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Lying husbands?
March 07 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
its because their egos are sooooooooooooooo huge that they truly believe they wont be caught out...and for many they don't for a long time.....but one cant be a sexist stereotype..women do it too......and sadly human nature is that we all lie at times, when it suits us...
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RHP User
14 years ago
They know that most women despise the married guys, so they masquerade as single.I guess they figure they can carry off the whole charade.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
You're right. I think we need more categories in the relationship drop down list so antzy women can scorn men at liberty in the forums. Men are Bastards oi oi oi. Hugs Stalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
hey girl.. you know this HOW???? :) um.. there can be a hundred reasons why someone lies... AND.. bottom line.. who cares? We are on a sex site, and IF the fancy takes us, I couldnt care less WHAT the marital status of a partner is. their Marital status is absolutely NO concern of mine, AND ummm.. I did NOT stand up at their wedding day saying I would NOT fornicate with the wife... Why do men lie? Why do women lie? Why do dogs lick their genitals??? Because they can, AND because it suits them to do it and because ity is their nature Cool eh :) Oh.. how long is a piece of string? just a caveman's point of view..
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think if you reread my post you will see that I stated ...clearly what you also articulated... a) that women do it too - one should not stereotype b) and it is human nature to lie - when it suits us...about ANYTHING... and obviously the OP cares very much hence her post.....and my response to it...and just because you dont care doesnt mean that others or the OP doesnt....oh and how do I know ?....been married a few times...oh and Im woman....we know it all ..remember !!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Cause I met a guy on here who told me he was single and 3 months later of being fwb his wife called me off guard and asked what was going on he also has a baby to her 5 months old I said we were only friends but felt really bad while he felt nothing lol ? I'm single so can do as I please on this site but prefer not to get phone calls and have to make up a bullshit story especially off guard :) !!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
That just sucks...how very sad for all parties concerned...no winners here, especially his wife and child..but also you...I could go on about him but his not worth my typing time Sadly people lie...about all and sundr and when it suits them.....they usually lie for two reasons 1) to protect others 2) to protect themselves it would appear you FWB lied for both these reasons....however PEOPLE lie..not just men...not just women. I can reverse this story..only recently a g/f of mine was seeing a FWB who claimed he was married and she was ok with this...and played along accordingly...turns out he wasnt married, he was single as..but didnt want to get involved with her so used the married line on her instead..shes hurt and bewildered and her self esteem has taken a blow...but what can she do...(I just handed over a lot of tissues and sipped bourbon with her!!) Just pick yourself back hon...chalk it up to experience...and say "Next please"..you sound like a nice girl..Im sure there is someone worthy of your time out there...:)
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RHP User
14 years ago
mmmmmm!!!!! well I had one of those husbands he loved this site, so I explored, I'm separated now been on here for a year and Im hooked, you meet so many nice people and I find them all up front and honest...except for a few!!! I do mention in my profile married or attached guys do not bother, but hey how do I know their lying I dont but..... not all people lie let your instincts be your guide
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey thanks I'm picked back up again just would of liked to know so NOT going there again because don't need to plenty of fish in the sea lol thanks again :) xxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why bother covering it up when you state he felt nothing. Tell her where you met him and that he was supposedly single. It is his problem that he got caught out not yours...his issue to address his needs and wants with his partner that he maybe not be getting at the moment not your issue...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Some occasionally or situation-ally,Some all of the time.the thing liars have in common though ........ all Liars get caught..I do not agree with the comment that you should call up the wife and tell her everything....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting Nudierudie2 "I do not agree with the comment that you should call up the wife and tell her everything...." I was not suggesting that she phone his wife..but if she is getting phone calls from the wife then I would be telling her the truth...
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RHP User
14 years ago
our experience is that guys will tell you anything they can, just to have a shot. they'll say they are single, divorced, widowed, a reformed gay, or a catholic priest who has left the church....just to cop a sniff of a womans left ankle.... we deal with this the best we can, and treat every male who contacts us (we havent made first contact with anyone for quite some time), with caution and suspicion. its working for us, as we've not had any no shows or cancellations for a while, and have found that by insisting the guy provides the venue (a residence of course), the attached ones invariably expose themselves...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Listen if a woman is told her man is playing up then she feels like she has to do something like save face for a start. All those women tittering behind their hands, oh poor Mavis her husband is such a rat Problem is that their bill, frank, and John are nut deep but never get caught So Mavis has to get all bent out of shape and say be gone you shit, and then her and kids have to fend for themselves oh and where are the women, who tut tut tut, yep sure they are giving some of their money to support poor Mavis Men have needs so do women. Men lie, women lie Even single guys say they are attached you know why? Cause they do not want some stalker chick on here that thinks if a guy fucks her he must really really really like her and want it to go further Life is complicated Stone those filthy married men, dam them to hell! Yes it is bloody hard when a wife confronts you, or you get caught out but in the end there is a bigger picture and why throw the baby out with the bathwater. Get a grip on this thing if you find a guy of RHP and you think he is prince charming then you have rocks in your head. Go find Mr nice guy at your local some place else, not RHP Sorry but this married man bashing gives me the shits. Its like if you meet a guy who is always pissed at the pub then you whine he is a drinker DaH! RSVP, Oasis, find me a husband/boyfriend. Com, may be a better choice as you are going to get a married cock in you at some time if you stay on this site. It comes with the territory.
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RHP User
14 years ago
'wants' tuscan.....men and women have 'wants'....... no ones going to die for lack of sex, and no one will die for uttering the truth....... and thats where the problem lays.... people lie because theres no consequence...... someone will always give them what they 'want'..............and thats a crying shame...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'caitsidhe' Quoting Nudierudie2 "I do not agree with the comment that you should call up the wife and tell her everything...." I was not suggesting that she phone his wife..but if she is getting phone calls from the wife then I would be telling her the truth...That I agree with in a fashion, by passing the Hot Potato right back to him by saying that it would best explained by her husband whom which led her to believe that he was someone else.Personally I don't advocate nor aim to practice the Telling of Lies or the Keeping of Secrets....You Just have to ask me the Right question....
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RHP User
14 years ago
we'd not go out of our way to tell a wife her husband was straying (even if he was half a swinging couple, straying without her knowledge), but for the same token....... if she asked, we would not tell her a lie. we dont see liars or cheats as attractive people, regardless their motivation.......so its a real shame when the male half of a couple we thought were likely playmates, approaches us on the sly, asking if he can play secretly on his own, or who sends a text to our phone, thinking its Shel who will read it, asking if she'd be up to meeting him on the side.......its not a compliment...not at all.... its a shame really....that there are guys out there who wouldve had what they so badly wanted.....if they'd only been a little patient.... lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
When I was a cheating husband, I never lied, merely withheld the truth. She said she didn't want to know what I got up to so I never told. I expect she never suspected that I could get up to so much but "a stiff dick has no conscience" and a wife really shouldn't neglect her husband to the degree that I was. I never lied to anyone about my status. I was married with a child and would not leave my wife because I loved that child. Most of my playmates were similarly neglected housewives. I don't think they were being entirely honest with their husbands either.
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RHP User
14 years ago
To actively seek out the wife and tell her..but if I, like the O.P , were confronted by a wife that I did not know existed, I would not lie to her...why should I? To make her feel better? To protect someone that didn't give me a chance to decide wether I wanted to screw a married man? And no, I am not against married men seeking extra so long as they are upfront about it... To thine own self be true....
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RHP User
14 years ago
So I dont lie, married, stated in profile and wife is contactable through here. Still, by being honest, I dont get much attention here on my solo profile Nath
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RHP User
14 years ago
because you won't reply to them if they have married in their profiles. They're playing the percentages, hoping to get some conversation and then slip it in (or not).
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RHP User
14 years ago
I say work out your sex life with your partner and be on here together If she is not into it and it is such a high priority for you, then separate. What someone doesn't know DOES HURT THEM! Being somewhere else physically and mentally disconnects you from your partner. You might as well not be there and be honest- Oh and kids are no excuse...... they pick up on the disconnection of their parents before the "grown ups" realise and that = family break down. IMONudie Rudie if You Just have to ask me the Right question....That's classic ....but lying by omission is lying too in this idealists world :) Gosh I love your thigh script.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel''wants' tuscan.....men and women have 'wants'....... no ones going to die for lack of sex, and no one will die for uttering the truth....... and thats where the problem lays.... people lie because theres no consequence...... someone will always give them what they 'want'..............and thats a crying shame... Ya know, its not just about sex. You guys have it all, and good for you But there is a deep longing in people to be held and to be appreciated. If a married man just wanted sex only he could go to a hooker. Yes not body died of not having sex, your right. People get turned inside out when the person they love cannot have sex or do not want sex with them any more, or the sex is dull and no amount of anything will spark it up. The chemistry has gone and that is a physiological fact, i.e. child birth and also even going off the pill can change the way you feel about a man. What if person they love , turns away from them. I know of several couples in that situation, where one the wife has refused her husband sex for five years. He loves her I see it in his face and he has never played up, but he quietly drinks himself to death every night alone in his room Shall he kick her to the curb? You know what she says, just cause were married he does not have the right to have sex with me. She does not want sex she is over it. Another a man has not had sex with my friend, his wife since he married her six years ago, he refuses to even talk about it. She loves him still. Simple solutions, ahh if we all had that the world would be a different place. I think they had that back in Salem, they burnt witches then. How about if Convention said that all people that swap partners should be condemned? Its the social mores of our society that make liars of people Hide your gay, Hide your swingers, Hide your married, lie lie lie How about this, question If your kids came home and saw you with another man and woman, say they were just 18 and said mum and dad do you fuck other people? or your mother and father caught you at it with other people? or the local priest? Do you think a lie would come to your lips? I think this subject has been done to death but it sure lights up the forums
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RHP User
14 years ago
The ethics of breaking up first?I have heard that 75% divorces are initiated by women (New York Times)... but adultery and abuse account for 20% of the reasons. Yet about the same number of women cheat on their partner as do men. So... why do men cheat? I suspect that women might cheat because they're unhappy at home... but while tht might apply to some men, I think men cheat because they think they can get away with it, even though they are getting great sex at home. Men who cheat aren't necessarily unhappy in their marriage.. in fact, it seems, we're pretty easy going. It's the women who are up tight about it and instigate divorces. Plus women cheat because they feel unappreciated and feel they need a reward for all the good work they are doing raising children or sommat.. their partner isnt listening, or is ignoring them... or perhaps they wish to "find themselves"... or boost their ego... but instead of getting a new haircut.. get a new poke in the whiskers. Women are much better lyers than men are... and are less likely to get away with it... again, this is supported by hard evidence, which is the number of divorces not instigated by men. On the other hand, Men cheat because their partner is perfect... and they're sick of perfection... and need to release themselves from that perfect world so that they can wrestle their lives back into order. Take a walk on the wild side... it's innate in men.Finally, you should never confess if you have had an affair. There is nothing to gain by this self righteous self sacrifice.... and only pain and misery can result.HugsStalky
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RHP User
14 years ago
I just think perhaps even though they love their partners that both of them would be happier (in the long run) and better off if they either;a) confronted their issues openly and/or b) split up and gave each other the opportunity of change.You never know their non sexual partners may learn something if they realise that they can no longer take their spouse for granted and ignore their partner's needs. Libido is largely mental so with a shift in the relationship dynamic, openness and HONESTY there may be a chance to reignite their sexual vigour- There is nothing like losing something (or almost losing it) to make you re-evaluate your wants and priorities.And if a partner just wants to be a companion and not be have sex then what reasonable person would not let them fulfil that need elsewhere!!! That's fine if they choose not to have sex I am sure they have their reasons, but to be totally inconsiderate of your partners needs unfair- If that was me and I had no drive they wouldn't even have to ask I would encourage it.Cass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
everyone lies... unless you know their situation ,we cant really judge. and bashing men in general doesnt help women look good.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting,"Finally, you should never confess if you have had an affair. There is nothing to gain by this self righteous self sacrifice.... and only pain and misery can result."If the affair is the sort of strings attached type that inevitably destroys intimacy and the bond and connection between a couple then I would have to disagree. Especially if the partner suspects and/or confronts their spouse- If the cheater realises what is important and re-evaluates and wants to repair that bond/ trust, then I think it is necessary to fess up and deal with the pain and misery, work through the what's and why's not the who's and when's in order to reconnect that bond and trust. That to me is true intimacy. It can be viewed as self righteous or self sacrificing or a bunch of other irrelevant snippets of the picture that detract from the point........Only truth deepens, strengthens and repairs intimacy and marriage. IMOCass xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
our histories are the same, perhaps worse than many here. i was cheated on,and lied to, by my ex, and she took everything, including my pride and 'sense of worth' in the process. we went thru 8 yrs of 'no sex', but i remained 100% faithful...why? because i made her a promise, one she couldnt keep. it sucks when the one you loves cheats, and it sucks when that one also happens to be your parent. i loathe cheats, and i loathe the ones who facilitate that cheating, and thats the absolute truth. we dont have it 'all'..........we have had to kick and fight and fucking scratch our way to where we are, emotionally and financially. my wifes ex is a god damned Hells Angel bikie of all things....and the piece of shit did everything hateful you could ever do to a woman...... as his way of assuaging his guilt for being the low life cheat that he was....she caught him out and confronted him....and he bashed her senseless as payback for 'daring' to suggest he was anything other than the 'man'.......shes been beaten, raped,had bones broken, burnt, shoved face first through a plate glass window, and thrown outdoors naked in the middle of a winter rain storm,over and over again........ all because he was a wonderful but misunderstood human being? who had 'needs'? oh come on... you have to be kidding?.........theres not one argument you, or anyone else could present, that could change either of our views, not one........ we both...in our foolish hope that things could 'get better'......forgave and forgave and fucking forgave....to what end?? so they could go out and cheat all over again, but with someone new............ therefore keeping their 'promises' to not puruse anything more with the person they had been cheating with.... how hollow does that make a promise? how defeated does it make you feel? our children know what we do,as they are all adults in their own right, and not so naieve that they dont see what goes on around them..our parents too, are aware of what we do...from the nudie beach, to dabbling in 'play' with others.. lol..... my 78 y/o mother in law thinks its wonderful! we dont go out of our way to 'hide' our lives, or tell lies to protect our privacy, we just dont rub it in their faces. my brother has a profile here (and has seen all of ours, including pics), my cousin has a profile as well...same deal. we dont hide any part of who we are.... my name is Michael, my wife is Michelle. we are who we say we are and refuse to hide behind the anonymity of a nickname or username... whats the point? isnt that too ,just another way to tell a lie? to play with some one, there has to be a measure of respect........for us to respect anyone, we first have to trust them. to trust them, we need to understand what motivates them....we dont understand what motivates anyone to lie and cheat. never will. its a little self sustaining circle isnt it?
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RHP User
14 years ago
if ur partner says they are happy with everything:~ attention~ affection~ sexthen what makes them:: go back online (after 8 months): come out from behind the screen to actually meet the ppl they been chatting to online?
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RHP User
14 years ago
absolutely. lies destroy things.... a confession.... the truth.... enables things to heal, even if change is part of that process. i'd rather change than lose something altogether. why have a wife, or a partner, if you cant give yourself to them in the first place? its really more a case of people wanting their bread buttered on both sides.....they deliberately put themselves in a 'win/win' situation when they have wife/partner and girlfriend/boyfriend..... what if their wives/girlfriends did the same? most of them would be the voices that protested the loudest.... 'how dare she'...'the slut'....whatever and so forth...........pfffft!
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RHP User
14 years ago
what about the so called single F's looking for attention, then at the last minute mention oh im married and hubby comes along too. "only to watch" yeah right
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' our experience is that guys will tell you anything they can, just to have a shot. they'll say they are single, divorced, widowed, a reformed gay, or a catholic priest who has left the church....just to cop a sniff of a womans left ankle.... we deal with this the best we can, and treat every male who contacts us (we havent made first contact with anyone for quite some time), with caution and suspicion. its working for us, as we've not had any no shows or cancellations for a while, and have found that by insisting the guy provides the venue (a residence of course), the attached ones invariably expose themselves... Left ankle? Why not the right lol? really good strategy to smoke em out!
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RHP User
14 years ago
People cheat, People lie….People cheat and lie..yes it often goes hand in hand - because people want it all and deny themselves nothing…..often to the detriment of others. However this forum was not about cheating, it was about lying on one’s profile..the OP claims that her FWB profile stated he was single (it did) …when in fact he was married…(Now I must admit the OP is a friend of mine, so I do know a little bit more of the behinds the scene of this story however I note the FWB profile disappeared overnite … mmm wonder why) but anyway what the OP is upset about was that he didn’t state that he was married and claimed he was single, therefore denying her relevant information on whether she wished to play with him or not…. This was important information to her. Now I am of the same calibre…I will not play with anyone who is partnered in any shape or form unless it’s in a swing situation with all partners present and accounted for…..my prerogative and this value comes from the fact that I have been cheated on and it gutted me…I will not knowingly contribute to the potential hurt of another human being…that’s my stance….and I make no apology for it, however I do not condemn others if their view or values are different…I have to live with me and my decisions, not with others and vice versa…I’m more than comfortable with where I am on this issue and if I missing out on the “Fuck of the Century” with a married bloke…I’ll deal with it !!! What the OP wanted was for her FWB to be honest with her, so she could make an informed decision…does she not have the rite to know if she is in a FWB agreement of several months to know ? …because perhaps if she had known she may have re-evaluated her to decision to have a “FWB relationship “with him… ….remember too, she also had the wife on the phone to her….she was floored because she didn’t know who this woman was…now.that’s gotta be an awkward situation for anyone to deal with...and could have had the potential to become volatile (its Perth here..we need the excitement !!) But of course, all that I write is idealistic….we live in a hedonistic society..what we want, we take… .. and there are some who don’t give a damn who or what they do to others on their journey….it is what it is….
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RHP User
14 years ago
the lies were the point...not the cheating. but sadly yes, they do go hand in hand,. someone lies about their marital status.......why? so they can cheat, or so they can conceal the truth...same same, whatever the motivation, a lie is a lie. lies wont win trust, or respect, but they will ensure you are remembered, only for all the wrong reasons........
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RHP User
14 years ago
wow, very prolific, once again. copied and pasted this to my v v recently ex partner... hope u dont mind (wink)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'curiousgirl_MR' So I dont lie, married, stated in profile and wife is contactable through here. Still, by being honest, I dont get much attention here on my solo profile Nath You say you don't lie, and don't get much attention!Could it be that your Wife being 112 years old as stated on your profile is putting punters off?Or did you "LIE" about her age????????Just sayin, is all! We ALL lie at some stage in our lives.Most married men will lie many times in a day just to keep the peace, and maintain equilibrium in the relationshipFor example-Wife asks - "Honey, do these jeans make my ass look fat"?Does the husband tell the truth?"No sweetheart, your ass looks fantastic"!Or does he LIE"It aint the jeans that make your ass look huge"!Now same thing can be said for the wives-"Babe, did you throw out my favourite T-shirt"?"What, the one you bought 25 years ago with holes in it and grease stains"?"Yeah thats the one"!"No"
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RHP User
14 years ago
No one will change the world of deceit on here ,lol Leesa
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
What about the lying women doing the same thing?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Its not up to me to say what a person should or should not do, what is right what is wrong etc There are things I do not like in life, so I just do not do them But Years of working in prisons, with men, with domestic violence from both men and women, with mental health with victims of child sex abuse I have learnt That I cannot expect people to be a skin scrapping of my own values Mike and shel, you do not like married men fine, other girls you want single men then fine but No fricking way am I picking up a stone, my name is not ST Tuscan Red. I would put my real name up but I am not a complet idoit , yet! Each person walks a different path and they carry a different set of luggage, who the hell do we think we are here? What RHP judge and jury? Like yep were all puffed up with our own self importance on this thing is amazing how we all believe our own press. Even me my ego is so full of shit, I think I need to empty it now and again. to do that, I have to pull reality check out of my bum to let some hot air out.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i'm a married guy here on his own and i do not hide it.....ive copped a lot of abuse on here.....which is a bit hard to understand given its an adult sex site.....but, to each their own, we all have our reasons for being on here.
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melbcpl01
14 years ago
We look at it it they are pepared to lie to you about the marital status what other lies are they going to tell you just to get into bed with you , wwould not believe a word they say , yes cheaters will eventualy get caught out usualy from thier own lies , if we had a call about someone we would not lie to thier partner and tell them the truth , why would we lower our selves to thier level and lie Melbcpl01
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RHP User
14 years ago
miss nuierudie, how can you talk, i know you have been dating a man who says he's single but isnt, surely your not stupid!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm married and like to play but my wife know and she like to join in "lol" If I tryed to lie my wife wwould know as I could not keep a straight face.... But we dont like people who cant tell the truth.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Happychick67'Hey thanks I'm picked back up again just would of liked to know so NOT going there again because don't need to plenty of fish in the sea lol thanks again :) xxxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree Tuscan, I ve been one of those wives that find their husband has cheated felt angry and became a man hater! But who knows why we do it bored not enough sex? We still love one another, I always share my status with potentials and feel no guilt doing what has been done to me, Im having the time of my life!
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RHP User
14 years ago
You are a sweet and well meaning lass but you are too idealistic and naive. Ten years after my aforementioned promiscuity came to an end, I confessed all to my wife, hoping to clear the air and repair our marriage. The marriage collapsed immediately. Trying to clear your conscience while your partner is blissfully unaware is selfish. Why hurt someone unnecessarilly. At the time, I did it to impress her with my honesty as, after ten years of behaving myself, she started to suspect me of an affair that I wasn't having. I thought if I told her what had happened and assured her that those days were behind me, that we could move forward. Want to know the most amusing part? While I managed to hide, for ten years, the fact that I had six overlapping affairs in a six month period (and mostly with married women who were lying to their husbands) I caught the wife at it red handed on three seperate occasions over our sixteen years of marriage. Yet my behaviour was unforgiveable.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I am all ways the marreied man, I am proud of it. I have taken of my wedding ring. this is because to many women have hit on me. not any other reson. my wife hates that i dont have it on but i just cant handle the shit of filerting. I love sex and wemon. I love mmf because she is secure with men and feels no insecurity or fear of lossing me. I want a foursome but if she is not for it ok. I am new at this but love challanges.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I was single and therefore sent out a few flirts & messages. However, not all have been answered and now i am attached. I changed my status straight away, because i think its the right thing to do. There are a lot of men out there, who are just scumbags. They don't respect what they have. Mayeb i am just generalising, but i seem to hear that it is mostly men that say they are single, when they are not.My partner and i play together. By the way, have not changed my profile much as i have been damn lazy. But i still send flirts and messages because you do meet a lot of nice friends on here, and it's not just about sex._ My 2 cents worth.
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RHP User
14 years ago
what about the single guys who pretend ther're married.. it happened more than a few times when me and the mr were looking to meet couples.. guy would turn up saying the mrs was sick or out of town or some other cocknmamie story but he had permission to play alone.. just putting it out there, but then thats a whole other thread lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok some guys cheat because their wife wont have sex anymore.. but some are just lies and dishonest guys saying they are single and their are married or attach.... we had a few married guys try it on us and when you ask what about your wife the answer is: ether she not into sex (well why stay married) or I dont want guy fucking my wife (that one is real low) If a married guy does get into our bed and his wife do find out and she ask us what he doing, we will tell her the truth as we will NOT lie for them.. Sorry guys it called "Bad Luck" The best one is when they have not told you they are married and you see them is the shops with their wife or partner is to just stop and say: Thanks for the sexy the other night it was great.... then walk off..... we hate cheats and bullshit
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RHP User
14 years ago
THere is one guy that we allow to attend our club that is married, his wife is sick and dying , he hasnt had sex with her for years...he comes to the club to get the closeness of a lady and to feel loved. He is there for his wife all the time, he looks after her daily...he loves her to end of the earth and back...but sometimes he just needs affection..Good for him , i dont approve of infidelity, but sometimes there are exceptions!! I have told him that he needs to be open and honest to those that he plays with and he always is. Good for himLeesa xx My thoughts
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RHP User
14 years ago
Whats the stats? Over 50% cheat on their partners?Guess it comes down to, Do you want to keep your marriage and consider turning a blind eye or swinging? With a little experience and the right questions its easy to catch a guy or girl out who is cheating on theirpartner.Or why not play? Thats their business! If it gets too hard....Next.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well said SLK27!! Quoting 'SLK27'its because their egos are sooooooooooooooo huge that they truly believe they wont be caught out...and for many they don't for a long time.....but one cant be a sexist stereotype..women do it too......and sadly human nature is that we all lie at times, when it suits us...
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RHP User
14 years ago
is this not the same as women putting up single profiles when they are attached and dont play alone?
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RHP User
14 years ago
The world is not just B & W. Massive sweeping generalisations limit understanding to the 'grey areas'. It may protect the individual or couple that makes them from being taken advantage of (at times) and that is their freedom of choice.I don't impose my ideals, beliefs or thoughts onto anyone- If more people gave their views instead of expecting others to take them the world would have a lot less conflict. I suggest; (it gets a much more positive response from my kids)Instead of saying You - try I.Instead of saying should - try could. Instead of saying must - try may. Instead of saying is - try seems.Instead of telling - try suggesting.I am free to make my own choices as to how I behave, make mistakes, break laws, Faux pas, lie, or the opposite. The choices I make come with consequences, reactions and ramifications- usually both good and bad. There are pro's and con's with all choices (even if it's just a lesson learned or a friend met along the way etc a positive can always be drawn).So when choosing- I weigh it up, back it up, suck it up (if I didn't consider something) and fix it up (if I stuffed it up). These are all choices and so the cycle repeats. Others can choose to reap what they sow :)Cass xxx
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14 years ago
I dont mind anyone knowing I'm married, for several years my wife has told me to go out and get a girl friend, our own sex life came to a grinding halt when ms moved in in the late 90s. I'm still looking for that girl friend, had a couple of excursions but they didnt last for various reasons.
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14 years ago
it's on my profile, and it's up to the other party if they want meet me....
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14 years ago
Why compromise others for your own gain? I had to think about this comment, why would you go to all that trouble, re looking people up on face book and then to tell a total stranger her boyfriend talked to you, had not even done the deed with you? There goes two lives. His and hers for what? the good of the world? The fact that you posted you did that may have all the men that read that on RHP, a bit worried now, I know I would be. I think honestly some women just love the drama . Of that love rat,of he did this to me and I want to get him back. Men and sex or even relationships are not as important as the relationships, you have with yourself and like the doctors oath I say do no HARM, Even if someone shits on you , get mad sure, call them what ever but then, let go. Do not let that anger go and hit another woman with your shit This is just an internet date site, its nothing more , you meet men you fuck them and move on down the track. If you meet them in a bar, do the chasing chilli , cull test so you know that person is not married and even then you may never know. Try dating a Qantas pilot, or a guy that has that kind a job. Or women who have FIFO husbands. Its not bullet proof , It could be worse people, you could go on a date with a TED BUNDY type that is what I would be more concerned about. Perspective is a wonderful tool to measure your life.
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RHP User
14 years ago
It doesn't matter if its male or female lies is lies and yes there are as many females cheating on here as males..... We just dont like it when they get caught and say to their partner: it all our fault he had sex with us... Which did happen some years back to us.... we did not make him have sex he contacted us as a single guy....... Its not the cheating part, its when you get caught out and start the blam game..........
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yeah. We r on this site for fuck, it all depend. Attached male or female doin this is wrong, cos id b unhappy if my partner is screwin sumone else behind my back. Ill b unhappy. Life sucks. But tis better for us female not to interfere with attach individual unless they can get a 5 star hotel to exolore their inner ambitions. Lots if bubbly Yeah.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm married and cheating, but not lying about it on here. Why? Because this is a adult sex site and I have my reasons for being here and I don't expect to meet anyone unless they know that I am not looking for a public relationship. I'm interested in friends for private fun without the strings. Lots of womens' profiles state select discreet relationships as a want and ask for nsa, but it would seem thatmaybe these are lies too to get men interested?? If I was single and wanted to meet another single person I'd try a dating site personally, cause I think a sex site is about a different sort of connection and it does not always have to be the social norm. In some way, cheating is actually just another sexual taboo, like anal, bdsm or whatever takes your fancy. The normal society pretends it doesn't exist... only have to spend a few minutes online to know that people everywhere are enjoying everything you can imagine. I am upfront about my situation because I don't want to stuff anyone around. If somone is not interested in an attached person, then so be it. I've got no problem with that. But I also don't want to meet someone looking to get hitched. I can also add though, fro first hand experiences, that cheating is not confined to men by any stretch of the imagination and what about that study in the UK which found some phenomenal number of woman deliberately have children with men other than their husbands? Thats kind of taking cheating a step further! Church and State can make all the rules and paradigms they like but nothing stops nature :) Just have fun and make memories to enjoy for life.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why is a married man - especially not an honest one - universally despised here, yet a married woman in exactly the same situation is not only accepted but often supported and praised?
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14 years ago
Quoting 'sucksomelolli' miss nuierudie, how can you talk, i know you have been dating a man who says he's single but isnt, surely your not stupid!!!! Really am i.....its news to me...and it appears as though i have to defend my innocence against such slanderso i will start by asking whom it is i am supposed to be dating...?
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RHP User
14 years ago
What amazes me is that noone questioned if it was even his wife! Years ago I had just started seeing a gorgeous guy when I got a call out of the blue from his supposed "wife"! She was very abusive to me on the phone and even threatened me. I gave her my address and told her to head over...The guy was not married nor was he in a relationship! The "wife" that called was a friend of my at the time best friend (of over 25 years) as my "best friend" liked him and wanted him for herself! It boiled her blood that this gorgeous likeable guy could even think about liking me at all, so she gave another person my number to call and abuse and threaten me...Beware your best friend...you never know what a cunning little bitch she is behind your back! . As for people having affairs? So what? If you don't do married men/women then good on you! If you do fuck married men/women and then good on you too! I have had 2 long term affairs with married men and not one of them ever got caught...one of these went on for 4 years till he got moved OS with his new job! The sex with a married guy is great..you don't get the headfucks like you do with single guys...and they don't want to see you 24/7 and the sex is nearly always AMAZING!! My king sized bed is for me to spread out on all night without having to share with a bed hog or doona hog! . I don't get why the same people have to go on and on and on about married people in all these types of posts...We get it .. you don't fuck married people....we have heard it a million times...sheesh! Get over yourselves! Go bible bash elsewhere....If you google "affairs with married men/women Australia" ... RHP is one of the first sites to come up...so leave your judgemental arses at the door! You don't walk in their shoes, you don't know what reasons they have for doing it...and why do they need a reason anyway? It is not law because some religion tells you it is so...the same religion that doesn't marry but yet goes to brothels for sex and also attacks young kids.....pffttt please give me a break! . Lastly why in the hell would you Facebook anyone or put their number into your IPhone...Stalker much? Farkkkk you are a scarey woman! Guys beware! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Reality check people...Friends with benefits is the new age catch phrase for...I dont have Morals!!!! YES this is a sex search site...but give me a break...it isnt a I HAVE NO MORALS OR CARE FOR OTHER HUMANS SITE...this discussion is indicative of the way people are making excuses for very very poor moral sexual behaviours....Married men are just SLIME!!! as for the women that say they didnt know....GIVE ME A BREAK...cant meet you other than during the day??? Women that lie to them selves and make excuses for the OBVIOUS!!! make me pewk...
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14 years ago
Thanks for the reminder...It appears men are the major % of offenders...but you are correct...plenty of women doing the same...there is a cure you know...DIVORCE!~!! why not try it if you so unhappy...prevents the whole nuclear fall out u know and also prevents the man from HATING women due to the deciet...Maybe more of the cheating humans should give this concept a go????
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14 years ago
You reserve the right to remove posted opinions... It isnt a TRYE forum then...why bother ???? Poor!!
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14 years ago
When Queen Victoria was passing harsh laws against homosexual activities between men, she refused to even entertain the suggestion of similar laws against women. In her eyes, such laws would be redundant as, "A woman would not do such a thing". I mention this as it seems the attitude of most women here is that lying is a purely male trait. Well, for your information, those married woman I mentioned previously, that were my playmates, were indeed lying to their husbands. You will find that there are as many lying wives/girlfriends/mistresses as there are lying husbands/boyfriends etc. Probably more so as there are more women populating the earth then there are males. It's just more bigotry really, isn't it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mooka'Why is a married man - especially not an honest one - universally despised here, yet a married woman in exactly the same situation is not only accepted but often supported and praised? thats not always the case, and we'd argue the point... our opinions on people who lie, are not gender specific. there is no difference, as a lie is a lie, no matter who it comes from. liars are liars. they come in all shapes and sizes, and genders.
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Happychick67' Cause I met a guy on here who told me he was single and 3 months later of being fwb his wife called me off guard and asked what was going on he also has a baby to her 5 months old I said we were only friends but felt really bad while he felt nothing lol ? I'm single so can do as I please on this site but prefer not to get phone calls and have to make up a bullshit story especially off guard :) !!!! Simple.He decided his 'wants' were more important than yours (whether your 'wants' included being told the truth about his marital status to enable you to make a decision to play with him or not, or .. being prepared in case his wife caught him out.)
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14 years ago
Anyway, you have stated that you, "Hate liers and bullshit", but have also posted, "I said we were only friends". Sure you felt bad but you still lied. We all do to varying degrees, it's human nature. You are incensed at having been lied to. Perfectly understandable. You will probably find that the wife is just as infuriated by your lie and saying similarly vindictive things about your nature. Then again, she may be guilty of some harshness towards the hubby which resulted in his straying. You say, "He felt nothing", but who knows what another is feeling. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Get back to being a happy chick.
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RHP User
14 years ago
dont see how anyone can take another person on board, who is a liar, what do they expect? the truth? honesty, even as a playmate? if they are willing to lie and deceive their partners, what hope is there that they'd be even half way honest with you? on anything?
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RHP User
14 years ago
We all have our own moral attitudes and you'd have a hard time finding someone with no moral beliefs. Why are you even on RHP? If you are not looking for a FWB, you're probably in the wrong place.
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14 years ago
Actually women have the highest % of people that cheat. Whenever a married woman comes on here and posts..she is bullied and bullied until she ends up closing her account, never to be seen on this site again! I have seen it time and time again! . There is one married man that got me so angry about his status...as his profile says he is "Widowed" but yet he has been married for a year! Nothing makes me angrier than someone lying about someone being alive/dead...dead/alive! . There are plenty of signs that men are married/attached and I'm sorry, but if girls don't see it then they are living in lala land and it serves them right for being played! Also to the married men that do claim to be single on their profiles and then get caught out I don't feel for you either! I am not being sexist here...it is just that I am straight and can only state my point of view! . SexyM...lol, the funniest thing I heard was you standing next to a guys wife/gf just to scare him! I'm sorry but I am not the only one that sees that as psycho bunny boiling stuff...why would you do that to someone at all? Him seeing you would be enough to scare the shit out of him anyway without you going overboard! That really is just pathetic especially as you on your own admission never had sex with him!! Also on your friends list you have one married man and one who is in a long term relationship as we speak! . If married men/women are honest to you about being married then I don't think they should be abused or judged! If they have single on their profile but let you know in their first chat with you what the situation is..then I wouldn't abuse them either! As long as they give you choice to say yes or no....then I think that you should take that choice and still be polite! No wonder they hide they are married...they cop abuse for simply being on a site like this...totally uncalled for! xFunlovingx
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14 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Quoting 'mikeandshel' we dont have it 'all'..........we have had to kick and fight and fucking scratch our way to where we are, emotionally and financially. my wifes ex is a god damned Hells Angel bikie of all things....and the piece of shit did everything hateful you could ever do to a woman...... as his way of assuaging his guilt for being the low life cheat that he was....she caught him out and confronted him....and he bashed her senseless as payback for 'daring' to suggest he was anything other than the 'man'.......shes been beaten, raped,had bones broken, burnt, shoved face first through a plate glass window, and thrown outdoors naked in the middle of a winter rain storm,over and over again........ all because he was a wonderful but misunderstood human being? who had 'needs'? oh come on... you have to be kidding?.........theres not one argument you, or anyone else could present, that could change either of our views, not one........ we both...in our foolish hope that things could 'get better'......forgave and forgave and fucking forgave....to what end?? so they could go out and cheat all over again, but with someone new............ therefore keeping their 'promises' to not puruse anything more with the person they had been cheating with.... how hollow does that make a promise? how defeated does it make you feel? What a low life he was, thats the saddest thing I've ever read :( And people want to call me a stalker and tell guys to look out for me, what a joke. Good luck to you two guys mike and michelle. you deserve all the happiness in the world. These liars and cheats make my blood boil. theyre all in it for themselves, they dont give a damn about anyone but themselves. My ex went back and forth to me, to his mistress, back to me and back to her. He even did this on xmas day, she kicked him out so he came to me, i kicked him out so he went back to her. Im not a religious person at all but isn't this one of the holiest days of the year? And he's a catholic, so lets just go the the priest, say five hail marys and be done with it. what a hypocrite. Families got involved, kids got involved. None of this mattered to him because it was all about him you see. Thats how liars work, thats how cheaters work, its in their dna. They can't help themselves. Its called being a psychopath. Psychopaths have a total lack of empathy and remorse and are generally regarded as selfish insensitive dishonest arrogant impulsive irresponsible and hedonistic. Go look up the literal meaning of it because thats what it is. Explains the liars and cheats to me in a nutshell. Wow, bitter much? Seriously try and read that as if you were reading it from someone else and tell me that is not the most bitterest thing you have ever come across in the Forums!! You need help to overcome whatever your past hurts were...I know there are many, but seriously, you will never be happy until you let it all go! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' You are a sweet and well meaning lass but you are too idealistic and naive. Ten years after my aforementioned promiscuity came to an end, I confessed all to my wife, hoping to clear the air and repair our marriage. The marriage collapsed immediately. Trying to clear your conscience while your partner is blissfully unaware is selfish. Why hurt someone unnecessarilly. At the time, I did it to impress her with my honesty as, after ten years of behaving myself, she started to suspect me of an affair that I wasn't having. I thought if I told her what had happened and assured her that those days were behind me, that we could move forward. Want to know the most amusing part? While I managed to hide, for ten years, the fact that I had six overlapping affairs in a six month period (and mostly with married women who were lying to their husbands) I caught the wife at it red handed on three seperate occasions over our sixteen years of marriage. Yet my behaviour was unforgiveable.Idealistic mostly but not always I decided to drop that once just to see if I had it all wrong being very honest- it was a complete fuck up. My choice- I stand by my ideals and values now and if I stuff up I admit it and face the music- does wonders for me making the right choice in the first place. Naive not anymore, and it is quite unsophisticated (simple) of you to say so seeing as though you have no idea of my experiences/ back ground and you missed my point completely I was merely giving an example where confession is needed not saying always or in your case. Stalky said "never confess" I say "not always the case but sure in some cases." Like in instances when it’s necessary to mend the broken bond/ trust between the couple. Sometimes they are not so blissfully unaware and there is distrust. It depends on the situation and again sweeping statements shadow grey areas. Just as someone can be selfish in telling the truth to try and rid guilt, a liar can hide behind that as an excuse not to face up when at times it is damaging not to. Worse than long suffering guilt is the realisation that one's actions have caused the bond shared to break and that the only way to reconnect and re-establish that trust is to come clean and be prove honesty. That sux! You are stuck either way and it hurts your partner either way. In that case it’s not selfish the deceit in the first place is and attempting to repair it is positive whether it works or not. Sure some can pretend that the bond is there, feel attached, go on and in time leave it all in the past. If that's the case I question how deep it was in the first place and I think the relationship would be limited by that deception to varying extents. I couldn't do that I would feel disconnected and he would feel that. Keeping a secret/ deception like that and it would limit our intimacy rendering the whole relationship pointless because that’s what it’s about for us. Sure you could have hidden it and possibly had no dramas- your choice and it depended on your individual situation and how you weighed it up. You deemed the air stinky, in need of repair and followed your conscience, it didn't go as you thought, and it ended. You made your choice and either way there would have been pro's and con's. For someone else it may have worked and taken the relationship to a deeper level, unfortunately not for you. Hmmm I wonder if maybe she wasn't so blissfully unaware the whole time and had suspicions which lead to disconnection which lead to her affairs. Just a thought. You don't know how your lives would have ended up if you didn't tell her- you could both have been unhappy and limited by being with each other Cass xxx
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14 years ago
My first marriage was never a happy one. I am aware of so many of my mistakes, ain't hindsight a bitch. I'm now married to a goddess and still making mistakes. Thankfully, I don't make the same mistake twice, I do learn. I'm aware of many of my failings and know that perfection is beyond me. I wasn't trying to dictate to you, as I think too highly of you, just impart a little of what I've learnt on the way. It was my hope that it might be of use to someone.
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14 years ago
This thread pops up every now and again, the usual suspects drop their opinions, some single, some swinging, usually people society would condemn, I bet none of the jury tell the world they like wife swapping or orgies. My advice to anyone cheating is don't come here looking for understanding, you're not going to find it, so why bother?, you're only going to get shut down by people who society would pour an equal amount of scorn upon anyhow!. Do your thing and shut your mouth!, this isn't a psychiatrists couch, you're not doing the right thing and you know it so swallow the guilt or stop playing up.
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RHP User
14 years ago
not one iota of bitterness...... just amazement anyone would defend people who lie, and take on board someone who cheats.... without understanding what goes on in the background.... he claimed he was 'hard done by' and 'misunderstood'..........
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14 years ago
these are the places and conversations where sometimes the truth, and yea some hurt, occasionally bubbles to the surface. and the one consistant thing we have found, not just at times we've shared something private, but at times when others do the same..... its single women who hang the most shit, and make the nastiest comments. wonder why that might be? so much for women supposedly being the 'softer more understanding and nurturing sex' ...ffs thats certainly not what it looks like from here.
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RHP User
14 years ago
yes it is tempting to lie , i did for a short time, but thought this is not fun lying to other people and giving them a false sense of things, that more than likely will never be. I feel better about being truthful , its a bummer that i don't get so many gals interested , but hey i'm not what their after , and i only want a woman to be with when she is fully aware of my circumstances.I have meet some lovely woman on here, who like the idea of being with a attached guy . They are usually leading a busy full life and enjoy casual regular hot sex with out being tied down to a full on serious relationship. As someone else said it works both ways, plenty of woman out there doing the same thing. What gets me with some married woman and good on them for having the ego to do it or some might say she up her self, is that they state only looking for unattached men , that just blows me away
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RHP User
14 years ago
Pop corn has run out, and this is like Ben Hur Be gone you unfaithful lairs one and all Rid the RHP of cheats, Liars, stalkers, and opinionated ego tripping women with big cunts or small cunts or just plain old cunts that do not stink Get rid of the men that lie about their dick size or women that lie about their body size Cull out the fake pictures , the fake profiles hmmmmm here I am all alone with the sounds of crickets chirping and gosh RHP has no money any more its ta daahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh “Fantasy land” peoples, and yet people are at each others throats, off-line its would prob be a mouse squeeking on-line and a mouse that roars Really care factor is zero about peoples thoughts, they have em we may not agree with em, but its a good laugh now and again. Some must be waiting in line for their Saint hood badges. Now off to get more pop corn.
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14 years ago
I am truly sorry to hear about that. I certainly don't think my opinion has any bearing on your dealing with that but to be perfectly frank, I think it is an utterly wonderful thing that you're both here and enjoying what is on the table. Mike, I think a lot of the time, you are a complete and utter ass; however, brutally honest posts like this give a better indication as to who you actually are and what lies beneath your opinions. So, thank you for posting that comment. I, for one, really appreciate it. Cheers, JamesQuoting 'mikeandshel' our histories are the same, perhaps worse than many here. i was cheated on,and lied to, by my ex, and she took everything, including my pride and 'sense of worth' in the process. we went thru 8 yrs of 'no sex', but i remained 100% faithful...why? because i made her a promise, one she couldnt keep. it sucks when the one you loves cheats, and it sucks when that one also happens to be your parent. i loathe cheats, and i loathe the ones who facilitate that cheating, and thats the absolute truth. we dont have it 'all'..........we have had to kick and fight and fucking scratch our way to where we are, emotionally and financially. my wifes ex is a god damned Hells Angel bikie of all things....and the piece of shit did everything hateful you could ever do to a woman...... as his way of assuaging his guilt for being the low life cheat that he was....she caught him out and confronted him....and he bashed her senseless as payback for 'daring' to suggest he was anything other than the 'man'.......shes been beaten, raped,had bones broken, burnt, shoved face first through a plate glass window, and thrown outdoors naked in the middle of a winter rain storm,over and over again........ all because he was a wonderful but misunderstood human being? who had 'needs'? oh come on... you have to be kidding?.........theres not one argument you, or anyone else could present, that could change either of our views, not one........ we both...in our foolish hope that things could 'get better'......forgave and forgave and fucking forgave....to what end?? so they could go out and cheat all over again, but with someone new............ therefore keeping their 'promises' to not puruse anything more with the person they had been cheating with.... how hollow does that make a promise? how defeated does it make you feel? our children know what we do,as they are all adults in their own right, and not so naieve that they dont see what goes on around them..our parents too, are aware of what we do...from the nudie beach, to dabbling in 'play' with others.. lol..... my 78 y/o mother in law thinks its wonderful! we dont go out of our way to 'hide' our lives, or tell lies to protect our privacy, we just dont rub it in their faces. my brother has a profile here (and has seen all of ours, including pics), my cousin has a profile as well...same deal. we dont hide any part of who we are.... my name is Michael, my wife is Michelle. we are who we say we are and refuse to hide behind the anonymity of a nickname or username... whats the point? isnt that too ,just another way to tell a lie? to play with some one, there has to be a measure of respect........for us to respect anyone, we first have to trust them. to trust them, we need to understand what motivates them....we dont understand what motivates anyone to lie and cheat. never will. its a little self sustaining circle isnt it?
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14 years ago
Quoting 'bondsb' it's on my profile, and it's up to the other party if they want meet me.... See we seek friendships too so I really wouldn't like that based on lies- seems pointless.We would prefer non cheaters, seems like it could get rather messy if the Mrs or Mr finds out. So I will do my best to weed them out of our patch.....but having said that I understand there are reasons why people live a lie and I wouldn't get my knickers in a knot if someone did- everyone's got a storyCass xxx
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14 years ago
i think we all got a little sidetracked again.... as happens when passion comes into play...... the thread was about a guy who lied to get what he wanted.... it occurs every day, all over the world.....but the 'lie' is sometimes much much more than is seen at first glance......and occasionally, by the time the liar gets to the point of actually playing with someone.... the lies been told a thousand times, and its evolved, from something small and insignificant....into something involved, and convoluted, something that ensares and entwines many people, many sets of circumstances, and many lives..... sometimes the lie/s are so well developed and intricate, that even the person who utters them, begins to believe them as truth...or lives in such a way, that they give 'life' to their lies....... james.... lol thanks for that... an 'ass' you say? tell u what, i'll take that in the spirit i believe it was meant in, and say cheers for your thoughts and words........for the record, you come across as an obnoxious little snot...lol.... but thats not necesarily bad either is it? its all good.........no harm, no foul......
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14 years ago
Wow guys sorry I asked a question made a comment. I haven't been on here that long and I'm sorry didn't mean to judge just men . I know now that I will think long and hard before making an assumption all is good I will just put it down to experience and have also met some nice friends out of this so thanks again :) Happychick67 xx
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14 years ago
Obnoxious little snot? Spot on :-) Also, agreed Mike, there seems to be an awful lot of bitterness here. A whole lot of mudslinging from people who deem themselves morally better than those who lie and cheat. I am in no way perfect. I've made plenty of mistakes and will continue to do so. No one here is any better than anyone else. I am no more or less valuable than Mike, Funloving or Sexymilf. What leads people to throw stones from their moral high ground, I don't know, but I find it incredibly irritating. We have all been made and scarred by our experiences. Each experience and decision has a bearing on who we are today. The important part is what you do with that experience - whether that be tarring a demographic with the same brush or having a more defined sense of where you are and what you want.
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14 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' Quoting 'sucksomelolli' miss nuierudie, how can you talk, i know you have been dating a man who says he's single but isnt, surely your not stupid!!!! Really am i.....its news to me...and it appears as though i have to defend my innocence against such slanderso i will start by asking whom it is i am supposed to be dating...? I knew that you would not be back after you had Lobbed your Hand Grenade...... as it was not based on Fact at all....but your own consensus reality......
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14 years ago
Got to love the audacity of some.....make a public accusation with no facts, cause havoc and then have the"" maturity"" to hide their profile all weekend....apparently can dish it out but cant take it nor can they back up their claims...we are so brave behind our monitor and keyboards aren't we ??.........ah dear...the goings on in the sand box... ...why can't people play nice ??
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14 years ago
This thread sure went to shit maybe it should be linked to the ass to mouth thread lol Can't even remember what the question was after reading all that??
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14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T' This thread sure went to shit maybe it should be linked to the ass to mouth thread lol Can't even remember what the question was after reading all that?? I lost interest once someone was double backing and couldn't remember what they said in previous posts! But sometimes it is fun to hold out that ball of yarn to the little kitty just to snatch it away bwahahahahahahaha! xFunlovingx
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14 years ago
Is this post about Lying husbands? OR is it just a cat fight You have all lost me (but thats not hard anyway)
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14 years ago
If you're all going to debate something inconsequential, please make it entertaining.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I know it isn't very consoling but look at it this way at least you're not the poor wife sitting at home with the kids whilst he is in the next room on the computer finding his next victim. A cheat and a liar will always come unstuck and when his wife finds out and in the end kicks him out or leaves with the kids then his world will come crashing down around him. He will then feel very sorry for himself and play the victim. So keep your chin up just by knowing that he will just like any other lying pathetic grub does, he will have have his day of reckoning. Let nature takes it course and don't be the one that has to inform his wife, she will more than likely be defensive and angry at you for telling her something she already suspects, if she directs that anger towards you then she will take it away from him the one who deserves it and he in turn might try to convince her it was you that persuaded him into being a low life bit of scum that he was actually destined to be from the day he was born, and she may forgive him. In saying that I really don't think there is any harm in stirring the pot a little with some "anonymous" late night calls if you know what I mean.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SLK27'its because their egos are sooooooooooooooo huge that they truly believe they wont be caught out...and for many they don't for a long time.....but one cant be a sexist stereotype..women do it too......and sadly human nature is that we all lie at times, when it suits us... i suport your opinion they r liers they say they singles when they got wife and kids at home.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Your chosen handle seems incongruous with your stand here but that's beside the point. I find it interesting in your assertion that it would serve him right, so to speak. As we have already established, the female of the species is not above lying and cheating and yet, when she gets caught out and the marriage falls to bits, she still leaves and takes the kids and the innocent husband is in the same boat as the philandering husband. It seems there are a lot of women on here with a similar mentality to old Queen Victoria.
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RHP User
14 years ago
people see it from the point of view that their experience allows..... those who cheat or lie, will defend themselves or their motivations, and those who have been lied to or cheated upon will take the opposing point of view. you cheat your partner of the honesty and openness we all should have, in our relationships, by uttering falsehoods and lies......
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RHP User
14 years ago
There is one thing about people who cheat on their partners, they often tend to then cheat on the person they are cheating with ....Does that still make sense - oh the evils or bourbon lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
I know I did, Mooka.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Okay ..we have all had bad times in our lives, i myself have been through the wringer and back again, I choose not to dwell on any of it and move forward to make myself a positive and full filling life.My past is one of abuse and pain as well and i will never use that to prove that i am a better person now because of itI am still the same person as i was before i just don't take shit lightly anymore, I am not stronger from what i have been through i am just wiser and more focused.I had a Nervous breakdown at 28 and 3 small children all under 6. I chose to move on and make the most of my life and focus on my work and my children and making a better life without the pain and hurt.If someone cheats on me i will make sure they are gone out of my life, i wont allow this treatment anymore.All i can say is that if you find out of think your partner is cheating do what is best for YOU....and do it quickly.It took me 14 years to escape after 12 months of preparing to escape, my first husband after years of very bad physical abuse, i had to escape with my 3 children one day while he was at work and never went back again.( dropped him at train station and drove off with out looking back)I don't look back and never look back, but i do say this one thing......don't ever accept lies, they will be caught out eventually, and when you do find the lies don't make or listen to excuses, because we deserve better, if you are male or female, we all deserve to be loved back and treated with respect and cheating is not being treated with respect.Proud to say i have 3 grown children now 27.25. and 22 and i have 2 darling grandchildren, all my children have been taught to respect honor and love those around them, they are very well off and work hard for everything they have , i am proud to say my choices made them what they are today......Leave and leave NOW! if you are cheated on or treated badly....there are no excuses for this sort of behavior.Leesa xxx
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