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Finding peace
May 29 2018
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youngbrownguy
8 years ago
Well accept and face your challenges, meditation is excellent of cleaning your mind from all negative powers. Try to avoid mobile social sites laptop I mean try to avoid distraction and focus on your work. Try to make a list what you like to do. If you drink them go for drink but not much. Try to exercise and gym or yoga. Most important look after your self always eat on time because people stop eating in stress and then they get sick and it makes you worse. I'm sure everyone have problems in their life no one is happy in this world doesn't matter how rich they are. So try to take it easy good days comes and go. I know I can't understand your situation what you going through but it happens so look at yourself. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
What kind of dramas? Do you mean relationships or? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
to my life lol
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nightingale8
8 years ago
*Bad joke alert - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I suggest to choose wisely what drama to become involved in........"not my circus,not my monkeys" and live by it
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RHP User
8 years ago
But I feel the closest you can get to peace within oneself is to accept who and what we are no matter what.
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Walk away from trouble if you can''. Okay, okay - the context is all wrong (young man trying to heed his fathers' advice about not fighting, young mans' girl is assaulted, young man exacts revenge in a cliffhanger final verse) but there you go. If you're trying to fix you own problems in your own life, work out which ones you can just walk away from, which ones are worth trying to sort, which ones might pay off but after way too much grief in the meantime. Life is cluttered and busy these days - it seems a hell of a lot more in recent times - it really takes some effort to just close yourself off from unnecessary worries. It is possible though. If you're trying to fix other people's problems as well as your own, and I know quite a few people who do this - try to fix people - then bugger them. Look after yourself first and foremost. As the old saying goes, how are you supposed to make others happy when you are not happy yourself?
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RHP User
8 years ago
There's a book called "The subtle art of not giving a f***". Not sure if it's entirely relevant in this case and I haven't read it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
About other people's problems or strife, let them find their own solutions. And don't let them drag you into stuff that doesn't directly involve you. Take an objective look at the dramas, who is involved, and your part in it. Sometimes... we drag ourselves into dramas. I always remember the saying - not every action deserves a reaction. Distance yourself from other people's shite, and try not to cause shite for other people.
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RHP User
8 years ago
but I do like Pangolin28's comment within this thread..........tend to agree.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch' There's a book called "The subtle art of not giving a f***". Not sure if it's entirely relevant in this case and I haven't read it. - Posted from rhpmobile I actually bought this book, got the gist by the end of the first chapter, didn't read it any further. A great ethos, but easily conveyed.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I bought that book on the recommendation of my niece but haven’t read it yet so good to know At the OP it is hard to give advice when you weren’t specific but I would say Learn to say no and stand by it Learn to walk away from it and make a conscious effort not to contribute in any form to drama Accept there are things you cannot change Ask yourself will this issue matter in a years time People can only take advantage of you and cause drama with you in it if you let them Be nice and let your actions reflect your words
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RHP User
8 years ago
Pick your battles. You can't save the world so don't try Accept what you can't change. By "accept" I don't always mean "like"; some things are shitty and we can't change them, but we can accept the reality. Don't sweat the small stuff. Most of if rarely matters and isn't worth getting worked up over. Learn to say 'no'. Find some joy every day. It doesn't matter how small or inconsequential. Ditch people who bring you down. Eat healthy. You will feel better. Go to bed an hour earlier. You will be amazed how better equipped you are to face the world when properly rested. - Posted from rhpmobile
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usrightnow_Again
8 years ago
It's life, there'll be drama, I gather it quietens down after it's finished. 😁 Oh, and what pip. said. Learn to say no, understand everyone is just a person like you, realise there are some people you have to distance yourself from, don't be scared to do that. Detail matters, let others court the obvious. And know when to pause.That said, I seem to attract it even when I'm locked in the house. Mr. urn. .
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RHP User
8 years ago
I’ve had a few issues of late. Was struggling. Took myself to the Dr. He prescribed these tablets. Tell you what, they work. I’m no chemist. I believe, they’ve got some form of Valium in them I believe I still function, normally. I don’t know, how they work, but they do This is my situation. This is what’s working for me
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RHP User
7 years ago
Please share. Right now just know there is another woman out there doing the frying pan-fire dance and feeling a little heart bruised for the efforts. My thinking, it’s my lack of boundaries. A lack of boundaries invites all sorts of fuckery into ones life. If peace only comes when invited, than I figure I need to go inward, what is it about me that is inviting the drama. I learned, hard this time and a little too late. Here I am, out of a new relationship that was over before it began (thankfully) recognising is toxicity earlier than usual but unsure of how to extricate myself from it. Once I love, I love with my all...not handy, not a modern way of thinking but it is me. There’s a great book by the “in chick” Brené Brown called Braving The Wildnerness. It’s the kind of book you have to be ready for. I’ve picked it up read it, thought I’d gotten some of it only to fall into one of the more toxic situations in my life inthe last four years. Here I am, heart bruised and ego battered...a bit lost but that is just for now. The phase, “This too shall pass” is one I have grown very fond of. I guess I had to ask myself what was the common theme in all this drama? The theme was me. So I’m out of the frying pan, sitting by the fire and slowly gathering myself again. I’m hurting, in ways I wish I could shut off, there has been much grief these past 10 weeks of my life....but I’m still here. Can’t decide if that’s a good or a bad thing but I’m still here. I hope this helps, the drama gets heavy and hopeless after a while and while we can all live without a great many things (love included) the absence of hope is not one of them. With love, Femme 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I saw today. See how you change, when you change how you see. I'm not sure how relevant it is OP but it did make me think.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Find you even flow and a good balance between work, rest and play. Found an outlet to get rid of unwanted negative energy
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