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May 29 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would close the door in a heartbeat if that came up, would consider it a unicorn at this point in time, but that's just where I'm at too mind you. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If it doesn't work out then you can always return here....for me this is a filler until such an opportunity comes along. Depends on what you use the site for, others will have varying and alternative resolves, depending on their own personal use and intentions. Sounds like you are weighing it all up, at the end of the day you will do what's right for you. Time is short, and regret is a waste of this precious commodity. I would dive in, fearlessly, the universe is always conspiring with you. Grab the chance at something real if the feeling is mutual between you....lucky you ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would "til then
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I'd never close the door on RHP. How would I get my forum fix if I did that?? :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
As in, being there, doing that. I don't saddle him with quite so much weight as implied in the Op though? It's important to balance it out by having a well rounded social/work/family circle. . Didn't even have to give up widening the envelope... We did for while have our experiences on here but it turned out, we were too selfish of our own time in the long run. Peachy
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RHP User
10 years ago
I kind of agree with Summer but my future partner, if indeed there ever is one, would have to be into sharing. That's not to say I'd be finding action elsewhere just for the sake of it, that would depend on how satisfied I was and if extra was needed, or enhanced our sex life, he would be free to come and go, and so would I, play together with other people, with no hesitation, that discussion would have already happened prior to getting serious with them and the only way I'd move forward. Monogamy will never be for me or a partner of mine. I simply don't believe long term, it's healthy, but that's just me
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RHP User
10 years ago
I did
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sweetgem
10 years ago
I met someone who was that much compatible with me, then there would be no hesitation for me to close the door and pursue that relationship. However, in order for me to close the door again, my future man must advocate the respect of keeping a certain degree of personal space. That is, accept that I want to remain on RHP for its Forums, but without a valid profile and I will show him this Forums too. Of course, I would respect the same for him if he had similar intention. After all, it's trust that makes a relationship strong, or breaks it. Hence, what's the point for being together if there was no trust?! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
OF COURSE!!!! If all of your physical, emotional, and mental needs/wants were found in the one amazing package, you would have to pursue that as a relationship......as long as you were the one meeting all of their needs too !!! To be free to be yourselves, accepting each other to be the individuals you are, without control or change implemented to the other person, is the ultimate dream to encompass all of that with unconditional love (give each other winks across the room at your next orgy together)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Think what both summer and I touch have said sums up my feelings as well !! Decided awhile ago if I did ever find somebody who was perfect for me , I'll only be in a open relationship if I ever be in any sort of relationship again .
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes 😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
I found mine.... RHP land is a journey we are exploring together - an added shared element. But I would never think about trying to find someone better.... I've got everything I want and need with Mr LAL Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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Newday10
10 years ago
You only live once no good having regrets on your last day
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RHP User
10 years ago
got broken a LONG time ago... Sometimes.. I kinda... "Prop" them almost closed...but, the door does NOT close properly.. the frames get swollen and twisted.. the catches have been all kicked in..And the locks.... well.. they have long ago been removed and "Hocked"..*shrugs*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Love your little blushing face, cute. Is that because you know what you're gonna do when the door shuts 😉😜
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Tall74nHard9
10 years ago
"get swollen and twisted"..."have all been kicked in".... Are those sentiments code for something else ?? Tall
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
That ticks those boxes. But we met in here so no need to shut the door. We enjoyed our time as singles here which filled certain voids and shortcomings we had in the outside world. So we journey together where we met, still fulfilling those certain needs that we have come enjoy and easier to find here. A relationship here has its challenges just as a traditional relationship has. Just different challenges and ones that you cant discuss with normal friends. Life has its challenges wherever its lived. I think if you are in here for a period of time, you evolve and may find it difficult to leave the lifestyle behind. You may need to close the door OP but it will never be locked. Like a basement of a haunted house.........should you go back down there?
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RHP User
10 years ago
i would
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm greedy, I'm already married and the right people would not ask me to be a caged bird. I honestly believe the 'Right' person exists in many forms and I've never expected one person (or my family unit) to completely fulfill my existence. That's why we have friends etc... Monogamous or not. I think if you wish to settle you should find someone who makes you feel good and run with it. There's no need to tick every box. Fresh attraction and sexual desire will always fade over time, it transforms into something more special for the love shared, time spent, experiences shared, heartache felt and respect offered. You have the power to define your relationships from the start and redefine them in the future. If sleeping with other people is your thing, like it's mine- wouldn't this be the perfect place to find your ideal match? L_D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
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RHP User
10 years ago
a question for the singles in the ranks? Although I have seen couples who only wanted to find their ideal playmates leave once they'd apparently found them....usually to return when it all went pearshaped.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...for sharing your thoughts and even though we are all very unique individuals, there is a thread of commonality that seems to run through us all. As for me, if all of my needs were met and I knew that I were equally meeting those of a partner then I would indeed close the door behind us and never look back. I'm here now as it's a bit of fun although is something to do rather than who I am...for now. Be well.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
they unconditionally felt the same as I do. Perhaps I would but I doubt it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
😇yes.... And while the door is still open too.
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Katkat
10 years ago
That will be a while for me though just starting to have fun & experience I have missed out on my younger years. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
because I don't believe that one person - no matter how awesome they are - can fulfill all of my needs and believing that they can and should leads to co-dependence and other things I want to avoid in a relationship. Plus going by past experience I'm not very good at monogamy. Likely the only way I'd enter into another relationship is if the other party is also happy with an open / swinging relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' because I don't believe that one person - no matter how awesome they are - can fulfill all of my needs and believing that they can and should leads to co-dependence and other things I want to avoid in a relationship. ...co-dependency is an illness. Relationships are dysfunctional...the most common theme is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and identity. Not for me either, thanks but no. That said, I do believe two people can build a very strong and healthy interdependence that will help make both their lives much richer. Besides, I'm happy to cook or clean up the dishes... I just don't want to do both!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yes, but of course! To me, this whole RHP thing is an experiment of sorts. Kinda like a hermit crab cautiously peeking out from its shell to explore and push boundaries. Sometimes, I feel very adventurous. Other days, I feel a bit timid and uncertain. It's a learning process for me to discover what works and what doesn't. :) Whilst I love the idea of being in a monogamous relationship, my recent relationships have made me toy with the idea of enjoying a little something more on the side. :P No one person can ever fulfill all our needs effectively. However, I don't have it in me to be unfaithful and cheat. Plus, I do seek a certain level of "comfort", assurance and security in a primary relationship so I think what can work is to be honest with each other and perhaps agree to indulge in the occasional threesome or foursome. It's akin to the analogy of thinking of myself as a spaceship - I want to occasionally fly away from the mothership and explore new territories but I want to know that when I return, the mothership is always there for me to berth. If I decide on a change of scenery, it would be awesome if the mothership decides to come along for the ride too. In my ideal relationship, sometimes I am the spaceship and other times, I am the mothership. As long as my partner agrees that at the end of the day, mutual love, respect and commitment is to be upheld as sacred, then everything else is negotiable. My freedom is important, hence his freedom will be important to me too.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony'In my ideal relationship, sometimes I am the spaceship and other times, I am the mothership. As long as my partner agrees that at the end of the day, mutual love, respect and commitment is to be upheld as sacred, then everything else is negotiable. My freedom is important, hence his freedom will be important to me too. ... flat our gorgeous with no explanation needed. Beam aboard and please don't expect to me to be anything other than that which you would expect. Freedom is a quant word that means no commitment ... be well.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Never close the door I say. You never know when the lock may click, and you are stuck behind that door. Leave Open. An Open honest relationship preferred for me 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
But that would be until I was absolutely certain that I have found my Unicorn. I'm sort of in that situation now, and I'm keeping my guard up because while she has ticked the box for mental needs, there are still question marks about the emotional and physical. I should add that this is a long distance thing at the moment, so there a lot of unknown factors and elements that I still feel unsure about. For now, I'm letting it run it's course, as my gut is unsure to pursue this or not
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