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Guys too young .....Getting Nasty.
September 28 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't get abused for rejecting a younger guy! Sometimes I do chat with them and decide that there is nothing there and I try and tell them in the nicest way possible...they still don't get abusive....they thank me for being straight out with them. < I have on my profile that I am looking for much younger than me, but that doesn't stop the older ones messaging me and getting abusive about the younger guys being hopeless in bed...to which I tell them to either stop sleeping with younger guys if they don't turn them on or ask them if they were "crap" when they were younger...hehehe...that usually shuts them up! < You do have on your profile your age preference...but no matter what....younger or older will still attempt to get in there! Don't take it to heart....he may have had a bad day or had a few time wasters and unfortunately you were the one to cop the brunt! < Just have fun and enjoy xox xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
What is it with young men and their typical total lack of respect for women?I don't doubt that there are quite a few out there who are polite and respectful but it seems there are endless stories. Not just from RHP but in the media in general. How is it that they seem to have gained the attitude that women are their right to have and to take when they please? I was under the impression that we left that neanderthalic attitude in the mid 70's....Each and every woman has the right to choose if or whom she sleeps with, as does every man. It is absolutely no reason for abuse or anything else. I will admit that I regularly message women who's age criteria I don't fit with. However, if there is no response or the response is a "no thanks" then that is respected completely. The reason I have continued to do so is because more often than not, I end up chatting to or meeting up with women who's age criteria I did not fit as opposed to women who's age criteria I do fit. Beats me as to how or why this happens but it seems to work for both parties :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Looking at the profile pics I can understand their disappointment at getting told 'no', but can't understand why they'd be so snarky about it.Calling someone a time waster won't make them change their mind, only consolidate their position... at least if they were nice you MIGHT change your mind.No point worrying about it, no doubt they are replaced in five minutes anyway.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'd get snarky no matter what the age difference was. As far as I'm concerned, its not my issue, I don't make it an issue and god help someone who does. I figure I only go for the old chooks (mind you, this is your issue, not mine) because the younger ones are not only unappreciative and shallow and vapid and incessantly boring as batshit to talk to... but they think they'll always be that was. I personally prefer quality over quantity but thats just me, and my $200. Thanks.
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RHP User
14 years ago
preference is king!,which also explains why younger men msg you alot.although in saying that i think age is just a number and its the person that counts,but putting up age boundries and requirements are fair enough and people should respect that full stop,sex is free but so are manners.....nuff said!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Nick_Wilde' I'd get snarky no matter what the age difference was. As far as I'm concerned, its not my issue, I don't make it an issue and god help someone who does. I figure I only go for the old chooks (mind you, this is your issue, not mine) because the younger ones are not only unappreciative and shallow and vapid and incessantly boring as batshit to talk to... but they think they'll always be that was. I personally prefer quality over quantity but thats just me, and my $200. Thanks.lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Regardless of age, gender, size, race or religious belief, big cans of butthurt are being opened all day, every day, all over the internet. Being graceless when an offer is declined is an equal opportunity activity LOL
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have absolutely no problems with the younger ones getting all snarky. For me it is the older ones. I honestly cannot say that age is only a number as there is no way I am interested in someone who is 18 or 21. I do like to chat to the ocassional person in their late 20's yes but this is chat only. Nothing more. The younger guys are just as polite to me and sometimes more so. I have found the occassional older person get really righteous and downright nasty if I so much as give them a "No" straight up. I am always graciouas in turning them down as I dont want to bruise thier little egos.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We too are selective to who and whom not we feel is suitable to our needs. We intentionally put a age requirement in our profile , but that has not stopped the elder male egotists thinking they are more special than other guys. ? We've got to the point where we now play them at their own game. If they are guests' we send them messages asking them to contact us, which stuffs them up because they cant. For those who can' we send the same message. When they send their usual glowing message about themselves and their prowess . We ask them why they contacted us ? Yes' usually they are in full denial and totally disrespectful.. so we politely tell them no then move on. Total waste of time... On the other hand' we meet with a very polite young guy who changed completely on the arranged day. As polite as he was when we meet for drinks , his attitude on the day was very self centred. It put Mrs JJ off meetings completely for quite awhile... Thats the other side of the coin....
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RHP User
14 years ago
no.the young ones cant handle rejection.......we have an age bracket we seek, as outlined in our profile...and it seems to mean nothing...and often when we remind or point out to these 20 somethings that they are outside of what we seek, we are served up a gobful of abuse.....some of the messages are frightful in their content, and i delete these rather than show Shel.......we decided to not play with anyone younger than our own children, but it seems this is too much for some to handle. the older guys are basically well behaved and respectful when we say no thanks. but sadly some of the young ones really dont like it, and we still have troubles with a few, when our paths cross in the forums etc....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks to all that have responded. It seems its a problem regardless of age.I will just continue to be polite and then block them !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
It was quite entertaining to be honest :) although he was more my daddy's age than my son's, so I'll have to side with the camp where I've had absolutely no dramas at all with the younger guys here. I did have one lad off another site lecture me on how my preferences were unfairly biased and that he was mature for his age etc etc. He stopped arguing when I suggested he try telling a straight guy that he should fuck him as his "preferences were unfairly biased" against him just cos he was a male :P Or it may have been pointing out that the tantrum he was having because I'd said no, really only reinforced his immaturity and my decision not to go there? After all, though, he was the exception... Age doesn't seem to have much influence over the ability to take rejection gracefully :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
We all have our taste in who we would like to meet and play with. If the "spark" isn't there, then what can you do? Its not going to just turn on by itself. heheI have turned down some woman, and the same back to me. I always try and be polite, but I don't stand back when i get a nasty one back. I did have a couple that didn't appreciate my polite reply of a turn down.. Later I had to block them as it really got ugly. I still don't see any reason why things sometimes have to go that far.I even thank the people that are kind enough to reply back in polite manners.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've found that a guy's level of education proves to be a factor in how they respond to a "no thanks". It seems that the guys that have a higher level of education are more polite and accepting, it's the other guys that just seem to get snarky and then still expect me to want to meet them as if I owe it to them. Not likely! Just my opinion based on people I've met from this site.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Omg so wrong!!!! I met John on here and he is 34 I am 46 we have all been together for 3 years . Leesa
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your one very lucky woman...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi Angel and yeah I have had the same thing happen. I had one guy in his 20's message me when I had at the time clearly stated in my profile that I was not interested in that age group. I replied with a 'thank you for the message but you are not what I am seeking and good luck in your search' kind of reply. I promptly got a message back saying something along the lines of 'you should be lucky that a guy my age even sends you a message. You are old and who would want you anyway?' I did not even dignify this with a response. I might add that I have made some friends and have added guys in their 20's from this site to my facebook page as we have shared some interests. Primarily musical ones. I have been very honest though and told them that that is as far as the relationship will ever go though. Friends without any benefits but friends none the less. There is too much choice out there to ever lose any sleep over some ego inflated, immature idiot.Kisses all,L
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RHP User
14 years ago
you are in a relationship with someone younger......so hes already been accepted and is happy......these young guys...no..boys...dont know how to back away politely......and would rather spray abuse than be reasonable and respectful...........it happens to us on an almost weekly basis.....so often that it just firms our resolve to play with older...........i wont allow anyone to call either of us names or hurl abuse when we are polite and honest in our rejections........its not good enough......... i wonder how these 20-somethings would respond if i were to call their mothers 'fucking sluts' or 'crack whore' and worse.....which is exactly what we are exposed to......we should be able to 'name and shame' these cretins......so others can be aware and avoid them if they choose.......
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RHP User
14 years ago
These so called " age limits " make me laugh - we all act like we keep our body's forever and and the same condition - its just plain nieve in my opinion . One issue i have in here are the ones ( both men and women ) who claim there " picky " thats all very good and well - as long as your realistic ... many in here are not .
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hi Angel Dreams....unfortunately it is not restricted to the younger men with those comments! I have had more of the older men getting abusive with me, as I have an age preference on my profile...and generally reply to flirts with a no thanks if Im not keen. I have had 2 men on here who then sent me an abusive message, calling me a snob, among other things, with some explitives in there too, but you take that all on the chin. I should have reported them, but chose not to. It is no different to being out in public when men approach you...they either politely take the hint, or they harass you....either way it is human nature that some cannot handle rejection! Don't be too hard on the younger ones...maybe you should try them too? Trust me, you will be amazed at what they can offer you...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Personally, I have never dated/been in a relationship/slept with anyone younger than myself. That's just a personal preference but surely that says that some young men do have something good to offer :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
we find those who are our age the most attractive. its our personal choice......while others may have the desire to play with people 10, 20 and even 30 years older or younger, our ideal are those within about 5 years either side of our own ages........we feel that these are the people we best converse with, and who might share similar likes and dislikes....and who also have the same or at least complementary manners and values....IE men who know how to treat and speak to a 50 year old woman, as against speaking to a 25 year old girl....we have children ranging from 16 to 30 years....and its not right, for us, to play with anyone they might be interested in.....its not unusual for us to have a houseful of what we feel are 'kids'......and at no point do either of look at any of them and think...'they'd be candidtaes for bedroom fun'......thats just a bit off putting for both of us. our oldest 'son in law' is in his mid 30's, so that makes his age group kinda off limits for us as well.......for there to be attraction, we need to firstly be comfortable and trust the person/s we are with. so far our choice has confirmed what we thought it would, and the behaviour of those who dont respect this has reminded us of our decision, time and time again.........
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RHP User
14 years ago
One day nobody will be interested in you and then you'll crave the attention you dismiss right now.....................;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think the best way to go about it is, when saying no to a guy no matter the age be very polite about it. Im a young guy and if i really want to meet a particluar women and she shuts me down whether rudely or polite it doesnt feel good. So the best thing is to be polite and if you get a abusive message delete it block them and move on and forget all about them its not worth worrying over when theres plenty of nice guys both young and old.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Surprising response from a 37 yr old...... We dont have to be attracted to all the males on this site. My point was that younger guys are rude and don't take no for an answer and get abusive. Would you date an abusive woman ???
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RHP User
14 years ago
quoting Mikeandshel lol we find those who are our age the most attractive. its our personal choice......while others may have the desire to play with people 10, 20 and even 30 years older or younger, our ideal are those within about 5 years either side of our own ages........we feel that these are the people we best converse with, and who might share similar likes and dislikes....and who also have the same or at least complementary manners and values....IE men who know how to treat and speak to a 50 year old woman, as against speaking to a 25 year old girl....we have children ranging from 16 to 30 years....and its not right, for us, to play with anyone they might be interested in.....its not unusual for us to have a houseful of what we feel are 'kids'......and at no point do either of look at any of them and think...'they'd be candidtaes for bedroom fun'......thats just a bit off putting for both of us. our oldest 'son in law' is in his mid 30's, so that makes his age group kinda off limits for us as well.......for there to be attraction, we need to firstly be comfortable and trust the person/s we are with. so far our choice has confirmed what we thought it would, and the behaviour of those who dont respect this has reminded us of our decision, time and time again......... hell and high waters .. this is the second time ... that i agree with you ... we have got to stop meetin like this .. lol ... but it must the the baby boomers opinion .. for we bothe seem this time to think alike .. same as the burbon and red wine ... oh well ... cant win them all ... cheers ..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Chatting to a prospect at a bar.I don't see the point in getting all butthurt about it at the end of the night it they decide they have other interests or are not up for something. I've hardly had my 'time wasted'.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with Angel_dreams... I won't date or wanna meet up with a woman or couple that's abusive or rude. I'm here to meet people that I like and get along with who are interesting, fun and none judgmental. Really sad that guys/woman/couples can be like that sometimes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
How are you going L? Mike here, would you like to chat sometime?
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RHP User
14 years ago
discrete_in_syd. Are you directing that to me? The forums are not an appropriate place I think for this. If you are serious, pay for a membership and more importantly, put up some pics. If you are concerned about privacy, there are private galleries. If this is not directed at me, you have my apologies.L
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Nick_Wilde'I'd get snarky no matter what the age difference was. As far as I'm concerned, its not my issue, I don't make it an issue and god help someone who does. I figure I only go for the old chooks (mind you, this is your issue, not mine) because the younger ones are not only unappreciative and shallow and vapid and incessantly boring as batshit to talk to... but they think they'll always be that was. I personally prefer quality over quantity but thats just me, and my $200. Thanks. What a gentleman (NOT) You're destined to be a very lonley old man Hope you enjoy your old age as much as you seem to be enjoying your youth Come on dude - get a life!!
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