Keeping identity private

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I felt the same when I first joined and assume many others here felt the same at the start. But then I started to feel comfortable, and decided that most others on here are looking for something outside the norm of society as well. If the other person shares their identity first and you don't know them then no harm in sharing yours. If you do know them or think you may, then you can politely decline their approach and not share yours. If you spend some time here hopefully you too will become more comfortable.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  people are on here for the same reason as you. Makes no difference to me if they're famous/elite sports/well known, I want sex and I assume they do too. Otherwise, why would they be on here. Same in respect to work and privacy. I personally would never meet sight unseen, and go beyond that, ask them for a verification pic to be sure I know the vision matches who I'm talking to. Your choice how you proceed but unrealistic to expect people to meet you without seeing you?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  If you dont show face pics then you have less chance of actually meeting anyone. Most people like to see who they are going to meet. I always had face pics up but then I didnt have a high end job or issues with being seen on a dating site. I wouldnt meet anyone without seeing a face pic, although often they were in their private galleries. There are fake profiles and people with photos that are very misleading on here so people will want to see a recent photo. If you refuse to show a face pic then it might be the case that you will miss out on meeting some great new friends or end up meeting guys who are just interested in getting their end away without caring who it is with. Out of interest, would you meet someone without seeing what they looked like? But...good luck, and there are some great guys on here.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Do what you want to do on here. Its your life, you have to live it. Im sure being a woman, you will still have alot of people wanting to meet up. All the best - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  With Perth and Meander... I wouldn't meet anyone without seeing their face pics first. Actually, I wouldn't engage beyond a second message without face pics. It's absolutely about security, but also about time. I don't have the time, or desire, to spend multiple hours messaging back and forth in an attempt to establish mutual wants, basic connection, etc. Knowing that you are at least somewhat attracted to someone physically is a good starting point. I understand your desire for security, and the simple fact is that some people are just asshats who you can't trust. Lots more are not 😉 Being sensible about the information you share, until trust is established, is way more valuable in protecting your identity, than hiding your face, imo :) Only you can decide if the risk:reward ratio is viable for you, good luck and welcome to the fray 👍🏼

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Sorry, should have been clear that face pics in your pg, as Meander suggested, is the way to go if you are concerned about being recognised 😎

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  My 2 cents.. Do whatever you're comfortable with. Back when I was meeting new people I've had plenty of success without putting up a face pic. Sure, some will give you a miss but overall I didn't have too much of a problem. And no one complained once we'd met ☺ Happy hunting!! Nibbles - Posted from rhpmobile

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  WishingWell

  8 years ago

  Hey thanx heaps for all your replies! Guess I just need to find my own way with what I'm comfortable with. Life is all about risk taking and if I make some mistakes along the way, I'm sure I'll learn from them XXX

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I have a bit of a rule in regard to sharing pictures that may be of help. If I have messaged my interest to someone and they request a face pic I give them access to my private gallery. If, however, they have messaged interest in me and want a face pic I let them know that I would appreciate one first. This usually results in the legendary ''ghosting''. Oh well...

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  EarthQueen

  8 years ago

  My face pics are in private album and I share them if I feel comfortable and establish we have no messy links in RL. I have found everyone I have met is pretty much in the same boat and also wants mutual respect and privacy so sharing pics has not had any issues so far. But also remember that you can take access to pics away if things don't work out or both parties are not interested. Or you can just open them quickly and close them again if that's what you want. Have fun 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Katkat

  8 years ago

  Kik messenger use photo bomb attach ur photo once sent & opened in 3 seconds it will self destruct it which means they can't keep a record of it. Also snapchat is another one can send video or photo once it's been viewed once -twice it will disappear it won't be on your history thread unless u save it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Mask_007

  8 years ago

  That is such a good subject. Well.done OP. Is a very sticky one, my guess is: you should be able to protect your public image having some very discrete pictures with nothing that can compromise you. And if is a mutual interest you can give access to your private galery or share pictures in other way. Like Snapchat. If have to be, will be. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Sex and the last is needed - Posted from rhpmobile

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