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Genuine or not?
September 16 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hard question to respond to for all situations, my wife has been conversing with a potential guy for over two months (he has photos no headshot though) and I have let her be comfortable in her own time when she is ready to meet. I don't question her the time taken just that when she is ready I'm there with her all the way. Cheers
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've had this too, extensive chatting and sharing of pics, making sure we're all squared away and on the same page. Come time to bite the bullet and arrange to meet - and I always arrange to meet at a pub or hotel or some such first, just to make sure the other/s are what they say they are - get a message with only hours to spare that ''something's come up'' and they can't make it. I honestly do not know why this happens to everyone as much as it does - although I have my theories. I think a lot of people are at the ''jumping off'' point when they sign up here, but are not quite completely at ease yet. That's just m theory anyway.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Many different reasons. I approach meets different now, take more time because I'm over quick meets. They're not worth my time and not satisfying, so I find more time communicating weeds out the fuck and run camp, the ones who are pulling their pants up as they're walking to the door lol Also with the age difference, in my case, I like to make sure I'm not a 'one of' experiment and that I have screened properly, too many weirdos resort to faking profiles. Safety first for me and if they're not prepared to be patient, well that's just too bad. Next 😇
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youngbrownguy
8 years ago
I was talking to a couple(later get to know it was fake profile) he was asking for my pics again and again and I kept sending and when I asked them to meet up. He replied I am Bi guy would love to give you BJ 😞 damnn trust me I couldn't sleep that night I was expecting for my first threesome and then later I get to know it was fake profile and he was a gay/Bi guy 😞 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It seems like it happens a fair bit on these sites. I have chatted with a few potentials, exchanged pics and such, talked about getting together. Worked out a time to meet, ask where or suggest a place and bam, no replies, profile blocked. Another ended up being just a guy rather than a couple like above. I think some ppl just enjoy playing others along. Well there is a whole show 'Catfish' dedicated to ppl not being who they say online - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Very plausible theory! But doesn't make sense with people that have been on Rhp for some years! Anyway I was certainly wondering if it was happening to many people Tx for sharing Okeydoke45 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fair enough in that situation but still I find that over 2months is quite some time to figure out if she wants to go ahead or not? Perhaps a face shot of the guy would help in the decision making? Personally I never meet without a clear face pic! Thank you for sharing rebel sub😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree, safety first..there are definitely weird profiles and weirdos out there I also screen very carefully and would meet first in a public or semi public place...I might be too impatient for the ones that I think are genuine🤔 Thanks for sharing I-touch-myself2😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah.. a voyeur then.. He or she was probably wanking over your pics...nothing wrong with that tho..but so annoying to get used only for that purpose🙁 Tx for sharing youngbrownguy😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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HotNightsGC
8 years ago
I think there's a healthy mix of both time wasters and people who are just time poor on RHP. With couples it can be difficult to meet straight away as people just get busy and don't have much spare time. Others don't check their messages much during the week. Come Friday, everyone is looking for meets and online. When I was single I found there were way more time wasters than as a couple. That's my experience but it may vary for other people too. Best on these sites not to expect too much and you won't be disappointed. Best of luck xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi . I have met in pesron and have done in Melbourne was on the 7 th July, and some i had wrtten too before i came over so took a while to find those new friends. i did it with help from others at the ball, and i did not know any way , in many other groups and places i,m very well known , my difficullty is i live in NZ so have a slight issue i cant just come over when ever a do is on . About every 2 nd year i do come over , just this year was an extra trip, my photo is real and one i took from our Edwardian group of myself dressed in my finery 1900 - 1914 times, for some it may not be a sexy photo as some may like to see well i was dressed in a Gothic stylish costume in black and red and that was sexy as, at the Ball 7th july so did my best for all to see, so thats really about it from myself, oh,,, i,m thinking of coming over next year, will see about that then. . ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well I think it's not nice to play with people's hope, feelings and wasting their time (mainly, in my case)...but its part of it too, unfortunately!.. Saying that , why the fuck they can't say that they've changed their mind, or that they are not interested? instead of blocking or not replying? Not nice! Nope! Tx for sharing curious cat😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
How long is a piece of string? Who knows! Could be one of a million reasons. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You seem to be a genuine, kind hearted and playful person..And definitely a woman of difference... (As per your profile)... I myself love the stage, was in a band quite some years ago ..american folk music, I was the chicken shake, wobble board and washboard chick..such great time,. I'm not too much into costume and ball but I find Gothic clothing very, very sexy😉 Tx for sharing Noeleena 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Definitely not disappointed and not expecting anything from anyone ...I understand the time poor people, those are usually pretty clear and let you know about it but the time wasters.. consuming your time and energy to feed their ego... Wankers !jerks! Tx for sharing hotnightinperth 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Catfish everywhere . Just like facebook only raunchier , lots of time wasters , gay guys , wankers (voyeurs but I am using it nastily ) Most are pretenders , most women on here have an overinflated ego because of the numerical disparity (haters gonna hate) Really has made keyboard pornstars of a lot . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
jennychime 😊 I love your profile ... I'm genuine n discreet and definitely not a "TIME WASTER" please look at my profile and let me know what you think. I'd love opportunity to chat more 🖒😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont know if most women on Rhp have an overinflated ego for that reason, or even if most have an overinflated ego , this is your perception, but I believe that the numerical disparity is definitely an advantage that gives most women on that site the opportunity to be more picky, perhaps too picky Tx for sharing trysexualbling 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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canberrahot
8 years ago
Jenny, I think sometimes they are time poor, or some just want to play online without the meet. I often get ppl want to use kik etc. I get you can verify who they are on there as the do video chat. I have been played myself by women who have no intention of meeting or just have to many guys to choose from. I do like to meet up but I sometimes like to make sure they are a good match. Initailly they dont read the profile which causes problems. Some women present as one thing then when you get to know them they are something so different. they might seem innocent when they are full on swingers. one i have found with some women is they actually sell themselves or have other partners. All reasons i check into people a little and sometimes take time. Its not in any way meant to waste time at all.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Fair enough Canberrahot, we all do our research , trying to find out the "match", but often profiles don't or can't reveal everything, obviously, but then when starting a conversation with the potential "fit", we discover unexpected revelations which sometimes are good surprises and sometimes are totally deceptive...I've also experienced people after conversing with them that haven't "updated" their profile after being on the site for years, such as age, sexual interests, those type of things..but after all I do enjoy the conversations and the lead up and I guess after a little while you get used to it and it doesn't matter anymore if we waste a bit of time.. I've been a bit annoyed by it but now I dont give a rat's arse...if it works, great! if not NEXT as I -touch-myself2 said in a previous comment👍...Tx for sharing Canberrahot 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Dryphuz
8 years ago
I haven't read much of the other answers, but I thought I'd share my 2 cents in case it helps you. I've been on RHP for years, have never subscribed and have never met any other members. Not that i'm here just to look, but when i signed up i wasn't financially in a position for membership although i intended to get one, and since then i haven't been emotionally somewhere where i am looking for someone seriously (although if i'm approached i would assess the situation on its merits). But if that were to change i would be very slow and cautious because despite the age of my profile I'm new to it regardless of the kind of relationship on offer. I am slow in real life as well. I think in the end, some people will take it slow regardless because thats the kind of people they are, like me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I laughed at this. In relation to people not reading profiles, responded to a flirt or message, can't remember which, but responded in the positive, only to get a message back from him saying "Sorry, I didn't read your profile" 😂😂 That was it, had a read and ran for the hills haha Next 😯
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RHP User
8 years ago
at least he was genuine and honest, so not a criticism, just had a giggle
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
I'm a overthinker and I'm trying to train myself out of it. Sometimes when I'm talking to someone I'll get what I perceive as a red flag in conversation and it will make me hesitate to go the next step. Even if we have chatted for a while and have a good connection. Also one bad experience has made me a bit hyper vigilant and cautious which is both good and bad. I guess it's also just a confidence thing, sometimes it's scary to put yourself out there but 9 times out of 10 it's good to make the leap of faith. Can understand it gets frustrating though at the other end. Life would be boring if we never take a few risks though, that's what I keep telling myself 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Lol...at least he replied.. I personally like/prefer when people reply even to say they re not interested or as you mentioned, responded didnt read the profile, haha, what the ?...the guy might send flirts to everybody then check them out after🙃😄... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I agree about taking the leap of faith but I think its important to be cautious and trust our instincts ..if there's that red flag feeling its definitely signals that something is not right...don't even take the next step! Over thinking is probably a good quality to have in that case and yes I also think that confidence plays a big part in taking the plunge. Tx for sharing EarthQueen😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
that they are not interested? instead of blocking or not replying? Not nice! Nope! "That's life" until someone is happy confident and feel safe that your not a time waster and u are what u say u are. People may pigeon-whole u they may make a assumptions but assmuptions are just that.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yeah I agree, that's life! but still, its not nice to play people around! I do understand the time one might need to feel confident, happy and safe ..that is not wasting others time, those are not the time wasters, the time wasters are the obvious ones , the ones you figure out after a while that they are only playing with you and never wanted to meet in the first place. Tx for sharing bonefide😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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