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Happy times
October 31 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I peaked about 3 months ago, still happiest I've ever been day to day, I'd write a book if I started going on about that, so won't, but 3 months ago will be hard to top. Strange but I don't remember bad things now, not from the past. Obviously things more recent that still hurt, remember them, but going further back, must just block out the bad, surge forward, one track with me now, onward and upward lol happy cruising along and enjoying and appreciating every little thing, things I used to not even notice, I now look at so differently, I love feeling like this
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sweetgem
10 years ago
There is a reason why the saying of "scar for life" exists. People who remember their bad and sad times deeply could be because they got hurt enormously in the past that would have killed them, but somehow they fought and won the mental battle and got a second chance to live again. But just because they live again, it doesn't mean that they will forget what have happened to them in the past. Besides, I believe that happiness or feeling happy is a choice. For me, I choose to remember the happy times I have had in my life instead of dwelling on the bad and sad times that I had encountered in the past. I will never forget what had happened to me, but I won't dwell on them and instead, I will use those experiences as a mirror to reflect on my current life and make sure that I live in the present, as well as moving forward to the future. Now is not my happiest time, but I am happy to still be alive and healthy as for some people, they didn't get to wake up again the next day! And for some that do wake up again, they might not be waking up still being themselves due to illness such as, Alzheimer's patients! So, my philosophy in life is to be grateful for what I have now and cherish every moment that I am given to live, to eat and to see my family again! - Posted from rhpmobile
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cleopatrababe
10 years ago
3 mths ago there was a knock at my door and my ex who i still love very much was standing there after 4 years i hadnt seen him or heard from him ..his relationship was over and he came yo say he was sorry for hurting me ..hes younger than me and he needed to grow and he has ..we spent the day together and no intimacy ..he returned 2 weeks later ..then .tonight enjoyed a drink and listened to music im mot sure sbout the future but i do know miracles happen u have to believe in the secret ..it works trust ..and be patient and dont expect to much enjoy the moments in life whatever they may be ..we live in a crazy world ..scary at times but life is awesome ive come out of the darkninto the light without anyone to help me ..everything from now on is a bonus - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...... I believe that we tend to remember the good times ..... and that the brain tends to diminish the bad. - Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
But, maybe by remembering the sad and bad times the present usually looks good.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Survival instinct. We learn by doing, by experience we adapt, by remembering we avoid. Or perhaps we are just bleeding hearts and poets by nature. Xx Obi1
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RHP User
10 years ago
The past few years in particular for me have been filled with unhappiness. Right now is probably the happiest time in my life, because I'm finally living my life for me - or at least, am on the way to doing so! It is so much easier to focus on the hard times, but I'm choosing to remember the happy. The FaceTime call when I really needed to hear their voice, and see their face. The handwritten notes in a favourite book someone has lent me. The bring-me-to-tears hysterical conversations I have in the car with my kids - sometimes I need to pull over to compose myself so I can see the road! Shopping for new homewares so I can make my house MY home, and not a compromise. These things make me happy.
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RHP User
10 years ago
We do tend to dwell on the bad times more than the good times. A couple of months ago I cut my ex out of my life. He is still in touch with his son but I don't have anything to do with him.He was causing me so much stress and it was really affecting me. Now I feel great! So happy, free, ready for whatever the future will bring. II'm back to the old me again and I love it. I don't think about the past at all now, just concentrate on now and have a renewed optimism for the future xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
While nowhere near as satisfying, the bad times are just as.important in your life as the good. they make you stronger, build character and give you the choice to grow and develop. The good times wouldnt be near as sweet if you didnt go through the bad. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I had recently become single, moved house and met an amazing lover. It was the first time I celebrated my birthday in years, both with good friends and by attending my first orgie. It was a wild and happy time, and I felt amazing. And it was summer! Since then my life has taken some bad turns, filled with illness (me and my dog), death (a close friend and two family members), trauma (my brother's awful divorce) and betrayal from someone I thought was trustworthy. I'm happy and trying to get back to how I felt then, but also dealing with being re-diagnosed with a serious condition I thought I was done with, and a blind dog (luckily also very happy) whose days are limited. Both are draining both me and my bank account. This too shall pass though. Just keep swimming.
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RHP User
10 years ago
That explains lots of things.. I'm sorry for your loss'es and your health concerns... good luck..
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RHP User
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'subperthguy' While nowhere near as satisfying, the bad times are just as.important in your life as the good. they make you stronger, build character and give you the choice to grow and develop. The good times wouldnt be near as sweet if you didnt go through the bad. That's so true, I appreciate the good days so much more now. My dog was running in the park today, until he bumped into a woman with her dog. She wouldn't believe he was blind, then told me her dog only had a few weeks to live. Both our dogs played together and we just kinda stood there in silence for a long time. A good day .
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RHP User
10 years ago
I remember the good times more fondly than the bad times for being less so. I think it's good that I don't forget either because both are important points of reference for the future...lessons to learn from. I remember the peak of happiness that I was at 4 years ago with someone I loved, and who loved me in return. I had no external pressures like money or family to worry me. Life seemed happy and simple.But, when it wound down after 2 years and we amicably went our ways, I was then at the lowest trough I've been in because I didn't want it to end. I've rebuilt myself since then, but it's important that I remember everything from those experiences...including who was there for me when I was at my lowest. And who wasn't.It's the bumpy path of life...and I'll repeat my mistakes if I don't learn from them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Are you serious ? Talk about a smack in the mouth... Do you really feel the need to be in control all the time ? I think that's about as rude as you can get... forget it...
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I went off topic I apologise.. That was never my intention... Sometimes I jump the gun....
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cleopatrababe
10 years ago
I think we are all brave and we all suffer we are all having some battles and should never judge others inthink im a warrior just getting through marriage kids business ..relationships ..loss ..health issues and getting old go the brave i say - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It is natural that we should want to be happy and to therefore seek that which will give us pleasure. So we inevitably find ourselves filling out "our dance card" with people & activities that we believe will make us feel happy: work, family, friends, sports, entertainment, food, travel, arts, spiritualism etc Of course we keep learning not just through our mistakes but also our successes in order to prepare ourselves for the future. Life is not a dress rehearsal it is an n complete work of art, an adventure full of risk, drama, love, passion, fear, hate, anger, etc etc I agree with Cleopatra you need to be brave.
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