M56

First Meets

August 09 2021

Have chatted with female for a bit and planned to meet up. During chatting discussed what we’d planned to do together. Was quite a turn on for both of us. Invited me over and after initial passionate kissing on arrival she said she ‘wasn’t feeling it’ and didn’t wish to proceed further. Made it a little awkward so I just left. Don’t think will be pursued any further either, Has anyone else experienced this kind of thing on a first meet? Was there an explanation and how did you feel about it.? Very interested to hear if happened to others too.

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RHP User

4 years ago

I haven’t experienced it no as my first meets aren’t littered with planned sexual acts…. It’s light hearted and casual in order to gauge the connection we seem to have via messaging and phone calls….it’s merely testing the waters further before committing to something more serious. Yes it’s a moral high ground, but people I think put far too much emphasis on the destination they forget the journey they’ve had or are needing in order to reach it.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Ahh, this is exactly why I don’t like to dirty talk with strangers! Nothing worse than saying you’ll do something with someone then they turn up and for whatever reason you’re not into it. It may not have been so awkward if you both knew each other a little better and had something else to talk about.

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RHP User

4 years ago

Yeah my first ever meeting, I was the first person she chatted to online. She was also my first face to face meeting. At the time I had some significant issues at work and Wifey told me that I had to sort out my work issues before I focused on my sex life, we met for a cuppa and a chat and ended up being platonic friends who confided in each other. That was in 2013. The next was a few months ago and the only potential lover I've found on RHP. We met for a cuppa, had quite a lot in common but just not the spark she wanted.

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MsSuperFoxy

4 years ago

Why was it awkward for you. What were you expecting? A free root. 🤷‍♀️ She said she wasn't into it. She changed her mind. She's allowed too. It's embarrassing for all, more than anything. This is what happens when the build up of sexual talk happens before hand. It adds pressures and expectations, as well as builds up fantasies in your head. Ms Foxy

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FeistyFatty

4 years ago

Ive had this happen TWICE😬. Both men weren't as pleasing to the eye (or nose) upon first inspection and when I tried to overlook that and get things rolling with some kissing.... they were horrible..... hard pass/instant turn off....... said the same as your date and showed them the door.

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teamaj2

4 years ago

It’s bound to happen . We have not experienced this for awhile . Very early on we did meet someone and should have said a polite ‘lovely to meet you but it’s a no thanks ‘. We were new and we know not to do that again . Not everyone is going to ‘feel it ‘even if online chat seemed as if you were on the same page . You cant create a spark . Either you are feeling it or you are not . The girl did the right thing by not proceeding , even though it possibly was disappointing for her and perhaps awkward. I’m the one that does the online chat ( F), I often find men ask me for scenarios over and over about what I want to happen once we get intimate . Not just the basics of what we seek and boundaries , for us that is important to discuss . There is a fine line between flirting , having titillating chat and just chatting over and over with what we may love to happen on meeting . I don’t buy into that chat . I can’t promise anything . We’ve not met . We are a couple , we play as a couple and all three of us must feel the attraction mentally and physically for a successful meet up . Ax

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Alex_Lover

4 years ago

1st guy Margo ever met (after being with me 30yrs) was a coffee date, some kisses and ended getting steamy in his car with some soft sexy play for 30mins. A week later he was at our place, she thought she was ready to go much further with him. They had chatted for weeks, super hot fantasy, she had been insanely aroused... but it just didn't happen. She wasn't feeling it, she wasn't insanely aroused as she expected to be. They still played for hours in our bed, just keeping it light, mostly him pleasuring her. They both came, him twice... then he left and went a bit silly, because it wasn't the hot steamy experience he imagined it would be. That may have happened eventually, but when it took him days to say much after the event, he put a nail in that coffin. - Alex.

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SpicyKale

4 years ago

These things happen, we’ve walked from a number of first meets without it going past a drink. You never quite know if online is going to translate into real life. As the others have said, don’t set expectations too high, personally we go into a first meet with the thoughts of it only being social, but keep an open mind. On a plus side for you, good work for knowing that consent can be withdrawn at any time, before our during an encounter! There’s a lot of guys out there that still don’t get it, but it makes you a better man and example to others. Good luck going forward!

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AnnieWhichway

4 years ago

So many reasons for "not feeling it" Incompatible kissing method Incompatible hygiene method Incompatible fashion sense method Incompatible conversation method Incompatible physical presentation Incompatible piss stain on the front of pants Incompatible stuff caught in the front of teeth Incompatible nose hairs protruding I could go on....

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Ex007

4 years ago

Meet and greet ALWAYS

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RHP User

4 years ago

Lower your expectations to avoid disappointment.........easy!

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