M57
Long distance relationships.
June 06 2010
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I was younger they never worked. But now (a little older:) ) who knows maybe the space is a good thing. Good luck xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Fab, It depends on the 2 of you and what you both want. If you have found an independent woman who doesn't mind her own company, has an active social life and sees your relationship as an enhancement to all she has going on in her life, there is no reason why it wouldn't work. You don't have to be together 24/7 for a relationship to work. I have found that distance can keep the spark alive whereas being with a lover everyday has led to boredom and dissatisfaction as I have learned his faults and found myself not as tolerant as I thought. I think the key is regular contact by phone and regular visits, ie fortnightly or monthly and the occasional spontaneous arrival on the doorstep. The latter makes a good impression as it allows the other to know that you are thinking of them and want to be with them and that you can let your heart overtake your mind sometimes. Good luck WTG
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hehe, I was in a 7 month LDR with my ex before actually meeting her. We had met in a chat room and became fast friends. She was moving down to Melbourne from Holland to study. Which is why it took 7 months to meet her!It depends on the distance matey. As Wild points out, the ability to be spontaneous is something that was very much missed from my experience. Skype....is a must. Video calling with the person will keep you sane. Time difference can be a pain, especially when things go badly in their, or your life outside of the relationship. I know for me it meant sleeping one hour before getting up at 6am to work. Of course that is also dependent on the distance. It also helps to be young and dumb in those instances :PIt can be difficult, but with the right person, tolerable and often enjoyable. Does make being romantic difficult, but then I guess that is up to your imagination.Cheers,Z
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well sometimes its easier to jump on a plane.........than drive for hours ......its all about planning enjoyment and the unexpected........you dont get to see each others bad points straight away....and hey if it works WOW and if it dosent ......well you have made a new friend....... coffee xxx good luck and happy travels
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RHP User
16 years ago
You get out what you put in. . "Do they work?" Not if you just expect them to. . "How hard is it to keep?" Really hard. Or really easy. Like any relationship - unpredictable and undefinable. . How often do you think you need to see each other? Now double it. Is that humanly possible? Can you imagine it being a LDR indefinitely? . Now suck it up and see. No point wondering... if it all turns pear-shaped - remember to smile as you yell "Next".
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RHP User
16 years ago
yeah it could work...id be up for it if the perfect man came along....hahahahaha perfect man fuck im funny.... but as long as the time you spend together is wonderful, it could be great if you use your imagination you could do romance from a far....a card, flowers, a message in a bottle...it could all be romantic, just put it out there... it would be sweet and sexy and very hot hmmmm now i just need to find the most perfect man that lives far away lol roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'geturroxyoff' yeah it could work...id be up for it if the perfect man came along....hahahahaha perfect man fuck im funny.... but as long as the time you spend together is wonderful, it could be great if you use your imagination you could do romance from a far....a card, flowers, a message in a bottle...it could all be romantic, just put it out there... it would be sweet and sexy and very hot hmmmm now i just need to find the most perfect man that lives far away lol roxxy xxx Do we need some thinking music whilst Roxy draws up her list of perfect men, whats that Roxy, you have finised, but its just a blank piece of paper.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would of said yep for sure, of course it can work, you can make anything work if you want it bad enough...right? These days i am a little more circumspect, and knowing how limited my free time is, i know i would find it difficult to make available the time to make a LDR work. So it wouldn't be fair on the other party to start something.For me the short answer would be No!Cheers Nev...Hypothetically
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey Fab69, Everyone is different that's for sure - but for me seeing someone every fornight or once a month would never be enough. Don't get me wrong phone sex is great but there is nothing like skin on skin.... Kisses M
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RHP User
16 years ago
If only I wasn't a virgin flyer. Lol. I guess that's who I'll fly for the first time. Imagine the looks I'll get from the cute stewardesses as I say I'm a virgin and will you hold my hand for the whole flight. Lol. Knowing my luck they will be all guys or ugly in standard seats. Mmmmm. Tight buisiness skirts. Why have I never done this before?? God my daughter flew to Canada by herself when she was 16. I mean no school group. The other side of the world. Me the furtherest I've been from home is Adelaide. On a family trip. So for me to contemplate an LDR is BIG. Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
That long distance can work, as long as the two people are serious, and at least one of them has a plan of eventually moving to where there other is... And that they live in the same country... So it can work... But again, depends on how long they have been together etc... I met my now ex, while he was on holiday from the UK, he was here for a year... and when the visa ran out, he went back home... We tried to make it work, but after 6 months it just wasnt working via the internet, cause we both in the end had different plans for our lives and realised that having time apart we were different people.... But that sorta thing can happen no matter where you are... I have two friends, who met on the net, one was in Melb and the other in Bris... after a while they met in real life and continued to have a relationship over the net for about 6 months or so, they have been married now for almost 8 years... So, they made the distance work... All it really comes down to is... if they are serious about each other and inlove then it may just work... Late xx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi, Miss brits and I have been together almost 4 years now, for the first year we were a happy couple in my homeland with green fields and awesome tea and unparralleled pork sausage making... Then, with all my wisdom, and fore-knowledge of great things to come, I decided to pack up (not suddenly, I assure you). Three years I spent here, no awesome lady-friend, no barrys or lyons tea, no good sausages (no offence guys, beef sausages are crap), no clonakilty black or white pudding, and no sex... due to the lack of lady friend... Now I have my lady, who brought me Lyons tea from home, pointed me in the direction of a butchers who do great Irish style sausages and taught me to get over the black and white puddings. We spent three years apart... but what pulled us through is the fact that I knew she was an awesome girl, I would never get better than her... The fact that she sent me tea via the post while I was here was a dead givaway! A lot of people are amazed that we lasted 3 years only seeing each other for a few weeks every 6 months, but what made us work was the fact that we had built a solid relationship BEFORE I went galavanting around Australia and we had definate plans to reunite. Long distance relations DO work, but they don't just happen, you have to be commited to each other and I reckon you need to drink a lot of tea... It worked for us!!! S&M xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
... 14 months and counting, madly in love, met on here, planning a life in the same state as soon as possible, but in the meantime, cherishing every moment we can get together.Sometimes it's tough, sometimes it's lonely, sometimes it's nice to have some space.It takes honesty, trust and tenderness to love and support each other through the rough days - the ones when you wonder will it ever work out the way you want it to. But it's definitely doable :)lilmiss xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'thegardener68' Quoting 'geturroxyoff' yeah it could work...id be up for it if the perfect man came along....hahahahaha perfect man fuck im funny.... but as long as the time you spend together is wonderful, it could be great if you use your imagination you could do romance from a far....a card, flowers, a message in a bottle...it could all be romantic, just put it out there... it would be sweet and sexy and very hot hmmmm now i just need to find the most perfect man that lives far away lol roxxy xxx Do we need some thinking music whilst Roxy draws up her list of perfect men, whats that Roxy, you have finised, but its just a blank piece of paper. gardener that piece of paper is very blank...no such thing as the perfect man everyone knows that haha Quoting 'fab69'If only I wasn't a virgin flyer. Lol. I guess that's who I'll fly for the first time. Imagine the looks I'll get from the cute stewardesses as I say I'm a virgin and will you hold my hand for the whole flight. Lol. Knowing my luck they will be all guys or ugly in standard seats. Mmmmm. Tight buisiness skirts. Why have I never done this before?? God my daughter flew to Canada by herself when she was 16. I mean no school group. The other side of the world. Me the furtherest I've been from home is Adelaide. On a family trip. So for me to contemplate an LDR is BIG. Fab. Fab my sweet how about i fly up and get you, then i can hold your hand on the way back il even wear a tight business skirt and no knickers...just for you hehe roxxy xxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey I'm a (cough cough ) big boy lol. (really better side of average) lol. Plus no visible panty line. That will only make me look harder. Mmm. I'm off to sleep now. What a dream my own private stewardess. Thanks Roxxy I'll sleep on you................................................................................'re offer. Lol Fab.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'mikle' My LDR of several years appears to have failed. Both gotta be on the same page it seems. Made plans and then halfway through it all they change their mind...WTF. Too hard for some I guess. Up to the individuals, trust, comunication and working to same goals. Sounds like a normal relationship actualy... sigh. Ahh well as Jean said... NEXT!!! LDR can work if both are willing to work together as a team, not as an individual... Trust and communication is the key to any succesful relationship... OMG the sex is amazing, you can't get enough of each other when you finally can spend time together...
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'LateNites' That long distance can work, as long as the two people are serious, and at least one of them has a plan of eventually moving to where there other is... And that they live in the same country... So it can work... But again, depends on how long they have been together etc... I have two friends, who met on the net, one was in Melb and the other in Bris... after a while they met in real life and continued to have a relationship over the net for about 6 months or so, they have been married now for almost 8 years... So, they made the distance work... All it really comes down to is... if they are serious about each other and inlove then it may just work... Late xx You really have to be on the same page I guess. As others said, you must have similar objectives/needs/wants. Of course they can work, but they take serious work, as Mikle said, much like any relationship. Some days are much harder than others, that's for sure!Quoting 'naughtisxcgirl'LDR can work if both are willing to work together as a team, not as an individual... Trust and communication is the key to any succesful relationship... OMG the sex is amazing, you can't get enough of each other when you finally can spend time together... I think you made something of an understatement there naughtisxcgirl, the sex is BEYOND amazing!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'mikle'I gotta get me some of that!! Apparently it is this new craze thats sweeping through the country..now to join right on in. Kisses Focus
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'couple30ssydney' Quoting 'LateNites' That long distance can work, as long as the two people are serious, and at least one of them has a plan of eventually moving to where there other is... And that they live in the same country... So it can work... But again, depends on how long they have been together etc... I have two friends, who met on the net, one was in Melb and the other in Bris... after a while they met in real life and continued to have a relationship over the net for about 6 months or so, they have been married now for almost 8 years... So, they made the distance work... All it really comes down to is... if they are serious about each other and inlove then it may just work... Late xx You really have to be on the same page I guess. As others said, you must have similar objectives/needs/wants. Of course they can work, but they take serious work, as Mikle said, much like any relationship. Some days are much harder than others, that's for sure! Quoting 'naughtisxcgirl'LDR can work if both are willing to work together as a team, not as an individual... Trust and communication is the key to any succesful relationship... OMG the sex is amazing, you can't get enough of each other when you finally can spend time together... I think you made something of an understatement there naughtisxcgirl, the sex is BEYOND amazing! Oh yeah!! When I get to see my man after a long fortnight of waiting I can't get enough of him... The sex is mind blowing, gets me incredibly horny, I am constantly wet... I replay the weekend in my mind all day long, I ache all the time hehe Having my toy plays don't help my hunger for him..... What can I say, I lurveeeeee fucking so much lol
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