Long distant relationship

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Oh matey,Long Distance relationships just don't happen just like that...takes time, commitment and dedication.Yes I had one and lasted 12mths before I made the big move...Every weekend we would commute....lucky works pays for my fuel - fuel is expensive..Every night at 8.30pm we would alternate ringing and we'd talk for hours on end...sometimes till we fell asleep.ARRRGH home phone and mobile bills are enormous...The wanting is unbelievable, the missing hurts, the countdown of days till get to see each other is like fuzzy wuzzies...The trust is a biggie to have a long distance relationship - no trust I would say don't go there.I would love a long distance relationship...like a FIFO kinda of one..YES I would do it all again...BUT they would have to be really special, as in REALLY special.You sure you want a long distance or just have a viral long distance relationship cause they are two totally different things because you're finding it difficult with local people- it's all hard in the meeting people game..even I some days want to give up and I live in the big smoke..arrrgh life gets tough some days. Keep your chin up.Foxy

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  On a casual basis i just can't see the point.   However i have some lovely interstate friends who make visits to their states very very pleasurable ;-)

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I was in a long distance relationship .. Started as Chat in 2006 Australia - America) ...Met a few times in 2007 .. and 2008 ( In Australia) Got asked to marry in March 2008 .)In Australia) .. said I would think about it Got asked again in September 2008 and said YES ( In Paris and England whilst on holidays together) Discussed many times whether we would live in USA or Australia during 2008 and 2009. Agreed it to be Australia. Discussed and agreed that as we were both human and had physical needs and because of the distance between continents, we would have an open relationship and if the need and opportunity arose, we could play provided we told the other one about it. Holidays in America in 2009 .. he doesn't join us .. advises me that he was admitted to hospital 12 hrs before flight, I believed him because he said it was a condition which he had had before and which actually put him in hospital whist here in Australia . Manage for balance of 2009 making all arrangements for relocation in 2010. Phone and emails and Skype for 3 years .. then 2010 hits ..and i get abusive message on FACEBOOK .. from his" fiance" in America .. question him and he says it was a one niter who had been stalking him ever since .. and he wanted nothing to do with her .. THEN I find out .. that he had had 35 "stalkers" all of whom he hadn't advised me of under our open relationship agreement .. 2010 . END OF MY ENGAGEMENT and a not so nice message sent to him .......... and blocked on ALL possible channels .. 2011 .. Sees him take a fictitious face book account pretending to be a relative of his and demanding that I take down a pic of us both from facebook that was taken in PARIS.... another mouthful from me and further blocking. 2012 .. sees him ringing me numerous times .. phone now blocked to incoming international calls .. 2013 .. another fictitious TAGGED account .. asking for my forgiveness and friendship and to start again .. as his new stalker wife whom he married in 2010 had left him .. I had the faith and trust ... but he did not reciprocate .. It might work for some ... and may even work for me ... if they are in Australia .. but long distance overseas .. I can say .. definitely doesn't work for me and I shall not go that way ever again .. but i am but 1 / 24,000,000.... so in the wild world .. anything can be ...

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  contribute to the forums.It will get you noticed in your state and by others who live interstate...as for the long distance romance,for some it works but I imagine it is frustrating and difficult.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  I guess been in a regional area there was not many options locally for me. The 2 more serious relationships I have had that were long distance were hard work yes but the reward was great. Sadly the first relationship did not last but that was not from the long distance more from wanting different things in life. The second one turned out great as she is mrs usandu73. There is no special secret to it, if she is worth it you do what it takes to make it happen. For a casual relationship I'm not sure but if that person is that special person you do what it takes. I actually think you get to know that person better, as 80% of the time you are talking to one another on the phone rather than in person so you have to talk even when you don't really feel like it. You cover a lot and get to know that person very intimately pretty quickly so you work out if they are special pretty quickly also. Rather than it been based on lust and physical attraction which in the long term only goes so far, mentally they must stimulate you also. So of course its not for everyone, but hey for the right person you do what ever it takes. It would be a shame to pass someone by just because they live in another city

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  The odds are against you... sorry, cold hard facts

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  13 years ago

  Have had 3 in the past and am currently in one again, after saying I would NEVER do it again. This time he just blew me away. I am crazy for him where I wasn't for the others. We call each other often and nearly always miss each other, mostly because of the time time diff, and work constraints. I know it will end soon because I can't handle not being with him.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  and never again..long distant relationships rarely ever work out. Started chatting to a girl in Sydney about 6 months after i relocated back to perth from Sydney. It just started via msn chat rooms and was pretty innocent to begin with. a once a fortnight chat became weekly, which then became daily until we were ringing each other nearly every night before we decided i would fly over there to meet. ( i had family still there so if things went badly i would have still had a good time either way)a few flights back and forth and we were beginning to fall in love. Unfortunately an incident happened that neither of us was prepared for and a couple months after i flew over there for about the third time she announced she was pregnant and had decided to have an abortion. Our relationship never recovered as i was so far away when she needed me. As much as i wanted to be there i couldn't and i think it was then that we realised neither of us was willing to make the move to be with each other. I would never go looking for a long distance relationship as such. Truly it isn't really worth the risk.

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  RHP User

  13 years ago

  Ive done it twice....do so not recommend it   You cannot compete with the fact that you are physically not present - and sadly others are.....and we are all weak for the flesh   You end up being just a pleasant diversion via the phone for the one you lust after and a phone bill that is equivalent to a large African countries national debt!!!   Stick to a radius of 50 kms within your home base..at least that way you will be aware of what is really going on !!!!

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