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Just Friends??

September 07 2009

This may sound silly but hey, i bet its happened to many of you here aswell so maybe you can help!We have a couple that my hubby and i met together (we have a couples profile on here too) and we swapped etc... and things just .... the sparks weren't exactly there but we got along with them great and met up again and ended up at a hotel again but still not much different but we would love to remain friends with them because we do have things in common and are great as friends but not sure how it will come across to them.Is it a bad thing if we still met up with them for dinner/drinks but say we're not up for playing tonight etc... and hope they get the hint after a few meets like that??ALSOWe may be on the receiving end of one of them too LOL (karma maybe? haha) but not sure if we should bring it up or not and how haha dont want them thinking we need to play ALL the time but also nice to know where we stand i guess?Now every couple we've met that reads this will probably think that its them now LOL

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RHP User

16 years ago

Something needs to be said. I have an old high school friend I keep bumping into in the dark while we are both naked. There's just no "magic" there so I end up limp and talking about sister Mary Joan and the days we shared in the choir or something equally trite. Good company does not always mean good lovin' even if you do hang out in the same sleazy sex dive. At least you can fake an orgasm sobi... but your poor hubbie.... no. Something must be said! Hehe... Hugs Gaz (it's a tough job this free love business)

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2more4fun

16 years ago

This very topic was answered in Ask Sam - http://www.redhotpie.com.au/DateDoctors/Can-We-Still-Be-Friends-qq486It sadly does happen from time to time and unless you do like them as friends, you can let things die a natural death I guess?Luckily in the couples game most are in touch or meeting other people often enough that you don't tend to notice if one couple isn't as attentive as before. Hmmm... on the other hand, if they are really into you, maybe they will wonder what's going on... Good luck!

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RHP User

16 years ago

this can be a real problem but I guess its how you want to handle it we have friends and my wife and he really flirt and have been known to wonder off ond get it off. me and the other wife there is no attraction but we are very good friends and mostly enjoy there company (not all the time they can be at each other which isnt mush fun) most of the time. make excuses is the only way to avoid the situation, it works in time they will accept that its friendship and the "friends with extra" doesnt have to happen all the time bets of luck J & J

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RHP User

16 years ago

Just coz you like someone...doesnt mean you have to fuck them.Ya never know...they may not "feel the magic" either.Just tell them that you really enjoy their company but don't think that playing is in the cards.Ya never know...once you take the pressure off yourself...you may find yourself attracted!Just my opinion...BJxxx

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RHP User

16 years ago

Thanks for your replies!Its made me rethink....

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RHP User

16 years ago

wen I was in the swinging scene ther were a few cpls we just got along with as frnds...and it will happen bcoz if u think about it everyone on this site is fairly open minded...so u r meeting the same sort of ppl as u and u can make sum good friends out of them ...who wants boring vanilla frnds that u cant tell ur crazy stories to anywayz!

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RHP User

16 years ago

Nothing wrong with that... In reality, this site is as much for making friends as it is for playing with them!! We've got a few couples like that, but not because there is no spark, but because we've got a lot on and the timing just hasn't worked.We love the relationship we have with you guys. We can have great hot fun times, and we can just hang out and, I dunno, watch a movie and have a few drinks!We love meeting new people and making new friends. Friends we can play with is just one other thing we can indulge in if it feeling is right!The first (maybe second, it was a while ago) couple we met, not long after they decided that it probably wasn't for them and they don't play with anyone. We're still great friends to this day.As long as it's in the open and everyone knows their place, then there will be no unpleasant interactions or moments and you can just enjoy having some new friends.If they become pushy however, it might be time to cut ties and move on, to save the pressure on you and the disappointment for them (or vice versa)

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RHP User

16 years ago

Oh la la! Do not worry! RHP is a great way to make friends as well as intimate ones!We have met lovely people with whom we have never made it to the bedroom and that we have numerously met for dinners or drinks. We have also played with some couples that are great fun as friends too.Don't worry about the fact that sex may not be the reason why you like each others...Thank god, there are many more reasons to be friendly!CheersS & Sx

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