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How much age gap is too much?
October 19 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Welcome to RHP :)We find that it differs so much from person to person and from couple to couple that we've stopped using age as a filter whenever we look for potential play mates.There are young people who look and act old and vice-versa. I guess it really depends on what turns your flavour of the month is hee heeWhy do you ask? Are you thinking about stretching your age limits?Katexoxo
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dont think there is a set age gap. There is no formula for calculating this and I guess it is up to each individual. I would personally find it a little strange if a man over the age of maybe around 28 was lusting after a 16 year old....even if she is legal, although one of my firends 16 year old daughter took up with her fathers' best mate, a man of 45. 25 years and two children later, they are still together so who is to say? It would therefore stand to reason that I would..I also be a little sceptical of a love match between a 20 year old and an octogenarian....I would be looking for the payoff...the angle. But I am a cynic.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If it's healthy for all concerned I don't think it matters much.... as long as you bring the bottled oxygen I think I'll manage to survive. Hugs Daddy.
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RHP User
14 years ago
half your age plus seven for a little cradle robbing or, inversely, your age minus seven, doubled for, errm... grave robbing. Good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks for your reply!! I'm asking because I've always been interested in older guys and was interested to hear other people's thoughts. I was having a FWB thing with a mate and he found the age gap exciting but not right (he was 23.5yrs older than me). I had absolutely no problem with it and was looking to see what other people's angle was on this. It seems to be a talked about topic with relationships normally and people place such a big emphasis and idea ont he 'perfect' age gap but I think it is very much an individual thing and not about age but rather about the connection, feelings, enjoyment of each other (in and out of the bedroom)
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RHP User
14 years ago
half your age plus seven for a little cradle robbing or, inversely, your age minus seven, doubled for, errm... grave robbing. Good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm really not a person who cares about age gaps, if you get along well, you are friends and there is love there...go for it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we wont play with anyone near to or younger than our children.... so those under 30 - 33 we wont even consider...10 years older is enough as well.... our preference is for those our ages, give or take 5 years or so.....like we would look for if single and dating.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your last update about your older friend struck a chord with me.When I was 20 I had a lover who was 34. Not quite the same age gap as yours, but a fair gap nevertheless for a girl so young. That lasted 2 years, and we are still friends to this day (thanks to FB). The age gap is the same but he is now nearly 60 and I am in my early 40's. That is a very different combination.What I found was as I got older, I stayed attracted to men in their early to mid thirties until I reached that age myself, then spent some time with men around 8 years younger than me until I reached my 40's. I am currently in a place where men within 5 years either way of my own age are the most appealing to me.Each person is different and as you get older your tastes will quite likely change a few times back and forth, depending on where you are in your life. Have fun with it!
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RHP User
14 years ago
We have a significant age gap and have found a huge different in peoples opinions.Opinions from" its sick" to " I cant see a problem" . These opinions are formed from these peoples own life experience and relationships experienced and you cant change that.I often questioned my partner about our relationship age gap and she has no issue with it, states that when she was 15 her girlfriends had Harry Potter posters on their walls , whilst she had Piearce Brosnan on hers. She found herself attracted to her Dads friends instead of boys her own age ! Its just how it is, how its always been " Your attracted to what your attracted too" providing everyone is an adult what should it matter.I see her point but of course think about the other sides of the argument like when Im sixties and she is in her forties ! Will she still be attracted to me or will mid 30 to mid 40 year olds still be her weakness as someone had already eluded to in this forum ? questions and doubts are a plenty, but in the end I have had 2 other relationships where the age gap was minimal and that didnt work out so well either ! We currently have the support of our families and friends so thats all that should matter.So in the end we should live for the now , enjoy the present and let fate do the rest .
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RHP User
14 years ago
blacklace i think where shagging is concerned.............do what you want as long as it's legal and you remain a decent human being and don't risk anyone elses happiness. When you're talking about a long term romantic relationship, i think the more you have in common the better, marriage is hard enough to make work when you're the same age and you have everything in the world in common........why add another potential stumbling block. I have very little in common with someone who is 25 and very little in common with someone who is 55 if i want to form a relationship. At the end of the day when all the love and lust has worn thin you want to have something to talk about.meh....just the view from where i sit.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are both 33 and try to judge people based on there look rather than age. That said Jane is yet to find anyone male over 40 who she has been attracted to. I have found some lady's in there late 40's attractive. She usualy screws up her nose and runs away from the pc when we get a message from some one in there 50'sSo more often than not 28 - 40 will catch Janes attention and 25 - 45 for me. On a hole though we find people just a few years from our own age tends to sit well with us. This is all purely based on there look. A lot of the time if you could swap the personality, confidence and relaxed attitude of the older people with the younger peoples body it would be perfect.We have found there are a lot of couples on here with big age gaps like fem 25 and the male is 50. So it obviously works for some. Everyone is different and there are no rules.Tim
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just the ages. I dont care whether someone my age wants to be with an 18 year old or a 70 year old, their choice. So long as they are both adults, it doesnt matter.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...whatever you feel comfortable with. Personally, I'm comfortable with 10 years either side of my own age, but that's not necessarily a hard and fast rule..
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'goodgrlzsayplz' blacklace i think where shagging is concerned.............do what you want as long as it's legal and you remain a decent human being and don't risk anyone elses happiness. When you're talking about a long term romantic relationship, i think the more you have in common the better, marriage is hard enough to make work when you're the same age and you have everything in the world in common........why add another potential stumbling block. I have very little in common with someone who is 25 and very little in common with someone who is 55 if i want to form a relationship. At the end of the day when all the love and lust has worn thin you want to have something to talk about.meh....just the view from where i sit. I agree with the goodgrl. When it comes to sex, friendship even just socialising there really is no limit, except for that one the law sets down. I'd say a wide age range of sexual partners is much more exciting than boring yourself with more of the same. . When it comes to a long-term serious 'settle-down' relationship I think you need to have a closer look at how your life's timeline links into your partners time-line and plans... and think about how they link in10 years time. I think it's easy to get caught up in the 'we are so good together' fun of a relationship and overlook the 'when he is 50 and wants to spend all day at the bowls club and you are 30 hankering for kids' possible reality of life. But an age difference is not an impossible hurdle, you just need to recognise that it can and will be a hurdle and be honest and communicate about it. . Do whatever feels right. And make sure there's no kink in Stalky's oxygen line.... he has enough kinks already!! :-D
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RHP User
14 years ago
You need to follow your heart and what suits you. I do lots of things on my gut feeling but when it becomes to love/Romance or even a good old or young roll in the hay it is always going to be up to you. In the end it in no one's buisiness to to make fun of your choices.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Nice answer JG, and you didn't even mention a school uniform. I am impressed :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Nice answer JG, and you didn't even mention a school uniform. I am impressed :-) You know some days I picture a little tartan skirt on that arse, with those red panties and arse cheeks just poking out underneath... Does that make me a perve? .. . I hope so
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RHP User
14 years ago
We prefer as close to our age as possible, 50 year olds look so much more sexier, know how to please their partners as these skills can only be learnt and improved on over time. Confirmation is most sports, sprints the younger ones excell, a quickie but ah! marathons are for the more skilled.
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