M51 F45
Lessons for guys... from a couple's perspective
April 30 2023
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RHP User
3 years ago
Wow maybe you aren’t as good as you think you are?
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Hotwife71
3 years ago
Welcome to the RHP. You have summed up the process perfectly, happens everytime without fail. PS: the ones thst reply to a specific dste and at the last minute advise they have something on. A Security deposit woukd be a good idea.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
I don't think human behaviour will automatically change because you write a post about it.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
Venting frustration disguised as advice perhaps?
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Sawadee
3 years ago
I think by putting this in Date Finder you were bound to attract the masses.. For us , this seems like too much work trying to sort the chaff from the hay .. The other thing that struck me was the time frame you wanted this to happen . In a ideal world that is ideal , but hard to please everyone even though l see where your coming from.. When we were looking for the same ' we browsed profile's of guys Mrs felt a attraction to . This is the way we approached our last adventure and it worked out quite well .. Not much since then mainly because Mrs S is super fussy , but at least we dont need to deal with the masses who dont fit the bill .. Not quite as easy as most would think...
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nightingale8
3 years ago
I suppose it burns to be told you are the runner up prize and be expected to be happy about it. Some will. It’s good not to take it all too seriously.
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RHP User
3 years ago
And coming up, "Lesson for couples.. From single women" 😂
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FeistyFatty
3 years ago
OP.... Just so you know..... This is NOT everyone's experience. Been on these sites for close to 17years and can't agree at all. Had 5 bad face to face experiences in that time. We now have an awesome group of friends we play with weekly and if we're travelling and put up a Datefinder.... They've been positive outcomes. Keep plodding along..... Once you build up your network and friend group your time here will be very enjoyable 😊
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RHP User
3 years ago
As a single guy I’ve had the exact opposite experience, it has been couples and single women that have been exactly as you described single guys. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve set a date, changed my schedule to suit only to either be ghosted or told at the 11th hour that they have changed their mind/ made other plans/ or simply say nothing until days after the arranged meeting time 🤷♂️ So it goes both ways
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RHP User
3 years ago
I do hope that all went well in the end personally have no issue with being a runner up because it gives motivation to perform and say you almost missed out on this! But in all seriousness maybe the ones that have sold themselves the best are just salesmen and when they are expected to perform get stage fright. I hope other couples look past the eye candy at times and measure the interaction of messages shared. I for one am very respectful and wouldn’t show interest if I wasn’t available and with that interest I introduce and share my gallery. I feel I’ve been apart of this screening process and have missed out out and learning that the couples miss out also is in a way divine justice but sadness for all involved still on the look out message me team if you have any dates on the other side of this weekend
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RHP User
3 years ago
I’m also a little confused about the fact you’re have a shot at single guys I. general yet your profile says you are only looking for women,couples or groups 🤷♂️ Maybe some mixed messages there
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RHP User
3 years ago
In every single couple on here, there used to be one of those pesky single males............:) Im like Oil beef hooked, I had so much crap from couples when I first joined, I decided just to see single men. No one should be giving people "lessons" on here, people ghost and dont show often, its the world of online dating and it wont change anytime soon.
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HungGent
3 years ago
I think your situation simply reflects on how unreliable humans really are these days (men and women) or maybe it is a reflection of their characters and integrity, and probably why some of them are single. Many of my friends (male and female) have similar issues with singles on conventional dating apps. Sometimes for the most basic of reasons like rain. Flakiness is rife. In my experience couples, are most reliable because there are two of them, they are usually more organised and more accountable for their actions and decisions because there are two if them. I'd recommend establishing a good connection and rapport, maybe even a vid call to make it more personal, then they are more likely to follow through..and if they don't they've probably done you a favour. X
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
So it's the male 1/2 posting. You think it's tough being a couple. Try walking in a single man's or woman's shoes on here. Single people know exactly how to behave, they just don’t need the life lessons from a couple. Single people have no obligation to a couples. Single people shouldn't have have expectations placed on them by a couple. You OP, should know this, you were a single man, once. How very lucky are you, you still have your partner to fall back on. CARRY ON! Ms Foxy 💅 💅
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RHP User
3 years ago
I had a similar experience recently trying to organise men to come and play with a female friend. Didn't put a date up or create an event. I approached men I deemed suitable having scoured the site. Every one of them said yes they were interested and slowly as the day approached they all pulled out for o e reason or another including on the day. I invited 20 men because I knew at least half would pull out. All verified profiles and quite a few with validations. In the end I was left with 3 and even one of them pulled out 1 hour before. The 2 men who joined us still contributed to a really great night and both messaged me the day after to say thank you for a fantastic night. It's just how people are, isn't worth getting stressed about, unfortunately it's just expected these days.
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RHP User
3 years ago
we have just rejoined RHP after a break. We had EXACTLY that happen a couple of times when we explored MMF or MMMF in the early days. Apart from one lovely man,. all the rest were fuck-n-run types who couldn't relax and be social. We stopped and stuck to couples. Further we restrict ourselves to verified couples or at least those who show some ability to communicate and meet socially. Organised Meet n Greets are also a way to do meet nice people.
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RHP User
3 years ago
If you’re ever in Perth look me up or vica versa if we make it east. A couple of mates and I enjoy spoiling women on occasion it’s good to have a reliable few at the ready. As far as the “ghosts” and “flakey” humans online it’s no different than going to the pub. At the start of the evening the most attractive catch your eye and the “hard NO’s” fall by the wayside. By 1030pm and a handful of drinks you reassess. Beer goggles not only make the unattractive more aesthetically pleasing it also brings the so called “attractive “ or “desirable” humans on to an even playing field, one drink too many and your holding her hair up for the night instead of pulling it from behind . We have no obligation to each other we’ve all been out drinking meet someone who just felt comfortable you talked you cried you loughed danced and kissed it was a sure thing it’s getting late arrangements made your patting yourself on the back but she never returns from toilet and you’ve been “ghosted” I received a msg at 437am last Saturday simply said “come over” I responded 23 minutes later with “will need a destination” I’m still waiting LOL Some advice for everyone be honest respectful and most of all treat people as you wish to be treated If 30 people msgd and you chose 20 to chat with hoping for 3 to join you for the date Did you send the 10 people a thanks but no thanks? As one was voted out of contention and wouldn’t be receiving a “rose” did you let them know or did you “GHOST” them Just as you wouldn’t confront a “creepy” drunk dude in the pub with life advice nore should you online you just delete block and move on remember no expectation no obligation direct accurate communication will go along way to help you weed out “bots ghosts flakes and personality challenged “ humans wish you all happy hunting …… peace
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RHP User
3 years ago
Maybe you should have hired male escorts instead? You seem to be very specific with what you want and forget that you are dealing with other human beings. Hopefully, you and your wife had amazing sex together on this night (and any other night), unlike the single guys you ditched....
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RHP User
3 years ago
I’ve had nothing but a great time with all the gorgeous people that I’ve met on RHP. Being discreet and respectful is essential as is communicating with the appropriate empathy. The abundance of enthusiastic lovers on RHP is a joy to behold. Many woman bemoan poor performance so guys lift your game, work out what exactly a clitoris is and lap it up. 😇👅💋💋💋🔥🔥🔥
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2Bestmates
3 years ago
If you’re still looking for 2 men we are available in the city tonight!
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Dave86
3 years ago
We find it that there are a lot of guys and girls that want the online fun/picture collectors/fake profiles.. We have had multiple people stand us up, right at the last second.... it's frustrating when you organise baby sitters, hotels, restaurants ect... In 3 years we still haven't met a lady or couple on here yet... happy hunting all.
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Dave86
3 years ago
It's a hard gig out there..... As an average bloke I get no views, likes or anything been on here for 2 yrs.. my wife joined and done a solo account yesterday and in 3 hours she had 653 view, 126 messages, 90 friend requests hahahahah she was soooo overwhelmed and shocked, she said I'm going to delete it lol..
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RHP User
3 years ago
I absolutely get this! You are opening up your world to strangers and you have every right to vet them. They should feel privileged to be able to share the experience and show absolute gratitude when you both allow them into your home. I was at a swingers club with my partner and she was keen on this bloke (with a big cock)… I didn’t deny her the opportunity… She was a bit pissy and was enjoying the time with him, but when it came to entering her, he tried to slip off the condom and go for it… that’s when I called it and it stopped instantly! He tried to explain himself but he destroyed my trust and my partner was upset with me (at the time)… we debriefed later that night and she understood I was doing it for her safety… Blokes need to stop being Alpha in situations where they are the tool being used… I hope that experience didn’t stop you from trying again (with a bit more knowledge)… it’s a jungle out there!
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Drippingwet007
3 years ago
Thanks for sharing your experience I think it’s good to be up front with your needs and desires and if a few guys can’t get over themselves, they would probably ruin the party. Sounds like things can only get better! Have fun
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SweetSerenade
3 years ago
So you come on the site looking for free sex workers? Your expectations are rhat you put up a date finder and you should have a roll of 'apllicants' lined up on call. It'll take time to find the right people, male, female or couple, and the best way is attending events and clubs. Date finder is a great way to be spammed by fakers and time wasters. Advice for anyone, couple, or single, any gender. - Treat the people you seek as equals to yourself. They have beeds desires and wants the same as you. Maybe theres people with a desire to be used as a sex slave or a free prostitute, but not many.
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RHP User
3 years ago
that's fine. I have to select the couple too (since I don't get selected - why would I from my profile! LOLOL, that means I'd never get lucky, but so be it...) If someone has clearly made an effort to talk to me, I think it is rude to not even answer, even if it was a short "thanks, but no thanks - but you were close - can we keep you as a backup? Or another time maybe?"
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