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Love vs lust
February 15 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
The horse and carriage you can have one without the other xxFreya
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Hottie1
11 years ago
In my primary relationship, both love and lust exist simultaneously. I love my hubby (he has my heart) and I lust after him physically too, he stimulates my body and mind. I care for my play partners tremendously, I like meeting their needs etc but it is more physical or lustful with them because I'm not sharing my heart with anyone else, but I'd gladly share my body 😎😉 Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have been married 33 years and we married for "Love"; not "Lust". Our "Love" gets stronger with each passing day. I do also "lust" after my husband too but to a lesser extent than I love him. "Lust" is craving after another person's body for sex !!! It can be devoid of emotions. However, I regard "Love" and "Lust" as being "intertwined". It's just that it is in different proportions. With Members from RHP, "Lust" is usually present in a greater proportion than "Love". Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is being there for a person when lust dies. Lust is lighting a match . It can burn your fingers. Lust/love sometimes live in the same skin. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Never been hurt from lust. But that Love thing. It can hurt like hell and make life a misery. Enter with great care, not that you have much of a choice once you start down that road.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lust can be very intense, but love is the total package. That is why it is so nice to have lust with someone followed by love with your partner
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can you stop love once you feel it? You cant just turn it off and get on with life, it smacks you in the face, always on your mind,In your heart.Lust on the other hand can be used to your advantage( and another person) controlled,put away until you want to think about it again.Lust can have an on off switch... Love cant.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some people can confuse lust for love.thats unhealthy. But if it works for ya...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lust for love and love of lust. Lust is wanting to devour you for my need, Love is wanting to devour you for your need.Lust is selfish,Love is selfless.Together they make perfect balance, the perfect null. Both exist on there own. There can be lust on one side and love on the other. They are distinct entities in them selves. Both on there own will whither and dry, but united they are the power that makes it last.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find lust is an immediate reaction to a person, chemistry, attraction, wanting and love is a slow burn, fuelled by time and stoking the embers. I don't believe in love at first sight but certainly lust at first sight and I do believe love can grow from lust, actually I think it really needs to, I can't fall for someone I don't have that attraction toward.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love & Lust explained by Dr Helen Fisher. Human beings have three primary brain systems related to love. 1) The sex drive evolved to motivate individuals to seek copulation with a range of partners; 2) romantic love evolved to motivate individuals to focus their mating energy on specificpartners, thereby conserving courtship time and metabolic energy; 3) partner attachment evolved to motivate mating individuals to remain together at least long enough to rear a single child through infancy together. These three basic neural systems interact with one another and other brain systems in myriad flexible, combinatorial patterns to provide the range of motivations, emotions and behaviors necessary to orchestrate our complex human reproductive strategy. But this brain architecture makes it biologically possible to express deep feelings of attachment for one partner, while one feels intense romantic love for another individual, while one feels the sex drive for even more extra-dyadic partners.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love is....... licking the bowl after icing a cake Lust...... is smearing the icing all over yourself.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can feel deep attached for your long term partner but not necessarily be in love with them or lust after them. You can lust after someone without being in love. I suppose you can be in love with someone without lusting after them? I guess?
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You're still accurate otherwise how do you explain Parent/Child love, Sibling love, Friend love, mateship? Thanks for your input, love it!! xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' You're still accurate otherwise how do you explain Parent/Child love, Sibling love, Friend love, mateship? Thanks for your input, love it!! xx I was talking about romantic love or being in love with a person. Nobody has ever been able to explain to me what being "in love" is. Although I probably get it now at the ripe old age of 44.
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RHP User
11 years ago
.....doesn't stop, doesn't go away, is certainly NOT blind as you can see all the other persons faults but it makes no difference, you love them inspite of their faults. Your happiness is entwined with their happiness and seeing them sad, angry, hurt or upset has an effect on your own mood. Although sexual can be a natural expression of love, it is possible to love without sex. Love without lust. Lust is entirely sexual! Lust can grow and deepen into love. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You mean then that unending desire for another, that need to touch and be touched by that other person, that oneness that you feel without it needing to be a physical thing yet it exists and manifests itself as such and is reciprocated in full measure by that other person? (Deep sigh) yep, I get it....and yes I want it. Lust fades but loving desire just burns and burns....like moths to flames in girum imus nocte et consumimur igni.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You look amazing 😘
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
I think this is actually more and more interesting the more I think about it. I am in love with my wife, 23 years and she is still the best thing that ever has happened to me. I am not looking for anyone else to mean what she does to me. So my first reaction was to say that I can easily see the distinction, love for Mrs LifeUnscripted, and list for everyone else. But to be honest we like friends with benefits situations. We like getting to know the people we play with, and we genuinely love them too. Not in love, not romantic love, but they are still important to us, still good friends, still more than just a list object. So it isn't as clear cut as my first instinct. I still do think list is something different though. I think you can have lust for someone you have never met, love requires a relationship of some sort. - Posted from rhpmobile
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
Just substitute lust for list above...sigh - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
I believe and of us, as in "'we are in'", love is a bonding of souls and spirits alike, love is best friends and trusted without condition nor question, love romantically is the intimacy shared where there is no such thing as discomfort and doubtful self conscious awareness or negative feelings for the need to prove to each other what love means. Love is knowing each other so well either can speak for and of each with confidence. Love is calling out too Tara across a room full of strangers or acquaintances or mix, by shouting out "hey bitch-face get your arse over here", or "hey what the fuck are you on about fuck you" Love is knowing that it is either time to smile showing no effect by nature of any a truth in meaning, or come over and join in on a conversation and trust in belief that whatever the "fuck you is on about and fuck you" is not of words in temper or issues of trust, it's of meaning and of what another or others have said and love is knowing the difference without question, the words are of alliance and love defended by honoring respect and confronting anyone or anything that challenges or jealous misogyny attempts to interfere or create doubt. Love is knowing each other as true friends and never of judgement, only care and belief that what love means to us, does not matter what anyone else may think or speak for differ and claim to argue. We are in love and it does not change or burn out or become ordinary and mundane. Lust for all that love, is something that needs to be maintained and centered from the very beginning, where love is found through the windows into each other, as our inner self's fall even at first SIGHT, lust when truly shared is Love lust and freedom to lust with naughty imagination and lust for others sexually in nature openly expressed and enjoyed by sanctuary with free love, in we lust with passion and we do it together as intimate friends as lovers lusting off each others feelings expressed by open communication, sexy. A little different than love of family or pets or chocolate or with well-being to loving many for peace on earth and good intentions with community spirit. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love: I give to you-Lust: I want of you-the Harmony of two:- It's doors remain forever open-
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' .....doesn't stop, doesn't go away, is certainly NOT blind as you can see all the other persons faults but it makes no difference, you love them inspite of their faults. Your happiness is entwined with their happiness and seeing them sad, angry, hurt or upset has an effect on your own mood. The irony is.... that can also define..... stalking and obsession. lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lust of my life, love of my loins.
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Plain280
11 years ago
Lust, I just read an account of Spanish Australian relations on the side of a highway in the define adventurous post for eg.Love is all encompassing, does not have to be male female, can be all of the above as in Meeks and On Safaris explanation.Lust hmm more a crazy chemical hormonal thing not easily explained or defined and love you need to use the sponge like matter between your ears to define what it means to you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Losing love leaves a MASSIVE GAPING HOLE in your heart. Sex and lust can help to fill it (while perhaps leaving said hole in your wallet), but it only helps while your thoughts are focused on the anticipation, the actions, and the high and appreciation you have been shown afterwards. Lust does not help when your desires are for cuddling up with a movie together.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Watched a Helen Fisher Ted talk on love.she is an anthropologist and has come to the conclusion that humans have centres of the brain for sexual attraction,romantic love and attachment.Of all of these it's romantic love which makes us a little crazy.we focus and fixate on the object of our love...She also said we couldn't I'm these states,all three,and with three different people..Thanks Meeka,I have read a few of her books but loved the Teds xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' You can feel deep attached for your long term partner but not necessarily be in love with them or lust after them. You can lust after someone without being in love. I suppose you can be in love with someone without lusting after them? I guess? it works for me
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RHP User
11 years ago
i love my wife but I lust for others - Posted from rhpmobile
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