T64
Meet first, play later
July 09 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
I like to go straight in, as is well documented 😉 But for those who have that selected in their profiles, I tend to take more from what they say in the about me/looking for, some (men being they're the ones I'm viewing) quite genuinely do prefer to meet first, play later. I'm not comfortable with that, If I'm into a guy and vice versa, I can't see the point in doing the dating stuff. Different if I were looking for a long term partner or with men my own age I suppose but even then, getting naked and getting them naked, the animal attraction and physical contact, along with intimacy of course, is my immediate goal. If I don't feel that urgency from them, it invariably turns me off. I often joke 'go hard or go home' but that's pretty much it lol I can relax immediately in the moment and can get them there also, most men aren't used to women being so straight in, but they get with the programme fairly quickly I've found 😊 As far as interpretation, not all men want that so I think many are genuine selecting that, they're probably not a good match with me though. Sex first, get to know you later 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
In short, I'd be doing you on the first date, on Auntie Annie's couch 😛😜
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RHP User
8 years ago
Could be both. As long as there is a meet first for a chat over diner or a drink - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Meet first, play later" on my profile. I am open to playing on the first meet/date, however I won't guarantee it because I do need to meet first and see if there's attraction and something there. And unless I clarify that and tell the person I'm meeting not to have expectations of sex straight up, a lot of men (NOT ALL!) assume agreeing to a meet that sex is a foregone conclusion. It's not. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting Eiliethiya "Meet first, play later" on my profile. I am open to playing on the first meet/date, however I won't guarantee it because I do need to meet first and see if there's attraction and something there. And unless I clarify that and tell the person I'm meeting not to have expectations of sex straight up, a lot of men (NOT ALL!) assume agreeing to a meet that sex is a foregone conclusion. It's not." I also have 'meet first, play later' on my profile .. I never commit to playing on a first meet as that chemistry/ sexual attraction is so elusive for me and I am certainly not going to play if there is no physical attraction and even a mental connection. I think it's different for everyone but for me, I don't share my body with just anyone and have quite high standards when it comes to what I find attractive in a man. I think 'meet first, play later' means exactly that ... let's meet first and go from there. If I meet a guy, I've clearly been chatting to him first, and something attracted me to him in order for me to want to meet him. If sparks fly at the first meet I'm more than happy to take things further, but it seems that sparks don't fly that often for me. Maybe my standards are too high ... lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Needs other options ,like maybe we will ,maybe we won't ,let's just wait and see , I think meet first, play later is a good polite get out of jail card without hurting feelings Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The 'meet first play later' might mean I meet them one day then fuck them a few days later, or that I meet them one day then fuck them later that day. Or I might not fuck them at all. As long as I've met them in a non-sexual, social setting and established that there's an adequate level of physical and mental attraction I don't put a particular timeframe on the 'later' part of it. LIke Eiliethiya, I always make sure the guy is clear that meeting doesn't necessarily mean that sex will follow.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nailed it 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I play with couple on first date,I think it's more depends if there physically and mentally attraction in between two people As luck_Dragon said No timeframe . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I interpreted it like LD, but these days I don't meet them at all. I trust him to do the meet and decide for us (IF the other party is okay with that). Sometimes they even show up! 😪 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
"Meet first play later" for me means meet for a coffee/ drink only, no sex. If I decide I am still attracted to him after the coffee I will let him know by text after a couple of hours. I don't like to rush into things. Done it before and regretted it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I hate wasting time on endless emailing back an forwards. Meeting for a quick coffee cuts down on all that and it is a quick easy way to assess if their is a sexual attraction. It also means you can extract yourself more easily if there is no attraction. Hence, if you say you want to meet first it reduces the "expectation" that the meet up will lead to sex. Plus I don't see the point of investing so much of my time in something that might not work out. Everyone catches up for a quick drink or a coffee in the city so its easy. For me, the look in their eyes, and their smell is hugely important. There picture can be gorgeous (is assuming it is them in the picture) but that still doesn't mean I want to have sex with them. So although I have been with guys after one quick swipe, for me isn't the best sex to be had usually.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have always assumed "meet first play later" is the default position, it's only reasonable, but when their panties slde off into a puddle what's a man to do ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
A shared expectation works for me, never a commitment though, no still means no, either one can walk away obviously, but if Thunderbirds are go 💏 Lady Penelope "Mind the gap, Alan", Scott "Are you okay Virgil?" 😇
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Haleakala
8 years ago
The description is so limited I just assume it means definitely will not meet for sex as the initial nteraction. Such as meeting at a hotel bedroom or at a dogging spot. Mind you even then I suppose strictly speaking you do meet first then very shortly afterwards start playing. Perhaps a glory hole-is the only place you don't meet first play later ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
On the beer goggles. 😁🕶 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
With no pressure. Sounds like she was shy and wanted you to make the move
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RHP User
8 years ago
"I'm not easy....... ..... unless I choose to be" 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Quoting 'swingalingson' With no pressure. Sounds like she was shy and wanted you to make the move I was the shy one. I'm too polite and read that as she wanted to meet first date, make up her mind and decide on the course of events for date 2It was only some time after I noticed she played straight up with other dates so l asked if she had changed her strategy. Made up for it in the long run.........
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Sawadee
8 years ago
I have this thing that lots of women wont fuck on a first date to save face and not appear easy. I'm not knocking this btw , just a observation. Personally I perfer to meet for coffee / drink for good reason. I need a attraction and that doesn't mean everyone needs to be a Jennifer Hawkings. What it does mean' is if we both feel it ' there's a possibility the momentum keeps going and anything might happen, even on the day . So never say never over a coffee, you just never know and at least you do get to know if the person suits your tastes..
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I say meet first play later I mean just that play at a later date. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We all must assess and decide on who will cut the bread and who will spread the melted butter before hand. It's always much more smoother once this has occurred.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'jayme2' I have this thing that lots of women wont fuck on a first date to save face and not appear easy. That's because women are still judged negatively for fucking on a first date. There are many men who admit that they would never consider a relationship with a woman who would fuck them on a first date because they don't consider they would be suitable relationship material. Personally I don't give a shit. If someone wants to judge me for having sex on the first date they can go right ahead, they're not a person I'd want anything to do with anyway.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Good comment. I agree with what you say and your resolute to fuck anyone you want to fuck. I also agree if anyone , guy or girl , who judges you because of that are the ones with the hangup's.. Some of my long time friends fucked on our first date and they are all mentally well adjusted .. Goes to show .. Life goes on regardless . Jay...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just in case it has any future relevance to anyone, I do not judge negatively for it at all. I can sense that some people are relieved, it's ok, you don't have to say anything :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
I used to select Meet First, Play Later, but I can only say this - sometimes, it's a case of The Spirit is willing, but the pussy is weak! :P
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RHP User
8 years ago
On the previous interaction... most of my playmates have chatted for a lengthy time before the meet, teasing, playing with each other via video chat.. due to fussiness and the depth of my local talent pool.. I tend to travel for a swim so by the time that happens, we are both wet n ready to dive right in...
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RHP User
8 years ago
I read the meet first option as ruling out casual hookups that garuntee sex. Might or might not fuck on first date but only if the date or dates go well first. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That if we don't have "meet first, play later" on our profile we are absolutely flooded with the usual suspects on this site (Single guys pretending to be couples, Single guys looking for a free hooker, Pic collectors and dick-pick artisans, And people who think "Hi. How r u?" is poetry that would make Shakespear envious). It doesn't stop all the bullshit, obviously. But we noticed a significant decrease in the amount of inane bollocks clogging our inbox as compared to when we said we were willing to play straight away. And here we were thinking the major problem with the bottom-feeders on this site was that they could not read a profile correctly... We were wrong. They can and do if they think it will get them what they want. We play on the first date all the time. But only if everyone is happy to. We (and other couples and swingles that we know) have just found that you attract an incredibly unsavory element here if you have "play dates only" on your profile.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It meant meet today, go home, chat more if all goes well and setup a second meet. Sometimes a few dates may be required to build that interest too. But also figured that if all boxes were ticked on that first interaction and the signals were read right, that an immediate invitation might not be out of the question.
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RHP User
8 years ago
My last obviously touched a nerve with the mods....sorry mods... I don't put out much under 3-6 months... Friendship is everlasting....prove to me you're worth it, as most fake people's facade will crack from 3-6 months, and the benefits are endless.... If you're going to lose interest in that time, you're not genuinely interested in a friendship at all....go see one of the other desperate cunts that'll fuck a hole in a tree and get off on it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
- one has to see what's behind the words... but I must say I do not like the phrase, as it still promises something, yet in reality it should never be a promise. It's not a right, but something that we all need to earn. For us, we need connection and one coffee is just not enough. If we are prepared to invest time and energy into getting to know you, we expect the same. Also I do not like the word "play', as it implies recklessness and something of no particular importance. I have never had ONS, so perhaps my opinion is clouded by that, but I suspect it comes from the need to emphasise care free attitude. No intention to offend or make a grand statement here. (Ms)
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