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August 17 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
Obviously I don't look at men but in my experience it is also the opposite. For both men and women even if truly single, some have difficulty regarding having children, nosy friends and family that are likely to drop in randomly without notice :) I certainly can host but it's a long way to take someone home should I meet them while out (which is normally at events in the city)! That is the advantage of having something quite close to where you would frequently go out I guess. In my situation it's less suitable for something "quick" and more so for a weekend away, thus better for a longer, deeper connection than other men who might use their place for casual pickups at a nightclub (not that I've picked up by such method anyway). There is also an issue of trust and security that goes both ways, and the prospect perhaps of being judged on your home/accommodation/life. Yes it shouldn't matter if just for sex, and long as it's clean and tidy and comfortable. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The walls were paper thin and I had a lover who was a screamer. I'd bang her senseless and then walk out on all my housemates grinning in the kitchen. In fairness I pretty much heard them all have sex, the girls being the worse offenders
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
They migh be married or attached. They might have an untidy filthy home. They might not be all that they appear to be. They might just not want you, or any others from this site, to know where they live. They could be concerned about trust, security & privacy. We for example would never bring anyone from here, or from a swingers club / party to our house. Why ? Because we value our privacy, safety and anonymity. And because we have young children at home. We have had stalkers (from here and at a swingers club ) pestering us in the past. Can you imagine bringing someone to your home and that things go pear shaped weeks later and they start harassing you as they know where you live? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm a grown man.... single.... and do what I want. And I do what I want in my own home. The only time I won't or can't host is...... well..... never. Because I'm not hiding anything - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The real problem is, when people visit me, I never want them to leave. But the police usually call that false imprisonment lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We have never met a girl or a couple at their house We love hotels but are getting a unit in Sydney Yes there are lots of married guys hiding what they are doing on here Even have guys from couple profiles wanting to meet separately
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can only say that I live in a share-house, as a lot of people do. Renting a place on your own is expensive pretty much anywhere nowadays and (my turn to rant) I have an ex who lives in a house we have both paid for and I continue to pay for and she won't settle so I can move on with my fucking life and be able to afford my own place and then I could do whatever the fuck I wanted ... (stops, pants, recovers self). My housemates would probably think it amusing were I to bring someone home and adjourn to the bedroom - I however would feel grossly uncomfortable. Perhaps maybe you need to refine your spiel in your profile, maybe specify that you only want those that can genuinely host? On the odd occasion when I do ''strike it lucky'', I get a room for the night at a decent hotel. You make it a bit of an event, you can take your time, he/she can stay as long as they like, there's no awkwardness in front of housemates etc
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RHP User
8 years ago
Share your frustration. What's with that? Like you say, what do they do if they pick up at a bar? I used to host most of the time, but felt like there was little appreciation for the effort/time involved in preparing for meets. All they have to do is call in, root you and keep going 😂😂 on to the next 😉 I never completely believe them if they use the excuse they share house. Big deal, are your mates always home? Can't you tell them you have a horny cougar coming over you have to fuck, or ask them to join in 😜 haha I've actually asked a few that last question, bit of a fantasy I'll like to fulfil 😇 never had a positive response, they usually splutter out a shocked reply, but how many of those are married/attached, that is the question 😯
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why women don't like to host initially- safety. But men ? My money is on pigsty.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Why do you feel it is the mans role to provide the venue? I wouldnt ever think of meeting at private accommodation unless I had become very well acquainted with the other party....fwb Until then I would be supplying the venue- hotel with 24 hour reception would be a must for me. I may have control issues 😂 Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
there are women I would NEVER let into my house...Fuck 'em?? not a problem.. but let them anywhere near my place.. not on your fckn life.. I may not particularly care about what I fuck... but I DO care about my "Stuff" Just saying.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have the same concern, only the ongoing trusted ones 👍
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LetsFrolic
8 years ago
And will still have someone visit.. mum has had strokes. Theyd have to like dogs though because my dog is big - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It would seem to me based upon all I have read men who have another half have almost zero chance, so although I don't lie about my relationship I can see why others would. I also agree. It takes a while to know people and only then would allow them into my personal man cave. Also agree wouldn't want them to leave. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes...I think most guys will be worried about the state of their place. Not all I may add. Women tend to tidy up, plump up the cushions so to speak, if they are having guests over.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry to hear about your Mum. Good for you looking after her. Family first hey? 😃
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RHP User
8 years ago
I dont necessarily mean on the first hook up per say, rather the ongoing type ones. It just gets a bit annoying when all they want to do is root in cars. We're in our 40's.. seriously Hotels can get very expensive if you have to use them every time. I also appreciate it goes both ways. I must just meet all the the ones who dont host. Im talking EVERY SINGLE ONE - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You're welcome at my home anytime you like!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Update your profile... Sex in your car? Not likely. Sex at my place? Hellllloo, what do you think I will do with the family? I'd appreciate contact from men who are willing to host. And kick to the curb those blokes who always want to root in a car, they are not worthy of your time.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Heeeey what about women who like rooting in the car. I love it 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Totally get you, Youme, maybe it's a Victorian thing? 😎 I also have had almost every guy say they can't host, and like you, we are talking an ongoing situation, not one offs... I'm happy to host, when I can, or pay for a hotel, but really don't get the adult males who will NEVER host (especially when they expect me to host... as Jonesy said, what should I do with my teenage boys? They don't fit in the cupboard these days 😆). My theory is that while most of these men think they are enlightened and free, they are still terrified of being judged for their lifestyle... god forbid an adult should ever fuck someone 🙄 This is how I recently worded it in my profile... "I enjoy being friends with my lovers, and am not interested in being a secret. If you aren't comfortable with who you are and what you want, I'm not the woman for you." Hoping it might work? Feel better now, thanks 👍🏼
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Because they like to blow and go. If you are at his house, it's harder to get rid of you and means they may have to have a post coital convo. If they are elsewhere, "gotta go". Wipes dick on your curtains and fucks off. Men are basically fucked. My rant....
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LeMerovingien
8 years ago
I live with people and it would just make things awkward. I've not had (much) of an issue so far thankfully.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
I don't understand why having a woman over, who you see on a semi regular basis, would be awkward?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Where are the real men out there ????? Seems that the thrill of chase and chivalry once displayed is gone :( guess choice is up to women to either give in to the behaviour that some men are wanting or stand up and show some self respect :) up to the individual to do that :) is he really worth it if that's all can offer ?? Unless obviously can't help yourself lol then guess it's your own fault :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
My light hearted reaction is yes, you're right, that's why I never date them :) For a more serious note, I would need to quote Michael Jackson. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have adultlings living with me. Besides I dont want some "stranger" in my home. Yes, I will go to theirs anx yes O realise it is double standards. Do I care tho..... NOPE. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Maybe it's like when your selling a car( or bike ) online.Do you really want some stranger whom you've exchanged texts and maybe a few words with knowing where...and just as importantly...when, you live at home? And when no-one is at home?And what makes what they told you the truth? Just because they said so?Sites like Bikesales.com recommend you meet strangers in a neutral, safe location for good reason.Not everyone is who they seem to be, and scams are rife in the online selling game. I'm sure the best scams adhere to the same rule as good business...being where you find it. I'm not so safety fussy, but just trying to see the other side of things here. You only need to be burned once.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
But shouldn't it be safer for guys to host an unknown woman than a woman to bring an up known man into her home. About time men grow some balls and act like a man and show some respect and maturity to host a lady and give her the flexibility that she can leave the meet when she feels ready. Unless she ends up hog tied in the spare room.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
When I read your post, I thought, hmm, a bit of a rant, poor guys. Til I read some of the guys replies. Worth a fuck but thats about all. Dont want us sitting on their nice chairs or meeting their housemates. Dodgy, unsafe females This is one of the reasons I began to like validations. Perth is small, so I knew people who knew that person. And then you meet first for a coffee or drink and usually get a feel for the kind of person they are. RHP is exactly the same as all the other so called "vanilla" sites except people here are more honest about what they are looking for. I got the same kind of messages off RSVP that I got on here. Difference with RHP was that I met people I trusted and made some lifelong friends. Thats been the best thing about being on here, I love it. I met my guy off another adult site and straight away knew I was safe with him. This whole "shameful" attitude about meeting people from adult sites perplexes me. You could meet someone in a bar or at a concert and know nothing about the kind of person they are. Maybe its my age.........
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precious142
8 years ago
I have met a few men who do host...... One makes sure there is plenty of ice in the freezer.........and his ensuite is spotlesss...... Another has sexy CD's at the ready....with a bottle of liquer.......and this is after he has cooked dinner!!! They are out there - just takes time (and looking outside the box) to find them Hoipe that you find one or some !! P
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
I have a girl come over when my housemates home and she wants me to cum on her face and leave. never stops me
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RHP User
8 years ago
When playing more actively, I am married, have children, yet alot of times, I could host. Sorry but red flags for anyone who says I can't host (especially if single) ... or has 'sensitive roommates' (you pay the rent don't you?) ... or asks me to put a hotel on my credit card (will give cash at play) ... the car was great (occasionally to spice things up) but when it was the only option .... no thanks :( I had met a guy at a park and played in the car ... it was the only time hubby said 'I feel uncomfortable with that, that puts you at greater risk'. Seeing it from his point of view, it never happened gain. It was expensive paying for hotels and for my safety hubby never once complained ... but I felt used and it stopped quickly :( Any guys that did host, I found them to be clean, tidy and single lol. Even then though, one guy tried to get me to go to the spare room at a second play, because I squirted the first meet, all over his bed. Good manners are lost on many, unfortunately :( Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've been lucky enough to have two rhp ladies stay over here (albeit only once each, I won't read into that lol) and one rhp couple. The only housemate I have that will pass judgement on anyone here has four legs. At the core is trust. I wouldn't invite anyone in I don't trust, and the same trust has been extended to me in the reverse situation. The problem is, due to many people's past experiences, both men and women, sometimes their trust in other people has been shaken. Sometimes it's been shaken by people they knew really well, and known for a very long time, let alone a near stranger. So perhaps a strategy for some is to keep people distant, and men anecdotally are more emotionally distant than women, at the same time sometimes afraid to let people become close. Yes, you can have pure NSA sex at home, but your home often represents your life, your character and personality, and thus your vulnerable self. I'm sure there are people who can compartmentalise between having someone intimate inside their home and not feeling emotionally closer to them, but that is not me. Talking about actual singles here - the problem with some might be they cover core reasons for keeping the distance with lies and excuses, distancing and repelling potential partners more, and so the cycle continues as potential partners then become jaded and can't be bothered with the effort of breaking down such barriers and move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Supernova
8 years ago
Half the reason I live alone is because it makes hosting play-dates and meeting new people much easier! Also the many perks of living alone: *I can have peace and quiet when I want, or pump my favourite music while I do my house chores *I can have dates over and not worry about privacy. * I can keep tabs of all the food in the house...it's nice to know that half a litre of milk will still be in the fridge at the end of the day :) *I can leave the house messy if I'm feeling lazy, and it doesn't bother anyone...and on the flip side, I only have to clean up my own mess around the house when it's necessary. *the shower and toilet are never occupied. There's many more things, some people ask "arnt you lonely at night?!" But when you work a job that has a lot of social interaction, it's actually a blessing to come home and have solitude! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't usually get into debates on here as I've seen that it's often self-defeating..BUT..sometimes I get a little worked up, or just a little miffed maybe( ), by some comments. Bear with me, as I can't be fucked studying the last page for discrepancies( and correct me if I'm mistaken please ), but I didn't notice that anyone was bagging out or slagging off people( read: women ) from "adult" sites like RHP, as any less worthy to take home than someone from a "non-adult" site. i.e.. Shameful; an embarrassment. I live alone in suburban Perth, and am often away from home. Perth is a city of 2 MILLION PLUS PEOPLE. Nice people AND dodgy people I've met( and know ). Men AND women.Sorry for shouting...but I really thought that needed emphasis. In 8 years I've invited a lot of strangers into my home for various reasons as I'm pretty laid back about home security when it comes to being social( ...I'm a decent person ), but mostly, I'm not so naive as to think that every stranger is like me...as much as I would like that. Jeez...I've even had a houseguest once who was my workmate for 6 months, clean out a car load of my stuff from the house I was renting back then, after he'd crashed on my couch for the night. Including my then housemates' cactus's. We worked together!Err..what the fuc...?Naturally, I went around to his place that morning and collected it all back after a serious chat. I believe he was a kleptomaniac. He had problems. But he was a likeable guy. I'm not picking a fight here, I'm just saying...
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think nailed it re 'simples' post. Must remember to check my curtains 😕 Less input, more output, before the cut and run lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
That's hot
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RHP User
8 years ago
May have a population of 2 million plus, but its relatively small in regards to the RHP community. At work, in a shop, at football games, at the beach, Ive had people from the site come up and say hello. Oh, and once when we went to the nudist club we met a couple from RHP. I myself have recognised so many people when Ive been out. Which is great. Through the Socialites I know many, many Perth people. And in turn, they know other people. Which means that we could ask each other about people we were meeting, and say, Oh, yes, I know him or her, they are really nice. If you are not going to allow people into your home then you will find it hard to start up any kind of ongoing arrangement. ( if thats what you are looking for, and most guys say they are ) Because whether you say it or not, it smacks of "Youre not good enough to take home". Just my thoughts, however.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
that's just creepy, makes one feel as though one is being watched 😕 and talking about other people nooooooooo you just don't get it, we don't want that, we want privacy and discretion. It's not a cwa group for everyone. Runs for the hills.....
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RHP User
8 years ago
I definitely wouldn't want people talking about me or recommending me, are you kidding me?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Put yourself on a public dating site with photos and tales of what youve been up to and youll get talked about and "recommendations". Anyone with photos will be recognised around the place, but thats only if you are a social person who likes to go out and actually meet other people.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Unfortunately Perth is a very small place and everyone knows everyone and thus everyone knows everyones business also.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'The_3somes' Unfortunately Perth is a very small place and everyone knows everyone and thus everyone knows everyones business also. Not any more, maybe in the eighties but Perth has boomed, the suburbs now sprawl from North Bunbury to South Geraldton ! Plenty of separation now.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I can see i need to clarify something here🙄. Im not at all "someone who isnt going to allow people into my home." I Thought i was pretty clear. I have and I do invite strangers into my home without a second thought...that's one of the best things about living by myself( drilling holes in the walls and painting bright colours are some of the others 😏). But...I thought it reasonable that some of the previous persons posting were wary of doing the same. I dont see why they should be tarred with an ulterior motive. If it's reasonable for a woman to not want strangers in her home because she has children, is it not reasonable that a childless man should feel the same way because he has other "valuables" in his home? I emphasise the size of Perths permanent and transient population because the RHP community( or however many sub-groups there are...to assume there is only one is naiive ) is just a drop in the ocean that is Perths community....and they're certainly not all as good and wholesome. And i dont even know that many bad people 🙄.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I mentioned our social group but there are other social groups and other swinger groups and private party groups. But many people dont make the effort to go out and actually meet people so they dont know about them. Im commenting on how I read some of the guys posts. Which is my view and if you dont agree then fine....forums are for different points of view after all.
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RHP User
8 years ago
...I worded that poorly. I was questioning myself there. Whether Perths( and every other city's ) RHP community is really "a community", or just various group and individual strangers.I'm one of those individual strangers, and it's likely that there are many more like me.
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RHP User
8 years ago
We better add that to the list of things we need.... Secret tattoo....check Validated and verified sexual cv.....check. Host.....yes. Will root in cars....mostly. More abs than at a steroid party....check. Lol I'm beginning to think we need Dexter from "perfect match" to be hosting party - Posted from rhpmobile
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egr2please69
8 years ago
Hosting has never been an issue for me. My problem in not living centrally in Melbourne, i'm on the outskirts. Happy to host if there is agreement but so many people feel a 30-40 minute drive is too far yet drive for over an hour just to get to work, go figure lol. Come visit me ladies, my bed is warm, clean and very comfortable bahahahaha 😂😂🤣🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Australians with mortgages are or in the near future will be having problems with paying their mortgage. Some will even fall into debt and some may lose their homes. In many fields and industries there have not been any pay rises. Some even have lost up to 35% in salary. So I can see why adults are starting to share accommodation to pay the bills. It would be not a good thing to judge "adult" men or even women to say a place that they live in is off limits, or a no go zone. After all it might be out of respect for others living at a house. Hell I have even heard of randoms stealing stuff and wallets from people. So I say a hotel is not a bad option or a swingers club for a first time. It is a safety factor that should not be overlooked.
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