How to put it politely?

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  SpicyKale

  5 years ago

  I’m not sure if there is a way, no matter what the intentions behind it. The only thing I’ve seen that comes close, was a couple mentioning that they preferred people from a similar background, but even that sounds a bit icky. Personally I think I’d just leave it out and continue filtering through messages, or untick single guys and do your own hunting. Oh, as a thought, ask for face pics on first message and then you don’t spend six messages working out they aren’t what you’re seeking. Preferences vs race has been a divisive debate on here over the years and one we prefer not to see in profiles. We don’t see straight guys and I’m sure some would have issues with that too…. it’s just our preference 🤷🏻‍♂️

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Instead of putting in your profile who you DO NOT want to hear from (which might sound harsh), keep it positive and say something like: "We've discussed our fantasy in detail and are quite picky. We are keen to hear from X, Y, Z." Who you let into your home and vagina is your choice. You can be a little politically incorrect and not feel bad about it. Happy dating.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  “I’m not racist, I just don’t like that race”? Seriously? 😂 If they’re good enough to talk to and you’re getting along but then you find out their background and it puts you off I’m sorry but that’s the definition of racism. She solely doesn’t like them based on race, you don’t get to say that and not admit to being a racist, wtf?

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  We’re with u , unfortunately some nationalities just dont do it for us . In a way it’s no different to saying “ no smokers” which is a cross on many profiles . Honesty is always best .

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  2EssesExploring

  5 years ago

  Hmmm what specifically is it about this ethnic group you find unattractive? Is it physical or more a cultural clash? Personally I cannot understand anyone limiting any interaction based purely on race. There is usually a broad range of physical differences and even expressions of parts of culture within any race. I’m perplexed even more at people who are only attracted to people who look as close to themselves as possible, could be misconstrued as a tad incestuous! I prefer my life as varied and interesting as possible. I want to interact with all the beauty the world has to offer.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  In Australia, we see skin colour and ethnicity as a representation of personality. And that’s racist. Every day of the week. And I say that, with my own personal struggles when connecting with men of different ethnicities. I have to own the fact, that my attitude is RACIST, and I have to do something about that. Which I have actively been doing. There are a LOT of men on here who KNOW that our culture is racist, and hide their ethnicity to try to make a connection via personality FIRST, before exposing the colour of their skin. God it must be exhausting for them. Having a physical preference is VERY different from having an ethnic preference. I’m sorry. That’s just the truth. My suggestion would be to look at WHY you don’t ‘prefer’ the ethnicity you’re referring to, and then throw caution to the wind. Meet these men. Give them a chance. You’re missing out on a whole swathe of the population by only preferring certain skin tones/ethnicities. And from my amazing adventures, I can tell you, they are passionate and sensual and incredible lovers. (Plus the videos are 🔥🔥. I’m VERY pale, and seeing dark cock sliding into any number of my holes is HUGELY erotic.)

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  MsSuperFoxy

  5 years ago

  You don't. However mention that you are attracted to United nations and especially chocolate flavoured cocks, with toppings of substance. 😋 Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I share your frustration. In fact it shits me they lie about it (yes by omission is still a lie). What about disclosure? We're not fucking paid sex workers who may have an obligation to fuck everyone and who has time to be chatting with every random on here. Selfish cunts. They need to be up front and honest from the get go. No different to lies about weight, age, fitness, single/married, smoking etc. I smoke so how would the pc's like it if I lied (by omission) about that?

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  If theres no attraction, theres no attraction. I dont go for older guys or guys with beards, am I getting a slap on the arse? Skin colour dosnt sway me personally but I believe we should be able to have a preference as to who we are attracted to and we want to get naked with.

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  nightingale8

  5 years ago

  “It’s not you, it’s me” would go down better than “I’m not racist, but…” Just my ethnic perspective ha ha ha

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  My comment obviously didnt go down well with the mods

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  You don't have to. If you decide to reply you can always just say they're not what you're looking for. No need to provide any explanation but thanks and good luck in their search is a friendly touch in my opinion.

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  Keepitclassy6063

  5 years ago

  So is it racist if it’s the opposite and you’re hugely attracted to a certain race???

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  Player_J

  5 years ago

  I think you're entitled to your sexual preferences. It's sex, not about how you interact with them in every other way of life. Not sure how you would put it politely, but as one poster said perhaps focus positively on what you DO like? I personally think it'd be a lot more efficient if we just put up our race, especially those that have been "rejected" or "sexualised" because of it. Like you can't change everyone, especially sexual preferences, so don't cry poor when they say no after lots of message exchanges. From my end, anyone who starts of with "your asian xyz anything" i use as a filter to block.

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  Ell_uno

  5 years ago

  Black and proud if you don’t like me carry on I am sure somebody here like this black being . You are entitled to your own opinions, interests no doubt and believe me that your right but that doesn’t warrant you blast it all over and sway other people into it. The filter button is there for a reason 🤷🏽‍♂️. I only joined yesterday seeing that there people that’s tick out for other race here made me say something and I am proud of you guys saying the truth not defending which many people get wrong😬. Moral of the story if you don’t like black which is me move on and I can not speak for the other races.

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  I'm sure you have read my responses that were responses to the points raised about your question. It doesn't mean I don't believe your right for a preference. And I think some very good tactical ways addressing the issue has been presented as a solution to your issue. One thing was raise that the group of racial men you do not prefer are hiding it by exclusion and in your view this dishonesty is causing you frustrations. Fair enough, BUT... You get this in many facets of human interaction, men, in general will exclude any attribute about them, if it means a shot at showing the general package on offer. However, to express that as if the men of this racial background is specifically excluding it to "get in your pants" is to willfully focus on a racial background in a very passive aggressive way, I think that needs to be pointed out. Could we even say it displays covert enmity? I don't know. May be. I can't remember who said it where in the post, I know you don't have it in your question, so, not raising the point against your OP.

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  Ell_uno

  5 years ago

  @I_touch_myself2 Ethnicity is the key word and there race in the word. But as for what black I am I can’t divulge to you coz you want to have a conclusion of my reaction.I don’t see the reason you should know coz it won’t let you like me.I think you made your point but the fact of matter is we just have different two different opinions and above all life goes on , as one man’s meat is another man’s poison. Platforms like these enables you to be who are but also if you don’t have an open mind ethnicity will cause your heard to spin. It’s a touchy subject but only the strong and factual will survive 😂😂😂.

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