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House Dates (1st Date)
January 08 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bad idea to have a first meet at anyone's house. Reasons for this are, irrespective how WELL you THINK you know this person from your messages or phone calls. You can't see their face, you cannot read their body language....so how do you know they're genuine?? You can't....until that rapport is built and a level of trust is established, my house is my house, their house is their house, we can meet publicly(ESPECIALLY A FIRST MEET) and then take things from there. Otherwise you're opening yourself and your belongings to potential theft, sexual assault, etc....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I try to meet in person sooner rather than later, so I don't often know a HUGE deal about my date. I always meet in public first (prefer a bar or cafe). I can only imagine how much stronger women must feel about this!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have known of a woman who slashed a guys tyres, another would turn up unannounced at the most inappropriate of times. You never know what may happen a couple of dates in, and how the person will react if they are told you are no longer interested or don't think it will work out. Best to leave that till later down the track, when you know them a little better, most women I imagine, would prefer to meet in a public venue for safety reasons too.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sexual assault....CAN happen to men. Just because we are usually physically advantaged for combat, doesn't make US bulletproof.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Never, ever. Always meet in a very public place, preferably with lots of CCTV coverage. You can't be too careful!People can present themselves as anything from behind a screen.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes I take risk every now and again But then I am not alone in the house There is a huge guy that hides in my cupboard Plus a dog that loves balls, human balls that is I do have my own place away from my house, my love shack I let my girlfriends know who I am with and I have a check in system. But I have a pretty good , warning will Robinson warning system My home is my other life Some women use the internet to get into your house, and then tell their real boyfriend when your out of town and what is in the house. Or they may be working girls, and then you don’t pay and then a big man comes around and takes your little finger the world is full of nut jobs. At least if you get one knocked up they know where daddy lives :) Its a risk that everyone takes , if you think of it this way How many of you have picked up at a bar and gone home to their place or your place? At least they have ctv camera at a bar In your home , your alone, your naked And then you wake up with a sore bum and your dog and furniture are gone.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No one and I mean NO ONE meets my house first date...reasons being safety risks..and that goes to mans house too...No shag would convince me other wise!!! My place is my safe haven.. my only safe place I have. To me if first meet at someone's place first up it screams a lot to me.. desperaton first up...then crazy 2nd.. There's no excuses otherwise...kids etc etc... If you are worth it they will organise to meet in public place.. it says A LOT about their morals, dignity and self worth.... I know a woman who was drugged and rapped first meet at a guys house.... Think about it...if you had a daughter/son would you say to them it's OK to do??? If in doubt don't do..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
in dry weather can provide a very convenient venue.Just make sure when you are lurking in the bushes that you haven't mistaken the dogging park for the dog park or that a bridal party hasn't chosen the same venue for their loved up nuptials. So to avoid any major embarrassments to you and your playmates call the local council first and make a bonking booking
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RHP User
13 years ago
Bahahaha
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ever. His place? Only after we've established that trust and even then my dumbarse radar will be finely tuned ...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Philosopherpoet: just as a precaution I always meet for coffee and a chat, that way if they are not all that they seem then you are not putting yourself at risk. You have no idea if she/he could be a stalker a complete nutter or both, and of course if there is no chemistry but the other has taken a fancy to you and persists on contacting you you haven't got your safety net as she/he knows where you live.
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RHP User
13 years ago
With a partner present it has been a different story. I'm a pretty good judge of character, but don't really want people knowing where I live until we have built a good rapport. As for going to a guy's place, I'm be more comfortable with that. Of course I do let my best friend know where I am, and make sure the guy knows that I have told her. And as I don't own a car, I always have the number for the nearest taxi service handy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have been to a guys place on first meet, however he was forced to endure meeting the best friends at a bar first and the interrogation that entailed:) And I had his address (therefore so did they).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Ghostbusters' Bad idea to have a first meet at anyone's house. Reasons for this are, irrespective how WELL you THINK you know this person from your messages or phone calls. You can't see their face, you cannot read their body language....so how do you know they're genuine?? You can't....until that rapport is built and a level of trust is established, my house is my house, their house is their house, we can meet publicly(ESPECIALLY A FIRST MEET) and then take things from there. Otherwise you're opening yourself and your belongings to potential theft, sexual assault, etc....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well now, it's like this yasee....... ........you, my friend, are 6'3" ! (Siiiiiiigh) Cheers lily P.s. See what I did there, with both the metre and the rhyming ? Impressive huh ! P.p.s. IS there actually more than 1 house n a pub in Yanchep ? P.p.p.s I had always thought it was 'twaddle'?!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have to give a big fat resounding NO to first dates being at either parties home. I would rather take my time to build a rapport with the person within a public place first. I'm an overly cautious person to begin with, heck a large number of my friends and family don't even know where i live, let alone complete strangers. But everyones is different in what their comfortable with. And in the event anyone would rather have the first meet/date at their home or the home of the other person/people, they can clearly state their boundries.
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RHP User
13 years ago
so tell me ..of all you people on here who say their looking for sex.how many actually follow through..if you dont invite people to your place or go to theirs. then what.back of car ,crappy last minute hotel.come on be honest.it doesnt matter if you've been on 1 date or 100.the chances are you still couldnt judges someone.if your going to insist on a pile of dates to get to know someone before sex then chances are their not going to hang around
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RHP User
13 years ago
I clearly state in my profile that I prefer to meet at a neutral location. I always trust my natural instincts and believe I'm a fairly good judge of character. I weigh things up very quickly , so if I dont feel it within the first 10 - 15 minutes , theres a good chance it wont go any further. but ' I would never be the type to just get up and leave.. thats rude. Besides' they took just as much time as me to make the effort to get there..Never been one of them root anyone type of guy, so meeting for a coffee or drink and getting a feel for someone is imperative for both parties.. If I say I will be somewhere at a given time, I will be there unless something really drastic came up...So for me ' its meet first or nothing...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do house dates and hotel dates. I am not really on here to get to know people to much on a fist date... that comes later if If they connection was awesome. Before any of you jump on the band wagon...it is my choice and my risk! I have never had a situation whereby I have felt in any kind of danger. I like the intimacy about it. Just you and your meet and no other distractions. Of course I screen them before I go... I u get the CC number as well and their log in details for banking. Not to mention their soul.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Doesn't any one follow their intuition any more?! You know it is never wrong.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'Never, ever. Always meet in a very public place, preferably with lots of CCTV coverage. You can't be too careful!People can present themselves as anything from behind a screen. After your post on public sex, I was going to ask you to meet me in the Botanical Gardens one night. Don't open the message I sent you just delete and block.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Been reading Shane Maloney Sweety? Lots of CCTV at the Botanic Gardens! The Shrine is right next door! Now that's just WRONG! lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm very protective of my home....well, not the home, but those who live here.It only takes 5 minutes for something to go pear shaped and all of a sudden we are chopped up and shoved in the freezer.Whilst I like to think I have a pretty good BS detector, a few have slipped through, so it's best for me to assume everyone is a raging mass murderer until proven otherwise.
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RHP User
13 years ago
*furrowed brow* damn YOU Facebook!there are soooo many comments I want to LIKE here but there's no like button!lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Absolutely nope. No one over at mine because I'm still living with the family lol don't want to give those sort of explanations. I don't go over to someone else's first meet either (not even a one night stand) without building some form of rapport and level of trust first. Even if I've met them before, I always let one of my girlfriends know what I'm up to that night so she'll check in with me the next morning. Have been asked on hotel first dates before as well and that's also a no... Although I guess at least with daily room cleaning they'll find you pretty quickly...- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'zx10knight' so tell me ..of all you people on here who say their looking for sex.how many actually follow through..if you dont invite people to your place or go to theirs. then what.back of car ,crappy last minute hotel.come on be honest. We are talking about first dates here. Your participation level says "Antything", which includes "Meet first, play later", right? it doesnt matter if you've been on 1 date or 100.the chances are you still couldnt judges someone.if your going to insist on a pile of dates to get to know someone before sex then chances are their not going to hang around I think most of us can say with a fair amount of confidence we can "judge someone", as you say, quite well after a few hours of face to face contact. (Though I wouldn't trust a black AND white motorcycle. I'd think he was fickle).
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm a member of all of a week. I haven't met anyone yet, just looking at the moment as i'm not 100% certain i know what i'm looking for in a girl. But when i do get around to meeting someone, i should hope one meeting in a public place is enough for us to decide if we want to take it further before moving on to home dates. And I wouldn't be on here looking for someone if i didn't intend to follow through
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RHP User
13 years ago
Always make sure there is a little phone contact as well for safety reasons. In the worst case, police can do a lot with phone records. Personally I tend to go with my gut instincts, if something doesn't feel right, then it probably isn't.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Go with your gut.... but most males use their other tool,,, I have had a couple of good experiences so far... yes screen and have a plan 'B" sus out the escape route....
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess I have broken the obviously prudent advise given above. Although, I haven't met any of the women from this site ...I have from a different one...and on three occasions I was invited to the home...(go past go and don't collect $200..).. We had spoken on the phone on all three instances prior....I guess I feel quite adept and confident in my proclivity to determine whether or not it is a safe move etc.....further to that, they felt quite safe ......my hippy, new age vegan personality possibly helped ... ...however, I still agree with the advice above.... Danny x
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WHY_NOT_LOOK
13 years ago
I'm a girl that in past always goes with my gut and so far I've always meet really great people that I'm still friends with mostly. I have invited people here on 1st date and gone to there's always let someone know who's coming or where I'm going. No you have all put the fear of god in me I think I'm to easy now no wonder my love life is so shitty ATM lol... ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lovingdfun76' Go with your gut.... but most males use their other tool,,, I have had a couple of good experiences so far... yes screen and have a plan 'B" sus out the escape route.... Lovin don;t suppose you wanna meet at your place huh I might go to the K-Tav Friday night for an ale even see if you can spot me hehehehe
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' I guess I have broken the obviously prudent advise given above. Although, I haven't met any of the women from this site ...I have from a different one...and on three occasions I was invited to the home...(go past go and don't collect $200..).. We had spoken on the phone on all three instances prior....I guess I feel quite adept and confident in my proclivity to determine whether or not it is a safe move etc.....further to that, they felt quite safe ......my hippy, new age vegan personality possibly helped ... ...however, I still agree with the advice above.... Danny x With a face like yours who wouldn't resist???
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi! Philosopherpoet. Thanks for your Topic:) As a rule I do tend to have My 1st meet at my Place . I live in a block of 18units so mine is the main route I've an open door Policy with My Neighbours if my doors shut I've visitors and the acustics are very good here so if there was any hint of him acting inappropriate all I need do is raise my voice or call for assistance But Frankly being confronted by an Miffed Dragonlady does tend to stop Guys in their tracks he!he! I'm in control of any situation.. I'm no fool I do take my time to know them I'm a very good judge of those I Connect with, including knowing their agenda if they were so inclined. I always stress meeting as Friends so no misunderstanding there .If Chemistry between us then we go from there next time.. My advice get to know the other Person chat 1-1 on MSN or Hre and the phone atleast a couple of times listen to your Intuition not your Hormones.. Enjoy Lu :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
No fucken way at all....... We got storked for 4 years by a guy we said no we where not interested in sex as he was not what we was looking for, he came to our house to meet we where only new to swinging at the time... Our advice is never meet at your home aways at a coffee shop or pub...... We learnt the hard way don't make the same mistake......... GT
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JessicaRabbit
13 years ago
On very rare occasions when I had been chatting to the person online for quite a while, seen them on cam etc. so I knew that they were genuine.When I was meeting people on my own though I tended to be cautious as others have said and meet in public places and let someone know where I was going etc. You gotta be smart about it cause you never know what kind of perverts you'll meet Didaxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have done it on a few occasions too, but I still say it isn't a good idea. Apart from the safety issue there is always that expectation on the guys part that you will sleep with them. Even if you have said you won't. It gets pretty uncomfortable when you get there and think Fuck no!! :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
Geee, you must trust me then gtbi_mm, or you are after my secret gold finding areas? LOL ;o))Albany Kid
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'richanson'Geee, you must trust me then gtbi_mm, or you are after my secret gold finding areas? LOL ;o))Albany Kid Oh I trust you sexy as long as you tell me where the gold is We shell wait and see (LOL) Trust is earned and some people you can trust GT
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RHP User
13 years ago
You can trust me, I'm a virgin (did I just tell a lie) never mind.... Virgins never lie GT
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