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How often do you swing? 🤔

June 09 2026

We’re curious to see how often everyone else is actually active in the lifestyle. For us, we’ve generally been swinging about once every two weeks. It’s been a frequency that has worked well, giving us something to look forward to while still balancing work, life, and everything else. Lately though, we’ve found ourselves becoming a bit more intentional about it. Rather than simply filling the calendar, we’re focusing more on quality connections, genuine chemistry, and finding people whose dynamic aligns with ours. It got us wondering how everyone else approaches things. Do you: * Swing regularly every week or fortnight? * Only play when the right connection comes along? * Go through busy periods followed by long breaks? * Prefer spontaneous meets or planning well in advance? Has your frequency changed over time as you’ve gained more experience in the lifestyle? We’re interested to hear what works for you and whether you’ve become more selective and intentional as your journey has evolved.

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PandaAndBri

3 days ago

At the moment we are seeing our calendar fill up fast now that we have joined a couple of local groups that host parties. It us exciting but also a bit daunting now juggling the calendar. Having said that, even if we do attend a party, we may not play and in those cases it is jus a fun social event. Bri

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MrandMrsEss

2 days ago

Worlds worst swingers here, we’d average a few times a year. We’d possibly like a little more but who has the time 😂

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PartnersnCrime

2 days ago

No rules here. We had a weekend when we had a few parties, but sometimes we don't do anything for half a year. We travel a lot, have kids and lots of other hobbies so finding free time is very hard. Sometimes we book a party a few months in advance and pencil it in our calendars, sometimes we just decide to go next weekend. Sometimes we prefer to have a night with each other. No pattern whatsoever

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Blueflamingo

2 days ago

For me it all depends on what else is happening in my life. When life gets busy, the lifestyle becomes a second priority. I can go weeks without seeing anyone, then fit in 3 dates in one week if my calendar allows, and "I feel like it" 🤭 It is harder if you are in a relationship/couple, as you have to align both your urges and needs. I find this much easier to navigate being single. I dont believe in doing anything, just for the sake of it or taking one for the team. 🩵🦩x

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ViviUnaVolta

2 days ago

I don't know if anyone else does this, but we try to line up playing with when I (f) am ovulating lol! We went to one event when I was premenstrual and I was just sooo not in the mood. I'm a predictable women and am always down to party and play when it's the right time of the month so we tend to let the moon guide us! So for us it's once a month or every two months.

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Felicitous

2 days ago

Not into 'swinging' per say.. (at the moment) I'd define my current connection as more a poly relationship. We see each other every 2-3 weeks - schedules and our other partners schedules aligning. But generally message daily and speak regularly in between. We have other things in common though separate to the lifestyle - so always lots to connect on. V xx

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Zpaset

yesterday

I have every Friday fortnight set aside for meeting up, it's just finding dates that's the trick. I usually end up diamond hunting in the dark with a UV light at a local spot I've found. Either way I have fun.

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CuriousAsianCpl

yesterday

We used to do it every couple weeks but nowadays are a lot more selective looking for an ideal couple 4 way match where we could get to know regularly for repeat play. Not easy at all to find that so we meet/play only when a worthwhile match pops up.

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