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April 08 2012
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
I am a guest member so i can only send 1 message a month ( I think it is) so it would need to be someone that really got my attention to message them but occasionally i will send a flirt to a guy if he has viewed my profile a few times without leaving a flirt or message, the response is usually they don't reply and i don't see them view me again LMAOI have also flirted the odd guy/couple who have taken my eye but yet to get a positive response from them (oops looks like another post doing the rounds at the moment lol) I don't take it personal I still have plenty of fun with people who ARE interested so no point chasing those who are not.
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RHP User
14 years ago
When you get a positive response after initiating the messaging, but its also nice to get new messages from the sexy ladies on here every so often ;)But either way... I'll always reply :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes, over my time here I have received a few messages and flirts from the females of the species that were not generated due to forum posts or the chatroom. The funny thing is when I have said 'Thanks but no thanks' (yes it happens, what can I say I am a fussy bugger) and the abuse I received was akin to what some women here have reports. It seems that some women are as bad as men when confronted with rejection, for them it is inconceivable that someone would say no to them here.Mooka
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RHP User
14 years ago
i have only messaged a handful of girls on this site, (i'm looking for brains and personalities) most i still talk too, as irregular as it may be. It's quality not quantity for me. If i do send someone a message, generally it's to comment on their profile or a forum post they have written...... i'm polite, so the response is always positive.I've never been the chaser, nor wanting to be a standout..... so yeah, always flattered to be noticed
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm happily married but I enjoy these forums. I filled out my profile with mostly standard responses only varying to point out that I'm not interested in sex without Jennylee involved. Being as I'm a guest and don't send out messages or even many flirts myself (those few I do send are meant as complments not come ons), it has always taken me by surprise when I recieve one. It's very flattering. Mostly they are not responding to my profile but my forum posts. A lot of lovely ladies have sent me very favorable messages supporting my opinions. Thank you, all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
and the truth is that I rarely send messages nowadays...(I mainly message my mates or people from the forums)....and only occassionally I do I send a flirt...the flirts are pretty lame though and rarely convey what I want to say...when Im on the computer I am doing usually work stuff, so no time to go trolling thru hundred and hundred of profiles....I tend to get distracted by work If someone messages/flirts me I always reply ( I think it nice manners and the way I was brought up) - unless its a completely muppet...but I rarely look at profiles now unless someone has a really iinteresting user name or sends me a witty message.....truth be known I prefer to be chased than do the chasing...Im old fashioned and busy doing other stuff....if his worth getting to know then it will happen one way or another...
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RHP User
14 years ago
It is always nice to get flirts or messages from the lovely ladies on here ast that is very flattering for this guy I will always respond to any flirt/message that i receive on here as i know how disheartining and frustrating it can be to not get any response at all, it is after all the curteous thing to do GcBrisGuy
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RHP User
14 years ago
I usually get ignored... and blocked lmaoWorth a shot tho :) As Krissy said, you never know if you don't ask as sometimes positive experiences can come about from flirts sent that I didn't expect..Have had one guy message back that he didn't see our planets colliding...At least he responded lolSome guys will view our profile over and over after I flirt them but never respond...I have made the mistake of flirting guys without photos, or only the ab shot to. They usually seem more that eager but are reluctant to disclose more pics.But I still prefer to chase rather than be chased :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I see a message from a girl in my inbox. They usually make a nice change from the 'ncie dik sxc boi' type messages I get from men. I have to say though that lady-messages are often quite brief, which makes them difficult to respond to. I may not have sent the first message, but it's still up to me to kick-start the conversation! I'm quite happy to chalk the brevity up to my agegroup. Online interaction definitely seems to be one of those things that improves as I age.
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RHP User
14 years ago
ive sent 3 messages in the couple of years ive been on here all 3 were read and never replied back to.....one of them was "wanna fuck??" hahaha ive sent out a few flirts and probably half have been answered and half have been ignored Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
I flirt those that, i may be unsure of in their response to my attentions..I message men, to commend them on their profile or forum posts....
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RHP User
14 years ago
When your only getting a few a month it's easy to reply and it's polite. I enjoy getting message and will reply whether I'm interested or not. ... and as previously said by "SLK27" they don't say too much, so a quick reply gives them the chance to expand there thoughts.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'SLK27' and the truth is that I rarely send messages nowadays...(I mainly message my mates or people from the forums)....and only occassionally I do I send a flirt...the flirts are pretty lame though and rarely convey what I want to say...when Im on the computer I am doing usually work stuff, so no time to go trolling thru hundred and hundred of profiles....I tend to get distracted by work If someone messages/flirts me I always reply ( I think it nice manners and the way I was brought up) - unless its a completely muppet...but I rarely look at profiles now unless someone has a really iinteresting user name or sends me a witty message.....truth be known I prefer to be chased than do the chasing...Im old fashioned and busy doing other stuff....if his worth getting to know then it will happen one way or another... sure i send messages, when i sit on my bar stool, and just check out the room online, nope all work and no play SLK and shake that bottie girl on the dance floor.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting Sexymylf Dont guys get the one free message a week like we girls do?no we don't get 1 message a week as a guest we can only send flirts. So i send a message from our couples profile if i get a positive response to a flirt on my singles profile.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hello beautifule people! I'm new on Pie, but I figure sending a message is a much better way of communicating and meeting people. A flirt seems a little impersonal, unsure or shy even? Not that I'm super confident, I'm shitting myself.It shows a bit of my personality and may separate me a little from the crowd. Haven't been messaged yet, but I'd be pretty chuffed to get contacted purely from my profile.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Yes, over my time here I have received a few messages and flirts from the females of the species that were not generated due to forum posts or the chatroom. The funny thing is when I have said 'Thanks but no thanks' (yes it happens, what can I say I am a fussy bugger) and the abuse I received was akin to what some women here have reports. It seems that some women are as bad as men when confronted with rejection, for them it is inconceivable that someone would say no to them here.Mooka Mooka I am sad to say that SOME women do take rejection not quite as well as they should. I ask you though to be philosophical about it ~ shrug your shoulders and think well maybe you dodged a bullet? because if that kind of reaction spews forth imagine what else could upset them...I did want to say that I think some of the issue lies in RHP culture...WE women are just not used to being rejected however polite it might be delivered. I have said thanks but no thanks many times myself...and most times I do hope I wasn't rude, but on the odd occasion it has happened to me I have felt disappointed...not enough to be abusive as Karma is a woman with a very looong memory!As for sending messages I don't - although the one time I did I won the lottery and found a friend!!I don't because I have a very specific profile and I know it wont/doesn't appeal to all...so am happy to wait to be approached...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I may send a flirt if a guy/couple catches my eye and I want to gauge their interest. It's nice when they respond.I'm a guest, so I rarely message
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RHP User
14 years ago
we dont intitiate contact at all..... at least rarely.... but receive dozens of messages and flirts each week..... some are amusing, others are plainly offensive, some we dont understand, and now and then, some are actually interesting........ what we find amazing tho, are those that suggest we are 'kindred souls' and the like, based on what we write here and in our profile...lol..wtf?
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' we dont intitiate contact at all..... at least rarely.... but receive dozens of messages and flirts each week..... some are amusing, others are plainly offensive, some we dont understand, and now and then, some are actually interesting........ what we find amazing tho, are those that suggest we are 'kindred souls' and the like, based on what we write here and in our profile...lol..wtf?That one amazes me too....the only thing that anyone can establish for certain that we have in common...is that we are the same species...!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well I am sorry, I didn’t realise about the message side for guests hence them sending flirts, as I paid up the time I joined. On another site all the scamming stuff is send via flirts and winks etc, so no I have not paid much attention to the flirts. My problem now is, do I go back to Feb and reply to those flirts even if the person they are from is not quite what I seek. I feel that from here on in I answer the flirts but being so far delayed to some in March even Feb when I joined is a bit below the belt if I then don’t want to meet up but send a reply. How ever I do have a conscience so have to bite the bullet and reply at least it will be of my chest and hope I don’t get too much abuse in replies to it all who knows maybe I end up having some more fun in chats with one of them. I suppose as the saying goes do to others as you wish to have done to you, not what others do to me as no replies to messages, don’t get me wrong some have replied and I feel we had a laugh, obviously I am not for them or they are not for me but still had some fun in messages etc.
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RHP User
14 years ago
MMm, it is funny with all this messaging, I have had a really bad cold last few days and I received a message from some one on this site and did not reply to it straight away as head cold dribbling nose etc list goes on, the message was "how are you" Now forgive me but first contact and first message in reply I turn round and say pretty sick snot dribbling over pc etc is not a way to go but I did check her out briefly. Any way long and the short as I didn’t get back to her the same day I got a message saying how rude I am for at least not replying. I sat up last night trying to explain it all and sent it; I then see no track of the message in any of my sent mails etc. So I send the whole thing again and there inbox is blocked, and nor can I get to there site, So I feel if you want to abuse some one, its fine I can take it but I am not one for getting back at some one for it either but saying some thing then not giving the other person chance to respond or explain I think is the height of all rudeness. If I sent abuse back then fair if she blocked me, but not even a chance to explain agghh well life goes on and we are all so different. Lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'joosedup' Quoting 'mooka' Yes, over my time here I have received a few messages and flirts from the females of the species that were not generated due to forum posts or the chatroom. The funny thing is when I have said 'Thanks but no thanks' (yes it happens, what can I say I am a fussy bugger) and the abuse I received was akin to what some women here have reports. It seems that some women are as bad as men when confronted with rejection, for them it is inconceivable that someone would say no to them here.Mooka Mooka I am sad to say that SOME women do take rejection not quite as well as they should. I ask you though to be philosophical about it ~ shrug your shoulders and think well maybe you dodged a bullet? because if that kind of reaction spews forth imagine what else could upset them...I did want to say that I think some of the issue lies in RHP culture...WE women are just not used to being rejected however polite it might be delivered. I have said thanks but no thanks many times myself...and most times I do hope I wasn't rude, but on the odd occasion it has happened to me I have felt disappointed...not enough to be abusive as Karma is a woman with a very looong memory!As for sending messages I don't - although the one time I did I won the lottery and found a friend!!I don't because I have a very specific profile and I know it wont/doesn't appeal to all...so am happy to wait to be approached... Joosedup,I am sorry if my post gave the impression I am a grumpy old man, nothing could be further from the truth. I just found it humorous that a small number of women, in some instances those same ones that come on the forums complaining about men not handling rejection could not handle rejection themselves.What you said about the site being the problem is quite correct. Here, a woman will always be the center of attention for the simple fact she has a profile. Yet the same guys that lust after her here could walk past her in the street and not give her a second glance. It is just a numbers game, and it is an acknowledged fact that women here hold the upper hand. Luckily I am in the situation of not having to look, just here for the forums and for the friends I have made here and being rejected is part and parcel of the experience. As for dodging a bullet, I would think it is more like surviving an artillery barrage lolMooka
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RHP User
14 years ago
As was said in another forum in response to yet another post about flirts, messages and knock backs, get offline and head out to meet. From my perspective, things have gone full circle. Internet hook ups were supposed to be the new wave in meeting people. After signing up, paying for a membership, messaging, flirting and so on, it's amounted to very little. And thats not a complaint. I'm aware of the numbers involved however, I've been out twice in the last two weeks and had more fun and success meeting woman than I've had on here in 3 months! I've received a couple of flirts, and when I have, I've responded promptly. That is after picking myself up from the floor. No response back from any of them!In reality, internet dating and going out to meet women is not dissimilar. Men far outweigh women so it really is quite a simple case of supply and demand. I've been made aware of women on this site who get anything from 20 to 50 messages and flirts a day! Why would you bother spending time initiating contacts when the mountain regularly comes to mohammed? I wouldn't either!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Nudierudie2' Quoting 'mikeandshel' we dont intitiate contact at all..... at least rarely.... but receive dozens of messages and flirts each week..... some are amusing, others are plainly offensive, some we dont understand, and now and then, some are actually interesting........ what we find amazing tho, are those that suggest we are 'kindred souls' and the like, based on what we write here and in our profile...lol..wtf?That one amazes me too....the only thing that anyone can establish for certain that we have in common...is that we are the same species...!absolutely..... i mean hey...we are a "couple"...... dont people understand that we've already identified who our "kindred soul" is? lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
"I am sorry if my post gave the impression I am a grumpy old man, nothing could be further from the truth. I just found it humorous that a small number of women, in some instances those same ones that come on the forums complaining about men not handling rejection could not handle rejection themselves." mookaOh I assure you wise one my tongue was firmly in my cheek... lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
hi there keen to catch up for a drink
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'GTHorny' hi there keen to catch up for a drink "...and hows that workin' for you? "
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RHP User
14 years ago
As far as I can remember, I have never posted a flirt... I paid up when I first got on here.. a few years go..and never needed to flirt. Also, as far as I can recal, I have answered EVERY flirt (NOT with a flirt, but with a personal message) I have ever received... Even from the boys.. :) UNfortunately: most of the ones from Girls has been that they liked my profile... I thank them..and TRY to say something inteligent.. sometimes get a response, often don't,, no big deal.. OTher flirts I get are from girls saying I am EXACTLY what they are lokking for.. but, when I read their profile, it says they want someone who lives Christian values, is a good steady honest hard working man who is looking for a family.. FCK!.. I have my own family... IF i had ANY of those requirements.. MY OWN FAMILY WOULD WANT ME TOO :) But, I don't, and they don't - that is life in a cave.. I DO send messages to people who obviously are NOT looking for me, but, it is never a flirtatious message - it is because I read their forums, see something in their profile I like, and comment on it.. AND i tell them exactly why I messaged them.. YOU all may check your "Who visited" list, and will see me on there.. Fck again.. we are a group afterall... we all agree OR disagree on the same subjects - it is surely obvious that we will check each other out every now and again... even if we dont particularly like what each other had said here. I have received messages and flirts from some forum participants recently, and thank those concerned.. Males AND Females There is no real form to answering flirts.. too many variables... I will just keep doing what I do... UNTIL i decide I need a differnt outcome :) caveman.. (fundamentally)
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RHP User
14 years ago
It appears that the majority do not bother to send messages or flirts to anyone....... How the fuck do you think RHP is actually going to work if you dont put the effort in at all? Lets all just sit back and let someone else do the work? Is that the attitude? Because that is what is coming across loud and clear here. Is RHP just full of a bunch of lazy-arses? Well if you are just too lazy to send or reply to a message then maybe you are just too lazy in other aspects of your life as well. So lets all sit back and have a whinge about how we can not get anyone to meet us, can not find anyone that fits our specific list of wants/needs/must haves. . YES I send messages....I always get a response back. Whether good or negative is all fine...I still get the response. YES I send flirts......normally just as an icebreaker and yes I get a response back from them as well.
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RHP User
14 years ago
reflects confidence ( when someone sends a message ) and whether the message is a straight forward "lets get together and fuck" or a simple " I like your style " either way, it shows that the person has made an effort to show interest..the next step is obviously a crucial one, respond and take it from there..message, wink, or even the "profile view" stat can eventually go somewhere..dont give up because of a few "bad characters", have fun.. that's why we are here for..td&h
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RHP User
14 years ago
ive been in the same boat as the headless one above....ive been sick, either read the message or not and then been abused for either not replying straight away or not reading it at all in the senders time frame lol ive also got abusive messages and when ive gone to reply, im blocked....if your going to send abuse at least give the person a chance to answer...come on people thats just gutless ive found that i dont bother explaining myself now. and why should i anyway. because people dont listen, they just see it as an excuse some days i dont answer straight away...i have kids, things come up and i cant answer straight away...if the sender has a problem with that....thats their problem, NOT mine Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
that women tend to send brief messages or responses, leaving men to do all the work.I've been guilty of that, though only occasionally - mostly I waffle on endlessly. I think I've done it because I want to see just how interested the guy is, whether he's willing to persist. A little test, I guess.Do many guys come across this? Do many women do the same thing I sometimes do?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I rarely use messages unless I'm travelling somewhere and I may do some reconnaissance work before going;) I always respond to someone who has taken the time and used up a message for me...regardless of content. (flirts are a totally different matter, couldn't possibly respond and rarely even look at them) and I do spend time on those that have obviously put some thought and effort in to their message. if I was single my search criteria would be so different. I have been fortunate to get a lot of positive responses to any messages that I do send. Ironically, I will occasionally send a flirt to someone who takes my eye but may live too far away to even consider messaging. From a time point of view I'm happy to be pursued but if I have a specific outcome or purpose ...yes I like to be in control of the " hunt";) Minxy xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
A message or flirt from a lady will do it every time. It's what happens after that, that is in the lap of the gods
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'WantedBabyDaddy' ive been in the same boat as the headless one above....ive been sick, either read the message or not and then been abused for either not replying straight away or not reading it at all in the senders time frame lol ive also got abusive messages and when ive gone to reply, im blocked....if your going to send abuse at least give the person a chance to answer...come on people thats just gutless ive found that i dont bother explaining myself now. and why should i anyway. because people dont listen, they just see it as an excuse some days i dont answer straight away...i have kids, things come up and i cant answer straight away...if the sender has a problem with that....thats their problem, NOT mine Hugs Name a little long so no offence but will just call you Wanted (if offended pm me and will change if we chat again) Well I for one would never of thought a man would give abuse for a woman not getting back to him, even more so a short time after opening the message. Having the experience of many cultures in my life, it is mainly the man that does the chasing in them all or it is deemed by parents of or culture. Men I thought would know that they usually need to woo a woman (unless again an offspring of Adonis), so at some point must also have been turned down, so its pretty crap that a man would get so upset, but to then block a woman in the same breath is really not on. I can only say sorry that you had such an experience as I, but even more so being a female too sort of makes it twice as bad. Women in near every culture don’t chase men as a rule, so when a woman has the courage to chase a man, a man should be overwhelmed by it, even if not his type, it is so nice to know your admired in some way by some one and its not often (see Adonis above) this will happen. For that courage alone a man should understand, admire, respect and respond to it. Then also accept if a woman does not respond call it double standards what ever but its life. Maybe shouldn’t happen but its life. Maybe I am now old fashioned and this is all the new future to come, if so then please feel free to call me old fashioned (proud of it) as I would prefer that and have some dignity and respect for members of the opposite sex than have my head stuck so far up my own ass that even my shoulders are about to disappear. (No frozen toilet paper would sooth that either, lol) Reading some of the threads and topics it is a shame that so many have had a (call it) not so nice experience but it is also nice to hear of the successful and happy ones and there are many of those too. (There is a lot of scamming on other sites I am a member of, it takes time to suss true flirts out so I am talking about the flirts and messages here on RHP that so far seems to be one of the better sites to be a member of)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I finally got a message today Was over the moon Went to reply and my battery died When I came Back on had a message telling me How Rude I was and now appears I am blocked Very sad I think she looks hot and I am sorry she feels that way
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RHP User
14 years ago
..to catch my eye. Similar interests = something to talk about.Why flog a dead horse?
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RHP User
14 years ago
JDSO15,that is a horrible experience,there is no excuse for rudeness.If someonetakes the time to message me I am always polite...at the very least.xxx Hugs H...extra hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dont mind doing the messaging, but i do enjoy the occasional flirt or message, but i dont understand why women cant reply to a message with a simple "no thanks, your not what im looking for" instead of just leaving it go, i always reply politely no matter what, it just a bit of common courtesy i think.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I will message and/or flirt...rarely do they not respond. If you see someone or something that you want why not go after it?
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aldus1
14 years ago
I find it very flattering to receive a message or a flirt from a lady or couple, and I always respond. But I do wonder about the occasional flirt that arrives from some 18 year old girl from the other side of Australia with an ISP in Croatia or somewhere just as strange. When I receive messages or flirts, I always respond, its just common courtesy. I hate the people who just block you without even a "thanks but no thanks", with manners like that I dont want to meet them anyway lol And its even nicer when one gets a unsolicited validation from someone one has met
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have sent out in three weeks 6 pages of flirts.. Only one not read :(. All the rest answered via a flirt or message..:). All positive.. Some became a flirt tag team until we ran out of good flirts.. Then start again. Lol. Usually guest to guest. :) I only just found out I can do the odd msg as a guest, sent two both replied and still chatting..:) All my coffee dates 4 so far all turned up too... I am very pro active.. Cat xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Further to my last comment.. To any of the guys reading this.. Sometimes I would like to send a msg instead of a flirt. Except I don't have one at that stage.. So Surfooty7.. As soon as I have a msg available.. I will send one..xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
...found that most guys will answer a flirt that you've sent? | Quoting 'Cat505'As soon as I have a msg available.. I will send one..xx | Not me...I'll wait for a message.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Really.... Then I am privileged you responded to my flirt this morning...lol. Purrrr Cat
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok, where do i start. I have had next to nothing from the fair sex (females) and only recently received a message from someone which was positive and realistic. Generally i have had communique from 'paid services' which i am totally not interested in. Then there is the difficulty of flirting and messaging the few lovely ones on here, but don't even receive a reply or rejection. It would at least be nice to receive a reply that says "sorry but your not my type" or similar, but this is generally never the case. So to sum it up, only two genuine replies! Almost giving up, Anyhow all the best to all with RHP!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Cat505'Then I am privileged you responded to my flirt this morning...lol. | ...not only have great taste and taste good, I'm smart too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't have public pictures in my profile so it's always really flattering to get a message since it is sometimes hard to stand out from the crowd. When I was a paid member in the past I would say about 10% would respond to messages, that was a pretty low percentage for me so hence why I am only a guest now. Personally, I respond to every message with a well mannered response....even to those abusive guys who generally message to question some physical choices I make in life. Why they would even bother with the message I don't know but either way they get a polite...each to their own!
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blueballs212
14 years ago
...wouldn't know...only ever got one unprompted message...from a woman who said the only reaction I would get from women reading my profile was loathing...seems she was right!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes they are rare the amount of messages or flirts that I have received....They all have being quickly answered....There has being a lot more views since I started to participate in the Forums though...I guess it is saying more of who I am and what I think.To all the ladies that did and will message/flirt with me thank you....even if I did not heard back after I replay.To all those ladies that I did message/flirt with....a short answer would have being appreciated (for those that didn't)Happy communicating to you all....very hard to make friends or find what you are after without contact and some effort.
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smo669
14 years ago
I will always reply to flirts or messages, even if only to say no thanks (dammit why do so many hot people live in WA? I'm thinking Oscar shifting west!) What grates is people who view and flirt and then block you? Or dont respond to further contact? If you don't like the response or the pics, a simple "no not interested" reply is easy enough, n'est pas? We are all after some fun and I realise some people may be blessed (or perhaps cursed) by multiple replies, but common courtesy seems a rare commodity stay loose and enjoy Tom
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Lozman66
14 years ago
I'm pretty new to this, started as a guest and sent out a few flirts and I think I got one back - the rest were ignored. Joined up and have sent out a couple of message to profiles that 'pricked my interest'' so to speak and have had a couple of messages back. I have to say it is rather exciting to see someone has sent a message - the pulse rate quickens a little. I reply to all messages, not only is it polite (IMHO) but that's what I'm here for - I want to connect with other sexy peoples.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hey ..warmapplepie.. Not desperate. ... I just like lots of attention....lol And I like to nudge the cuties that think I am to old to show them what they are missing.. Prrrrrr. Lick lick Cat xx
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Awww Blueballs, that is just plain mean, sorry that happened to you. Some people should remember if they dont have something nice to say they should say nothing at all. Quoting 'blueballs212' ...wouldn't know...only ever got one unprompted message...from a woman who said the only reaction I would get from women reading my profile was loathing...seems she was right!
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
Sheesh little harsh don't you think???Why is a woman desperate just because she goes after a guy she is interested in Oh well better put me in the desperado's box too................. Quoting 'warmappliepie' Quoting 'Illbursecret'I will message and/or flirt...rarely do they not respond. If you see someone or something that you want why not go after it? because you are desperate perhaps? Girls on here shouldn't have to flirt or message!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yeah I think it fine to get messages both ways. I think it is only polite to reply whether interested or not. Personally I find it flattering that a lady likes what she sees or reads about me. I have sent messages stating that I am not expecting a reply, but I sent it just because I found a profile or picture is great. I know that they are not looking for my category, but heh nothing wrong with being socialable. I have gay friends outside of RHP, but I am not gay. What the heck, same diff to me.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I gave up along time ago sending messages and flirts, as the no replies/blocking was just plain pissing me off. Nowadays I might send the VERY odd message about a forum post but that's it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Warmappliepie, at least please learn to spell apple! Also, if I'd rather CHOOSE than take the best of a bad lot, how the fuck does that make me desperate? I would never assume that every guest here is desperate as they take what they can get, but you sure sound like you're projecting! Deciding not to pay and culling from what attention you get is one way. Sending out messages to the best guys in your area is another. I'm willing to bet the sex I've had from my way is a shitload better than whatever you've had. Ok, totally not what I meant to say. Moving on. Yes, I send messages. I'm a girl. I can read, and cull, and choose. I have the luxury of browsing. I know that. Guys just spam *everything* with a hole and hope they get a reply ( yes I'm generalising, so shoot me). I have been here a year and I have a pretty good idea of how this works. You message. You do not read profile, or requirements, or forums. You just message. If *I* message, it's because I'm actually interested, not just looking for something hard to stick in ma hole. I've read your profile, looked at your pics, checked your forum posts. I think *you* are fuckable. Again, generalisation. I'm not looking AND MY PROTILE SAYS SO, so all you retarded idiots who can't read, please stop messaging me with "love your profile, want to fuck?" You are only reinforcing my general disgust for humanity. However, I am still here. I reserve the right to post on a PUBLIC FORUM with my opinion, to pay for the privelege of a civilised conversation with an intelligent, sexual being. I reserve the right to choose that person(s) who pushes my boundaries. It's not going to be an illiterate twat with a keyboard they don't know how to use!!!! *siiiiiigh* *disgustquit*
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RHP User
14 years ago
On me being desperate, are you forum stalking me? lol You are more than welcome to think what you want "applie" but my friends and I know who I am ;-) x Quoting 'warmappliepie' Quoting 'Illbursecret'I will message and/or flirt...rarely do they not respond. If you see someone or something that you want why not go after it? because you are desperate perhaps? Girls on here shouldn't have to flirt or message!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have found the Flirt / message thing to be very miss and hit.Most ladies i flirt never respond at all, where as most messages are replied to , but usually in a very short and sometimes not so sweet manner.The messaging usually goes on for about 3 or 4 replies then it just stops.I guess people find out what they want to know about each other, and can see that its not going to be worth the effort in the long run.You can say hello to a lot of people at a party, but very few spike your interest.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The age of instant messaging has a lot to answer for. I've received one single response and complety stuffed it up - was chatting to a couple and forwarded a flirt the problem was it was not the one I intended toi send (was scrolling up the list and unintentionally pressed the enter key which was the same as the scroll key). I checked the message sent and it was inappropriate for the conversation we where having. As a guest I can't message and apologise. What must they think of me? Sorry guys! I know I am of topic but I had to get off my chest. Steve
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RHP User
14 years ago
And this keyboard is still giving me trouble.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have rarely sent out messages or flirts to anyone. I think flirts on here are a bit of a waste of time ( just my opinion) and esp when I first joined I was getting so bombarded that there was no way I would be able to get through the flirts. To try and combat this I wrote in my profile please not to send them as I will not get a chance to respond to them but this still didn't stop them. I mean whats the point in sending someone a flirt when I have already told you I cannot respond and it will just be deleted? I have frozen my profile quite a few times and then and only then have I been able to use the search function and try and find what I'm looking for and then have sent out a few messages always with very positive responses... too often if I leave my profile open I'll get bombarded with the "wanna fuck" messages ..... a good message is like finding a needle in a hay stack sometimes.....
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RHP User
14 years ago
I send out a few messages here and there to people id like ot chat to further, what can annoy me is when ill send a flirt out to see if there's any connection both ways and they will send back yes please message me and then once you message there is no reply. Its very strange and dont know why people do that. I have received unprompted messages here and there and that's always nice and will always respond whether im interested or not. I think people just feel they can be rude and get away with it when its online, sorry for the rant haha. The ones that do message back are usually much nicer anyway even if its a yes or a no at the end of the day, at least you know then xx
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
We get a few flirts and messages from single women, but mostly they are from couples. We try to respond to all of them politely, regardless of our level of interest. We also get quiet a few from single guys, given our profile specifies 'no single guys' we don't bother responding to them at all.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Any Flirting Is Better Than Nothing :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Recently I spoke to a female friend who is on here, and she agreed that women were much harder to meet on here than men, she explained that if she asked a guy over to her place, they wouldnt be able to get there fast enough, but when a woman is asked she has to chat to them for months first, and then sometimes it still doesn't happen.
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blueballs212
14 years ago
thanks wannabyummymummy....and she blocked me as well!....but...far far outnumbered by the many pleasant people I have chatted to on here, I am happy to say...
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RHP User
14 years ago
hello cat, how can we get in touch ? p.s. luv the red shoes
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hmmm You are persistent.! :). Sorry no funny faces on my iPad. Try paying for membership and msg me..or put up a photo.... Cat. Xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok I'll play,I am new here but have been on other sites so I know a little of how it works,Woman/Couples get 10's if not 100's of contacts per day, so expecting a reply at all, let alone a positive one is simply unrealistic.Sending flirts to woman/couples is pointlessMost messages from woman are usually some form of bitch or putdown, usually from the tourists.Occasionally a woman will send a flattering message..........from interstate, nice when that happens Woman and couples rarely make contact they don't have too ! We come to them !On the one occasion a woman contacted me, she was right on the money and we had an awesome 12mth "relationship" until circumstances intervened.However live in hope, I think woman should be more affirmative, contacting those men that appeal has got to be more efficient than sifting through a mail box of drivel. However rejection is a bitch !So while I'm here some shameless promotion, this statement is at the bottom of my profile,People if you like what you see or are curious or have a question please make contact. I will not assume anything other than you are interested/curious. And certainly not view it as a green light, just what it is, an enquiry. Thanks, R. Thanks for reading
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RogueGeek
14 years ago
Except for when I don't know what to say. Or have nothing to say. In those instances my social awkwardness transcends the virtual barriers and I am left with my fingers hovering over the keyboard. After a while my hands start to cramp and my butt loses all feeling so I have to get up and walk away without responding.There has also been the odd occaision when I have refrained from responding to a message because if I were to say what I really think... Ignoring it is more polite route.With respect to flirts - I reply to all except the "I just wanted to say I loved your profile". There is no option for a plain "Thankyou" so I leave it.One final note - I have this profile set so that people don't know when I have looked at their profile (because I am often just checking what state a person is in). So my apologies to those I have "knocked back" who feel I never gave them a chance - believe me, I read every word of your profile, and looked at your pictures too (if you had any).Cheers,MS
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