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Hot or not?
September 13 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Tough question. I touched on this indirectly. I think anonymous sex breaks down the potential social barriers.... so skip the intro "what do you do's" and get jiggy. Being succesful means different things to different people. For me it's all about attitude. I think succesful people enjoy all the simple things in life, begrudge no-one... wants for nothing and is gratuitous for everything, takes the hardships on the chin and are the kind of caring and sharing person who walks into a room full of strangers and leaves a room full of friends. Succesful people are anything but intimidating. They're the opposite of intimidating. All the other stuff... Fame and fortune, editorials in business review magazines, industry recognition, OA medals ... none of that bling makes a lick of difference to me and I virtually treat it with contempt... Oh I'll nod and congratulate you for it but inside I'm numb and unimpressed. Well maybe a little impressed if you take me sailing in your yacht. :p hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi I find successful women very sexy and find myself more attracted to them as I find them to less dependant on others and to be more of a go getter. They also seem to know what they want and go for it. As for what makes a person In my opionon it's being happy and secure in various aspects of life N
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think more successful women are good. Unfortunately I haven't been with any myself. Seem to find the lessor successful or downright lazy ones. At least with successful women they wont be looking to get everything from you as they have their own means. As for being intimidated, I think a lot of guys are. I tend to look beyond it myself and look at the person not the title as it were. So for me, I'd like someone at least moderately successful.
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I was a teenager I could never imagine any of the gorgeous girls I knew being interested in me. Only a decade or more later I discovered many of them had a crush on me and would have been very responsive if only I had the guts to ask them out. Many were the whole package - looks, smarts, wit, ambition - but I did not feel I measured up. Part of the cosmic joke of the purloined letter. In my twenties the thrill of having a successful, intelligent, educated woman as a partner was just as important as looks. I would jump through hoops to attract and satisfy. Now I concede that looks, success, education, wit and class are all overrated. Models, scientists, politicians, fashion designers and queens of industry all poop in the same way with the same stink. Often it is their opinion of themselves (whether too high, too low or in between) that defines if a relationship can start. Once the chemistry starts and the play begins I can have as much fun with a fool as I can with a princess. The key is relating with respect - contempt is a harsh mistress. (funny how that phrases like that often have a female edge)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think it depends on the man.....successful men or popular men I don't think would find it intimidating at all to approach successful women but I think your average Joe might find it harder...but then I think it all comes down to the amount of confidence a bloke has in himself...good luck boys. I say just go for it ;-) Hugs roxxy
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't know Roxxy, Successfull women can be hard nosed, ultra competitive, uncompromising witches on wheels, mainly because theyr'e required to be twice as good as theyr'e male counterparts to be considered half as good. Which I guess is really unfortunate....but enough reason to steer a wide birth around them nonetheless.Not for lack of confidence, more... just not what I like in a woman.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
I was talking about success in a business sense, in my previous post, there are lots of ways that one can be considered successfull.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
Powerful women, the ultimate turn-on! Call it the Xena complex. I'm fortunate enough to have met and be friends with many successful women in what I do. The caveat for me is that whatever the definition of 'success' you go by, it has to be 'successful and down to earth'. Princesses do absolutely nothing for me. I've never been intimidated by strong women because I feel I can hold my own. I guess I'm confident that I'm never going to made to feel stupid or inferior. I can think of a few friends that leave me in their dust in certain regards, but I stand in awe of them. It's respect and admiration, not intimidation. I guess the negative, and less healthy side to it is there's also a pride/status thing to it. I'd love to one day end up being thought of as part of a "power couple", where people were jealous of both partners. It's the flip side to narcisism. Pride and jealousy are shallow instincts, but unfortunately sometimes powerful motivators.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...and she married me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
But actually it's not a very good one. Be a success or be a failure, if you can talk about it all and laugh in a cool n groovy kinda way rather than a "i've been reading my own press releases" kinda a way then you have my attention. Power suits look best when they're being removed... slowly.
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
My wife has a career with more responsibility, better pay, and better prospects than mine. I carry a larger share domestic and child care duties. Her view of her industry is that it is not the glass ceiling that holds women back, but the lack of support on the home front. If men aren't prepared to support an existing partner's career, I guess that by and large a successful woman is not as appealing as a dependent one.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Disappointed.....I thought for a moment that **miss_honey** was back posting again
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'QLDtwo4fun' My wife has a career with more responsibility, better pay, and better prospects than mine. I carry a larger share domestic and child care duties. Her view of her industry is that it is not the glass ceiling that holds women back, but the lack of support on the home front. If men aren't prepared to support an existing partner's career, I guess that by and large a successful woman is not as appealing as a dependent one. And something for you both to be very proud of
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RHP User
14 years ago
Dear Miss Honey, Being successful will only intimidate those that have insecurities towards their own success. So it depends on the person. If said person is threatened then perhaps it is time for them to reconsider their own position in life. Personally i think the more successful you are the stronger you become...and that is in whatever category. Career, socially, finacially. Gone are the times where men brought home the income and women stayed home to cook, clean and look after the kids. And that is not to say there is anything wrong with that arrangement but let's face it....woman or man...we all want success so that we can live our lives the way we want.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some are optimists, some idealists, some realists and some pessimists :)Some are romantic and go with their hearts and some go with their minds (do the math)Cass xxx
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luvsilver
14 years ago
How do you do it Roxxy ? I am flat out keeping up with the forums that are posted that day and you have done a Cold Case and pulled one from the archives of three years ago-lol Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
14 years ago
Now thats a good question.Personally i look for none of those things in a potential partner which strangely enough in my world means they dont bother me either way.A woman is not and never will be an accessory to me,she is a person first and foremost so i focus and am attracted to the way she thinks and interacts with ''me''.Not her outward persona or her career.Now some people will say how can you seperate the two,and that may be true in a lot of instances but if thats the case i wouldn`t be interested in the first place.But in short none of the above things would put me off approaching a woman...My inclination is follow the ''feeling'' or the 'fuzz' as a friend of mine calls it.Generally it leads to good places.......For what its worth
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'multiples_xxx' Some are optimists, some idealists, some realists and some pessimists :)Some are romantic and go with their hearts and some go with their minds (do the math)Cass xxx Different strokes eh........although you put it much more eloquently.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes I find successful woman attractive, nothing wrong with an assertive woman demanding attention either. Like men successful women need to know how to de-stress
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