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Meet first, play later
November 25 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are playing together as a couple so safety in numbers is covered 😉 We also have a meet first and play later preference, chemistry is paramount for all involved to have a good time, I mean otherwise what's the point??!!!! And if it's really hot Of course a repeat performance would need to be arranged, to double check said chemistry if nothing else 😝 Although in saying that, some people may find it extremely arousing to be spontaneous like that, I'm sure we've all done it once or twice or maybe three times even ☺️ growing up!! Hot kudos to you, that they don't even need to know you to try rock your world!! :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Everyone is different to meet their own needs. Its your ballgame so you play it however youre comfortable with it. And dont let anyone push you into doing something you arent happy with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
As a couple we have only ever meet people on 2 occasions before playing, and it was a waist of time for us. Generally we are very good with matchmaking, and have only had a couple of hiccups along the way, which was the typical "ahhh your photo doesn't match who you are" situation and they were shown the front door with no hassles. We basically get a good feel of who the person is by way of phone calls and texting, along with skype. We haven't the weird hang ups that a lot of couples have in that Mrs S is free to text, chat and skype anyone she likes to work out compatibility. So almost all of the people we have met here and elsewhere have become regulars and most are friends. We had a +1 stay with us for a few days while he was in-between homes. All this was achieved without the meet first caveat.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Damned if you do damned if you don"t. There's no easy way to do first meets, same as hosting, i'll come back to that in a sec. There was a time when i'd get them straight here, i'm too horny to meet out in public lol which is still a problem, and the age gap presents a further issue for me. But i also like to go straight in, move in and get that shirt off with miliseconds haha and kiss, i love those first moments, nothing like it, it fuckin rocks. So i prefer not to meet out in public, unless a quiet spot on the beach can be found, coffee in hand, far enough away from people, so i can move in hahaha i'm really bad, probably scanning the surrounding area to look for other good spots on the way there, bad girl mmm as far as hosting vs them hosting, jury is out on that one, i haven't had good experiences with them hosting, would rather either here or the great outdoors. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meant to say i'm more wary now of getting them straight around here, i still do occasionally, but only with the ones i trust and have gotten to know a bit. Depends on the guy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
we're happy to play on first meets. Most of the time you've sent so many messages and the like by the time you actually meet it's almost as if you're getting engaged lol. So if you can't tell if you like someone by that stage, I don't see the purpose in meeting them at all. It's only sex, it's not selling your soul. But on the flip side, if someone specifies that, we won't push and will respect their decision. I'm just as happy having a drink as I am having sex so it's a win-win situation for me. Mr3
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RHP User
10 years ago
We prefer to meet first and play later. Especially as a couple looking for bi Women. We understand that it would be intimidating to a Woman meeting with two people they have never met before. There are all sorts of weirdos out there especially guys pretending to be couples. We need to know that a Woman is happy with both of us and and us with her and also that she feels comfortable with us. The key is to be open, honest and respectful. Cheers guys and good luck oxoxo
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
arrange a meet first and play later.Then you can actually do a drive by...........See him sitting at the bar and looks like a bulldog, just keep driving those legs on by
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RHP User
10 years ago
arrange a meet first and play later.Then you can actually do a drive by...........See him sitting at the bar and looks like a bulldog, just keep driving those legs on by Quoting 'Whateverway' Lol nice one mate or matess
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RHP User
10 years ago
However, if either party doesn't 'feel it', it's best left at just drinks. OP anyone who demands only playmeets where your preference is meet first, run! They don't respect your wishes prior to meeting you, it's unlikely they will respect your wishes after. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hmmm, I think I have done that
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are so many fakes on here men pretending there a woman found that one outCouples that arent couples the man oh Sorry were not together anymore , or my wife is happy for me to play alone , next the men hey im in town today do you host wtf ? no Always get to know the person before hand ask them to call you to verify themselves and arrange to met in a public place so if you feel uneasy you can leave , or bonus points if there what your looking for good luck and stay safe Sally
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't have the time to be able to do that. For me, I'll get a feeling via messages. I know words can be spin to put any light on any situation but sometimes you've got to go with your gut instinct about a person as you are talking to them. I'm from a small rural town, so any meets would have to be planned and travel would be involved, either for me or for them, hence not having the time ti meet first then arrange to play later. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't meet someone and be expecting to play on the first meet. I have no judgement of those that do - whatever floats your boat, really! - but if it's NOT your thing, then don't let anyone push you into it. Move on to someone who does respect what you prefer when arranging play meets! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
If you dont connect,why the hell would you want to shag? Different for some couples, who dont look for connections but I like to chat/message/meet first and then play if we actually like each other xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Haha awesome, love your work, plenty of time to get to know each other after right? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Anyone for a spot of sky diving, a no risk public meet with some adventure thrown in. Safety first right?
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RHP User
10 years ago
For the helpful feedback on this guys xxoo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
always expect to play on the first meet, won't take no for an answer lol god that was a joke joyce, well the last bit was, but i'm in their pants quicker than it'll take you to read this message, hopefully they're in mine about the same time, happy days mmm like i said, slightly more cautious beforehand but would never want to go to a second meeting unless we'd got busy the first time and wanted to repeat the process - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
The front door doesn't even have a chance to shut, why waste time, i'm really excited and aroused by then so straight in is good - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Then jump in if keen! This public service announcement was brought to you by....
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RHP User
10 years ago
a cooling down period, once you commit, I have needs lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
I would be listening to Uni's advice I did and I've had a ball - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My thought process... after first messaging, engaging in conversation and screening whether I actually want to meet that person.... is to meet them with zero expectations of anything other than actually meeting the person who wrote the messages, and engaging in good banter... and from there may come the consideration of something further. I think its kind of ridiculous to hold high expectations of a sexual encounter when meeting someone, that so many impatient guys in here clearly do...... which is why I avoid the hot and heavy sexting stuff, which I actually think is a barrier to meeting, and progressing. 2c
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RHP User
10 years ago
Meet first - public place. No expectations. Then decide. Personally, if they're not willing to meet in public - it's a red flag and an instant no. Good luck, have fun, and be safe. x
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compressor
10 years ago
safety is your main concern and if you not comfortable don't go there. The guys should understand that. I would be happy even if some ladies wanted to chat to be honest
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RHP User
10 years ago
We prefer to meet first for a couple of reasons. Firstly, as a couple with young children, it's much easier to find a sitter for a meet & greet than an all night play. We prefer to save our play nights for the couples we really connect with. We are looking for more than one off, casual sex so are quite fussy. Secondly, there's a new dimension to meeting a couple casually, flirting, laughing, cheeky smiles, build up the tension, then leave horny as hell. Go home together, have steamy hot sex & talk about how we can't wait to see them again. Few cheeky text messages in between meets and more tension & excitement........ We've done both ways, but definitely prefer the meet & greet option :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are open about the fact that we are a tease couple to begin - and in most cases that's where it ends too but I hate that we are shamed because of it.. What's wrong with just wanting to play online!? Isn't that why this exists?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I also think that people aren't honest with their intentions
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have read your info and will keep my discretion if you return the favour... and more possibly...😋 I can send pic privately i suppose if you keep it our secret.x Hope to hear from u..
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