We can change all sorts of things on our profiles, including age, I don't see the point. Is it really worth the angst they create? I'm guessing he blocked because he knew he had no chance anyway, and didn't want to cop the consequences of his lie. Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
If he really was 42 and could prove it, would you have still been interested? If not, what was the point of calling him out on his age? Yes you were 100% right on your judgement, but what did you achieve by calling him out on it? Obviously you're completely entitled to have personal preferences on ages, but for me personally when I'm looking at profiles, I'm either attracted/interested enough to know more or I'm not - I take nothing for granted - anything on that profile could be incorrect. Once I've figured out if something's a deal breaker, I just politely decline and move on. Being confrontational over someone you're not going to have anything to do with seems like just waste of time and emotional energy - Age to me is just an indicator as to where some people might be at in life. I had a class mate at 13 years of age could grow a proper beard - he looked early 20's at 13, dude looks nearly 50 now (by my own preconceived notion of what 50 might be...) - people will either be attracted to him or they won't be. From that, I don't take anyone's pics and ages to be 100% correlation of truth. My main concern is that their pictures are a relatively accurate representation of what they look like now - if I see picture of Jennifer Aniston in their profile claiming to be Jen, then I damn well hope and pray its really Jen when I meet up :D :D :D Now I realise if you're potentially looking for a long-term partner age is of somewhat importance - so I'm not trying to invalidate your want to find someone in your age range (even if you aren't looking long-term), and someone advertising themselves as 16 years younger than who they really are seems quite odd, but it seems clear to me if he was prepared to make that claim about himself then it's probably something he could be quite sensitive and insecure about and by you calling him out on it has triggered that response (not saying he had a right to be a prick, but I could have foreseen that response). For me, I just wouldn't bother with the confrontation and just let them know straight up I'm not interested (and for all I know he might have still gotten cranky and blocked you...). But to answer your actual question - yes it seems relatively common from past reading on here that there is a percentage of people that have pictures that don't match their age - which to me is just a reflection that there's a percentage of people in real life that have personal insecurities as to how old they've gotten. I'd just be more concerned and upset with the people that are 58, claim to be 42, and used a picture of themselves when they were 42, and you waste your time meeting up with them only to find out the truth then.
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RHP User
8 years ago
on here as SOOO many men lie about their age! And their height too.When you've stated on your profile that you're 178cm but it's obvious when we meet up that you're only 172cm you will lose me and all interest I had in you immediately.OP, I didn't look at your profile to see what state you live in (I'm in VIC) but I wonder if the guy that lied to you was one of the same guys that lied to me - it all sounds so familiar.Another man I corresponded with a few years ago claimed he was one age but turned out to be 11 years older!!That became clear when he was telling me how long he'd been in the workforce and the math didn't add up.I queried it and he concocted some crap filled yarn about why he'd chosen to place a false age on his profile.I discontinued that online chat straight away!
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RHP User
8 years ago
The old, "I put in my real age but the site keeps putting this much younger age in and I can't change it". Just too funny, I get messages from guys in the 40's, I reply I am seeking someone closer to my age...thanks And they reply with the above. I suggest they contact the Help line to have it changed.....they never do. Dont know why they feel they need to lie, to me it just screams, if you lie about your age, what else are you lying about? There is one guy on a few sites...age changes depending on the sites, so far I have seen his pics with 48, 53, 64 and he is actually 68. Who could be bothered ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'vampavibe' on here as SOOO many men lie about their age! And their height too.When you've stated on your profile that you're 178cm but it's obvious when we meet up that you're only 172cm you will lose me and all interest I had in you immediately.OP, I didn't look at your profile to see what state you live in (I'm in VIC) but I wonder if the guy that lied to you was one of the same guys that lied to me - it all sounds so familiar.Another man I corresponded with a few years ago claimed he was one age but turned out to be 11 years older!!That became clear when he was telling me how long he'd been in the workforce and the math didn't add up.I queried it and he concocted some crap filled yarn about why he'd chosen to place a false age on his profile.I discontinued that online chat straight away! i dont need to explain why i confronted him for being a liar but thank you for pointing that out
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'ruby_blossum' The old, "I put in my real age but the site keeps putting this much younger age in and I can't change it". Just too funny, I get messages from guys in the 40's, I reply I am seeking someone closer to my age...thanks And they reply with the above. I suggest they contact the Help line to have it changed.....they never do. Dont know why they feel they need to lie, to me it just screams, if you lie about your age, what else are you lying about? There is one guy on a few sites...age changes depending on the sites, so far I have seen his pics with 48, 53, 64 and he is actually 68. Who could be bothered ? Yes it is annoying that they lie about their ageWhat happens if you actually meet them and see they are much olderI understand when you are older you still have the desire but honextley i heard i cant change it excuse and it annoys me!Love being told what i should think too lol
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nightingale8
8 years ago
I am happy. A 16 year gap from the truth is laughable. I would just laugh at the fact he thought he would get away with it. I see the person, not the age. It doesn't matter to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Liar liar pants on fire... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
its a 29 year age gap you should do your Maths loli dont want to date my grandpa too wierd
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RHP User
8 years ago
Err, hang on....you'd be flat out having a 58yo grandpa.You're not that young..
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RHP User
8 years ago
My post was was calling the guy who lied to you out on his lying.... And also addressing “notmyrealname”... Way I see it, you asked him as your gut told you something weren’t right....that gave him an opportunity to be honest and say “oh yeah I fucked up and don’t know how to change it” but instead he chose to get defensive until he HAD to come clean....that’s not a sign of a genuine fuck up....that’s a sign of “I’m horny and will do anything I can to get laid” So my question to gramps would now be “what else are you not telling people?? Liar liar pants on fire!!” - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s to beat the filter, mines set to I think 45 years, so anyone older doesn’t show in my results - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally agree creating drama around yourself for what point ? First world issue just be kind wish them luck and move on you can’t control anyone just your reaction ... as Ellen says ... be kind to one another - Posted from rhpmobile
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Minx99
8 years ago
..cos I wanted to be captured in the under 40s search/match range that I know many young men think is their scary upper limit. However I was positive I could persuade them that over 40 was still as attractive! (imagine a man saying that?! I took liberties, and I apologise) I was 39 for a few years there... Now I just don't care, truth is out. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Ive just turned 55, love being me and cant see the point in lying about my age or anything else. I met a guy recently who looked younger than his age but had his real age on his profile. He could have shaved a few years off no bother. But at the end of the day its a bit like fraud?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yep I agree it’s fraud... Whilst it may not be a financial gain by deception it’s still an intent to misrepresent for the purposes of personal gain.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
8 years ago
We met on a well know dating site, a few months after I ended a long term relationship.After a few nights phone chatting, he was taking me out on a date.Had a few wines to calm the nerves waiting for him to turn up and as he walked down the driveway, I said - Geez the years havn't been kind to you have they???? We had a good laugh about it - his profile pic wasnt current and his profile age was out by 8 years...... But it was a fabulous 12 months we spent together and remained good friends till he sadly passed 2 years ago P
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