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GPS guide to orgasm central
December 13 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah. I'm a bit like that too. If my mind isn't being stimulated as well a person can stimulate my cock for hours to no real effect... well not for hours. I get bored and think "next" hehe. Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
I should also say its also possible for me to stulate my own mind.... use my imagination... which is assisted by having sex with strangers in the dark. Lol gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
if my brains not there, my body wont go there either!!! LOL!!! read my profile and my love LoveCurvies profile it will tell you more about that! love jemma365-117-082
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RHP User
16 years ago
A mental seduction means everything to me....a dripping orgasmic delerium always follows...lol!! I don't know how naturally it comes to guys for them to do this...turn a girls brain on. After establishing a common ground with someone, I am then asked "what do you like?"....it's like here we go again...ho hum...may as well write the shopping list while I am at it....lol!! What I like is not scripted - it's fluid and mutable. Turn my brain on...lure me into temptation outside my comfort zone and god!...I will want it BAD hehe Ah...different strokes for different folks. It's all good
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey All, thanks for your feedback, glad to know there is life out there that thinks along the same lines as me....was beginning to worry :-) Vive Le Life! xox
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RHP User
16 years ago
My brain needs to be engaged to get my body into gear... Hugs Mrs P'
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RHP User
16 years ago
Just got to have your mind stimulated to get into the 'zone' and be able to let go.....mmmmmmm yummy! (Sorry, I'm a bit antsy today *giggle*)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Is this where the guy straddles the womans head and gives her brain a massage- Thought that was "Turkey Slapping" Seriously though, i'm quite the same and love a bit of mind stimulation.The difference between most blokes and women is the quality and amount of time needed to spend on said mind stimulation!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have to think about doing the tax return to stop myself from having an orgasm, if i picture the woman i am with getting it on in the shower with her girl friend its all over.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am much the same! You have to be psychologically in the mood for the physical to happen easily as well. It takes me ages to get there and i need lots of foreplay which sometimes can be frustrating for both me and my partner (i'd love to be a premature ejaculator) lol I find blindfolding can be a great way to get your head in the game so to speak lol. The only time that I ever had an orgasm through intercourse was when I was blindfolded. I think it might have had something to do with the fact that it shut out all the outside distractions for me and i was completely focused on experiencing the sensations rather than unknowingly having my mind wander. :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Do you masturbate? I suspect that many women have this problem because they don't experiment enough with masturbation. If you don't know how to get yourself off, how is any guy supposed to figure it out? I think that in early adulthood there is still a lot of shame around masturbation, and this results in common problems for men and women respectively. Many women don't masturbate, and thus don't learn how to get off. Men, however can't help but masturbate. Unfortunately it is often rushed (usually in bathroom or toilet) leading to bad habits causing premature ejaculation.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Agree with your comments Red. Over the years Ive ammassed a few items to help in deriving sexual pleasure. Assorted blindfolds, masks and hoods to name but a few. Not for my use as it is not something I enjoy, however removing distraction has proven to be a winner in the pleasure stakes. Try taking it one step further Red & deprive youself and or your partner of sensation & the standard things such as soft bondage. Not only does it stimulate the neurons, the flow-on effect to the body is...a wonder to behold! It goes without saying that to undertake such activities requires absolute trust and faith in the people involved. I am sure there are many others who will attest to the art of psychological stimulation.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Shawnie, Agree with your comments regarding masturbation. Permission to allow oneself to explore both their psychological and phsical preferences is paramount to achieving a satisfying and fullfilling sensual life. Essentially, the more information we have about ourselves & using that information constructively, the more likely we are to achieve what it is we want out of our time on this amazing planet of ours. And pleasure is definately one item I believe most humans wish to experience, again and agan and again...lol Regardless of ones beliefs,fact is that we have several organs which, when stimulated, can provide us with a 'high' unable to be substituted by chemicals, alcohol or any other manufactured substance. As with anything tho, all things in balance. Ive seen and had ample opportunities to discuss the problem some have that obsess over masturbation, result being a lot of difficulty in achieving orgasm by any other means. Not sure if there is a best practice to masturbation and or a 'healthy ratio of masturbation to actual sexual encounters' guide....maybe that elusive thing called common sense is required....lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yeah. I'm told there are quite a few women who have difficulty achieving orgasm outside of masturbation. I suspect this is may be due to the overuse of vibrators. This can be a problem because the vibrator might desensitize the clitoris, and also because a vibrator teaches very little about the type of attention required to bring about climax with a partner (most men/women don't have vibrating tongues and fingers) The vibrator can be useful for learning to control the complex set of muscles used bring about orgasm.
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RHP User
16 years ago
HeyShawnie...or is that Dr lerve?..lol Thank Goodness fingers and tongues dont vibrate..certainly dont want callouses on my most sensitive areas...doubt anyone would..lol Dont think blokes are immune to the wank wobbles! My 'research' demographic were mostly males whose adoration of stroking severely hampered orgasm from penetration alone. Whilst I didnt personally verify my diagnosis on all candidates, Im guessing a lot of what you refer to is in play (desensitization)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Really!! I've never heard of that. I can understand how too much masturbation might hamper erection, but I just can't imagine a man being unable to orgasm from penetration. I do have a friend who told me he prefers wanking to sex. I thought he was nuts!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yep, tho I believe there is far more at play here than mere desensitization! Fear of intimacy, past sexual trauma and many other emotiional causal factors will impede ones ability to achieve orgasm. I know from experience as I avoided masturbation, and other forms of self pleasure during my earlier sexual career, as I was raised with the ideology that one does not speak about nor touch 'down there'. Come a long way since then..LOL How about we lobby Mr Rudd for a National Holiday in honour of enhancing our intimate self acquaintance? Just don't know what we would call it...hmm??
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RHP User
16 years ago
A national holiday in honour of masturbation? what a brilliant idea. At midday everyone would have to observe 40 minutes of hopefully not so silent self-pleasure.On a more serious note, I believe that ideology you speak of is also responsible for most cases of premature ejaculation. A lot of adolescent males are concerned about being caught masturbating, and thus opt for a quick wank in the toilet, bathroom etc. How we start off learning about our bodies and sexuality will often have long term ramifications on our sex lives. Putting the emphasis on speed, rather than pleasure is definitely not the way to teach ourselves positive habits.That said, I am hopeful that future parents will follow my own parents example, teaching their offspring that there is nothing wrong with masturbation, and ensuring that teenagers are given plenty of privacy to explore.Unfortunately though, I do remember in my early teens, being very embarrassed having to ask my mother to take me to the doctor, due to some very severe penile chafing. There definitely is a such thing as too much self pleasure.LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
Shawnie! I nominate you to submit the proposal, just show me where to sign...lol I'm reminded of that episode in Roseanne where the son had discovered there was more to his penis than peeing and his parents struggle with how to deal with those all too frequent trips to the bathroom. I also recall a wonderful story on SBS whereby a guy was in the middle of a explosive wank when his mother came home. He ran into the toilet to release the flow ...right into his brothers face. Ahh, that gave me a laugh! Tho I wonder what issues the poor brother is now discussing with his psychologist...lol Your futher breakdown of masturbation...the dark side...makes a lot of sense Shawnie. With media now taking a no holds barred approach to all things sexual, I wonder if parents feel the pressure to beat them to the punch and adopt an open approach with their children regarding the subject of self pleasuring and leading a healthy sex life? ps: I trust the chafing incident is now all under control :-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am hopeful that parents are taking a more open approach to discussing these topics with their children, but suspect we still have a long way to go. After thousands of years of ongoing religious based sexual repression, I think it will take a long time to wipe out these negative sexual attitudes from the psyche of modern society.That's why I think it's so important to have forums like this one operating. It gives people the opportunity to discuss topics they would not normally be game to raise in "polite" conversation. I have made a point for many years to speak openly to everybody I meet. If people feel uncomfortable with the conversations I raise then they have the option to walk away. I feel that real change can only takes place when people are willing to discuss different ideas, opinions and ways of looking at the world. I guess that's the main reason I've been so determined to make this documentary about swinging.As for the chafing, it occasionally still presents a problem, only these days it's not self inflicted
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RHP User
16 years ago
Agreed, collectively we are still a conservative society. Our educatation system is proof positive of our repressed and 'tunnel vision' approach to up & coming generations ability to become fully functional adults. Even tertiary education offers little regarding the 'dirty word' being self esteem, self worth & healthy attachment to ones mind & body. And yet, we have graphic violence shoved down our throats at every juncture! We can easily become experts at how to commit harm both of a physical & emotional nature on ourselves and others..and yet....learning how to love...one must don their indianna jones garb and embark on a frantic & at times futile search! Am looking forward to your doco, and further forums!
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