Lessons learnt

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  'Nuf said...hasta la vista'.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Enter with an open mind, don’t judge others, be you, enjoy your time and the experience even if you don’t enjoy all things as much as other things, allow yourself to experiment, live and learn.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  apparently I'm not a swinger, so I've heard 😏 So I can't answer. Sorry 😀 Nope, never listened to them before, why should I start now 😜 The advice I would give myself is: Do everything exactly the same. You'll never have it that good again, bull at a gate, go for it, don't hold back. Ignore criticism, they're only jealous. Ignore the fat women who laugh at you in public/shops/beach (yep another one yesterday who sat their stuffing her face the whole time, me semi nude was too much for her to handle poor thing), their insecurities are their own problem. Much as it's tempting to fat shame them in public, apparently there are double standards so best to just ignore. Stand tall, stand proud. There aren't many women your age who look the way you do, you push boundaries physically, sexually and in many other ways. Do NOTHING differently. Any minor issues will shape you, help you grow and evolve. Mistakes are not bad, we learn through our mistakes. Live every day like it's your last

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  There has been a few things and unfortunately some are negative. 1. I’ve learnt to stand up for myself more. I’ve realised that there are people who use “swinging” as a tool to use others badly or not to commit. 2. I’ve learnt all about compersion and realised that I fall into this category. 3. Swinging is a small world and there are others who will manipulate you through others, so never listen to negative comments 4. Watch out for women who say they know how to swing and play with others - because “some” women don’t actually get it. I think they genuinely believe thy can, but the reality is they can’t handle not being the centre of attention and don’t play well with others. These sorts of people ruin it for me. 5. Very pleased and somewhat surprised myself at how I jumped in feet first and have seen and done some incredibly things. 6. Have an open mind. Not all Fantasies are as good as you imagined, and other things you’ve never considered before are hot AF! 7. You also never know how you will react to something until you are in the situation. Regardless of how experienced you or other people think they are emotions can always take you by surprise. Be prepared and listen to your gut. 8. Swinging is not a state of mind, it’s a doing word. Lol. Be weary of people without experience but who think they know it all. They are usually too much drama.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  9. It’s okay to be unsure. Go and observe first to see how you might like something. 10. Never ever do anything you don’t want to do. Advice to myself - even if your BF calls you an aggressive little thing (lol) this trait actually serves you well. Speak up for yourself and others who seem to be coerced into situations, because men will back down against a screaming chick. 😝

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  Sawadee

  8 years ago

  Be yourself... You are who you are , and no matter what others do , your fit is just as important as theirs...

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  Smilingwithfun

  8 years ago

  Look before you leap.

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  AnnieWhichway

  8 years ago

  Trust. You need to have each other's back at all times and know they are there for you. No one else is more important . If they want to leave, never question the urgency, trust their judgement and go. Jealousy. No room for it at all. You need to talk before it erupts. It can be embarrassing.......big time Balance. Swinging is sex. It's to enhance your Life, not the other way around

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  A few things learnt / taught & reinforced along the way : 1. No always means no 2. If you feel uncomfortable with something, someone or the situation you are in, bail out, don’t do it. 3. Don’t let anyone force/coerce you into doing something you are not comfortable doing. 4. Clearly verbalise your likes, dislikes, ground rules and boundaries BEFORE any play or placing yourself in a situation where play might happen 5. Ensure that others understand, accept and acknowledge point 4 above 6. Communicate your feelings, fears & desires to your partner about a potential play situation. 7. If necessary have a secret signal /sign , as acknowledgement that (a) you are happy to proceed (b) you are not happy to proceed (c) you wish to stop the play immediately / are feeling uncomfortable with something. It’s our secret signal, others in our company have no idea we are using it. It helps avoid unpleasant situations and it’s our way of non verbal communication when in the company of others. 8. Always have a debriefing session / chat after a night of play. Communicate how one felt, liked , disliked. 9. Never feel that you have to take one for the team. You don’t ! 10. This is about your fantasies & desires. However don’t be pushy and infringe on the personal space and rights of others. 11. Ask politely before you touch, attempt to grope and or jump into the action. 12. Have no expectations nor sense of entitlement. No one owes you anything nor do you owe them anything. 13. Be polite & respectful. Talk to others as you would in a normal club, bar,restaurant. Just because this is a so called sex site or you are at a swingers party/club does not mean it is acceptable to talk to others in a lewd and disrespectful manner. 14. On the subject of swingers clubs / paid swingers parties, the admission fee you pay, simply guarantees admission. It goes not guarantee you a root, a shagg, a fuck, a blow job or anything else. If you arrive thinking that you are entitled to the above, you will be dissapointed. 15. If you are going to get up close and intimate / personal with others, sans clothing, impeccable personal hygiene is a must. This would mean taking a shower and washing all those cracks and crevices with lots of soap and water. If you have taken a crap, at some point in time during the night out / dinner etc , then your bum will smell abdbin this regard wash it and or take a shower if you then intend to play, out of respect for not only yourself, but also towards others that you will be playing with. 16. If you are meeting up with others, on a potential date, with a view to hdvjng some naughty fun (a play session), go to the trouble to dress well, brush your teeth & hair and to dress the part. Arriving in a singlet , tracksuit pants, running shoes or muddy steel capped work boots is simply not acceptable, if for example you are meeting at a cocktail bar or swingers club / party. Make sure that the clothes you are wearing have actually been washed and are clean . 17. Be on time. If you say you will be there at a certain time, make sure that you are on time. It’s a sign of respect. And if you arrange to meet someone, have the decency to actually turn up. If something unexpected happens, have the courtesy to let them know that you will be late or won’t be able to make it. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Just. Say. No. I've found myself in a few situations where I went through with something that I really didn't want to and felt dirty afterwards because I didn't know how to say no. Being assertive is super important. Miss Little xx

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