SexyArse

SexyArse

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Giving and receiving

September 29 2014

Well today was a first for me. Every guy I have every been with loves to eat a woman out. Today a guy was happy to receive but had no idea (as it was over fairly quickly) that he would not be a giver. Tell me what your experiences have been. Has this ever happened to you? How did you react? Why do you think they did not want to give back?? I am completely perplexed.

Comments

  • davek75

    davek75

    11 years ago

    How can a guy not want to go down on a beautiful woman

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    11 years ago

    It has only happened once to me. I gave but did not receive. Every single other person I've been with doesn't even need to be asked. It's part of the play. I don't know why, I put it down to selfishness. My experience was a 'root and run' so there was no other level of intimacy either. 😁 Mary xx

  • jandv

    jandv

    11 years ago

    A friend of ours had the same problem. He refused to her face in the end. The first time they had sex was all heated. Rubbed her and just went for it. She thought nothing of it. The second time same thing. The third time she went down on him and got nothing back. The Fourth time she kind of hinted at it and he just turned around and said "I don't like doing it". She is wondering how he is going now days LOLThe secret to being a good to great lover is to aim at giving 10% more than what you get back. LOL This guy is really shooting himself in the foot as he will probably be career single until he finds a girl that doesn't like her pussy eaten.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Of being one of those 'I go all night eating pussy' guys, it's actually one of my favourite things. I can't understand why you wouldn't do it - love the bucking and moaning underneath, with her hand pushing on the back of my head..... :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I think if guys just aren't into you they have no desire to please you, they are only in it to get what they can out of you. I have actually been told this by a couple of men so I have decided maybe I should just starfish it from now and see how they like it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'davek75' How can a guy not want to go down on a beautiful woman there is a thing called personal preference. Frankly I'm getting a little tired of the assumptions that a) every woman must want oral for hours, and b) every man must want to give it for hours. Some women don't like giving blow jobs, and yes there are some men that don't like going down on a woman. That's their choice. If you don't like that, just move on to the next person. I don't see the need for people to always make a song and dance about it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am a woman who hates being gone down on/pussy eaten. Never liked it, no matter who is giving it so no... It's not a matter of needing the right bloke to do it properly lol. I love to give oral and am happy to do that until I am blue in the face...... Pardon the pun. Have been quite criticised previously for my preference of not liking oral and find it a bit ridiculous. And also find this whole mentality of "giving to receive" mentality pretty weak. Why not just give because you want to and enjoy it and know your partner enjoys it....... Why does their have to be a tit for tat arrangement? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am a woman who hates being gone down on/pussy eaten. Never liked it, no matter who is giving it so no... It's not a matter of needing the right bloke to do it properly lol. I love to give oral and am happy to do that until I am blue in the face...... Pardon the pun. Have been quite criticised previously for my preference of not liking oral and find it a bit ridiculous. And also find this whole mentality of "giving to receive" mentality pretty weak. Why not just give because you want to and enjoy it and know your partner enjoys it....... Why does their have to be a tit for tat arrangement? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm with Curiousplay1980 to a point though. I never thought that oral was much of a big deal for me and to be honest, it still isn't really if the guy doesn't know what he's doing. I find it very difficult to orgasm from it and until recently hadn't done so for twenty years. I've been fortunate in meeting a very cunning linguist on here recently though who has changed that for me and he really does seem to want to spend half the day down there, so I don't feel the pressure to come quickly like I used to, maybe that's why it works - shocker huh? So my point (yes I have one) is, it's not fun getting oral from someone who isn't completely into it. Heavily encouraging some guy to do it who doesn't get off on it would totally ruin it for me and make it impossible for me to relax enough to enjoy it. There are many other fun things a guy can do if he's not into putting his tongue in the holiest of holies and if he's doing those things, then just go with that. If he's just a selfish ass though, well... Next!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    well im not the biggest & best fan of giving oral.....This by no way means I do not, just selective, similarly though id also generally prefer to be, slowly and firmly teased & masturbated.......its hot....Funnily im less selective about rimming...that's just so fucking dirty - I love it!!!...

  • Hottie1

    Hottie1

    11 years ago

    Luck dragon and curious, choice is paramount. I do chose to have an attentive partner who meets my needs. I love giving oral, I don't expect a tit for tat arrangement on that specific element of play, but I do expect my needs to be met during a play. My 'bad' experience left me feeling very little intimacy had been achieved and I felt that only I had contributed whole heartedly to the play. I'd be happy for a partner to say they are not into giving oral but would be happy to do other things to show you that your needs were important too. Mary xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    sexy arse get over it, women do it to men all the time. where is it written that we have to go down on each other whats with the forums these days cant stand it at the moment

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    That's a bit harsh don't you think? Sexy Arse was really only discussing a situation that is causing her frustration and wanted some feedback. Your not the only one who's had a gutfull of the forums at the moment. Don't let it stop you participating though, I have often enjoyed your posts in the past. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I just go wit the flow, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. I certainly don't give to receive.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    get them to sign a contract first..."I will eat puss"...if they reneg then I bring out the paddle:-) xxQ

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    11 years ago

    Always an interesting topic when brought up, so to speak. Perhaps wait to see if they are going to go down on you first before responding? I think there is an element of truth in what Ralf had to say.

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    11 years ago

    I'm a lover of giving, love to hear, feel and know that he's loving every minute of it. But if he likes to give also, then who am I to deny him........😜 And yes have come across a few men over the years who just don't want to do it, my last two long term partners, had no idea, didn't like doing it or anything else come to think of it.......💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Like Curiousplay, I'm not a big fan of receiving oral sex for reasons I've outlined in a previous post. Having said that, I do appreciate the gesture from a new lover and if I were to meet someone who genuinely liked being down there for hours, I'd happily let him :) Twisted-Mister, why do you have to be so far away!? Much love, Mickelle

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Have a friend that hates giving oral but his ex's have told me he has golden fingers....but so did Liberace.!!! Happi....

  • SexyArse

    SexyArse

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Qefenta3' get them to sign a contract first..."I will eat puss"...if they reneg then I bring out the paddle:-) xxQ I like your style - hahahahahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I love eating ...can do it for hours. Ive noticed a ladies scent can vary quite a lot. ..some women are delicious. ...one lady....I just couldn't handle the smell. ...anyone else found this? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I know before bedding someone that they love to go down on pussy otherwise I have no desire to be intimate with them. It's been years since I've had sex with a 'taker'. For me, it's all about sharing, give and take. A guy who won't go down is likely to be closed off to other things too so I'm already feeling unsatisfied ;)

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    11 years ago

    If it's fresh out the box I'm good to go but if another blokes had his cock in there and blown a load I'm givin it a miss! I'm just saying! I have no idea the circumstances but as you are a couple that is the only reason I'd pass it up! Apologies as I don't mean to offend just raise another pov.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I tend to agree with Luckdragon23. Note to all you RHP Men : Read my Profile "Sexual Interest". "Oral Sex" is deliberately omitted !!! My husband and I love "oral sex" but only on each other. It's something as a married couple, I personally hold as "sacred". Just because I'm not open to "oral sex", it does not mean that I will care less for any man with whom I decide to have an intimate relationship either. Far from it !!! If you should ever get me to the "intimate" stage, know that you have already truly won me over with your charm, intelligent conversation, manner and sense of humour. If our relationship lasts, you will also find me a genuine and loyal friend. To me "oral sex" is not the "be all and end all" of any intimate/sexual relationship. If this is the case, then I'd regard the relationship as "shallow".

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Act of Sexual Intercourse. It is the "ultimate" for me. In it, the "Giver" and "Receiver" are one and the same and it applies to both people. Think about it !!! As it needs no further explanation.

  • Plain280

    Plain280

    11 years ago

    A cultural issue, perhapsor the first attempt was not a good experience, mentioned a couple of times by some people the scent for a start and never having the desire to revisit the experience or more likely has a very limited knowledge of sexuality by choice or chauvinism.Dont forget guys have this persuasive ability to talk about it, but do not know how to actually go about it!!??