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Mutually Exclusive, already?
February 24 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who wants control you or him ? Not if you don't want to.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...our emotional, mental and physical with regard to engaging with another person. Trust your instincts, go with your feelings and regardless of how overwhelming some things might be...stay within the given parameters of logical thinking. I know that know...boy do I know it, after bundling up everything I had on the go in North and Central America to chase a romance here in Oz. Oh well, it was worth it in a way...we are also a composite of experience and I would certainly not do that again or would I? Okay so maybe if that woman that danced the tango on the beach with me in Belize were to call...now, Midnight, you are definitively dreamin'. Best always...it's a tenuous situation.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I thought there may have been someone but i run I got my wires crossed... I'm just curious and want to know what gives. Why is there a need for this? 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Sure, it may be part of the decision but not all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Femme why is it that you need to decide? As 50 mentioned is it you or them asking to be exclusive? Only you can answer that in your own time...When your ready. If your having great sex with both then just enjoy the moment with both. If someone is pushing you to be exclusive when your not willing or ready it's only going to turn pear shape and you will lose them. Just going to put this one out there.lol Have you thought about having a MMF with them at the same time. Then no one misses out.? 😀😁😉😎😈
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RHP User
9 years ago
If its a case of 2 guys,sex awesome with both. If its just purely sex then choose the one who pleasures you the most,beyond that I would choose the one who I feel most comfortable with, you know if you have a connection with one more than the other. So take a deep breath and choose what you really want and need. Its not about them its about you. Good luck Sweet.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you can't make up your mind between both people then neither are for you. You will know when it is right, because it scares the hell out of you that you have met someone so in tune with you. I found I did not want to be with anyone else as I just longed for him so badly. Pretty intense I know but guess if you can't handle your emotions at our age its most likely need to look within figure out why keep doing same things. Life's too short not to live it fully with all those beautiful feelings and having someone who looks at you like you are magic to them. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've fallen for that a few times, not monogamy, but when they start to indicate you're it at that time, and satisfy you into the bargain, I've stopped hooking up with other guys, but they're usually players. I'd be very cautious of being exclusive unless you want to start a monogomous relationship, not my thing but that would put a different spin on what I've just said 😃
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Katkat
9 years ago
Feelings are mutual & great connection are there why not? Take it easy & get to know him well enough before u jump into conclusion gotta keep it exciting & fun at the same time! But may be best to open up anyway tell him how you feel being open & honesty is the best. All the best. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...on this site of all places, one would get under my skin. I was thinking I would be exclusive, regardless of whether they are or not. I swing between having the two for emotional distance and tossing all my rules out the window and focusing on just the one. It has been just him recently and I'm a little thrown. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You guys are a lovely lot, I appreciate the time you take to ponder and respond. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Polyamory has been on my mind in the last few days... they don't want to share you? Too much investment on your part? But then again I kind of like the mystery of just having the 2 FWB around while we all do our own things as singles too. They know of each other and it's funny how sometimes I like one more than the other and then it switches because they are so different 😍 I would love a DVP with both of them... I wonder if it would happen at a party in the next few weeks time... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
But, in my opinion, if mutual exclusivity is a question of which you're fronting to yourself then I would say if it were meant to be you would know. I think uncertainty about both is an indication that perhaps it's too soon. But... I'm only in my 20's so I think I have a very "black and white" approach to relationships
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Can't see it anywhere in my future. Not while I have it all tied up with unhealthy controlling aspects in my mind
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was happy seeing guys who I really enjoyed being with, I didnt want to be exclusive with anyone. Then I met someone...it was out of the blue. He was on another site and was going away back North the next day to work. He asked to meet for a drink and as I was going into the city anyway I said yes. We spent the next few hours chatting like old friends. The more i saw him the more he grew on me. Eventually we discovered we were well matched in many many ways. I didnt really want to be with anyone else then and either did he. We are happy the way things are right now and its something I would never have predicted. Just as Hornyalltime said, it scares the hell out of you. If its what you want then go for it. If anything, youll never be left wondering "what if?' xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Who said you had to decide ever? We've been together for 17 years and aren't mutually exclusive. We used to be and I tell you the grass is greener on this side of the fence.
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RHP User
9 years ago
How about taking time to consider slowly and carefully? Or is one of them asking you for a decision real soon? Sometimes, especially when the sex is great, it can influence our decisions. Endorphins and the wonderful fuzzy happy feeling they trigger are, afterall, very addictive. At the end of the day, there has to be a strong and deep emotional connection too. How about taking a backseat, enjoying the ride, and seeing how it all pans out? ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do what feels right for you..it can be a moment ,a day,a week ,a year..time is irrelevant .Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Or maybe I'm not ready, perhaps my link runs too deep or the bare bones of it is, I don't know how to conduct a relationship. The most true intimacy touches the fun, I bolt a million miles in the opposite direction. This afternoon I'm faced with the very real personal truth - in a hypocrite. As much as I claim to want connection and as much I want intimacy. I don't know how to do either with any longevity in mind. My head is already singing, "Another One Bites The Dust." - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love your posts, all over shop. You're like thengod damned wisdom fairy - byt sexy ans sassy. Thanksm - Posted from rhpmobile
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