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How do you engage
April 13 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I thought about it for a while I could probably post something intelligent but I'm stuck on kik and wanted to address your topic now 😉 For me I think social media is in addiction. I've had to pull back on several occasions because it became unhealthy. And now it varies depending on what's going on in my life. I only use kik for RHP people so it can be quiet, or it can be non stop. And atm I'm also using Viber for chatting with someone overseas. I used to be on Facebook all day and night at one stage, checking it was an obsession. All I was really doing was not wanting to feel like I was missing out. And the thing is I want missing out on that much. I only have family on there and people I'm friends with or have some sort of regular contact with. I know people who have over 3000 friends? It's handy for catching up on what others are up to when you don't talk or see each other that often. I when my kids were sick it became the main form of communicating with my friends. I have Twitter but don't use it. I love Instagram because it's not much text and photos often speak for themselves. I will say I'm most addicted to RHP and Pinterest. But I've found that I don't use the phone as often anymore. For RHP potentials it's messaging, maybe kik and then a gave to face meet is a must before any okay is involved. Text can only convey so much. I watch people at restaurants and shopping centres glued to their phones. They aren't enjoying the moment or concentrating of what they've got to do. They are stressing themselves out playing catch up with "everyone" but I wonder if the people they are reading about or chatting with would ever be in their lives if it wasn't for social media and mobile communication?
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RHP User
10 years ago
alright u lot with dirty minds, the lady was referring to Facebook not fuck buddy 😜 Sorry Q, I am an ostrich with my head in the sand/ old school n thus not on facebook. I hate talking on the telephone as well. Communicate with text as much as possible but that's just me. Slightly suspicious now that id be disconnected whether Facebook was around or not hehe. I trust the other posts will be more helpful to your thread. (no pressure eh) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Soft..a few years ago I was staying at a friends B and B in Bali. A dad and his two early teen kids walked in to the cafe,pcs tucked under their arms. After a while I realised the kids were emailing each other 😳 Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
you nailed it and I'll admit, it's everything for me, well not quite everything, but waving hands in air, without social media, I'd be screwed. Just not in the way I like to be
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aussian43
10 years ago
I like facebook as a way of keeping up to date with friends and family, but I rarely post anything. It has definitely changed the landscape of how we communicate these days. I only check it once a day, but it seems to dominate many peoples lives. Hard to say if it has been a positive or negative influence, for every horror story of a breakup over facebook, there are stories of finding long lost friends on there. Overall I think it is good, as long as people look around and smell the roses occasionally (especially if I buy you some!) Social media and sites such as this changed dating dramatically. It certainly helped introverts such as myself make that first contact. I actually met my partner chatting via ICQ many years back! Twitter I am not a fan off, I only use it to keep up with some company and news feeds, have not made a single tweet in my life! I don't facebook for RHP related stuff, though I do have one FwB on there. The messaging system on RHP is enough to get started with. Sometimes moving to kik. Once we start working towards a commitment to meet, tend to move to sms and the occasional phone call. I have met ladies without having made a single phone call first. I still use email to keep in contact with some people, it doesn't have the same sort of urgency it used to. (Though people at work can get upset if you don't reply right away). I did upset one lady I keep in contact via kik. Had just bought a new lounge so I was binge watching a tv series on netflix, working out all the comfortable spots and positions. My phone was in the bedroom and I didn't hear it, didn't check it all day and well into the evening. She was getting worried that I wasn't speaking to her for some reason.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My cousin and her husband have a recliner each facing the television. There is a lamp table in between so they can reach out and touch each other. But they spend their time talking to each other on Facebook messenger while they are sitting next to each other. And they are 47 and 52 so it's not just the young ones 😕
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's a big part of my day, both personally and professionally. I have important people in my life who are in different time zones, and we are busy, so catching up on Facebook is perfect. i tend to use Twitter just for work, eg chatting on the back channel at conferences etc, and will use both Facebook and Instagram for both work and my not-so-private life. I'm pretty heaving involved in social media protocols, and will often present on the most effective ways to use social media in my field, and have been involved in developing some training courses for it. So yep, I engage on social media multiple times a day! I have to say, the social aspect of the forums is what I love the most about RHP, as it allows me the opportunity to interact with people I don't really know and may never meet, but can get to engage with their ideas and experiences, and broaden my own in turn. I do recognise the down sides to social media - for teens, for example, the ever-present nature of it means that they often find it harder to disengage from difficult situations and give themselves a break. I was thrilled to see recently the spate of suspensions at a nsw high school after a series of cyber bullying posts that had been targeting a number of students. I think an awareness of the potential problems of social media involvement will help kids become better digital citizens. Oops ... Slipping into work speak. Ill stop before I get on my soap box too much more! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
What's the best way to really contact someone on rhp so I don't sound cheesy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
With social media? Is FB ,Twitter,kik,etc a big part of your life and essential to how you feel connected?Facebook is my favourite because of the people I'm closest to as well as the control I have over my profile and experience. RHP is 2nd because that's where I find and have found some of my closest friends, but marred by the lack of control I have over my profile and experience of the site. And Twitter is 3rd, more for the infotainment it offers, as well again as that control over my over profile and experience. They all keep me up to par with all sorts of people and subjects. Or do you prefer to just interact with people in real life? You mean, in person Q? I think I like a balance and sometimes feel a need for more space than others. Mind you, I always thought I was an extrovert but have come to think a bit differently. Do you even talk to people on the phone or only text? I hate the phone and secondary with text. We've gone without mobiles for months, lol. And the mobile internet limit I had over our holidays has been used up, by accident. :-( So pretty much connection free when out and about. One phone is up and running again today, for emergencies... very handy! Do you still meet people in real life situations for sex or potential relationships or is it mainly online ? I've been getting out more than I was thanks to the connections through fb funnily enough. Not with friends from online so much but with friends and family types. FB is now sixteen years old,do you think it's advent has changed the social landscape for the better or ironically led to us being more disconnected? Q I didn't even know about facebook years ago, not even for a long time after we joined RHP. For me, I'd say it has worked out. I've never felt more like I have a place in the world that I do now. Peachy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I love rhp obviously, but also texting, just plain old texting, and I figure at my age, if these young dudes can't trust me pfft there's something solid about texting that I feel comfortable with. Perhaps because there IS a record of conversation/pictures etc If I was found dead in a drain, there'd be some clue there, surely? lol so I always text instead of calling, unless I'm driving where bluetooth frees me up to talk while I'm driving. I've been known to call one of my kids at 3am if I'm still awake, they're on their way home, have a chat. Strange hours we do lead. My phone is always in my hand, always. Music in my ears always, or most of the time. My phone is my control centre and I'm in the fat controllers chair Only time I socially meet guys in the real world is random sex lol I don't go out to bars etc by myself and never will. Not because I'd be nervous, but because it looks tragic. On the rare occasion I go out with someone, I enjoy it, but don't like alcohol to come into play with sex (I'll have one or two but not very often), so would rather just meet people during the day usually and like the random factor. I'm happy in my own company and with social media, and buddies. Life is good
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'bigvick86' What's the best way to really contact someone on rhp so I don't sound cheesy - Posted from rhpmobile That would make a great new topic. Why don't you start a new topic, perhaps asking the question you've asked above, and perhaps extending it to messages people receive, good bad & the ugly lol topics for this have come up before but they're usually popular and get a good response, and variables change for each of us day to day, so a fresh topic for it, I think would be great
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been through stages with social media. I'm connected 24/7 in some form or another. There was a stage in my life where it was my connection & lifeline to the outside world, when I was unwell & unable to participate in the real thing. I also had a job where I couldn't go to the loo, have a night out or go on holidays without being contactable. It gets old quickly! These days I'm pretty strict with myself (well except for the forums haha) I have a small side business that I purely run from social media. But they are all interconnected and can post concurrently from one to all the others. I spend about 10 minutes a day updating and that's it. Faceache I flick through irregularly through the day, catch up with friends news, share crap & then go and do something interesting lol I tend to text a lot with friends, either on Kik, Skype or viber or old school sms, checking in or firming up plans to catch up. It's less intrusive than calling. But if people I know call I love a chat 😊 Unless it's a private number...they can bugger off lol A couple of things I am really strict on is no phone out when I'm out with friends & family. With family it's a complete phone ban for all of us. For friends, first one to pick up their phone pays lol and my phone is always on silent. The other thing is emails, I hate them! At work they are unavoidable, but I only check them every 2 hours. If it's important they will call. If not they can take their place in the queue. Private email lol I havent looked at mine for a month....I could be missing a marriage proposal from a Nigerian prince and be clueless! 😳 RR 💋💋
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sweetgem
10 years ago
Q) How do you engage with social media? Is FB ,Twitter,kik,etc a big part of your life and essential to how you feel connected? A) I don't use a lot of social media or messenger apps, only two to stay connected with my busy friends in Australia, and while I am bound to my duty of care for my parent. I also use one of the two social media that I use, to connect with my relatives in overseas. So I guess social media is essential for my connection with my extended families all over the world 😊 Q) Or do you prefer to just interact with people in real life? A) I do prefer to interact with people in real life as I hate how words can be misinterpreted or misunderstood, as they cannot show the recipients my tone of voice or facial expression for when I talk about serious matters or topics. However, life is full of surprises and I cannot always get what I want 😛 Therefore, I will have to compromise at times for convenience or necessity under certain circumstances. Q) Do you even talk to people on the phone or only text? A) I still talk to people from older generation on the phone, but hardly to my friends in my generation or younger, guilty 😛 Q) Do you still meet people in real life situations for sex or potential relationships or is it mainly online? A) I use internet dating to seek casual company (sex included) or a FWB arrangement, but not for a serious relationship, especially online dating site like RHP! I do not trust that I can find my Mr Right here! Q) FB is now sixteen years old,do you think it's advent has changed the social landscape for the better or ironically led to us being more disconnected? A) Whether FB has changed the social landscape for the better or not, it really depends on how each individual uses it, or sees it. I for one think FB has done both scenarios depending on situations. For example, I have been able to find and reconnect with my cousins from overseas thanks to FB; but I have also seen real life reports on those TV channels' FB page about teens and young adults been lured into serial killers' traps and got murdered, etc. Therefore, whether FB is a good social media or not, it depends on the individual user's experiences I suppose. - Posted from rhpmobile
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john60
10 years ago
I am a fan of FB. I can send message to people and they can get it when it suits them. I don't interrupt them with a phone call or message. I check twice a day but don't post much.I started a group on FB and have joined a couple of other groups. As a group thing anyone can post an event and instantly everyone knows about it. My golf club has a group on FB. When someone wants a game they post it and everyone can reply. The numbers get sorted pretty quick.I use it a lot but not obsessed.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm a social media addict! I have FB, Twitter, Pinterest, Tsu, Tumblr, YouTube, Vine...and more. It is a huge part of my life - I use FB to keep up to date with what my family are up to as they all live on the other side of the country. All of the other sites (plus another FB profile AND page) I have for networking purposes - I have travelled to America, Mexico and received lots of paid work and cash prizes/incentives all through social media opportunities (nothing suss, I assure you haha!). The only person that I talk to on the phone is my mother - I am all about texting. I do use Kik for RHP people. As to meeting people in real life, the last sexual relationship I had that wasn't formed through RHP (or a handful from a foray into Tinder) was 6 years ago I think. A little concerning when you think about it that way, maybe? I am one of those people that is glued to their phone though, it's definitely a problem. Although never in social situations, it's always in the handbag. I have walked down some streets hundreds of times though and couldn't tell what any of the buildings look like. Miss Little xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
FB, Kik and Rhp are my main, daily social media activities. Much prefer a text to a call. So much less intrusive! If a friend needs to chat, I'd rather receive a text and then drive over to their house than chat on the phone. Unless I'm driving, then I chat on the phone. It's like multitasking I guess....Although I embrace social media, I'm terrified of the consequences it may have for my children when they are teens. Cyber bullying is brutal and I just don't know how I will be able to guide you children safely through that minefield.......xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't do FB, Twitter, Instagram...any of those, I don't need them as I visit all my friends and family and call or txt when l can't visit. ( I'm know as the drop in dinosaur) Not interested in seeing everybody's lives laid bare in print. I do use kik to chat off RHP but that's it.... I understand it if you have people interstate or overseas to contact. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been guilty of talking to my kids on facebook when only a room or two away. Work and traffic, out of the house for anything up to 12 hours a day, I was belly up, couldn't move lol I'd message and beg and plead for them to bring me a coffee
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'misskez' I don't do FB, Twitter, Instagram...any of those, I don't need them as I visit all my friends and family and call or txt when l can't visit. ( I'm know as the drop in dinosaur) Not interested in seeing everybody's lives laid bare in print. I do use kik to chat off RHP but that's it.... I understand it if you have people interstate or overseas to contact. - Posted from rhpmobile I made a decision a few years ago to pull myself off facebook, very happy with that decision and resist using any other social media unless absolutely necessary. With facebook, I'm really not interested in what people had for breakfast, how many cornflakes they had in their bowl or if they ran out of milk and had to go to the shop to get more, or if they're on holiday telling us what an awesome time they're having but sitting on facebook the entire time. I got to the point where I didn't want to log in, because I didn't have time to look at photos people had uploaded for me etc etc it leeched time. This site does too, but it interests me, that didn't, I just eventually ditched. Also for privacy. Now, I find myself in the position of needing to be back on there, nothing to do with this life, but I need to follow something on there, music related, but only want a generic profile, if that makes sense. So I'll need to look into a profile without a picture, is that allowed? and I won't accept friend requests or interact with anyone, it'll be purely to source the music I want to source, which I can only access on there. But otherwise, I try to keep it simple. I'm more of a dinosaur than you, don't even use kik yet, but will do very soon, think I'm gonna have to join the force there
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have Kik for about two people, but otherwise avoid social media. Email, phone, text, or in person are my preferred ways to keep in touch. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Don't do social media except for RHP. I text ,email,and phone. Anything more and I think I would feel like Alice falling down the rabbit hole Q
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RHP User
10 years ago
With social media? Is FB ,Twitter,kik,etc a big part of your life and essential to how you feel connected? I haven't got kik and never will get one Twitter I haven't got an account but I read other people's account when I am interested FB- I have but hardly ever post anything personal. I do use the private message or facetime function with people I know personally to stay in touch - bridging distance and I am a member of a couple of groups where I get news about a particular topic but rarely contribute. I HATE the FB culture of self entitlement to opinion, commenting and the ever increasing trend of holding people "accountable" for their words outside of FB if one does not agree with what being said. If someone does not agree handle it on FB or privately - no need to bring in 3rd parties such as their place of work or the media into the game - be grown up! Or do you prefer to just interact with people in real life? Absolutely. Do you even talk to people on the phone or only text? Yes - or skype :) Do you still meet people in real life situations for sex or potential relationships or is it mainly online ? Sadly as "online social media" killed off the avenues to meet people in real life, or at least made these options look pretty WEIRD I find the first contact is usually online - then proceed offline as soon as realistic. FB is now sixteen years old,do you think it's advent has changed the social landscape for the better or ironically led to us being more disconnected? More disconnected without a doubt. social media (FB, Twitter) is self-marketing and marketing for one's opinions - a platform for exclusion instead of inclusion. -- Interestingly in the current MayJune2016 Edition of Scientific American's Mind there is an article about "friendship" it states the appropriate maximum number of intimate friends is 5 the appropriate number of social connections people can successfully maintain is 150 by evolutionary psychologist Robin Dumbar I have 5 friends I know I could call if I am in trouble and have less than 150 connections on FB...I am totally average :)
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