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Mid life crisis
March 30 2016
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm having my midlife crisis and loving every second Life is no longer a rehearsal. I'm breathing life in, sucking it in, well, you get the picture lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
As such but in my early thirties a career change and marriage breakdown. My life went in a completely different direction . I embraced the changes and have lived my life as a single independent woman including being a single parent ,travelling and living overseas,and having a fulfilling career. I of course don't know what my life would have been like if it hadn't changed so radically but I certainly am glad I took the path I did, If you are unhappy and unfulfilled with what is happening in your life OP,my advice is take stock,change what you need or can change,and embrace what you can't xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
I face this every year ...on my birthday... realizing I that another year is added to my birth certificate and I don't feel any wiser. That leaves me with a feeling of "mid life crisis" every year since I made it to 30.
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Katkat
10 years ago
Yeah moving on slowly but surely. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
although it would be fair to say I'm having a reassessment of my life. In February I was made redundant form my job after 12 years, it was unexpectant and brutally done A few days later my brother was involved in a terrible cycling accident. Among the many injuries he received was a broken back and he has had several rods inserted to "steady" his spinal cord and we are now waiting to see if he will ever walk again. His right wrist was so smashed up and when we asked the surgeons why they weren't operating on a very obvious injury the reply was that they didn't think he would survive so operating was a waste of time. They eventually operated on it ( he still requires several more surgeries) because they realized that he would probably need his wrist to operate a wheelchair My very large family has pulled together through this crisis and its been amazing the support we have found in each other, through the community where my brother lives and kindness of our friends and strangers My brother came home at Easter after 6 weeks in hospital but he has months and months of rehab to get through. Watching him struggle just to try and get comfortable in a chair, the pain etched on his face and his frustration of not being able to do the simplest of things like brushing his teeth has been soul destroying but at the same time its been humbling watching my sister in law and her amazing positivity and can do attitude. In her world nothing will beat them. He is lucky to have her So yes I'm going through a reassessment of my life at present. I've always known but now reinforced that good health is everything and I mean everything. That our families are the most important people in our lives (and family can be anyone not just blood related) true friends are rare and precious and all our day to day problems although real are solvable If you're not happy with any part of your life then take charge and change it. No one else can do this for you and if you are presently going through a mid life crisis, well its not necessarily a bad thing. Its a time to re evaluate what's really important to you with the opportunity to change without a crisis forcing you to.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's time to buy a MX-5 put the top down and drive around in the sunshine. I've found (male here) while pondering mid life crisis that I just simply didn't have time for it, so I put it on hold until i'm in my 60's. Pretty sure when i'm 60 I still wont have time for it either.
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precious142
10 years ago
Then I divorced him.......and haven't looked back since!!!!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Ive just resigned from a career I loved but a system I didn't, ended a relationship that I realised I had just sort of fallen into and Im back here after a 3 year break 😉 Not sure what direction my path is going but a feel alive again and willing to grab whatever life has to offer 😊
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RHP User
10 years ago
I guess that for me, it's more a matter of how many and at what ages...none of us ever know when we are midway to the final curtain call so I decided to have one or more at several different stages and ages of life. Round one... bought a Porsche Turbo Carrera and drove it into the ground. Managed to cop 11 speeding tickets in short order and the courts "requested" that I show proof that I'd gotten rid of my toy...this as opposed to spending a bit of time in the grey bar hotel and loosing my license seemed quite logical! Round two...married a woman that was substantially younger and by all rights could have been called a "trophy wife". No derogation intended ladies...the gold turned to brass and the whole thing ended up in divorce in near record time...fortunately it was settled as an annulment so no harm no foul. Oh well, it was fun (sort of) in a middle age sort of way! Round three...developed a well-grounded and thoroughly enjoyable Pan complex and I'll be damned if I'm giving that one up! Life is short and none of us get out alive anyway...have fun while you can!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... was in the 2nd 1/2 of my forties. Swept away from all my previous moorings and lost confidence in nearly everything I'd built my life on. Still haven't really recovered.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You won't be able to stop it when it rolls over the top of you.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I ride a bike!
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RHP User
10 years ago
... and in between, I like to have a minor crisis, which may just be a slight change of direction like moving interstate or something ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'leeleigh' Ive just resigned from a career I loved but a system I didn't, ended a relationship that I realised I had just sort of fallen into and Im back here after a 3 year break 😉 Not sure what direction my path is going but a feel alive again and willing to grab whatever life has to offer 😊 If you live to be as old as my mother then you are at the mid point of your life.
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RHP User
10 years ago
that's really sad, message me if you want to chat
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RHP User
10 years ago
Touching our lives nearly two years ago was a catalyst and shook me out of my comfort zone! Like Shells, I was existing not really living the life I was blessed in having! I'm no longer afraid of putting myself out there and living large! Im passionate in the things I do and look for experiences that make me grow as a person! Am I too old for some of the things and people I'm doing, some would say yes 😱 I don't care if it's considered a crisis but I'm loving the people in my life and the experiences I'm having. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm never midway through life :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have never had a mid life crisis...guess I was lucky because I joined army at 18 and an awesome 12 year career...got straight out of forces and worked mining up till now...so I truly feel fulfilled with what I have done so far. However I have come to realise more to life than flash cars, cappuccinos and saving money! so now im packing my backpack and going back to middle east for a tour on my own....Egypt, Jordon, morocco, Sahara...life is short I guess but for me personally you have to have some fantastic memories for when you get old and cant even get it up anymore lol...I say go travel...live cheap and make up the adventure as you...learn more about the world and yourself...and come back a better person for it! Hope this helps!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mid life crisis. ? I'll never restrict myself . These are the things that keeps you happy and sane. I'm building this huge 3 person billy cart if anyone wants a go .?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I used to think the term Mid Life Crisis was a cliche.... until I saw someone very close to me go through one... and it took on very clear clinical definitions. And it was extremely destructive to them, and everyone around them. People use the phrase MLC a bit like saying you have the flu... when you really have a cold. True MLC, is a spiralling vortex of identity crisis, self doubt and self destructive behaviour that not all sufferers ascend from. I was accused of having my MLC today as part of a Facebook prank unveiling a huge tattoo.That got a few tongues wagging
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RHP User
10 years ago
lol... Was it a scratch and sniff tattoo?? Lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry to hear of your experience. That is the downside of MLC , that's the pits. I've also witnessed similar where the person completely lost their way. Having a MLC can have a negative or positive effect on anyone. The biggest problem is the " forever young " way of thinking. I've witnessed this in both men and women some with devastating effects. On the plus side, it can have a positive effect whereby the person in question pulls themself up out of a rut and finds some badly needed self esteeme . I've seen that too, in a positive light. As for myself, I was surprised by some friends and family who commented when I had a tattoo done last year. ? No one said anything directly , but you could read between the lines what was on their mind. If that was a MLC I put my hand up, but i don't think it made me any different. Im still the same loveable person I always was.
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